з greetings my esteemed subscribing tones thank you all kindly for your well wishes on the birth of our second daughter I just thought to give an update and give some advice to fathers to be First and foremost I want to give a shout out to the midwives of BAB Stockholm in case you see this very good and professional I have said that the Swedish health care system isn't the best but the midwives they are an exception so very good stuff indeed I also want to give a shout out to my lovely wife of course she planned everything perfectly and executed the plan perfectly as well can always analyze the entire thing as an athletic competition of sorts where you plan beforehand and then you go in execute the plan really nice to see and of course it's yeah it was quite an emotional experience the birth itself so great stuff everything went well and yeah I am very happy in that regard so all is well now anyway there are of course many guys who are more qualified to give advice on fatherhood and everything like but I promised a few supporters that I would make this video so here we are now basically you can't really get ready so if you ask how do you get ready for fatherhood you can't really get ready and you just have to wait with crossing that bridge when you when you reach it so to speak so it's not something you can theorise all too much about you just have to view it as a learning experience you learn something every day and then of course if it's your second child or third child or so on it comes easier but the first time don't worry too much about knowing everything beforehand because ultimately you just have to learn by experience it's not something you can be ready for beforehand you get ready as you go so keep that in mind so don't be stressed that you don't know this you don't know that how do you do this I'm view it as starting a new job or something might sound a bit unromantic but it's basically what it is it's a new very lovely very rewarding job you take on now also leading up to the birth itself perhaps you are a bit nervous again because you don't know everything that's completely fine I would say that the good thing to reduce nervousness is to be you know stay active with whatever else you're doing so for me I've been very occupied with writing my second book and of course taking care of my wife so I haven't really had the time to be nervous in that regard which also leads me in to my second main point and that is taking care of your wife when she is pregnant and postpartum now usually you should of course put your own mission first and focus on that and the mission usually includes you know taking care of your wife in the long term so to provide and protect but when it comes to the late stages of pregnancy and the early stages of postpartum you you sort of have to if possible turn down the pace a bit on your own mission to care more for her so this has been quite easy for me because my lovely wife is always so supportive of me making sure that I can focus on my stuff or the greater goal at hand so now it's been easy for me to simply return the favor to try to be as supportive of her as possible then of course motherhood birth everything like this it's a it's a female mystery so there is only so much a man can do you can only play a supporting role and the yeah the main the main player of this drama is of course the woman so there is only so much you can do then of course when it comes to fatherhood itself and this is a video for another time might make one you know your child is a reflection of yourself so if you want a calm child you need to be a calm parent you can't lose your temper it's okay if you do I think every father has at some stage lost his temper but when you recognize that as a weakness in yourself then you can sort of hammer away at that weakness to bring out the alchemical gold inside yourself to become a better person so you can view fatherhood also as a as a challenge to become the best that you can be to you know be calm and patient and everything like that so an agitated parent is an agitated child a calm parent a calm child so view it as a continuous learning experience and all will be well so all that said for all fathers to be best of luck and don't worry beforehand don't worry about knowing everything things will pieces will fall into place in the puzzle of knowledge of fatherly knowledge and yeah just the view it as a learning experience one day at the time and try to be a supportive of your wife as possible because you really needs it during the later stages of pregnancy and especially postpartum because he needs to recover so anyway I will check in with you without channel update in a week or so and when I'm done with my book I promise that I will give more attention and love to the video making I have actually missed it quite a bit focusing on the videos so I have some plans in that regard stay tuned and thank you again for all of your well wishes XOXO boom