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I'm replacing Robbie Kramer for a moment just to introduce our next speaker who's a pretty amazing guy If there were four things that truly changed my life It would be my experience in the seduction community what women taught to me and all that fun stuff It would be what I learned here about paleo and in having the you know What my physical body was meant to be and eating right now that sort of stuff Meditation we had speakers speak on that as well And then the fourth thing would be my experience with martial arts and finding myself through those things I've trained martial arts For forever for all my life, you know since I was a boy in many different styles and with amazing teachers and The guy who I'm about to introduce to you today is literally the best hands-down person that I've worked with and he's taught me the most about myself and Is a reflection in all of my life and what we do and probably one of the most dangerous guys that you will ever ever Meet his name is Edward Aiken. He runs a company called force dynamics with an x. Commercially will tell you all about Ed There you go. All right. Thank you So All right, let's see if I can do this justice here Thank you Steve. Thank you Anthony for for giving me an opportunity to be here. I'm based out of Austin, Texas So I don't do a whole lot of these speaking things So we'll see how it goes but I do do a lot of teaching and I want to start with a little brief brief Background of myself because it sets the frame for what we're going to learn about today. Okay, and it's a concept I call forcing the dark side and Before you start thinking it's about stalking ladies of the night putting in the trunk of your car It's a little it's a little bit of that it's a little bit of that so there's a lot of useful things in here but we will define what this is and It's really more so if you guys aren't in martial arts Don't worry about it. This is a concept that has changed my life In many ways and hopefully if you if we get to the point where I can You know define it clearly for you what it is why you should develop it and how you can develop that Given the time and you guys actually put in the applications. You will see some amazing results for yourself so getting back to Myself I've been doing martial arts for 30 some odd years. I'm 40 now so I started very early and The reasons I got into the martial arts are very similar to the reasons why a lot of people get in the seduction community Okay, I was basically The the AFC of the fighting world. I was a I grew up in rural Michigan. I had no Friends to play with so I had little to no social skills when I was younger and so by the time I got to a larger School I started getting my ass handed to me every day by this group of guys and it got worse and worse over the years so My mother bless her had had enough so but by the time I was about in sixth grade She decided to Enroll me in some martial arts and I had had some judo and some other things when I was a little bit younger But this was really out of a necessity to to stop getting beat up every day and so of course Back then we didn't really have functional martial arts, right? We had YMCA karate and some taekwondo and maybe some some crazy kung fu stuff So the very act of enrolling me in martial arts didn't really help the ass beatings and forgive my French But they actually Increased them especially in the first fight when my karate actually came out. Yeah, it wasn't good so but that was the the the impetus for me to to get into the martial arts was really self-preservation Okay, it was it had nothing to do with the traditional Tradition of the martial arts or that side of things which now I've come full circle to appreciate But it was really you know just much like the AFC out there with girls who's shot down time after time after time I was getting beat up time after time after time and so what this this did to me is it made me After after training and I didn't want to give up my training To seek out a functional martial art and it took me to about the age of 17 To actually find something and and it's an art called jacando concepts And it's really Bruce Lee's approach of how to train in the martial arts and really back then it's a precursor to MMA It's cross training these guys were boxing kickboxing using weapons doing some grappling And so it was finally at the age of 17 that I found a functional art And so it was really through this self-preservation Journey the the really because all the all the philosophy in the world and in the martial arts at that time Did me no good when I was actually in school and after school and you know on the playground getting getting beat up it didn't help and This is one of those things that it's behind This this idea of killer instinct and what killer instinct is it's really it's an idea But it's the base of killer instinct is what I call primal driver And the reason that we have martial arts in the first place is out of that primal driver And it's very similar to the reason why we have the seduction community Which is also a primal driver and so when we start working with these forces, right? Which we'll get into a little bit more. They are universal forces out there this is why when people are in the seduction community and they really get into connecting with women, right? They're tapping into that primal source and what is that primal source? Well what drives the seduction community the very existence of it is for us as a species to procreate, right? We as men have that drive to go out and seek out women to ensure that we spread the seed to Make sure that the species survive so we can experience life Well the same thing in the martial arts when we have killer instinct or self-preservation We need that to ensure that our family ourselves and our tribe are going to be safe, right when we started Going through warring times and we actually had tribes We had other warring tribes come in and if your tribe was wiped out we didn't survive So this is a primal driver to also experience life that we're tapping into and I call it forcing the dark side because We have to we have to get we're talking about life and death and we have to get in touch with that And it's not necessarily on the surface a good thing in many contexts, right? We don't want to just walk out there and be this this sadistic animal It doesn't work in the modern world, but as a result of the modern world We've lost touch with this many of us have you know and a lot of that is social programming A lot of that has to do with our environment, you know sitting in front of the computer it limits our focus We don't get to express ourselves as men So I wanted to use this subject because I think it's a good theme for this this venue But I'm going back to myself right around when I was 17 and I started training in G I started turning the tides in my fight. I started having some results There were still fights where I would stalemate with people. I'd still get black eyes I still you know not be where I wanted to be I still didn't have the self-image that I needed years and years of You know not having social skills would do damage to your self-image But it was through this that led me to go to California and start training with another JKD expert Paul Vunak And at the time I believe I was 19 when I started training with him He was just getting done with his contract with SEAL Team 6 out of Virginia Beach. Okay, and Vunak Is is one of the biggest influences on my life But he's also has in the martial arts community at that time He kind of was a sore subject because he was just about fighting. Okay, he was in the streets Perfecting his his art, you know in actual bad situations. We're not talking about just you know Amano Imano with one guy He put himself in really bad situations to see what worked Okay, and that caught the eye of the government who then in turn wanted him to train SEAL Team 6 and how he got Yeah, how he got the eye of the government as a whole another story But so what happened was when he started training SEAL Team 6 in Virginia Beach Then these guys took his whole system and actually applied it in combat But they also would apply it into biker bars and the bars seen down in Virginia Beach and come back with infield Reports much like the seduction community, right? What happened with this or this guy came out of blue so it was So very similar but out of this this idea of killer instinct evolve So it evolved to a point where when I started training with him. He still had government people coming to his house when we We had a lot of the SEAL Team so I got very intimate Got to see behind the scenes of this development of this because this is the key Especially if you're talking about a combat situation the SEALs have to be able to turn their killer instinct on and turn it off Okay, and that's part of what we're talking about We have to have the ability to go from zero to a hundred but back to zero to keep a calm head Right does no good if you're in a flung range firefight to be at a hundred Okay, you have to keep a calm head and this is the same thing in a street fight If we start out at a hundred and we're we're we're matched with a superior size Biker who spent some time in prison. He's on steroids PCP and he wants to eat your face, right? If we go force on force with that especially me with my size, I'm gonna lose So there's a time and place to tap into this side of ourselves and when we do tap into it It is that killer Sadistic total disdain for that which is in front of you and that's a person who is trying to hurt you but I Want to go back and I'm gonna use the analogy of a street fight because I'm not I'm hoping none of you ever it has to street fight, but really the street fight is an analogy for life, right? There's struggle. There's opposition. There's stress There's hopefully sometimes when you're in trouble your friends will jump in but most of the time you're left to fend for yourself Okay, there's a beginning and there's an end and sometimes there are those that conspire against you So it really is an analogy of a struggle, but I don't want you to to Think of just this in the context of a street fight because when I break this down the killer instinct, right? We can put any context in there We can take out the word street fight and we could put pickup we can take out the word pickup and we could put you know Business negotiation so these elements in killer instinct are going to be there. It's just to what degree do we express them? We're not going to express this when we're in a business negotiation, but we may need that unspoken to get that Negotiation, okay, and I'll share a story later on that fill one of my students shared with me before we got on It's a good demonstration of killer instinct, but I want to get into a little bit more of what this is And part of it is being able to turn it on and turn it off See the turning off part is just as important as turning it on because we do have to keep a calm head We have to assess we have to see when the opportunity presents itself so that we can go in and destroy that which is trying to destroy us Make sense Okay, so let's talk about killer instinct a little bit more what I call Just for Demonstration purposes, we're going to look at things as a scale Right and in the context of a street fight we'll call this the scale Of bad intentions, right? When it's not a street fight we can call it the scale of intent and action because what I'm going to give you today is really It's really a way for you to tap into a part of yourself. That's there. Everybody has it. Believe me I know because I was that introverted kid in fact my wife before I came here I told her she couldn't come because I get a little nervous, right and so we have the luxury of going back home to see My family and and of course any time that happens your family has evidence of what you used to be Right, and I was the head geek. I was actually the drum major for my band Which you can imagine didn't help my fighting life very much, right? But while I was there unbeknownst to me my mom had given her some plaques that I had earned as being the drum major in The band so she was bringing those out, you know because I told her she couldn't come she said well Well, you're talking about killer instinct. Just remember who you are And then I demonstrated this side of killer instinct and I let her live, right? Took that so but that's part of it So it's something that the reason I'm sharing that is because it's something we can develop if I can develop it Anybody can and we need to develop it not because we're gonna go out in street fight But because as men we don't get to express ourselves We don't get to tap into the side often enough and conversely some of us are so much here We don't know how to do this Right where we're gonna we're gonna get more in touch with our friends. I'm more assessing and both are equally important Okay, and what happens is by going to these extremes you gain emotional mastery Okay, you're gaining a part of yourself. You're waking up that that sleeping giant within yourself because it's a primal driver Okay, it is it is key or she is life force that you tap into Okay, it's not something we can sustain a hundred percent of the time or even for very long Because it taps our physical strength But when you go there and I'll show you how to do that more often you will get more things for yourself You'll be more assertive. Okay, and you don't even have to oftentimes say anything because this is this is a primal mover of Our species and when you tap into it other people you will move other people. They will sense it Okay, and the same thing on this side and we're able to turn it down and we're okay with not being that Okay, it makes sense so far Okay, so the scale of bad intentions killer instinct is knowing both where you're at and Where your opponent is at on that scale of bad intentions so that you have the both the ability and the knowledge to act accordingly In conjunction with that which opposes you Okay, so in a conversation. It's that perfect timing of when when to enter that close Okay, or when it went to interject whatever it is you need to get your goal Okay in a street fight And and once again, this is this is the analogy but most people when they when they want to fight you They're gonna do so out of anger. Okay, some people they'll attack you for criminal reasons but most of the time a street fight is Is somebody out of anger and I want to make this distinction when I talk about a street fight I'm talking about a life-and-death situation. I'm not talking about two guys going on the street and settling things Okay, because we have to treat it with the respect it deserves Okay, any physical altercation can turn deadly even it's a shoving match Someone can shove you you fall down hit your head. You're dead Okay, you push somebody they hit your head They're dead and you have to treat it like that So if we decide to go to this our life is on the line in a street fight Okay, that's very important is it but this this isn't a blind rage This is a focus focus state that I'm going to teach you how to get that will help other areas of your life Okay, and you don't have to develop it through fighting, but this is what I'm what I'm talking about so We have this state and when somebody is going to attack you usually they're going to be at a 10 Let's say it's a scale of one to ten they're pissed off where we want to be is that a zero or one? Okay, we need to assess what's going on We have to open our focus and our awareness to see what's happening Okay, if we have the luxury of space if I if I'm if we're going to fight and you're over there This is this is good for me provide. There's no weapons Okay, but I get the chance to observe both where you're at What's around you? What's around me? What your intentions are? Do you have a weapon right? What's my internal state and and your focus is on me? Okay, so we have to have this this difference of focus if we are to survive a Situation where this guy is much bigger than us perhaps more skilled, you know Whatever whatever the case may be if I go force on force. I'm going to lose So I have to buy my time to get the right shots up with the right intensity Without taking damage because I don't want to take any damage if I can if I can help it Okay, so When they're at a 10 we're at a zero Or one and then as we go through the fight and we pot shot we move we inflict pain They start going down we start going up and at the right moment we enter at a hundred percent So we have to have ability to go from zero to a hundred but also back down to zero should my past not work Okay, make sense because it's really not the past that I'm talking about I'm talking about the ability to turn it on turn it off turned on again and turn it back off Not because of what I want but because of what's actually happening in the moment and you cannot predict that You may do a pass and it doesn't work. You have to go back to zero Okay This is something Steve needs Okay, so we have four components of The actual overall scale right and These are also on a scale, so we're going to find these First one is going to be and these are in no particular order our focus second is our intent Third are actions And finally our emotions Okay, so our focus Provided we have the luxury of distance Okay, and this is going to be true for conversations that you're in or whatever it is can be presenting right your focus When you're at this end of the scale has to be wide Okay, you have to take in the entire setting you have to know what's behind you where your possible dangers are where your exits are Right, who's friends with who? Are there weapons involved? So we have to turn down our internal dialogue Which we'll get to next is our intent or our thought process But our actual physical focus with our eyes Needs to widen and when you do this you put yourself in an alpha state Does anybody know what alpha state is it's like a light hypnotic trance You're able to take in more information So you can process more without your conscious mind getting involved because if you overthink things You're not going to pick up the threats out there or he may move in and now you're in danger city because you were thinking Oh my god. I left the stove on okay when you're here. So that's one we it Well, we'll list this over here. We have a wide focus actually. I should reverse that for y'all wide focus This is zero a hundred Right, so what's our focus when we when we make our decision? When we go in with our blast right where we actually make the decision that we can take this big guy out of commission with With our killer instinct our bad intentions our dark side, right? Where's our focus? So if it's wide what do we have over here? narrow Right oftentimes when you train this sufficiently you will black out and this is this is actual physiological function when people get Into life and death situation something happens fast you become hyper focused so a lot of the peripheral will go away Not always but a lot of times it'll go away So we want to take our focus and shift it to just that one thing that's right in front of us So if it's a goal that when we decide to go through and destroy their obstacle or to get our goal Our focus is on that and that's it. That's all that exists whereas out here. We're assessing everything that we can We're open. We're assessing. We're not labeling. We're just we are just assessing what what is and what is happening We're not adding to it. We're getting out of the subjective mind right our focus becomes narrow our Intent or our thought process When we're over here our thought process is to be Assessing and observing right But we also want to be not rattled in other words you want to be safe on under under pressure You're gonna have blows coming at you right and in this context of a street fight, but we want to have a detachment It doesn't mean apathetic and this is true for conversations or for pickup or whatever it is Right when you are in this state of things and you're open and you're assessing what's going on It's like you're light and playful right You cannot you have to have some sort of emotional attachment if you're apathetic Especially in conversation the other person will pick it up. You don't care at all. There's no emotional attachment It's gonna blow the whole thing unless that's your goal Right if that's your goal, then that's fine, but in a street fight We have to some element some emotional attachment So there's gonna be a little bit of fear there and a little bit of fear is okay, but we don't want that to overwhelm us Okay, so we want the thought process of being more of assessing, you know nice shirt nice tie Watch out for the traffic back there. Hey the cops are coming over there that lady's on her cell phone This guy might have a weapon, you know what whatever it is. It's assessing we might be adding a little bit to it But it's more in the language of hey watch out. This might happen Okay, we're assessing whereas this the intent thought process Behind when we go to a hundred percent in our killer instinct is one or nothing Okay, it's one or nothing either you have no thought in that moment And we and that's hard to sustain if it's if we're able to sustain it at all, right? It's one or nothing and that one could be go to be kill could be fuck you could be a scream Whatever it is whatever your mantra is you do it Mine I tend to black out. I tend to not remember just Guys on the ground. Oh, okay not always, but you know That's that's the intent but the intent is one or nothing and when you we can go from this, right? We're just we're up and moving to this go a hundred percent. That's the thought When you can get in it's a feeling right? I can demonstrate it But it's the feeling when you can get that that intention More often you're gonna see a whole bunch of things happen for you because a lot of us are ADHD now Just by the very very nature of things. There's so much going on or we're too narrowly focused, but we're over here Right focus should be here when we're intense But we're trained to be focused on our computer. We don't look at the peripheral So it's it's killing this over here the very fact that we have to stay in our cubicles So at my company I have a saying that says kill your cubicle Because if we're training to be in this box, right? It's a prison cell So if you physically go out and kill your cubicle film it okay? If you go and yeah, and you can actually throw your computer That's not what I'm talking about, but if you do that film it give it to me I want to use it okay, but I'm talking about the cubicle in your mind because we really do Physically when we're here, and I'm not saying you can't have you know great things don't come from writing or all that But me personally when I spend too much time on a computer. I can feel it I have to go back out and physically Change my focus go through the routine. I'm going to show you guys so I can remind myself that of that That I have this this motivation side of me that I have the ability to do what I want Versus I don't even know that exists I gotta pay the next bills. Okay So that's our intent One or nothing or more of observing and assessing actions Well in a street fight actions Are more of a lateral type of footwork. We're responsive. We're not a hundred percent defensive We're side to side. We're moving. We are going to inflict damage over here, but we're in long range We're moving we're assessing this guy does he have a boxing structure He's they have a tie boxing structure is in the MMA fighter. What is it? I was friends involved so but at the same time We don't want to be passive and we do not want to be a hundred percent defensive We may move back because we have to but then we want to go off to the side So our actions if you can get the analogy are going to be more playful Right we're gonna move move and you you aren't going forward, but you're not going back Okay, so obviously our actions on this are a hundred percent offensive When we're punching we punch it uninterruptedly when we deliver our big tools It's going to be our elbows knees head butts thumbs in the eyes knee in the groin I know maybe a bite if we have to It's the most vicious things you can do to somebody in the least amount of time So you have to have this squared away It's not that if somebody picks a fight with me or attacks me and I outclass them that I'm going to do this To them you will injure to degree. It's not that you'll black out and go. Oh my god I just destroyed this guy you will have if you have any sort of moral code. It's not something this is focused But the intent behind it should I need to go there? It's there for me Make sense If you need it it's there. Hopefully you'll never need it's the gun. It's a 45 in your back pocket We'll never pull it, but you know you have it and they can sense you have it Right that's when you start getting killer instinct when people can sense that and I'll share what Phil shared with me Of Phil's one of my students back there and he's he's was just sharing a story with me that at his work Um in his new job He blew away the guys the guys who have been there for a while. It blew away their numbers the last two weeks Is that right? So these guys um a little bit jealous of him They started messing with him in a call during a call. They unplugged his headphones Okay, so phil wanted to kill them and phil trains So he wants to straight blast these guys, but of course he can't do that So phil what does he do his killer instinct is just as much about This over here calming himself Right in the face of of the feelings that he wants to kill these guys He has to control his reaction to those feelings Okay, and all he gave them was a look Maybe maybe you said to what'd you say? No It wasn't no don't do they got like it was the nonverbal No Like they could sense there was something else there because he he trains He you know when when guys can and you don't have to train, but you can still get that feeling You know a father will do it to his child. No, but but it's that when you're doing it to another man Right and you have that there's that innate Thing that we've we have fought and bled and died for that pecking order All the all the all of that that we've earned as a species is there And when you have that other men will notice it's not about being alpha or amog or any of that But it's having an emotion tapping into an emotion that Can be used for very bad things And other men will notice that But like I said, it's not around you don't show it off When you choose to show it off They'll know But I'm you know half you guys I'm sure if I was walking around aren't going to go Oh, that guy was really tough and I'm not I'm not tough. I'm not tough at all. I was the remember I was the drum major You guys so I'm Believe me. I am anything but tough, but I am trained and I can go there And if you attack me or my family or or cut me off in traffic, I'm going to kill you Okay so But those are the actions and now we get to the emotions Okay, what are the emotions behind this because that's the biggest thing really in this whole thing is tapping into your emotions And subsequently being able to to silence them to some degree we can never If you're a a moral compassionate normal human being turn off your emotions without severe side effects you can't so There are people that don't have emotions Right sociopaths or they get some sick sort of emotion out of really bad things right Or they're even with training we see the the whole reason for ptsd is because of the emotional side Not the whole reason but that has a big impact upon it Right. We don't stifle these emotions. They'll happen Your your mind and your brain will react to to violence and it will imprint you So whether it's violence or whatever it is, we don't control our emotions But we can get to the point where our emotions don't control us So we control our reactions to our emotions and that in turn will help to dispel the emotions Okay, so when I get out, you know, was I nervous before when I first got here? Oh, yeah, I was nervous was I nervous before that? Yeah in street fights when I and I've had plenty of street fights bad bad Situations the build-up of the street fights was I ever nervous? Yeah, every time Especially when somebody's mouthy and they're directing it towards me and you know, it's coming Right, you just know I hate that because all those memories of the kids in class like you're getting after class We're gonna beat your ass and just sitting there and taking it all that comes up, too Right, but the moment the fight happens with training none of that exists It doesn't and over time The more I do this the feeling comes up. I can dissipate it. It's a high level state control Right, it's just like approach anxiety Same thing, but with time and with practice people can start to control that approach anxiety They're top guys. I'm sure always have it never goes away or or you know, sometimes it's not there But sometimes it is but it's your reaction and how you react to that that will determine help Determine the outcome Okay, so our emotions when we are out here When we're non-rattled, right? We want to have some sort of detachment, but we want to Almost be aloof Okay, we want some sort of emotional attachment, but it's more of aloofness. You don't care You don't you're not attached to the outcome, but yet you are Attached to the process Right, you care about the process. You're involved. You're present, but you're not attached to any outcome Right in the fight. It's like, oh, shit. That was a nice shot. Oh, watch out for that. Oh, yeah You know, maybe you're talking shit a little bit once you get good You might yeah a nice shot, right because you want to take them from a 10 down to a 2 so shit talking has its place But our emotions on this what are they? We decide to kick in it's every bad intention you could imagine You have utter disdain for this person in front of you. It's rage It's fear It is commitment Right, it is is just pure destruction. It is chaotic because you need it At that moment because if you don't have it, you're going to be overwhelmed Or perhaps you will die So you have to kick into it But if you do that without this You may not have control and this happens to people all the time They're in their box and they've never experienced this And all of a sudden they get fired and all of a sudden their girlfriend breaks up with them All of a sudden their dog gets run over all of a sudden they find themselves here without ever having been here And now they're popping off rounds in their old workplace Right because it consumes them. They don't know how to deal with it And that's not what we want. We want the ability to turn it on and turn it off On and off So our emotions are whatever to the ump degree when they're expressed We have to feel it. So we have to conjure that up So I think I've got like 25 minutes So I'm going to try to get to the how-to of each of these Because we can do that. We don't have to do martial arts martial arts is one of the best way Ways to to develop this but we have to do something physical And I think everybody here almost everybody here is in the health and fitness So there's some form of exercise that you can do to help develop this You can't develop it to the degree that I'm telling you without something physical It's impossible Okay, a lot of this is mental But it's the physicality that will will bring it out of you doing something physical in conjunction with all these Okay, so let's look at the focus This is just an exercise in widening our focus using our peripheral vision and narrowing it Okay, so all we have to do is something physical when when we are assessing the room look at my posture I'm looking up and I'm using my peripheral vision and I'm using this this anchor this kinesthetic anchor to look around Okay, so you can literally walk around and practice your focus. Well, what happens when we want to zero in on something What do we do physically with our eyes? squint You squint your chin goes down you look see me when I'm talking to somebody Especially like Steve I look at his nose. I'm thinking about Yeah, there's a little sexual energy over here But that's you know, it's it's that feeling but the squinting See when we when we focus in on something so you want to practice Oscillating between the extremes and each one of these that's the secret When you oscillate between the extremes and you can do it at will You don't need a cue. You don't need to get pumped up. It just happens Okay, and you'll see with fighters You know, they have to get to a certain state Before before they do that before they get in their fight. That's something a little bit different Okay, and they have the luxury of time see a MMA fight or a cage fight is not a street fight And so we don't have the luxury of preparing for it other than our training outside of it But when it happens it's going to happen Hopefully it never does but if it's going to and it happens we'd have to have the ability to respond instantly to it Otherwise you're fucked Right if somebody jumps out From a bush and is intent on attacking you and you don't have that in your mind and no training You'll you'll have some fight or flight But most of the chances if you don't have that ability to to you know Guy actually physically grabs you and throws you and you can't kick into that. It's it's going to be a tough night for you Okay, but you don't even need it for that But it's that ability to go from zero to a hundred that is the secret Okay, so we want to oscillate back and forth from wide To this so you can just pick one thing out in the room look at it and go wide Look at it, right and this can be used in seduction Actually, I told steve a long time ago because I occasionally look at some of the stuff I'm married now But I occasionally look at some of his stuff, right and when he does his rapport cycling What is that that's like a fractionation Anybody familiar with your his rapport cycling? So what he's doing is he's taking the state from a light open playful and then he's turning up the intensity And he's focusing and then you go back and it fractionates the subject See so this phenomena exists in everything Right, so our focus we want to go from wide to narrow so our intent our thought process Remember we want to have as little internal dialogue as possible We want to turn it down because we don't want to get caught up caught up in the subjective mind We don't want to get caught up with what's in here Of what we think should be out there because we need to assess especially in life and death situation You better know what's going on around you if you don't know who's friends with who that's your fault Because you're too focused you need to open your awareness. So we need to have a type of This type of hey look at that. Hey look at that. Hey look at that We take the peripheral and we're pointing it out to ourselves. It's a mentally like nice blue shirt Nice light that lights bright, you know Things that we're observing Right to me that are in our peripheral and then we want to focus in on one thing and just that's the one Thing that exists so candy Right, but it's an oscillation. So we want to do this as an exercise focus Exercise focus exercise focus right we want it like that that's a simple way and that's Something you can do without The martial arts, but i'm going to put this all together for you in a physical activity that will elicit this out of you Because if you're going to exercise anyway, you can do this without too many people going what the fuck is that guy doing? Right, so that's what we want. We don't want to look too crazy, but we want to be able to be crazy when we want to So our actions If you're talking about footwork Side to side right so I can just literally jump rope and then when I go to this sprint forward and go back to jumping rope Sprint forward back Emotions So once we get all these things in sync because we want to shift our focus our intent and our actions All at the same time Our emotions have to go with it So what's one way to Start to control emotions observe them breathing Breathing and you will observe them You will you'll feel the initial and then you'll observe where they go through your body Breathing so when we're here Easiest way is breathe from your diaphragm Just that Remind yourself breathe from your diaphragm more often because we carry our emotions to a large extent up here Especially when it's life or death So we can purposely guide our emotions up here I always like to make that like it goes up your your thing because it comes from our base from here to here And usually when you're exerting yourself, you're going to breathe from there anyway If it's a hundred percent if it's a sprint a burpee something like that Okay, where you're going a hundred percent you're going to breathe from up here Okay, so what's an exercise where we can use all these that I can give you guys Well one thing I'll suggest and I think hitting stuff is one of the best ways but since some of you guys probably won't do that Hitting other human beings is even better, right? It's probably the best thing But what we'll do is we have our focus. So what is your focus? One of the best things very simple easy. I'm gonna just put right this down Tabata rounds who knows what Tabata rounds are Anybody What's a Tabata round? Right, so 20 seconds in the solar you pick an exercise can be squats. It could be can be whatever, right? What are these types of squats called? Yeah No Never mind You can do jump squats, but whatever. Okay, so So whatever you act as it can be push-ups. It can be burpees whatever it is But in my opinion it's got to be something where you're exerting yourself Where where you're you know, you're your whole body's involved almost, okay? But we want Tabata rounds you said was 10 20 seconds on of intense exercise with 10 seconds off So we change this and say Tabata rounds with random intervals But your Your exertion interval doesn't exceed the 20 seconds Okay, because you're talking about everything you have energetically and physically and mentally and emotionally all aligned going forward at 100% It's going to blow your wad after 20 seconds. We can't sustain it That's why you don't see guys just chasing each other around the ring As human beings we can't sustain that so maybe around 5 10 seconds But what you want to do is get an interval timer Where the rest period and the rest period can be as long as you want You'd be five minutes Okay, because we don't know the opportunity when it presents itself And I'll go back to the analogy of a street fight if I'm moving around in a long range Right and I click this guy's eye doesn't kind of work. I have pot shot in there It doesn't quite work and on the next shot a neum in the groin and I see it reacts. I have to go then I'm waiting but that whole scenario might take two minutes to to happen So I have to be patient because I don't want to be in the kitchen with this guy When he's swinging so I want to be in long range. I want to inflict damage But I don't want to go in so I have to be patient So this side of things I have to maintain that cool head and the wide focus The observance for for as long as it needs to be but when I go in This hopefully won't take any time at all. Hopefully I'll just grab it. Take him out one shot. Boom. He's done Hopefully that that's what happens if I have to chase this guy with intensity and he's starting to get away from me I have to go back So it teaches you patience So when we have the tabata rounds Right You can pick your interval your rest interview is just lightly jumping rope like this or moving on your feet Right, anyone can do that. So it's still a workout when the timer goes off for your intensity You need to emotionally Physically and with your breath and your focus do everything that I went over So if if it's push-ups put this symbol on the ground, that's your concentration point That's the only thing that exists in your focus and you with your feeling need to Put all of your willpower into that And then jump back up when the timer gets in and move around And this has to be squared away and then when the timer goes off and boom, you're there Everything this the only thing that exists in your mind for that interval That's how you train it and you get a hell of a workout with it too. It sucks It really does because you don't know it's ideal if you get the timer Set so that you don't know when the intervals in don't set it up yourself Just have somebody randomly set and there's plenty of apps for it Unfortunately, I don't know what app I have We do it just out of sparring Okay, that's one of the best ways because when somebody's trying to take your head off and you have to remain calm And you're actually getting hit and even when you get hit you're talking about observing where that pain goes through your body You know and still keeping a calm head and reacting to the other person You know that that's where it's at, but we don't want to get hit. I don't like I spiral time. I don't like getting hit All right, that's for steve Steve's job Steve likes to get he's he he are he see he ran away. Oh, he's right there so That is it as far as What we're talking about how much how much time do we have? Anybody Okay, 10 minutes. So let's let's have some q and a And then we'll have some t and a All right Hi first off, uh, really cool speech. Uh, this uh goes a lot with uh It's uh the stuff I've read But um, I'm someone who uh Just growing up. I was just emotionally desensitized to a lot of things just to like let stuff roll over and not like Worry about it Like um, I played football and it was I played linebackers really hard for me to get in that like killer Instinct that you were talking about which my linebacker coach talked about all the time Um, what would you suggest to try and tap into this for someone like me who has that past? Well, I would suggest You probably need a coach. You probably need somebody who's um Can calibrate to your emotions to see when they come out Okay, and me as a coach. I have I have a couple guys I work a lot with with people who have very is very similar to ptsd And so your emotions are you don't want to let them out because you're afraid of what's going to happen Or it brings back the abuse again, right it triggers all that so we keep it aside So remember the trick is to oscillate between the extremes Okay, and so if if you're stuck here and do are you a sensitive guy? Like can you feel emotions? Can you can you like do you ever cry at movies? See I can I can No, but that's a see you're so you're kind of stuck in the middle, right? So we need to oscillate isn't it? It's okay. We want to be able to cry at movies We want to get in touch with your friend inside and we want to be able to express ourselves and our anger, right so For me to just give you an exercise this will help start to move that a little bit Okay, even if you're just just hallucinating that you're mad And that you have killer instinct will start to move it a little bit But force yourself to go through the physical part of this And and pretend at getting the the feelings and that will start to move things Me as a coach like when I have a guy who's Physically, he's a monster and he's had he's had some some PTSD in his life and So it's not that he doesn't have emotions actually compassionate guy But what happens is when he gets here he he stops because I know he's afraid that he's gonna he's gonna kill somebody and won't have that control Okay, so what I have to do as a as a trainer is elicit those emotions out of him without him actually snapping And then to borrow that moment of when they come out and have him turn tune it back down I need to get him mad So I see it in his face and he's like this and now I say okay Now breathe because he has to get comfortable with it and he has to know he has control Because that's that's the fear You know your fear may be that you're afraid this is going to re trigger whatever You know from your past and so you don't want to go there. It's just something that didn't serve you in the past You know, whatever it is. I don't know but but simply doing the exercise and and Trying to conjure the feelings We'll start we'll start to move you a bit But it's not you know, this isn't a fix all for everyone just this physical part. This is a very Deep subject that has many implications That took me years to you know, and luckily I was exposed to the the culmination of this A guy's actually using this in life and death Death situations, but it brought me out of my shell and so it's not um This is something to help you in the limited time we have but This is the starting point for you Okay Um for myself personally, um, I've always struggled with my killer instinct to actually just fear of it Like um, I used to be boss around with my best mate and nearly killed him when I snapped Um, so it's always been an issue that I want to tackle. I've I've sort of been about experiencing football in Australia We don't wear the gears. Yeah, just tackle and I love that Uh now I've done like a bit of boxing, but like if I'm with a female partner I'm just getting the shout of it. I'm looking at a martial art to do I think would you suggest that would be the best way for me to sort of like tackle into it experience it and then be okay Yeah, anything you're going to spar with Here's the thing like you um, for example on Fridays. I have a ritual of wrestling with um Uh my chiropractor. Yeah, some racket that guy has right He used to wrestle where where do you wrestle in the brass or it's Omaha something something He's like 265 and he used to be 300 pounds. The guy's strong. He's a brown belt. I'm a black belt Shit, right with this guy. So on Fridays, he and he wrestles all the time He's very good. We we go so there is what I'm 180 right now. So whatever that disparity and weight is Plus his skill So I spend the day Being on the bottom trying not to to panic like a bitch, right Because he's like yeah, he can do whatever he wants to me and occasionally I'll catch him You know, not that bad, but but what I do is I use that opportunity For this side if I can remain calm why I'm underneath and still keep a calm head and it's like, okay He's moving his foot there. Watch for this, you know, watch the hook there He's going for your arm if I can use that when and when sparring when you have somebody you have the girl You know, let her go off on you and really maintain a cool head Even if it's a girl letting her punch but still still Boxing and maintaining good good defense without overwhelming her you work on yourself at that moment And you work on that that calm head and observe things that are out there some some of the I trained guys for for mma and some of the things where I have a guy who's Scared of getting hit so he I have to physically put him against the wall and punch him And have him have a cool head because it gets him out of his game So one of the ways you can actually do that is to recite the alphabet while you're getting hit You know, it's one of the ways not that you want to do that in a fight But you have to train the brain in a whole order order to do that. So but but really it's the it's the Observe your emotions where they're at in that moment and one of those punches gets through That's the moment that you train yourself to contain your anger to to Express that killing in a safe environment or in a safe way without me actually having to kill something so through Hit the bag hitting hitting back what do you think would be what martial art would you suggest any stand-up martial art that you can spar Because jiu-jitsu is a lot of jiu-jitsu is this side of the game There's killer instinct in it, but you don't get to express it that often, you know You will more with no gi and with mma But um anything where you can stand up and and even when you're standing up You you the you may not express this see to me jkd where we we get the helmets out and we can go full bore with with armor That's when you can go You know even krav maga will do that because they'll they'll wear the armor So that's when you can get the expression of that Okay, when you can you can really go a hundred percent But if you're just sparring you'll do it in smaller moments When you when you when you when you get a jab or a cross and it rocks them Then you go in with two three shots and turn it back off You're not trying to kill your partner, but you get to express it in smaller doses where when you get the gear on I hate you steep. I like to you steep. I love to hit steep. Where is he? I love to hit that guy You know like he says because he'll hit me and then it pisses me off and then I get to practice all this stuff, right So does that answer your question? Okay good Hi Ed. Thanks for for your talk. It was very good. It seems like you do this every day So anyway, I wanted to ask what's the role of diplomacy? Like if what's the role of diplomacy? So let's say that shunsu was still alive and he came and he came across the situation I wouldn't see him, you know fighting he would probably you know try to You know disturb his opponent or try to be friend him remember. What is my definition of a street fight? It's a very serious situation where people can die So if I'm going to make that decision to fight and it wasn't always that way I was I had a very selfish reason for fighting was to overcome my bowl. I wanted to exact revenge on my bullies and I did I did I actually traveled back anyway and but but It evolved and as my Experiences because it then it became about like oh, I'm getting better as a fighter than you get the ego And you're like I'm a fucking tough guy. Let's see what happens, but you want to get to a point where It's a very serious situation and I have walked away from more fights than I've ever been in in my life and morally if I can justify This situation happening. It's it's myself or my family's in danger Okay, it's not some guy You know and I have compassion even in the midst of a fight You know where I've there there are times when you know your friend's being an ass Back in the day I had a friend being an ass He starts a fight and a couple guys jump on him and I as a as a friend I can't sit there and allow him to to be killed in front of me because two on one is that's very Easy situation a very easy thing for that to happen So in even to the midst that when you jump in I'm not going to go to here with that guy. I'm going to I'm going to incapacitate him as much as I can But you will injure to degree so For somebody who just won't go there that is a philosophical thing that they have to reconcile within themselves But I guarantee as a compassionate human being I have great love for my wife And my family and if somebody were to attack us I have no problem going there But I'm not going to pick some poor shmo on the street and just you know or some deranged guy Even a deranged guy attacks me. I have to assess the situation. Is it worth it to go here or do I need to? but then again Shit can happen I could I can be nice to this guy and slip and fall and hit my head and now he's he's raping my wife Or whatever or now I'm dead just because of this guy So you have to treat it with the respect it deserves, but that is an individual choice. That's how I reconcile it is You know this is this is a serious situation and You know a lot's gonna have to happen in order for you know up to that point in order for me to actually fight Not always but You know to this level to this level Yeah, thanks Ed for your speech Um, I've taken martial arts and I kind of wanted to ask you the question about um Like in my in my situation you kind of taught like if you're in a fight You want to make sure that you can do what you can to stop the fight? So I haven't had a lot of training and going to like that You know as far as possible go as far as possible. No mercy and and like take it there So I was thinking for me. How do I How do I figure that out myself and say hey, okay? This is if I have to go there I'm able to go there even if I never trained to do that You have to train to do that because that will give you a choice You see that's the thing is this isn't this is not a choice for me I can I have this at my disposal But that does not in any way dictate that I'm going to use this in in all of my fighting experiences But I have it if I need it If you don't if you don't train it in some way, you know, if yours is specifically for martial arts Then then it may or may not be there for you You don't know because a lot of people have killer instinct. It's inborn in us But but whether whether you have the the Tenacity and the skill and all that you know to express it when it needs to come out in the right way You won't know until you actually export. So you have to do it, but it's a choice This is not something that I believe me. I've used more nlp and more hypnosis getting out of fights And I have actually fighting Right, there are plenty of ways to avoid fights That's why I have Steve and and those guys for now I just teach them and I live vicariously through them when they go in their pickup scene And they're like this guy was eyeballing his amok. I'm like, really? What'd you do? He didn't like that. So anyway guys, we're out of time So if we want I'll be available available for questions or anyway, I really enjoyed it I I thank anthony and all that stuff. I hope you got something out of it and uh, thanks We'll see you again