 and spenders want to spend time with you. They want companionship, they want connection, they want sex, but without any real sense of commitment. And the users are the love bombers, they're the players, they're the narcissist, they just want to use you for their benefit. They're also entitled women and women who are looking for sugar daddies, those are the users, okay? They're using you for their benefit. The spenders are oftentimes clueless to the fact that they're so fearful of commitment, they're so fearful of something deeper that they can only go on the surface. This is why a lot of guys say, I need to take it slow.