 What's happening guys your local realizer man in the realized car and let's talk about building confidence, right and I feel like I'm someone who's actually Probably a good person to give you advice on this subject because I was someone who had Absolutely no confidence when I was younger You used to scare the shit out of me to go to McDonald's and order a Big Mac I used to get my little sister who's even younger than me That was like six or something to go in order for me because I was terrified because I didn't have confidence When I was younger, I never talked to girls because they have confidence and didn't try to talk to other guys because I didn't have confidence and what I realized is that Confidence is not something that you do is not something that you go out and you build your confidence, right? It's more something we all inherently have it's just that our confidence is being repressed because of limiting beliefs What I mean by this if you look at a four-year-old or a three-year-old or a five-year-old naturally Nine times out ten kids are confident kids will come up to you and say hey What's your name? Hey, how's it going and try to talk to you have a conversation with you They don't worry the least bit about looking awkward. Don't worry about any of these things. They're natural It's because their kids the reason kids are confidence because they haven't learned To remove their natural state of confidence and we learn to remove the state throughout limiting beliefs and the limiting belief That most people have that kills their confidence is this one thing if you only get anything out of this video Make sure you remember this one thing People lacking confidence because they believe the other people are judging them for their actions The other people are thinking about what they're gonna do Think about that the reason you act naturally when you're talking to new people is because you're in your head It's because you're too conscious about what other people are thinking of you That's the only reason if you didn't have this limiting belief you would be more natural You say what you want to say you do what you want to do you have the body language you want to have you Wouldn't have to calculate every single move you make making you look awkward now Think about the most embarrassing thing that your best friend's done Or someone's done in the past Chances are it would take you a bit of time to actually think of something that was embarrassing The reason it takes you a bit of time to think of something that was embarrassing someone else did is because human beings We don't fixate on what other people do in terms of embarrassing things they do I'm sure you've seen someone do some really embarrassing things in the past. I'm sure you've seen people get rejected people Do all kinds of things but you don't think about you don't fix it on it because it's not you you're more worried about what you're doing Now let's go back to the confidence other people doing the same other people are not worrying about How you're stuttering other people are worried about maybe some awkward thing you did they're fixated on themselves They're not worrying about what you're doing so you can get out your head and give you that opinion and be naturally confident as you naturally are Once you get this idea in your head You can then get rid of the limiting belief and then start approaching people and talking to people And what you realize is that the world is a safe place that the world is a safe place And you're at ease you can walk through the world you can talk to people at the Pizza Hut You can order McDonald's you can get rid of the social anxiety that you have That was all made up in your head Other people are not fixating on you. Not everyone's looking at you. I remember the first time I went to the gym. I swear When I walked in I thought that everyone was looking at me I thought that everyone was looking at me judging me in reality. This is ridiculous People don't have time to pay attention just to you. They're busy doing the only thing they have their own doubts So allow yourself to be confident. That's the thing. Don't it's not something you do Allow yourself at first to be confident allow yourself to make mistakes and you will be better off Another reason that we are not often confident is because we don't allow ourselves to make mistakes We think that everything we have to do has to flow seamlessly everything we have to do has to be fluid That's why a lot of guys can't talk to girls. They can't approach girls because they're scared Because they're scared that they're gonna say the wrong words. They're scared that they're gonna look weird if you allow yourself to make mistakes You go into the interaction at ease You don't take blows to your ego. You take every little thing in which you Learned and you're better off with it It's kind of like Someone who's starting a business you have two mindsets You have the person who has their first failure gets depressed quits and Becomes bitter because of it or you have the second person gets the failure and takes it as feedback dollar Do the same thing with your social interactions if you're trying to get better if you're trying to be more confident stuff with small things Go out there and just talk to people Allow yourself to make mistakes. Perhaps You talk too much you talk too quick Perhaps you cut the other person off take all the feedback dollar and Use as reference for the next interaction and before you know you be able to talk to anyone at ease right now I'm so fucking confident. I don't worry about those things. I can Go out there and do all that shit because I've gone through these processes Anyway, guys, I hope that video helps you more of these coming soon And yeah, tell me if you like it and I'll make some peace