 Booty butt, shaka, booty butt, shaka, booty butt. Booty, booty, booty, booty, booty, booty butt. Up, Karen, make it rain on her. Help make it rain on Karen, you know? Her rent is late. Anybody got a change for a one? Rain on Karen. If I got a change for a five, I need $2 bills. One got two $2 bills and a one. Sit, sit, sit. I can guarantee you, if Karen Jackson, it's her real name, I can guarantee you she is exactly who I am talking about in this video. Highway to the danger zone. How many of you guys are familiar with this, this oldie butt goodie from the 1980s? How many of you guys are familiar with that from the 1980s? Come on. Who can tell me the movie? From the movie 1980s. A 1980s classic. Kenny Loggins on the track. And when it got good to him, he said this. Come on, Kenny. Sorry, guys. Pick up. What's going on with the computer, man? All right, we built it while we fly it. Come on, Goose. What's going on, Mace? There we go. All right, the danger zone. What is the danger zone? Top gun. See, over here, high value men could be considered to be top guns. See, anybody can fly a jet. You know, you can fly a jet in a Navy or an Air Force. I mean, I think all branches have their version of a helicopter, of aircraft. But in order to fly the premium aircraft, in order to do air-to-air combat, to get out there on the edge and actually take people down, you had to go to Top Gun Academy. This is what the best of the best of the best went. Well, guess what? You're over here at Top Gun Academy. This is where men who were high earners not rich yet, guys who want to be successful. Top 10% guys on the way to the top 5% guy. Blake or Blue Henry? Brad Lee or Matt Keith or NK? Blake Henry, white collar. Blue Henry, blue collar brothers, business owners, enterprising kind of brothers, ambitious, entrepreneurial, or the guys who can see either path. These are what I call the hit squad. Henry's in training at the end of the day. These are the guys who will be considered the top guns. And in order to get a top gun, man, what happens in the movie Top Gun, they had the local bar where they would run all the game on women, but any time you have elite or powerful men, beautiful women are always going to be around. And the funny thing is, we know these things. But strangely enough, today, many women are saying that, you know what there, many women, especially black women, are putting off marriage. They're putting off marriage in favor of college, career, these kind of things. And they're waiting to learn in like 30s, late 20s or 30s, before they even decide they want to start looking for a husband as if you can do that. There's a, over here, I do things a little different. When I do the, how do you rank yourself from one to 10? You can't use seven. And over here, we talk about, you know, the wall. The wall is a woman's sexual as the age at which high-risk pregnancy begins for most women. Let's age 35. When we get right down to it, between the ages of 27 and 35 is what I consider to be the danger zone. The danger zone is that time in life where a lot of women, the light comes on. And it's like, okay, I went to college. I've had my fun. I've been out for five, eight, six years. And I've seen all my white colleagues and my Asian colleagues get married. Now it's like I'm ready to settle down and go find me a Henry. I want to all of a sudden become a stay-at-home wife to where I don't ever have to work, you know, or I'll work from home in my husband's business and all these fanciful notions, which is cool. That's what you want. But why is the tight age between 27 and 35, the danger zone? Well, let's get into it. It's the danger zone for several reasons. One, you're reaching the age to where you're too old. Now, you may still be a young woman at 33, but when it comes to the marriage market, make no mistake, you're an old woman. You're a young woman for the world, but you're an old woman for the marriage market. And like anything else, men and women alike, the older we get, the less likely or the harder or the more impervious we are to change. Okay, you're an older woman for the marriage market, the more impervious to change, and now the sense of urgency is at a height. It's like all of a sudden you've slept, you've been sleepwalking through life, and now all of a sudden you wanna find a husband like next week, but you have not been, but the last, let's say you're 33, but the last 10 years of your life has not been spent being prepared to be a wife. Now, how do we, let me just break it in like this. There's a lot of, I can show you better than I can tell you. I can show you better than I can tell you. Okay, let's do it this way. All right, well, I'm gonna play a clip and we're gonna get into it. I'm gonna open the call line because this is not a bad session. I don't talk to the women who are in this danger zone kind of area, and let's see if you can either be like Maverick and turn it around or whether you're gonna be like Goose. In Top Gun, if you didn't make it, they called it washing out. How many women in the danger zone are going to wash out? I'm good, how are you? I'm good, what do you have for me? So I do think that we, as a people like to change, although I think that as a whole, we probably have issues with confronting being different from the crowd, and when you start to change. Meaning what? What do you mean different from the crowd? I think I just kind of found that most of the time, when you're wanting to change, you're usually inspired by your direct surroundings, which means you're looking around at people and you're saying, I don't wanna be like you, I wanna be different from what I'm seeing, what I'm experiencing. And so if we were changing to kind of join the crowd, it'd be a lot easier, but oftentimes we're kind of moving away from things that we know and that we're used to. And so I think that there's just some insecurity and am I doing the right thing? There's a lot of people who are gonna tell you that you're not and you're kind of on your own until you find your new group and then you realize, oh, okay, I'm in my lane. So how's that working in, so how old are you? I'm 33. So perfect spot, 27 to 35, I call that the danger zone. The danger zone. The danger zone. It's the age where a lot of college educated and or working independent career women start to realize, I don't have a husband yet and it's not working. And there's a pattern. I have a video called Over 30 Attractive and Single AF. Similar thing talking about the higher up a woman goes the more money she makes, the more degrees, these kinds of things, the more difficult it becomes to find a man on her level. Now over here, guys are already raising their hands saying we wanna be in the top 10% of men. There's no dust over here. So you can't use that argument like everybody else. I don't deal with average over here. I deal with guys who want to be above average. And I want you to hear what so many women in the danger zone, imagine if you were a man between 27 and 35 and you had to go through these kind of, just listen, just listen. I agree. The danger zone. It's the years between before 35, which is where high risk pregnancy starts. Are you married or have you been married? No. Not yet. Do you wanna be married? Yes. Are you in a serious relationship now? No, I'm newly single. I'm like six months out. Okay. And how long was your previous relationship? About four years. Oh. And he was about 10 years older. Okay. Put on a pile of coffee, let's go to work. Yeah. All right, so tell me, I'm curious. I'm really curious. Okay, you were the guy that was 10 years older for four years. Yeah. You can't know what you did not know at the beginning. Oh, come on. You know what, let's do it this way. Build it while we fly, baby. Build it while we fly it. Can't know what you did not know then. We have an internet problems over in this. It's rainy out here, guys. So, when you started? I was boyfriend-minded, which sounds kind of weird, but to be mind, I was kind of young. No, it doesn't. Okay, I was set on finding a relationship. I felt that'd be the first step. Right. And, you know, I had to kind of get that out the way and get it somebody who wasn't going to be like a toxic person. I just saw a lot of people who were coming in out of relationships and they were so damaged it takes years to bounce back, it moves away and all that stuff. But you went to college though, right? No, I stopped halfway through. So, I have an AA and then I stopped halfway through. I'm a realtor. You're a realtor. Okay, you're a realtor. So, you've been in your career for how long? Los Angeles. Oh, okay. Congratulations. I'm a brand new realtor. Just to... Again, I want you guys to listen just to... So, I'm just 33. And just the... Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Oh, look at me! I mean, it's like, really? January. Okay, so what I'm trying to see is if, like in corporate America, one of the things I noticed after college is all of the white people, the non-black people started to get married from 23 to 27. They were going to weddings. I mean, it was ridiculous. In the office I worked in, one woman went to seven weddings in one season. Seven. Right. And that's what the always a bridesmaid, never a bride. Now, I want to pause here. How many black women know you worked in an office environment? Well, you've seen, when it's spring and summer, you've seen women always going to weddings, wedding after wedding after wedding after wedding, to the point to where you're like, what's going on? And I'm like, what are you... I'm trying to understand what a lot of women think when they see this, but they don't see black women going to get married in their 20s. But it's like a news flash to black men and black women that most folks get married early on. I... Right. That ain't what you hear in black America because what I noticed is black women were not going. I worked for a large company and I'm seeing all these average looking white women going to wedding and they were... And you know what I heard, Brittany? I heard one woman say, this is me, I am broke. I don't know what's going on on that phone over there, but we're going to get to it. Cause you have to buy the dress and this and that. It was fascinating to me that I'm like, that these women felt compelled to have to go spend full $500 to attend a friend's wedding. But then the sisters was just out kicking it. So the pressure was on white women in this office to get married because by age 30, everybody was married up. So when you say you a boyfriend minded at 29, it makes sense because I don't think a lot of black women really see themselves being married until later in life. No, and my parents are still together, but they had me very, very early and a lot of my friends and cousins the same. So I think that there was maybe a little bit more encouragement for us to wait and be young and have your own apartment and things like that that I didn't get to have because I got married so young. Okay, so, okay. So you were with your boyfriend for four years and when you got into it, you were boyfriend minded. At what point, was there a point where you wanted it to go further and he didn't? No opposite. He wanted it to go further than you didn't. That's yes, in the present tense, yes, but I don't think that's going to be my choice. I'm confused. Okay, so y'all were together four years and he wanted to marry, he was talking about getting married, but you didn't want to marry him. Yes, we were together for four years and I think that's something that he would want to do, but I don't think he is, I think he's more wedding minded than marriage minded and so I'm just making a decision to seek a better... Has he asked you to marry him? Has he, okay. No, he has not asked me to marry him, no. Has he brought up the subject to you? Oh yes. And when you said equally yolk, what do you mean? Well, I kind of had a, I just had family, my parents and my mom would kind of pull me to the side and say, listen, you know. Are you talking about money? It's this, he did all right with money. I just don't think, he just, I think I had a very kind of stable shelter kind of upbringing. Okay. And so I think I may have certain expectations for just kind of a traditional, just the way that a traditional marriage goes and family goes and he did not have that. And so I just didn't think I was gonna be... Okay, okay. So four years, notice, the more you talk, the more you start to realize. There's always something with the men. And then you wake up and it's like, well, but now I want to be a stay at home wife and la, la, la. But you had men, when do you ever start to look and say, huh, maybe it's not the guys? I mean, again, I want people to pay attention. This is a woman who's, who said that she didn't want to be with him because, you know, basically, if you let her talk long enough, he wasn't on her level. Start talking about serious stuff. Was it with his mother and father, Mary? No, I don't think he knows his father. All right. So, but you were with him for four years and during some of the best years, some of the most, not best years, some of the most critical years, prime years where you were already 28 or 29 by the time you were with him. Prime has already passed. You're in the critical years. She's in the critical years, in the, where we at, man? Why are you telling me what I need to do, dude? Kevin needs to leave this knowledge with a few select black men and teach us. No, you pay me, dude. Tell me what I need to do. I don't have, when you Negroes come over, tell me what I need to do. What do I need to do? What do I need to do? What do I need to do? She has thought she was at her prime years. Come on, they're not no prime years, you're in your critical years. You in the danger zone. Why did I stop this? I stopped it because we got 1,400 people watching and we only have, we got less than 500 likes and nothing in the donations. I'll be, I will shut this joker off. No, that ain't how we do it. Then I got somebody telling me what I need to do. I need to stop talking to this and I need to do that. Let me tell you something, men, you don't tell me that I need to do anything. Men show their work. Find it offensive when you type and tell me something I need to do and it's now followed by a dollar. So, here's what we're gonna do. Until we get these likes up, we're gonna take a break. We're gonna take a break and we are going to get the monies up because, yeah, y'all know how this work. Mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm. Where's my dad gum song? Where's that song at? Money work. Thanks, sir. See, it's funny when you start talking about people where they should be in life when they wanna get to, just like we had people yesterday, all worried about stuff outside of them. I was Kevin married, and Kevin is doing fine. Answer the question yourself. Where did that lady go? I guarantee you all the people who come in here asking the questions that ain't no closer to the caller than to success. And I'm just using her as an avatar, the years where you can't afford to waste time. So what I'm trying to figure out is, I'm hearing you say that basically, the way you're sounding is, he was cool to be a boyfriend, but he's not husband material because we're not equally yoked and I'm trying to understand. Is it a money thing? What does that yoked mean? That's broad with women. Did he make enough money? I think it's more inside style. So let me, okay, did he make enough money for you to be married to him? Not, it wasn't consistent, it wasn't consistent. Not to the thing you wanna bring a child into. Okay, so. So, and lifestyle is a result of his income. Okay, so he made enough money to be a boyfriend, but not husband. Yeah, probably something I would have mentioned is that because I was in such a unique part of my life when from my twenties to my thirties, I had changed careers, bumped up like 30,000 in salad, but so many different things had happened to me in that timeframe that I was kind of like, oh, now I understand. So basically when you were in the middle, it was okay, but then when you start making more money, then all of a sudden he didn't look as good. Well, no, he still made more than me. So it wasn't that, it was more of like, hey, now we make more money, do you wanna get a house? Does he make more than you now? Yes, oh, now, no. Okay, when you were together. Yes. Okay, so I'm not understanding. It's how you wanna spend the money. It's how you want to set up your life. You don't get to spend anybody's money till you marry. See what she just told on herself. See, when she was in her twinkling twenties, it was just fine. But all it took was $30,000 for this chick to decide the guy that she was opening her legs to, kicking it with wedding marriage of material. Right. Why? Because she's in the goddamn danger zone. Now she's curious. Four years, 29 to 33. And you're with somebody who wasn't marriage material, but you're laying down running the risk of getting pregnant? None of this stuff makes sense. Or does it? But that's when your husband, okay. Why spend four years with a guy if you wanna have, if you wanna get married? Well, I think in the beginning, I had enough time to decide and then I think I had to kind of. She thought she had enough time to decide. Again, 29 years old, when you know all these other folks around the country getting married in their early twenties, had enough time to decide. Always the thing with our sisters. No, you don't have enough time. Stop. You're out of time. It was me to, you know, him saying that it was the right path. It took a while for me to kind of just follow my instincts. It's probably the short way to put it. Do you wanna be a stay-at-home wife or do you wanna work? I like to be able to stay with my kids when they're young enough to avoid daycare, but I probably would always still be a realtor on the side and make money. So you wanna be a stay-at-home wife? Temporarily, at least. I mean, not permanently. How many children do you wanna have? I'm gonna be very realistic now. I'm an only child. Now. If I can get it. Let me stop you right there. Have you had therapy? No, I haven't had therapy. No, you need it. You need it. I have a good reason. No, you need it. I'm down for that. I'm an only child. I know of what I speak. That's why I'm sitting here listening to you. I'm like, there's something more going on in this. I have that term, but I only know if that is like what, being spoiled or I don't know what that means. Yeah, spoiled, selfish, unrealistic. Spoiled, selfish, unrealistic inability to play well with others, lack of ability to make or sustain lasting relationships, leaning towards narcissism, leaning towards the dark triad of personality traits. Yeah, we're fucked up. I have to look into that. Well, I'm telling you. But I do actively, you know. Here's the thing. It's not a, it's not a, it's not for sure. Being an only child, we grow up sooner than we have to. We tend to be more precocious or we're very spoiled. Unless you do things early on, like early on in life, I started doing things outside of myself, volunteering and things like that, because my father's side of the family, as long as long story, I had a nice amount of balance, but still all my friends who are only children never marry. So when I'm listening to you talk about a guy that you dated for four years, and it's also as though you're talking about him as though you were here and he was there, but he's making more money than you. You don't have a college degree. You did have a major bump, but he's still out earning you. And I'm asking, why stay in the relationship so long if you knew you wanted to marry and have children? Well, yeah, I think I kind of was so focused on getting the first thing complete. And then I'll be honest. Once I hit 30, I started to hear a lot of women tell, hey, you know, be careful before you. Were these women married? Again, how do they do it? It's always black women. They gotta get this list of stuff. I gotta do this first and do that first. And then I started getting older and I started hearing a lot of women start saying this stuff. These women married? No. Are they gonna help you get what you want? No. This is where a lot of our sisters hear. Were these women married? I mean, at different points in their life, but no, my mom didn't exclude it from that. So your mother and your father are married? Yes, they're happily married now. And they weren't really the ones saying. Okay. And they've been married for how long? They've been together since they were a teen married since I was six, but they've always been together. They just were really, really young. So you had a good role model. So at 33, do you wanna have two children? Would you have to be a wife? I think, what do you mean? Do you mean in what sense? Like financially? It's not a true question, man. Holistically, I don't know because I don't know what to expect. I mean, I would think I'm as, I think I'm ready to try. Your mother was a wife, your mother was a wife. I said, basically I asked her, was she ready to be a wife? And then she came out and went, holistically, look, you're 33, you wanna be married. But yet you've had a four year relationship to where all you was worried about was boyfriend. And then as it comes out, you got another long-term relationship. I'm gonna let this continue to play because you can plug and put these avatars of these kinds of behaviors in with so many women. They're in this zone to where all of a sudden life has collapsed on them and they're looking for answers. They're looking for the, they think they're doing, now I'm ready, you're in the danger zone. Right. Are you ready to be your mother? Yeah, I could, yeah. Cause I'm a lot like my mom. Does she work? Mm-hmm, she has, she works and she has her own business. And was your, so your father, who made the final decision in your family? Was your mother your father? Like just in the household? Period. My dad made the final decision, but he's not, he cares about the women and his family's opinions very much. So we got to talk and give our opinions quite a bit, but he made the final decision. So if you needed to get something done, would you get your mom to do it or would you get your dad to do it? Depends on what it is. My dad's more laid back, so it depends on if I need that. So let me just go ahead and cut to the chase. Your dad did not make the final decision. Your mother made the final decision. I can tell by the way you answered the question. I'm sitting here just shaking my head because, ma'am. Well, can you give me an example of what a final decision? Yeah, meaning that if your father, if you came from a strong household, where you had a strong leader father, that question would have been no nuance. Like when I asked you questions, there's all this hedging and kind of sort of holistic. No, that's not the product of a strong father. That's the product of a more passive or beta father and a stronger mother. Just like your dominant kind of personality is the result of a dominant female and a weaker male. You know what it is? My mom is very feminine, but the thing about it is I definitely took after her. Her mom is very feminine. How many people leave that? I'm gonna say your mom's very feminine, ma'am. You, she may have wore dresses and may not have cursed, but no, no, no, no, no, no. You're the man in my family. So what did your father think about your ex-boyfriend? I think he liked him, but he does not, I don't think he thought that that was ideal for me. So we would talk about it a lot. So before your ex-boyfriend, so four years, you don't know exactly what your father thought of? No, no, I do. I think that he liked him as a person, as an individual. Like there was nothing that was wrong with him. The question is, how did your father think about him for you? He didn't think it was the ideal relationship for me, but he liked the guy. All right, all right. And then what about the relationship before that one? What's the long relationship you had before that one? Here we go. Maybe two years? Okay. And that was when I was a little younger, and I don't really remember involving my parents much. I was like probably 23. Okay. And then what about before that? When I was younger, understand, most people are getting married around this age, but to a lot of black people, 20 to 23 is just so young. Pay attention. Nothing now would cost serious. So you were 23 at the previous relationship, 23 to 25? No, actually, I wasn't. I was 20 to 23, I think. So 20 to 23, that's three. Okay, 20 to 23. So you had a three-year relationship and a four-year relationship. Yeah, because I turned 21 in that relationship. So listen, so listen. So this is what I'm about to say. You didn't involve your family in that three-year relationship. No. That's why your father was not a dominant man. There's no way a 20-year-old woman should be in a three-year relationship at 20 years old, and her family ain't involved in none of this stuff. Then you turned around, listen, then you turn around at 29, and you live a four-year, a 28 and have a four-year relationship. You've had two long-term relationships. That is part of that only child thing. The keeping it to yourself for the length of time? Well, number, several things, man, several things. But this, unfortunately, this happens to a lot of black women, only child or not. It's not uncommon to hear black women in their early and their mid-30s who've had several suitable men. There's no way you can be with somebody for three years if he's not suitable. Well, I would say. There's no way you can be with somebody for three years if they're not suitable. You may want to go back and revise history, but this ain't my first rodeo. And what I'm saying is- Well, I see your point. Well, yeah. And the thing is- Don't count my first one, though. That wasn't the first one. I'm counting your first one. It was three years. Some of the things that you notice, the things you notice about women who are in the danger zone, they're combative, they're argumentative, they have a need to be right, they over-talk you, and in general, they are too old to mold. Too old to mold. Shout out to Mr. Jep. That's his. Too old to mold. You're gonna notice this start to rear its head more and more. And if you go back through my catalog, if you listen to women who are 27 to roughly 37, but 27 and 35 today, in the danger zone, plug and play. Wasn't suitable. Take my word for that. But I learned, and then I decided, like, hey, let me get into something that's a little bit different. Okay, you've learned that. Let me challenge that. You've learned, right? Well, I learned from the first one to the second one to try to be, I just kind of continue to try to hone in on better qualities. So you've had a three year and a four year. But you're still in charge of who you're gonna date the next time. And you still haven't had no therapy. I'm considering it, because my friend's having a lot of Positivity with it. And I don't want it to be a self-discipline. Considering it means no. No, no, I would. I actually would. Listen, Britt, Britt, Brittney, listen. Nobody sees your picture. No one sees your face. What I'm saying is you've been in charge of the last two long-term relationships that you pick men who are not suitable, not on the level of being a provider, lifestyle. Whatever you say, you've picked them with no input from any other man. You've listened to a bunch of other women who have no track record of success with men. And you're still in charge of this process. You have not gone to sit down with a counselor to understand what's going on with you because you keep picking these people. I'm telling you that you need therapy. That's not an insult. But you're 33 years old. You have no time to waste. Do you want two children, even if you met the man tomorrow? Why don't you have any time to waste? Why don't you have any time to waste because she's in the danger zone. We don't have any time to waste. It'll take six months before you're married. If you got pregnant on your wedding day, you may be kicking one kid out by age 34 and a half or 35. Your second child would be high risk. And if you don't want to, and if you don't, but you're not talking like you're doing anything about it. And if you're in LA, the cost of living is not inexpensive. If you want to take off until their school age, what, till their kindergarten? Till they go to kindergarten or first grade? Which one? No, I don't think I'll be able to do first grade. But what would you want? Like maybe preschool? Preschool, which is what? So I think that's like three, three or four. Oh, preschool can be anything, but okay. Let's just say three or four. If you want to have two kids, that's still five years out of work. Yeah. That's still five years out of work in LA. So that means you're going to need somebody in LA. It's going to make it around two kids, close to $500,000 a year in LA. For you not to work. For two years, for five years. What are the chances of you meeting a guy who's making $300,000 a year in LA? Well, the family that I do know who stayed home, who are about my age, they don't stay home and live that kind of a lifestyle. They do a lot of couponing. You know, they cut corners. Man, I have clients in LA and I've thought about moving to LA. LA, the cost of living is on par with New York City. It's expensive. Well, I have family, my cousin who's a year old, she tells me to move to Texas. So, let's throw one more freaking thing into the fire. See how, you're all over the board. Let me think what you just said. I said, listen. It's just when you get to a certain age, you get a lot of opinions. No, well, how about this? You haven't, no, you've got a lot of opinions. Why do you get so many opinions? Why do they get so many opinions when you get to a certain age? I'm in this jet wash. You're in the jet wash, man. You're in the jet wash. Pull up, pull up. How about this? That's the problem. That's why you're all over the place. You don't listen to your father because he's not going to point you in a direction because he's just hands off. He's what you drive your relationships into two, a three year and a five and four year ditch. That's not what your father wants for you. But apparently he doesn't have- He's concerned with religion. So, that's his main thing. Whatever he's not concerned with helping you, maybe he knows that you ain't going to listen to him. I think that's probably right. Well, I know because you're a stubborn, bullheaded, only fucking child. Yeah, probably. I know, no, probably. And that's another reason why you're by yourself. You will be a good girlfriend, but you'll be a horrible, long term wife because you're hard headed. Time's running out for- This is what the therapy's for, man. Because I'm just running the numbers. I'm running the numbers. See, when you're in a dangerous zone, see that clock right there? Time's running out for you. She talking and she arguing. Well, maybe, no, no, no, no, no, no. You acting like you got all the time in the world, but, well, coupons, there ain't enough fucking coupons to cut to bring down the cost of living in LA. Well, move to Texas. So, let me get this right. Are you gonna meet a guy who can have you standing at home and all of a sudden he gonna move from California, LA and have that job there? That makes no sense. No. Like, she was telling me- Now that I'm- Who's she? Who's she? My cousin who is a stay-at-home mom, but she lives in Texas. She was telling me like- Who's she? Your cousin is a stay-at-home mom. Okay, but she's- He was saying LA is not the place. Let me ask you something. Let me ask you a real drag question. When you're talking to men in your life, in just day-to-day life, do you over-talk them? Depends on if I like them or not, I'll be honest. Is that- Romantically, not as much, but day-to-day. How about this? Romantically, so how about this? How would you, honestly, do you think that's rude? To over-talk. A man, yes. I know they don't like it. What about it? What if a guy- What about it? But see, you can over-talk a woman because there's no threat of anything. See, in a state of nature, what happens when a female decides to get too aggressive or try to dominate a male? They assert the dominance? Right, so only in this country have we on this westernized world have men been restricted to not to furnish out your mouth. When you continue to over-talk a man, especially even on his show, I don't care if you're romantic or not. You're still trying to over-talk me till I had to mute you. That's rude. But that's par for the course when you are requesting to fly by. No, you're too old, the pattern's full. Oh, batch. And you know it is. I'm sorry. Would you do that with a white man? I don't know. I never thought about that. Really? Probably. Really? So when you were at work, what do you work as a real estate agent? Yeah, but I did work in corporate before, so I wasn't that dynamic before. Right, so you over-talk white men that way, too? That's what I was gonna say. Strangely, everybody was all of my managers except for women. I don't think I've ever had a male manager. Again, and then your father sounds like he was very hands off. I'm gonna be polite. He's very hands on, but I understand what you mean. Negative-strag writer, the pattern is full. Negative-strag, the pattern is full. Fly on over to Spenster Air Base. The pattern is full. As far as in certain areas of your life, being hands off. How about this? Even you're still trying to be right. I don't care if the, you're a whole headache. Whole headache. You ain't gotta worry about being married, especially to a man who's gonna be able to provide and let you stay at home. The best you're gonna get is working. If you get lucky and find a man. Don't nobody, don't no man wanna hear this. And this is what I wanna focus on. For the ladies who are officially all up and through the danger zone. You know you have not prioritized marriage. You have wasted your prime years. You're now in the danger zone. Why do you feel like you should get a high value man? You are lucky to get a man. Shout out to Rebecca Limpope, you're lucky to get a man. But yet you still think you should get a high value man and have the same negotiating and leverage you did when you were a younger woman. But no, you can't do that when you're your age. You ran the time out because you understand why that's not good enough for you because you look at your body and it's not what it was when it was 21. You know you don't bounce back. You are in your late 20s and early 27 is the beginning of the danger zone. Most of these women are like 32, 33. Go back over my videos and listen to all these women how hard they sound, how difficult they are to talk to. Most people would have put a bullet through, gone pew pew and got ghost left long before. Most people are like, I don't know how you talk to them people. Because somebody needs to and I have the patience. Most guys say they'd have been like, me, me, me, they would have been out. They're like, I'm not gonna talk to these women when I see somebody in the danger zone. I am gone. How old are you, 32? Peace. And the fact that's what got me in the hot water with a lot of people when I just merely said I prefer to date women under 30. It was like, uh-huh, uh-huh. Why? Cause this is what you get. You get a lot of this. I'm gonna be honest. Don't a man wanna hear this. You think you got it all together? You wanna tell me what your cousin who's married? I don't wanna hear what some married woman is talking about. No! I'm just trying to give you some perspective. I don't give a shit about your perspective. You came to get your life going right. Why don't you do your perspective? Does it work for you? How's that working for you? Well, that's what I'm talking about being. How's that working for you? How's that working for you? What? How's your perspective working? How's your perspective? And trying to get me right on all the nuances. How's that working for you? Have you ever dated a man? Have you ever dated a man who is a high earner, not rich? Have you ever dated a man who's well-off? Got his stuff together, knows where he's going and in charge of his life? No. I wonder why. Well, by my standards. I think you would agree though. I'm assuming you'd agree. Did you hear that? No, I've never dated Henry by my standards. As if. As if by any standards you'd get him. I said, I wonder why. Do you think a high earner, not rich yet, would put up with this? Like me talking a lot? Not unless he's a. Not talking a lot. You being combative. You wanting to be right on the argument? I don't, you just, that only, it's more than only child. We've gone far past only child. You've gone into typical black female. Fuckery, honestly. You've gone smooth into it. There's a reason you're 33 and chronically unmarried. It's not because you're not attractive and can get a man to say, I will be seen in public with you. It's just you can't get a quality man. Like finding some good examples to try to kind of get an idea of how they operate. So you can kind of see like the differences. Like, okay. Why do you think that works? Examples? Find an example? Why not? Okay. You're 33. You're not 23. You're acting like you got all the time in the world. No, no, I don't think that. So you're still trying to do it the slow way. Why, here's a question. Has anyone, have you ever thought about going to sit down with a therapist? That's interesting. I actually thought I was doing it the fast way. That's the slow way? That was a question. Did you hear it? But I don't have a problem with therapy. I think it's a good idea. That was a question. So Big Head Bean, the chick that joined my channel, did you hear me ask her a question? Even after I brought it to her attention, Big Head, let's say the Big Head Bean. Big Head Bean, did you hear when I brought it to her attention that you're over talking to me? You're cutting me off. I'm trying to run a show. You're not stopping. When I ask you a question, you don't answer it. You notice that was like 10 minutes ago? You notice she's still doing it? Is that rude? Big Head Bean? Bean Grim? Fantastic boy. Is that rude? I wanna hear you say this woman has been rude. Because if you don't, ma'am, you are disingenuous. And at this point, I don't have to play nice with you. Because if all you hear is me being rude and you think there's nothing wrong with this, oh, get your Big Head up on here. And see, the polite thing to do is to answer a question and not answer it with another question. So that's polite. Did you hear the question? Peter, Peter, for me? Exactly, or was what, no, no, what did you think? What did you think I said? Why haven't I considered going to a therapist at this point at 33? I said, have you ever considered going to therapy? Yes. I haven't, I haven't called it. No, guys, don't time her out. I want her to write everything she can in the chat room so I can dissect each and every one of them. Talk about a high value man disrespecting women. Keep letting her tie the noose around her Big Head neck. See, when you got a Big Head like that, it's hard for most people to put a noose around your neck so you think your neck is protected. No, I got a big noose because I'm used to Big Head like you. Keep talking Big Head. Trigger, but maybe that's, is that the fast way? Why, why haven't you pulled the trigger? Let me think about that for a second. Why haven't I pulled the trigger? I guess, I guess I just figured that's something you do when you get to a different stage in your life, like maybe when you want to be more reflective. So in other words, therapy's not a proactive thing. She's not reflective enough to look at any of this. You only do therapy if you're more reflective. What she's really saying is, ain't nothing wrong with me. That's what she's really saying. Only people who need to go to therapy are people who are crazy. Parts through the words, that's what she's saying. And unfortunately that's why so many of our sisters feel this way, but then they look down to the reality of their left ring finger and it tells a different story. I never considered using the password. You mean when you get too old and you fucked up too much, did you want to think about it? Well, maybe, yeah, I guess I always thought of therapy as something you do kind of to like unpack, you know? I never thought of that. So you think, so basically, you feel like you're just normal and even killed and everything's, are you okay? Well, I think it depends on where I want to be. No, ma'am, that's a very simple question. It depends on where I want to be. See, when I ask you a very simple question, it always comes down to this, well, it depends on where you want to be. At 33 years old, did you think you would be here unmarried? No prospects? That's a yes or no. That's a yes or no. I am an overthinker. That's a yes or a no? I know. That's a yes? You have to say over on a no. That's a no. No, no. So if you're not where you thought you would be, is that not a problem? That's a yes or no question again. If you're not where you thought you'd be, is that a problem? Yes. Yeah, I would say so. All right, so if you had a destination, if you had a goal, a destination, and you said, we're going to get there by a certain time and you look up and you're not anywhere, you know we're close to your goal. At what point? That's a problem. Right, so you had a three year relationship that you don't even want to count. That's a problem that you don't even want to count it. You involve nobody else and you went right, got jumped right back on the carousel and decided to ride and ride around again and then pick somebody else who was 10 years older than you and took another four years and then jumped back off. Right, right. At what point do you realize that you're not the best the picker of men? And maybe instead of trying to look at videos and just talking to this woman, talk to that woman, you need someone, just talk to somebody to get all these overthinking things in your head out on paper. Cause all this overthinking, cause all this overthinking, it ain't done shit for you. Well, yeah, or at least it'll give me someone else to ramble to, right, before I go home. Well, you're not gonna ramble, you're gonna pay. Right, that's not, it's true. Yeah, you're going to pay is what you need to because the people who will listen to this shit for free are either more screwed up or either more screwed up than you are extremely bored. But you don't have time to wait. See, I'm making light of it, man, you're 33. You're going through life thinking it's as fast. No, you got two years before your eggs is old. She's 33, won't have two kids. She got it all the time in the world. This is fast way. This is a slow way. I mean, I mean, this took a two year. My new plan, but you can't make a new plan with old eggs, man. You got two relationships in seven years, that's a problem. You shouldn't have had the next one. You should have figured out something out, man. You should have involved somebody else. And that's why I said the other day, so many of our sisters out here just making decisions on their own, not asking anybody, keeping the council of women and you pick poorly. I'm telling you right now, man. First thing, you're an only child. That is an issue in and of itself. Number one, number two, you're over 30 or 33. You have passed what is called the wall and dating, dating and mating. Most women over 30 are too difficult to really adjust or change. There's a thing called too old to mold. It requires a woman over 30 to be proactive and changing. She's past the age to where a guy can actually teach mold to help her. That's why guys your age go get younger women and skip right on over you, except for Netflix and chill. So are you saying that like, so if you're over, well, basically for me, you're saying, if I need guidance, the best thing to do now would just be to get therapy, talk it out, maybe try to find somebody who understands what my goals are and maybe get a man. So they could be like, oh, this is it. Let me ask you a question. Or a male therapist. Let me ask you a question this way. How many men do you have to talk to about this? Just a few. How many? Maybe Steve might. You're who? Maybe like that I would really talk to you about it just to like my grandfather and then my dad, probably would be it. Holy shit. She said her father, your grandfather and your father. You didn't talk to your father. You got nobody to talk to. None. You talk to a bunch of women. So let's get- Yes, yes, I do. Exactly, and that's why you're alone. And that's why you're alone. So answer your own question. Talking to a bunch of women has got me by myself. So that's the first thing that she'd go is talking to women. So that's the first thing. No, man, the first thing you need to do is realize you got a problem inside your head. And that's not a problem. You need to sit down and talk to somebody. Black folks in this country, we need therapy like a mug. But you think you can figure this out on your own. Number one, I'll tell you what I tell my female clients. The reason I don't work with women as much anymore. Therapist, personal trainer, image consultant, matchmaker. That's what you older women need. And you're an older woman when it comes to marriage. Let me make that clear. You're an older woman when it comes to marriage. You're not a young woman. So you're saying basically- You're an older woman when it comes to marriage. You should have been made 10 years ago. So adopt a new plan. There's no adopting new plan either. See, you still- Follow older women's plan. Okay, ma'am. You don't, okay, let me say this again. Let me ask you this question. When have you ever followed a man's lead? These are good questions because I've never heard them before. Exactly, because you hang out with a bunch of batches. I follow, like, I'll follow a lead in a relationship, but- That was so rude. Your point- Oh, you mean you- Hold on, hold on, let me get this right. You'll follow the loser's lead? Well, yeah, that's what was going to be your point. Once I start to feel like, oh, I don't think you're leading me right, then I will kind of just- Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, hold on, hold on. All right, is it your nature role to lead? No. And I do know that- So how do you know if he's leading you right? You didn't even let your father lead you. See? Well- This is why, this is why- That's what I- Listen, listen, okay, I'm going to the next call. Ma'am, listening to you realistically, this whole Mary stayed at home, that's not gonna happen. 72% of American women with children under 18 have to work full-time. You're gonna be- Right, right, right. One in three black, one in four black women get married. Okay? Right. Getting married would be astronomical right now for where you're coming from. You're all over the place. You're all over the place. And when I say you need therapy, you need therapy to get out of your own head. That just means to live a decent life, but to deal with a man. Whole different bodies. Well, and the reality is, if you're in LA, LA is the land of men with money. If they aren't approaching you, there's a reason. I mean, if you had to rate yourself on a scale from one to 10 on looks, not your body, just your looks, and you can't use seven, what would you rank yourself? Just like this average girl, regular girl. I don't know what the number scale would be. One, two, three, four, five. An average girl. Thank you. I'm glad she at least did that. But why would an average, anybody, who would want to deal with this amount of issues? And the point is, why am I focusing on this? Because you're 33. When you're, see, you're the most intelligent group of women on the planet and strong enough at what point do you self reflect and realize it's not working? It's not working. And here's the thing. I'm talking and talking, talking. She would not, I'm like, Jesus, did you ever want to say, well, thank you for your time? I know you got other callers to get to. I want you guys to notice, how many times have you heard her say, thank you for your time? I know you got a shoulder run. Six, eight, nine, or 10. Jesus Christ. I don't know what the numbers mean. Just regular, whatever, what's regular was average. One, two. But number constitutes regular average. You went with the school in the United States of America. You know what a zero to 10 scale is. I do, but not when it comes to reading your look, your own personal looks. Are you, are you, are you? Like a five is five, like five is right down the center. So is that? Would you rank yourself as a five is right down eight? Like middle. Eight is pretty. Nine is beautiful. 10 is gorgeous. There is no seven cause most women like you would rank yourself a seven. Right down the middle would be closer to your cutesy. But then again, how tall are you? I'm short, I'm only three. And we're dressed like we're. Just before, which I think is kind of that average. Okay. All right. So right there, you're a normal sized woman an average looking woman. That means you get average man making average money living an average lifestyle. Yeah. That's rude. So I don't understand what you're talking about. But you don't, but the glass guy you said he was making more money than you. Yeah, but that wasn't the issue of the money. It was more of just the, I don't really think he was serious about wanting to get, have kids and things like that. And obviously I don't have a lot of time. The thing is that you don't want to move to that range or you changed your mind. Well, then. Well, I would say this. Cut my losses, I guess. Here's where it comes down to. I've tried to kind of go around it, but average. And that's not a bad thing. No. 33 years old. You got a lot of things going on your head. I mean, this conversation was kind of like herding cats. I'm gonna tell you right now, the guys who are like that high earner, go-getter, ambitious, purpose-driven corp, they're not gonna do all this with you. Okay. They're not going to. Men don't talk this much, typically. I have a show and I get paid to do this. But this is exhausting. And you probably just having a high old good time thinking this is just good fun. And it's fucking exhausting. There's no amount of sex that you could give me after this to make this worthwhile. There's not a good enough meal that you could cook to make this worthwhile. Now, I see what you're saying. And what I'm trying to say and in a reasonable way possible is you have to be able to see your own outcomes and do something about it. And the way you're talking about doing this, I'm just gonna get information from a guy on YouTube. No. But you mean, no, yes. That's what you did. I was just calling in on the change form. Listen, but the point is, I know, man, but we've gotten down a further path and everything that could actually help you and push the ball down the court, you haven't done. Fair, consulting? All right. All right. What would you like to say? Can I ask you one question for advice, one last question for some advice, pertaining to what you're saying. Because I just found your channel. That's why I even was kind of, so are you our image consultant? Is that what you do? Yes, but I also am a live coach and I also have advice. If you can book a one-on-one session with me, yeah, but I don't do any matchmaking or anything like that, but I can help you with your overall image. Here's my question, because I've actually had this discussion with friends too. So in your opinion, would you, do you think it's better for people to get live coaches or go to therapists, like psychologists or counselors? Both, both. Both at the same time? Look, therapists help you with clinical issues. I don't know if you're clinically depressed and I mean, you don't know either. Stop saying, stop saying, uh-uh, stop it. You don't know. You still find out what's going on with you, but life coaches and that kind of stuff, that's a completely different thing than clinical therapy. But what I will tell you, you got a lot of shit going on. It's exhausting. I'm sorry. But that's the point. You got to interact with other people and see one thing about only children, we tend to not learn how to play with others because we didn't have anybody. Only children's social skills tend to suck. Can I ask how you learned to do business? H frickin Christ.