 So with that said first and foremost is to recognize if you believe you're an anxious and if you're with an avoidant first off there's nothing wrong with the other person and there's nothing wrong with you okay there's nothing wrong we are beautiful human beings on this journey of I believe learning to love ourselves. Self love is just simply giving yourself an injection of love whenever you're feeling you know not fully whole not fully present not fully engaged in life because your thoughts start to overwhelm you.