 So, this is a rant. This video is a rant against almost all personal productivity advice and I'm going to explain to you again, my role here on YouTube, one of them anyway, is to teach people why they procrastinate because it will open up your life when you figure that out. But the advice out there is horrendous. It's well-intentioned for sure but it's trivial at best. It's superficial. It doesn't tell you anything about what's really going on when this is happening, when you're self-sabotaging and when you're not moving forward in a goal that you know you want to. Okay? So, I'm going to just explain to you the whole problem here. Really the way a lot of people see this is that they see the difference. They think people are basically in one of two mindsets when it comes to this. A lot of motivational speakers, a lot of people who try to motivate people or help you with personal productivity will tell you that you're either in a lazy mindset where you're not doing enough or you're in the winner bracket or the winning mindset or the productive mindset and these are your two options. That's the way to frame it. That's completely wrong and it's not helpful because I'll tell you what's really going on. Most people are in a paradigm of sure, lazy or in other words your goal is to not matter or forget about it. It doesn't matter. I can do it later. That sort of stuff. And there's this one and it is not the productive mindset. It's actually the bossy mindset. These are the two mindsets that people are fluctuating between when procrastination takes place. Lazy and bossy. Productivity is nowhere to be seen in this equation. So what's the conversation like when you have a goal that you want to accomplish and you're not doing it? Well, lazy. Look, forget about it. It doesn't matter. You can do it later. I'm tired. I need to read another book. Just put it off. It's not that big of a deal. That's not helpful. So we think the productive one, which is really bossy in disguise. Bossy is you don't have time for this. You should have done it last week. It's not going to be good enough now. Get up off the couch. You don't have time for holidays. That's the bossy mindset. And this is the productive thing. It's productivity in disguise. So our problem isn't laziness at all. We all know laziness isn't helpful. It's the fact that we have totally we're confused about what productivity is. We've confused productivity with bossiness. That's the two internal voices that we're fluctuating between and we hate both of them. We don't like either one. So what we have to do is drop them. In fact, what we have to do is get in touch with a completely different voice, a completely different mentality. Now you may not like this, but this different mentality, it's not lazy and it's not bossy. It's compassionate. You have to start with self compassion. Absolutely being consciously aware that I have a goal and I want to move forward in my life. Never forget that. Never drop that. That's compassion loves that. But compassion will show you a way to do that. That is nothing like bossiness. It will say to you, the next thing you can do is easy. Just a small step is all we're looking for right now. How are we going to have fun today? Okay, we're going to move towards our goal, but we need to enjoy ourselves. We need to put ourselves first. I need to have boundaries with my work. Okay, I can't do too much because I'll burn out. That's what compassion sounds like. And if you are in touch with that voice, and that voice is up here to take a completely different level of consciousness, really, lazy bossy, lazy bossy are just down here and we'll keep you in an endless loop of confusion and despair and self loading and self sabotage and just depression. Compassion works. Compassion opens everything up. It really, really does. You'll be way more productive with compassion than either of those other two voices, which is why when I see a lot of these videos, get up and they're supposed to be motivating you. Get up. Do more. Push yourself. Do what I did. I've shown you the success they've had and all that. All true success comes through compassion for yourself. It's not bullying yourself. We don't want that anymore. And you know, we're these, this lazy, this, this lazy bossy stuff, this is all conditioning from a voice that we may have heard a long time ago. It could be teachers, it could be a parent, it could be anybody, right? And it could now be some motivational speaker if you hear in your ear yelling at you, that you're not doing enough. Unless a motivational speaker is telling you to set boundaries for yourself and see yourself as more important than any goal you have in your life as you're starting position. I would just say, move away, step away. It's not going to lead you anywhere good. Promise you that we're looking for something deeper. Okay. And it's not hard. It's just what could I do for myself today? What's easy? Get in touch with what's easy, what's doable? How can I start to feel good about myself? Just gradually doesn't have to be overnight. It can be a gradual, slow unfolding process of your, your own life story moving towards the completion of your goal. That's what compassion is. It's just self talk. It's questioning the bossiness. Okay. Thank you. It's questioning the laziness for sure. So it's a question in that stuff and it's just opening yourself up to a different way forward in your life, taking care of yourself and you do that, set boundaries, clear boundaries with you and your work. I'm more important than any of these goals. You will watch a byproduct of that is your productivity will go off the scale. Okay. You get way more done that way and the quality of your work will be way better. Your goals will be easily accomplished. There'll be no drama. There'll be no endless indecision and inner conflict. There'll be no pushing yourself towards your goal. You'll move gradually towards your goal. You'll be drawn towards your goal. So that's something I want you to bear in mind. Okay. Start with self compassion. Forget bossy. Forget lazy. Up here is where you want to be. I hope that helps. And if you agree with me, I really want to hear it. So you can leave a comment below if you'd like and you can subscribe here. 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