 best way if you want to get married by March what would be the best formula to get married there's actual math for this how many dates should first date should you go on before you choose let's say it was an actual goal the math there's something called optimal stopping math you should do 25 first dates as fast as you can go meaning i knew a guy he went i forgot what country he went to the philippines they want to get married he's set up at a hotel that had a cafe downstairs and one across the street and he had his personal assistant like go on tinder and he would set up like 16 dates a day and he didn't want them to accidentally walk in so he'd walk across the street back and forth that gave him a little buffer and his assistant would set up 20 men to coffee and they'd go here and then the assistant wouldn't have the other woman showing up that's why he didn't do it at the same restaurant and then he had to pay the person at the restaurant hey every time i walk in act like you just saw