 I'm just going to warm it up, ready for another live video, how to come through and put this out, let's just let everyone come in so that we're all ready for this one. Okay, so the topic today is what you should realize when you're finally done with an narcissist, because there is a great realization that you should have. When you're finally done with them, when it's all over, there is something that you should realize more than anything else, but it's very important for you to realize this. When you were first involved with an narcissist, they portrayed themselves to be this charismatic interest in person, this person who is desirable and attractive better than other people, this person who was supposed to help you, they were supposed to come into your life and make things better, or at least that's what they led you to believe. And yes, many of us were under their charm, we believed in the illusion that they displayed to us, and we really thought that they were about something for real, we believed their words, and they gave us actions, which were actually just a simulation, but it was very believable, they had us under their spell, but of course time went by and we started to see cracks in their armor, we started to realize that maybe they're not really about anything, but it was only for a moment that we got to think about that, because before you know it here, they came with the distractions, they were devaluing us, making us feel small, making us feel like we're not about anything, we're not good enough for anything, and we started to believe it, they targeted our self-esteem, they made us feel small, so it goes from us seeing them as this charming and attractive person to later seeing them as someone who's very powerful, someone who's very dominant, they're very intimidating, and we begin to think that this is all there is to our world now, there's nothing else outside of them, it makes our world so small, we feel limited, restricted, as though this is all there is, there's nothing more outside of this world that they have created and lowered us into, but that couldn't be thin that we later realize once we get out of it, when we finally leave the narcissist, we leave them behind, there is a realization that many of you will have, and it is powerful, it is motivating, and it might catch you by surprise at first, because maybe you never thought about it in this way, but when it's all over, you start to look back and think, wow, they're not that important after all, the entire time they led you to believe that they are this charming, charismatic person, and then later they give you the other character of them being so powerful, and important, intimidating, fearless, but then when it's all over, you start to realize white, none of that was real, you're not the big bad wolf after all, you're just a little mouse, and in the grand scheme of things you're nothing, you're nobody, and yet you're making yourself out to be this giant, as though you're so much better than everyone else, but what have you done, you ain't done shit, only do half the time is just yapping, going on and on, they never actually do anything, and when it's all over, you just look back at everything that you invested into it, and what you got out of it, and then it's obvious, they did nothing, they didn't help you in anything, all you got was a big loss, but some people are still under the spell, and they grieve, they think, yeah, there was a loss, I lost someone who's so powerful and important, someone who's so attractive, someone who has all of these wonderful qualities, no, that is the mirage, that's what they want you to think, they want you to feel like you've lost something, but you ain't lost shit, they're so fake, and that's why in the end you got nothing, you gave it all and you got nothing back in return, that's why, and this is the realisation that you should have, when it's all over, when it's all said and done, you should realise this, because this is what will motivate you to get better in your own life, the narcissist led you to believe that you're not about anything, but trust me, you're about so much more than what they are, they ain't doing nothing, all they do is talk, and when they move on, they're just going to pray that same illusion to someone else, and they try and feed it back to you as well to make you think that no, you got it wrong, they are about something, they ain't about nothing, but yeah, it's not everyone comes to this conclusion in the end, I'll admit it took me a while to get to this point, but eventually I did start to realise all of the false promises, all of the lies and the future faking, they said all of this stuff was going to happen in the future, and many of us we wait around for months or even years, and it doesn't amount to anything, none of this stuff ever comes into reality, the only one who's actually putting out is you, and that's why they want to keep you around, so they can use you for what you've got, but they ain't doing nothing for you, all they're doing is talking, and even in the rare case where they do something, it's only a fraction of what you've done for them, you give them everything, you do everything for them, and they give you the bare minimum, and they expect you to be happy with that, they expect you to be grateful with tiny morsels, tiny fraction in return for what you're doing for them, they expect you to see it as a privilege to be around them, because they're very arrogant, they think they're so much better than what they actually are, and they expect you to believe it, but once it's all over you should start to realise, it's all fake, it's a facade, it's an illusion, and you're feeling like you're missing out, you've lost something, that's evidence right there that should tell you you've been cheated, you've been lied to, you've been tricked, because after all they said in the beginning, what happened to all of that? Where is it now, this future, the marriage, this happy relationship, a home? Where are all of these things now? It was all a lie, but everything you said you were going to do, you did it, and if you stopped doing it, there was a reason for that, because you knew it wasn't reciprocal, you weren't getting anything back in return, so of course you had to cut it off, you had to call it a day, because you were just being drained of everything you had, and you couldn't take it anymore, you couldn't sustain yourself, no one should have to go through that, giving everything you've got, pouring out your heart and soul, into that relationship, and for what? For nothing, for someone who doesn't even appreciate it, they will never appreciate you, no matter what you do, no matter how much you do, it's up to you to appreciate yourself, that's really what you're going to do, it's up to you to appreciate yourself, that's really what you've got to do once you realise this at the end, when you realise that they're really not that important after all, it's a big world out there, and in the grand scheme of things they're really nothing, they're not making any significant contributions to the world, I mean God they can't even, they didn't even help you, they didn't even make a significant positive change in your life, so how can they hold any importance in the world? Of course they cannot, but you can, you can go on and spread this message, let people know that they're not alone, if you've been through this, this is your purpose, this is your duty as a survivor is to help other people, and that good karma will come back to you, if you do that you will get the rewards, trust me, I'm living proof of that, and honestly after everything, all of the money I earned from my business, all of the things I got to do, the best thing for me is knowing that I've made a difference in people's lives, there's nothing that fills me up with joy more than that, it gives me such a good feeling, every day I wake up with purpose, I know I'm making a difference in the world, I know that I'm bettering people's lives, and you know what, that's something the narcissist will never get to experience, because even if in some way they are helping people, they're never going to get that feeling, it's not going to do anything for them, all they care about is their own image, their own reputation, they don't feel anything for other people, but honestly there's nothing that makes me happier than to see people acquiring this knowledge, applying it to their own lives, and it's making a difference, there's nothing better than that, nothing, and I know you too will realize that, once you come out of the fog and you realize that the narcissist is not that important, they're not the big bad wolf that they portray themselves to be, there's other things in this world that hold more value and significance, things that are more worthy of your attention, and that's where you should be spending your time. You're under their influence and control, you think that whatever they say goes, whatever they think is right, you have to do that, you have to follow their instructions, but once you get out of that you realize there's so much more to life, there's so much more to the world, and that's when you start to find your purpose. You know it's really sick what these narcissists try to do, because all they do is think about themselves, and in some ways they actually make their victims narcissistic, because they're always targeting your self-esteem, they're making you preoccupied with thoughts about yourself, things that are wrong with you, things that you're lacking, and when they do that you're constantly focused on yourself, you're not thinking about anyone else, you're not thinking about other people, how you can improve other people's lives, you're not thinking about that, because when you think that there's something wrong with you, or something that you're missing or lacking, that's going to dominate your entire day, you have to have love for yourself within your heart, so that you can then give it to other people, self-love, but they teach you to self-hate, and when you do that you can't contribute anything to the world, at that point all you can contribute is negativity and hate, which you've been taught to have and feel for yourself, narcissism is very selfish and it's very contagious, but once you get out of that and you realize all of these things that they've said about you are not that important, it changes your entire life, it changes your entire outlook on things and people, you start to see life in a different way, as you can probably tell them just in the gym right now, but I was just thinking about this and I had to share it with you, the narcissist is not that important, they make us think that they're so special as though they're as good as it gets for you, there's nothing else and even if there was, it wouldn't accommodate you, it wouldn't accept you, because something is wrong with you or you're deficient in something, they're just projecting how they feel about themselves, they're just trying to spread their disease of narcissism and it's up to you to say no, I won't accept that, that's the only way that you can get out of it, stop agreeing with the things that they're saying, distance yourself from it, be indifferent and then you will find that it begins to change your outlook on life, you begin to feel a lot happier, you have more energy, you just feel so much better without that weight on your shoulders, so yeah I just had to share that with you today, I hope that it inspires you, I hope that it motivates you to go out there and just spread the love, get out there and make someone smile today instead of spreading this toxic disease because that's all these narcissists want to do, they want to bring everyone down, it's up to us to say no more, let's put a stop to it that's all I've got to say for this one, as always just like to thank you for joining me today in another Narc Survival Live video, I hope you all have a great day and as always there will be two premiers later today so I hope you can join me there