 A response I sometimes get to notions of self-development, changing ourselves, is the idea that for me it's too late. I'm too old, I missed my chance, and now there's no point in me making all these changes. I'm just too far behind. And it's very understandable to have this feeling that we sort of have a picture of how life should unfold that when we're young we are then in this sort of plastic moldable state where we can learn the best way to be and then we become something. We through our youth and our education we're being formed into an adult. And then as an adult you are formed. You are there, you go, you have sort of hardened into a particular shape and this is who you are. And so by the time you are a full adult you're basically set for your model of what you are to be in life, fixed and determined. And then the next stage of life this fully mature adult stage is then not about making fundamental changes to ourselves, but rather simply establishing ourselves in the role that we have chosen or are in and establishing ourselves with what we're doing, planting our roots, solidifying and establishing ourselves. So when the idea comes of making fundamental changes later on in life it does seem like this is going out of order. This is, you know, you miss the boat because this is something that a young person should do. And it's understandable. But what if you find yourself as a full grown adult in terms of your number of years that have gone by since your birth? You're not young anymore. And yet you find yourself in a position that you are not satisfied with. You're not satisfied to plant your roots in this particular situation where you find yourself being who you are and in the situation that you're in at the moment. Then the only choice is to make a change no matter what age you are. Because the other alternative would be to simply give up and say it's too late. I will accept this unsatisfactory position that I'm in and simply give up. And that is very sad to simply give up on what could be and accept what you know to be less than what you could do is really giving up and accepting something mediocre when you could have something so much greater. So when I first had this idea of changing myself, self-development, improving myself, I had a lot of those feelings of being too old. I'm up into my upper 30s and I'm too old. I really wouldn't it be great if I was 20 years younger but even 10 years younger. Wow, if I could just be in my upper 20s instead of my upper 30s and think of all the opportunity. And here I am already in an advanced age and can hear about stories of people having great achievements in their lives and they're younger than me and so on and so on. At the beginning of my work in self-development, this was very powerful voice in me and I had this strong feeling of regret and the feeling that too much time had gone by. But I don't feel this as much now because although it's still, sure it would be great to be younger and have more time, but it is what it is and it doesn't really change the program. The program is to do the best I can with the time that I have and that program carries on at whatever age. So anytime the idea comes up of the idea of it being too late, being too old, just imagine the extreme case of somebody being even 70 years old, somebody being 70, they would look back on their upper 30s as being a time of youth and even that person at age 70, they were to begin a process of self-development, making fundamental changes to the way of life that they had had for 70 years and gone through a few years of self-development. They could get to age 75, have a wonderful year with a new perspective on life, have an amazing year of life and then die and that would be a wonderful way to end the story. So much better than simply giving up at 70 that I am the way I am even though I am not satisfied with it, so I'll just carry on till it's over. So if that's the choice that someone has at 70, how much more of a choice do we have in 40s, 30s, 20s, whatever age we are at, the idea of too late, even if it's your last day alive, it's still never too late. So at any age the program is the same, get going.