 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder at commitment connection calm and in today's video We're going to talk about how to get a guy to like you and But before we talk about that If you're struggling to attract a quality man into a committed lasting relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz so Today's question comes from a woman in our community and she is asking How do I get him to like me? How do how to get him to like you? That's what she says and so this is really a very important topic because if you don't know how to get a guy to like you then You know, that's that's the very basis for starting a relationship So you kind of need to know this kind of information. Otherwise you're relying on luck And so I have four things here about how to get him to like you And the first is you need to get his attention because without getting his attention He can't really do anything else here, so getting attention is very important and This can be done in subtle ways. It can be done in not so subtle ways a lot of times physical attraction itself Will create a lot of attention? you know One mistake though is to think that Attention is attraction. So attention is just getting his attention over to you Don't ever mistake it for attraction. There's a lot of women that get a lot of attention but don't end up getting guys who are Emotionally attracted to them or attracted to them for a long term and I know this very well because That's the kind of women that I typically coach and so the second one is second part of this is encouraging him to pursue you and Rewarding him for behaviors of pursuit And so this is a very important one a guy needs to know that you're interested in him that you Like him that you want him to continue pursuing you or even kind of start pursuing you Attention is one thing and the second thing is kind of encouraging him and this can be Even from the beginning, you know, if you go out to bars and you meet guys in bars Or you know anywhere you meet guys You know, they've done studies on this and what they found is that the overwhelming majority of men Don't approach women unless they get some kind of invitation unless they're encouraged to go and approach the woman because there's a lot of social rejection that's involved in that and You know, the only guys that will definitely approach no matter what are really really aggressive guys Not the best guys not the, you know, most manly guys just guys that are the most aggressive And so if all you want is the most aggressive guys then You know don't encourage men, but if you want You know all the quality guys that are in the middle there Make sure you're encouraging him and rewarding him for behaviors of pursuit So the third part of getting a guy to like you is connecting with him on an emotional level, you know, we kind of already talked about the physical level here and The other level is kind of the emotional level and and I talked more about this in other videos, but kind of the the main idea here is to make sure that You know, you make him feel like he's a man when he's around you, you know, let him lead Let him pursue. Let him take charge You know make him feel sexually validated You know, just make him allow him to feel like a man around you, you know And the more he feels like a man and the more he feels appreciated for being a man the more emotionally connected He will feel to you and the more he'll think about the two of you in the long-term future So the next part and the last Part I have here for you is allowing him to be the man of your relationship And so what a lot of women do is they compete with men For being the man in the relationship and this Rarely goes well, you know, so don't ever make him feel less of a man. Don't Don't try to run the relationship. Don't try to push things forward a lot You know, let him be the man and If he's not stepping up, you know, encourage him, you know, kind of like what we talked about before And if he still doesn't step up, you know, there's more attraction that needs to be had there and so Yeah, that's it for this video. If you want to know more about what's stopping you from attracting Mr. Wright into a committed lasting relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon