 It has been a pleasure being with you right here on Y-254, this is your number one youth station. We are coming to you live from the broadcasting house here in Nairobi, Kenya. We are also streaming live through our website and that's at www.kebc.co.ke-y254. Ladies and gentlemen, you asked for it. We heard your cry. We need to change a few things here on the show and right now we are doing it. Introducing the new beginning of Power Talk today on this fine Thursday evening. It is the 13th of October 2022. From today we shall be airing at 7pm each and every Thursday right here on Power Talk. I am Ram Maguko. It's a pleasure being with you today and to kickstart this fantastic new beginning of this show. I am with to my far-right Eric Smith, Kairubu-san and my brother. Thank you so much. And next to him, Mbubi. Yes, sir. Thank you for having me. This is your doctor. Doctor. Doctor Mbubi. Doctor Mbubi. Doctor Mbubi. Doctor Mbubi. It's been a while since I met you guys. I feel like it's in the 80s, 1960 before independence. We are here now at the new beginning. The new beginning of Power Talk. Today we want to talk about conflict of values and interests in marriage. What do you do when the things that you want, the expectations you have of your partner and the expectations they have do not coincide? When the things you want to do do not go in line with the things your partner wants to do? When there is conflict of interests, what is the problem? What is the solution? Where do we find common ground? Today on Power Talk, we want to talk about these issues concerning marriage. And we are people who are, you know, experienced. And we'll get to know their stories. We'll get to know their stories right here on Power Talk. We value feedback. Biasna Ghazulis is a Power Talk show on Twitter at Ramaguko. And that's why we also feel fit to tag them on their handles. Yes. At Eric Smith. At Eric Smith 2010. 2010. Yes. At Doctor Mbubi. Doctor Mbubi. Yes. It's a pleasure being with you today. Power Talk starts now. This is the new beginning. And I'm excited. I am surely excited. The new set, new everything. I want to say a big thanks to everyone that has made us be where we are today. First things first, let me start with you Eric. When people don't agree in a marriage, the interests are not in tandem. How do couples solve it? It depends. Kusu kuna wali wali wali wali wali wali wali wali. At least, no pastors. Kuna wali wali wali. Sometimes when you're in a conflict or conflict, you get involved. Yes, you get involved. So sometimes it depends. Naga solviu, usuri kama udapatam kwa pekenyu. Let's assume apuna paskawadu, awji hira paskawete. Yes, muna vile muna za solve, because mimi nime kakwa marriage for 8 years. 8 years. 8 good years. Na, sometimes muna za angaliya. Sometimes ccp okos ana. Sometimes niza fika ham patani, ham wilewani. But sometimes kitu ambo mimi usema, ccp as us, me and my wife. Tuna kwa gana, sometimes tuna niza kosi ana na mara ngingi, we sit me and her. Ha tunaga tikunamutu ambe tunda kwa nga naia atu sa ide. Yes, we sit down, we talk. Communication is the key. Kwa marriage kwa. We come out of wilewani, interest is in a conflict, is in a gongana. Yes. In a kwa solve adisansana kwa marriage. Ok, si jawa abadu. Or at least I'll be married 10 years in 2032. But now I'm going 2032. 2032. Maybe in 27. 2032. Never now. But essentially, I've been in a relationship before. Obviously. So there's a place, obviously, last month we took a different background and at times you can't solve a problem maybe at that moment. But you can agree to disagree, you can agree to grow together to learn each other. One of you, if you feel you're on a higher ground, just compromise and hear the other person out. You might be the one who's actually in the lower ground. Once you get married, there are things you discover who are weaknesses that you didn't even think were weaknesses. It was just you. And so is the other person. So you must be ready to know that you're coming to to to Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. collect yo us sometimes relationships to fight when your lava So na wakate nye mungo na kone sheva ni kukwam bia, are you sure you will be able kusas tenu mtu? Because it's a fight, sometimes it's a fight, onapata muna fight, muna fight, muna fight. But in your time, kama hau kumuangalifi wuizuri. So sometimes I may say we'll grow together, mujuwane, mufainini. In yo ni ilia wakate relationship. Muneza kwa yes, tumekutana, tumefite, tumefite. But you will be able to be together in a kwa zaiti, juli zekuwana. So some of me ask... Before we say we'll get married, juli zekuwana. In yo kumuangalifi wuizuri, kwa mba kukusana jukujuwana. That the more you disagree, the more you get to know more about each other. So when these conflicts and values clash, after before muwa me, onasa muna fawangalifi wuizuri wuizuri wuizuri wuizuri wuizuri. Muna vituze niye maybe muneza kusana, sometimes kuna tuletu vitu, what you wanna do because what you wanna shape amoja lazima. Lazima kwa fight, sometimes mta kwa ruzara. But, okia onazi na kwa... Ningi. Every time kimiit ni fight. Every time kimiit ni fight, ask yourself. Bufu na kubana yo. You'll love that. Love that. Muna vituze niye niwa willi hasingia ni biku ni you. You are partner. You agree? I agree with it. I agree with him. Muna muna mwa wachana kama wachana kwa engage na muna kusana sana. Chunguza niya. Chunguza niya. Chunguza niya. Muneza kwa muna kusana niya kitu, niya bringu kitu kwa different. But count kwa kif kanyumba niya lazima we sabu. Or ratufa niye sota nalisa sota. Because in your time you have a relationship, in your time you're sending a muna juwana. Jukuja kuchuwa decision ya kuka marriage sasa. Ina kwa kif kanyumba niya. Kritiko. Muna mitu. Kwa na niya 3 kisda? Ina kwa niya 3 fold. Spirit, soul, body. Niya 3 kiti. Kritiko things niya muna relate in terms of your spirituality. Muna relate. In some of soul now ni how communication that's where it comes in. Soul, how do you, ni muna bongaji pamajaji together, 1, 2. And attraction is it there? We are going to give different examples. We go to the niti gritis. But I love the fact that Musema, first before you get even into marriage, if there is too much conflicts of these interests and values, chunguza. Chunguza. Chunguza. Ma yuku chunguwa, onasa ma sila mimu wachana chuku chunguza, wu wich chunguza, nama nga ni. Kiyangali ya kuchunguza, ineza lideta kuwachana. Or? Yes. Ineza lidku wachana, abma munendelia kuwongia, uto aneza change. Let's give different examples. Let's give different examples. I want to start with first things first, spiritual language. Yes. Wewe nim crystal. Yewe nim islamu. Kama muna konfliktyana. There is this conflict about your religious mimi. I am going to the mosque. You are going to the church. How can that be solved? Uneza parta sometimes, wewe zju wa mungwa na tumiyana.ilerbda kunudi kilamu cogn ni ni.BLEme kama mung weakestikana, her employees mungwa na tumiyanu. H ένα кukortia現ましたduyehu listis, r формuchina Tan首 sa seru warna. So sometimes oneza kailasПa Hui pax �az 300.idos呢 usseagu tumiya. Transformation, conversion. Ya, mungu aneza kutumi atuwa angale, ah, umutu na bitu wa kutani na humyum dohumyu, at least anejuwe. But ni chaiti, ya ni chaiti kitaba, ya ni mngori. Inaza sayideka? Ni triki. Ya, he still has a point, but ni triki sana. Because we have different values, yes. Muneza has a kusani and church. Yesu ni prophetisa, lakini si mungu. Apana, yesu ni mungu. Apani triki. Apani triki. But do you know uneza pata labda umu eslam kuna vilena yana juwa kwa yesu? Ya, ya, it's true. It's true. Sisi, wata uneza pata labda kudakitu eje, mungu atuwa na angale ya na takani pitehuyu umutu na humyutu wa badileke. Udi inkaraja Christiana. It's the end of the day, niki le'l kwa aneza ya ma, komi uniki. Do you communicate, muna relate, muna elewana. Ya, there are places we agree to disagree. There are places we agree, boundaries the ko'apim meset, nini nini nini. So here I'm looking at people of different religious belief systems. One is a wana, now aneza ishi vizuri, regardless of these different values. Dora kumbe ya ina depend kama ni mungu doa li rusu. So sometimes he's a kwa ni mungu atuwa. A wazzi jua mungu atuwa li rusu nini? Wagi na wazziwi? A wazziwi kama ni mungu? A wazziwi kama ni mungu. But sometimes it's okay, unaji pate na. Anafu mungu na nini andowa, na muna jipata, amu elewani. Kama connect spiritually. Kama connect solely if I'm corrupting the English to make sense solely. Kama amu toa trutted to each other. If those three are missing, it can work but it will be very tricky. Uredi kama zote tatu zi kwa shambamba, mba dumu naza korofishana. Mwaja hi kwa hata, it is hala. Mili ziki hata, it's hala hala. Zote zadu kama zi kwa zi kwa zi ata muna fana nini, ata muna kama. So it's tricky. At the end of the day, ukura na muntu lazimu kum account. One of the things I say is if you're going to hook up with somebody, don't think in terms of this is the best person I could ever get. Think in terms of their very worst, I can still live with them. Mima kama muntu hia hrti chaatyu. Mstam, sezym chukva. Kama hyeji yoko kaka swords Cejchukза. Na o na na� asi kama na-kunyuu ma mina char na ai? Una nina sa na witakama na-kunyuu, hakuna shida. Uneza kwa diagonal hii hrti chaatyu. Because kuna pazatuféndu No, maybe we'll pass under like one naza, naza hake. Ah, ma kuna mpa ni ma hati, ali date kwa church, a kwa kosaana. Hii manjibu kosaana na mungu, kosaa biya muntu, muntu, mislidu. So, naeza, kudya mwelewane ajiwe mungu piya through you like he said. Nai flow. And naeza, kwa nalewa, because ajiwe mungu aneza, msaide na shinaeza hake. So, he's a mumiza. Bibi naeza, ma give one to loads who are perishing. Lagi ni mwutokileze, umo nyeshen. No, you don't have to perish. You can actually handle this. So, naeza, the problems that you think are the worst in your whole life, kiyongi na mtu na realize a la, kumbi sinbaya san naivu kia communication. Communication. Magikwa na muna communicate. Ki. Ki. Naeza, kwa relationshipi yon do kitu muhim san. So, sila zuma muko sania evituka iso? Aka na evitu zingi na mwezi kosa niya. That's when I come here, in a depend, jukama mungu amitaka mungu eno yon mtu utaji pada tumkonae. If it is God. Na utaji ni mungu enu, asya, sal. Ion ni topikia skwingine. Ion ni topikia skwingine. Ion ni topikia skwingine. Ion ni topikia skwingine. Ah, let's talk about mambiado. Yes. Muna kosa niya jia pesa. How can that run be solved? The way you use money, I believe, is dependent on the value systems you have. See? Pa luna eka pesa ni ni. Apu, Eric? Kwanza mambu ya pesa? Mambu ya pesa niya wena letakashida. Bala, bala, bala. Yeo, yeo, wena letakashida. Jamana zuma, afadeli ni liye kwa ladroba. Yes, nizakwa na takana, sometimes maybe munezakwa takwa relationship, kuna pata wene, kuna vile oona spend pesa, na kuna vile huya na spend. So, tu si omgele tu kwangile ya rentroba, moka kengale. Ya, si nizakwa piya wene umutwa na spend, kuna pata yua partner, ya na taka evitu zi enda hivi. Na ona taka zi enda hivi. Taku aruza na apu. Taku aruza na? Naeza. Sometimes nizakwa aruza na kabi sa umu na kwa, but sometimes yeo zi oni kami nizakwa issue niya tafa niya mpa kamu. Nakiniwa tu wina na kwa sandiangiyama. People get, kuna wale wana na kwa. It gets so bad to the point that it goes to the courts. People land in courts, kuna process na nusuma ho, to gawa pesa aji. I went to the states, kwa zi wajungi pote ekzampo yei yu kuna sema. Ti enda states ni kwa nisho garifu lani. Ima katoa inti. Pababaki pati moja. These two divorced, na ako kumaliana, even over the car, wali kata yu kwa. Kula moja half, mugi na half. Yeo basically ni do. Do ni ki. Do is a very serious issue. Na jia ata yesu, niki lata yesu ki dogo, he preached more about money than heaven and hell combined. Telling you uqtuni triki sana, kiyoma sana. Then go, don't ingori. So, lazima muelewe vilemte. The last one I say, sa zi mina even by the time you even before you get married, the person you meet up with, nuna kuna katoa na nina rafki ako. Na wana, they make you a better person. Envise first, umu nana kumeka a better person. Nuna kutana kwa mbe isasa yi dogo, imagine yungi fanya even, yei? Una na yu sad thing, eh, you can have a flow. In relationship, wana say, waka tini bati yungko, yungi kutu kwa relation, wana kutu kwa marriage. So, na zi angali amitu na ona, ah, umu tini yei wei, kuna future. Kuna future vini yei. Yuki angali yuki pata pesa, kuna yuki pata pesa sa hi, na fikiria tu di kuspend. Akuna mamuna kusend. Uma kusenda mimi kua, kwa tiya kwa, Yeah, sometimes kuka sana, kuna waka tibai, tumeway, siku kuka sana kuma kuka sana, nili tu muna, muna disagree. Yana taka heivi, nami mi nataaka heivi. At the end of the day, waka tini korofisha na hivu, muki jaku kapa moja. That's why it's called communication. Waka tini muna communicate. Muna kachi ni, muna ungea. Ii usikuli kuwa hivi. But sometimes when I say, hi pesana takahi hende hivi, ni ako bata na kwenbia, tunneza fanya hivi. Tunneza fanya hivi. Na uki angaliya baito ono na na make sense. Ki angaliya hiki tuwa na ungea, ina make sense. So angaliya, ina kama kututa spend 2 hours na hi tas idea. So una angaliya. Vitu kahi zo, muki kachi ni muna communicate, muna ungea, una patatu vitu zina flow. Buvu kuna kwa na na this statement. So you come and need a quote, just this belief from some women. The lady is saying, your money is my money. Your money is my money. My money is my money. Na iyo ina kwa aga hivi, sometimes ina kwa aga ukweli. Ina kwa aga ukweli, kuna oli oni hakuna your money as a man. It's ours. Your money is our money. My money is my money. Siya puni na tasida. Mta kusana. Mta kusana, mta kusana, mta kusana oni. Ungeza angaliya tu oni vini umutuana miheb. Kuna mutu mone na kuna, kuna shida fulani na kuna pesa asa mtia ni kusahidee. Iyo bado ikotu kwa relationship. Iyo uta kumisha oni. Iyo uta kumisha, ungeza vitu zote oni, umutu oni. Bifum, kudia kungia kwa marriage, uta kumisha patat least, kuna klu, iso klu zeni uta oni asa ma. Ui eniwe kwa hii. Buvu, many people say that because Vila, So, kuna believe zini. There are some things to translate. Maybe this guy has a point. The guy has a point. This all money is a pool joined together. Because I believe this. If my name is Buvi and you marry somebody and their surname is whoever, whoever, Buvi, So, you both create a kingdom, so both of you need to provide a resource to build up that kingdom. It is no longer just me, but we both are one. He is a king and queen, and princess.... know exactly what it's like.. How can we believe theya Aparepering me is just her money I do not think that principalls are because I have not already started from prison So pure trust. ata kasiya, mikiwa, lemi tri, naiki, na flow wa na realize o okay maybe this eye is supposed to flow. So at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what principles people come with, kama muna muelewa ano, kuna places, muna fika you can be able to go under and say yeh, you had a point. Or even we can argue I win the argument but you truly had a better point. I should be strong, man enough to come back and say yeh, I think you were right. Let's pull your hair. Exactly. Yes. Between the lady and the man. Yes. Man didn't find a chini. I said no. I said okay. Nisao nimi kubali. You come and maybe you are right. You have done something to save her part to explain her. Yes. Muna mike muna nia nizakua kuna pesana na akuna iyo nini akushea. Ama kitabu fanya kituna skia na kujaku diza the husband. Nini pesa muna nini akushea. Nisao. Kuna hawa. Kuna hawa women wanya kuna iyo. Ladies wanya kujaku nini akushea. Nini pesa nini akushea. Mwenginata kuja me para pesa evi. This is my man. Before you marry someone, you realize wana tumia dovi baya. Wana fondi lena yo relationship. Yo ni kakumovi. Reza. Reza. Wana nispen thrift. Yes. As long as they are willing to learn something. You don't also learn something from them. As long as u jifan, you when you know it all. You see your helping each other. It's a walk your helping each other. They are nice ways of showing this person. Yes. But they are good only poor. But imagine if you did this and bought this little shoe, you would have had and so you should have spent thrift in kukwa sisi wana ona. Kamak for example msa ni kumnimia. I'll think of that shoe that is 5500. I love kuna kafido kengina. Badu kuna ngomegu nuna une release pia? So layer. Actually it's themed. It means Maisha ya kupa nga. So layer. Plan your life, arrange which paper. wu jipanga. Wuki jipanga, and somebody comes and finds out wu me jipanga, they will actually add to what you already have. They will excelify, if there's a word like that, what you have. Wini ja na kutja na, iakonna dialectAAAA Mayf forms, this is me. As to the head, because women sometimes ask for money, but as the head, they say, okay, so pesos in yu u na bat a kama na ume, unafa kudrua bine, because nyuweu end of the head. I want us to take a break, I want us to take a short break and then we will come back, lafu uta ni ambiya wewa na yo solea, unasama ni kujiji yanga. Kujibika kuchorea maisha yako, plan, you cannot succeed unless you plan. So sole ni, plan ni yako, ume plan, you get married in 2 years, jamam migi na mesama, I get married in 5 years. Namkupamo jamana, muna traga kukutana, asa, how are you going to work through that? Meeting point. Meeting point, and of course also about even kids, when values about kids. We are going to talk about this and much more right here on Power Talk, want to take a short break, we'll be back in a bit. I'm with Muvie and Eric Smith here, Doctor Muvie. We're back, we're back, thank you for sticking with us right here on Power Talk. It has been a pleasure, we were just taking a short break and even as we did that, I was checking your feedback, I was looking at your comments on our social media platforms and I want to say a big thank you to each and every one of you that is tuned in today. I'm seeing gikonyo mushiri and I'm presenting kumashariakamune, listening as always. Sounds like a kikuyo land. Kikinyambi, Hilary, kaka mega watching live Mushiri, listening kumashariakamune, rashbashiru were wa busiya, watching live out of 40 busiya asa de sana to Edeka Hansam wa Nyahururu. I'm tuned in from Nyahururu, I'm looking at Tabitha Kamau and I'm saying, I'm just learning myself, me spending Ujinga kungo mania umamba ya pesa. What a hazak. Okay, I'll be Katoliki Salana and some of the Higa Mago Center tuned in. Thank you so much, asana to Ann Dennis. Kilimambongo Magungu Pamoyasana. Thank you so much, we're together. Thank you so much Ann. Mouis Jakob Makoa and asana watching from kaka mega or kaka mega wa kumingisana leo. No, kwa ni ni kaka mega broadcasting corporation. Sorry, sorry, sorry. Sorry, sorry. Dennis Youngesa, asana watching from, watching ni kwa Namuesi Prima school in Bungoma County. Una ona. Environs. Una. Environs. Kwa kuma kaka mega, kwaisana? Kwa kua kwa na ufannyika. Thank you so much everybody who is commenting, I might not be able to read all your comments, but asana desana. Unaona na Watao Mishawea midstama, kwa piya noona, I'm getting feedback that Watao nwa engaged piya kwaanul zeniwa. And then I pay kwa tag konge na mao. And with the movie here, Dr. Movie and Erich Smith here today. So, the conflict in values and interest in marriage is the discussion we are having today, right here on power talk. I am Ram Maguko, it's a pleasure being with you just in time for the next part of this discussion. Wa chatuongeku, tumazimu mambaya pesa kuwaza. I want to give you a chance to have a final word on mambaya pesa. Yes. The advice is also on kwa relationship kusu, how they handle their money, especially time when you have kwa sana. Actually, instead of kwa sana, pangieni pesa is critical, pangieni even before you get into marriage. So, atatam kwa sana, you go back to the initial arrangement that you decided to liyamua hivi na hivi na hivi. See, ati because I was a bachalan lii planivi, now that I'm married, ina baki hivo hivo. No, every stage of life you have to learn some things and learn some things, re-learn some things. So at every phase, when you are alone, you will learn kitiflani. When you are getting married, you have to learn some things, re-learn some things, learn other things. And as you move on, mtuwia huwaza agil kuja, same procedure. Muki move to a big house, same procedure. Mtuwia pili watatu and so on and so forth. So even in those things of money, even in those things, muna za kwa milikbali na hivi, muna za kuja mkachinu tze me, ok, twangalize the rules. Ati a country constitution will change, you get. So muna za kwa simu se metaw, about money, kili kwa sania panapa, why what can we change that could work for us as a family. It's not about mimi misdi a hivi wa nia hivi wa, mimi liisha. Kwa san milikbali kuja, for better or for worse, sasani mimi is one thing. Sisi. Sisi, but rather sisi, miki sa ma mimi, it's inclusive of that person, envise vasa. So mimi mi, kwa san ma mimi, how opinion has to be there, envise vasa. Kitu moja nia zesa ma nivi li, muna joa, kwa san mimi li zati, sita kiu jinga ku pigani. Kuproja kitu moja, pesa ando nalita kashida, kwa place yote apu, pesa na kwa gaza ingine isu. Ya, but kama, kama viniame sema, wakatini umekuja sasaku sema, tuna ingiwa kwa marriage, nini muko, umekuja kitu moja. Na wakatini umekuja kitu moja, hakuna wili, yes, sometimes mizia disagree kwa, mimi mutwa mikuja, mimi kwa mimi ahivi, pesa, mimi ingiwa, tuna niza ifania, nini. Na mimi utapata, when do lienda kutafutayo pesa, but sometimes uniza uliza piya opinion niya, your partner. Mimi uliza please, uno naji hi pesa. So, kuna wili mojine moja meibu niza angali, uno naji wa sometimes, that's when you say man, window head, sometimes umtua niza kwa mbiwa wangali, ah, ii, siyone ikiwa power. Na, sometimes mungina niza kwa mbiwa, upate, kitu ameku advice ni kitu, very important ni hatau kwa onafkiria. Juna jwa women wuwa nangali ambali. Women kuna ile place wangali, uno naji sema, ah, okay, wangali ahizi, uno napata. Waja, waja, waja tu puse pusu people who are defensive, niyo, niyote mu, since the beginning of this show, you've been talking about communication, communicate, talk, talk, talk, talk, ogeni, mumesa mahebo, mumesa mahebo, nisa wa, nimi okubali. You've tried to communicate ume jaribu to solve your differences in values and interests, you're trying but this person is just always defensive. Wuna ni laji nabu tu kama wuyo, move it. In the first place, mungu jya kubali anawa pindyo muwa wana, there must be a meeting point where muna heze elewana. If one person or the other kuna kawu defensive fulani, wuli kakubali indani. So kama wuli kakubali, you'll always have to go back to where they are and pick them from there. I am, I'm very defensive. I'm very defensive. You're very defensive. Yes, but with time I have learnt and I'm very argumentative. And I will want to win that argument. And more often than not I win the argument. But tomorrow I will come back and say about it. And yeah, I won the argument but you were right. You need that bit. The people who have that defense and you find some of those things that we are calling as negative defensive has also positive attributes in the farm. You might marry them because it's at the same time positive. For example, this is not marriage, but for example, Christiano Ronaldo. Qakya Aroganzi of sorts. Ako na kwa y boca nunga eka bili na ficikulana fika Wuki katoa sa ela naji skia vutakumetoapia the positive element. So at times some things we consider weaknesses, it's a terrible of a coin that is positive. So you have to know how to harness it. Kama kwa over defensive and you can debate. What you are not there at that time? Tomorrow morning ako na kapulili. There's a guy, no he's married. He will tell us kiazata ano kwa atak na manneno kwa atak na manel no ya na kuzyaka na manbe Hani I actually have an answer for you but I won't tell you today I'll tell you tomorrow when you've cooled down because you know today it won't work anyway so once you learn your partner and their weaknesses we have to live with people with weaknesses because we also have them learn how to handle them harness them and get their stories ok, now I want to say sorry and myself sorry hurry up people say sorry in different ways but in the community do you want to say sorry but I don't want to say sorry so you learn there it's the same things communication language how should someone deal with a man who is defensive advice to change coming from and the answer is you are the man You are women. You are woman. Banana man. Banana man. kiniwa kwa kwa aji kpenavila tajiwa chuhrini yia kutumopu nukun Peter kbersa espi nikiwa hasu sio kontiwe quotidCD aizu nurturing aizu growing up ya mwa uku wa kwa? home waka wana submissi wife after 25 yas jamaame jenga uku wa li kataata jenga the woman discovered a formula sila zi maniku jibukiivi kuna wile nili kufanya wuka nilaik tatumi yo formula bad o tu pole pole kwa zi then of the day the head of the house is a man but the most influential person in that house is the woman we want that head like he is saying power but they have influence I think influence is very powerful na kuna kutumina kwa asema bahide kwa asema man is the head you have made the head because you can think unilaterally tu namboga tuzimotlita it's actually a good thing think unilaterally women are multifaceted and all the things they think about to them they are of equal importance kuna nginia tata it's important sana but not an important but kuna nginia kona yo it is even better than your idea so you have to be being the head doesn't mean you have to go by your own point you have to be strong enough to say ata hi pointi ya ke hi this particular one of yours you can tell nana yo ata siwe hi yango kwa sabu you won't always have the perfect answer but ati yo nuna respecti ya ke ata respecti ya kupia are you strong and still in itanguwa je niknes power under control such that she can entrust her thoughts to you you're not just dictator you're a head just like you know a man is a head a woman is not the neck the bridge is one a woman is the rest of the body the rest of the body the head just makes decisions but the thing that has much the influence mostly is in the rest of the body and what if it is difficult for the man to reason with the woman Eric kitu move ya mese ma ni wukweli ok man is a head man is the rest of the body lakini the rest of the body has refused to reason with the head ono ana kama monaume the lady amesha unge na kenza konge ame enda ame sometimes sometimes as a man that's why onajiwa kwa sabu we ni head kusimilone zangali atom tojue ok sahi kuna kuna watu eni niwa behave unangaliya but unasukiya ah my wife a kenza konge ana unge ana unge mimini kini ni nashindo akuni ni ok kama unapata yo just sometimes unazapata mutu yesa na unge ana unge muskize yes kato kimi umo angaliya umo angaliya unge unge ukisha ona mimaliya zangaliya ok na mimini zangaliya ha ha ha ha ha ha so in the wisdom yo kise mati ni yo te muaze konge wewa unge wewa unge utapata akuna akutakwa na agreementi utapata ha ha ha ha ha yo kila umutata ona mi ni kora itu yes na kazi na watu konge ya kama so what do you think ana unge so so what do you think ah okosawa ukisha stores then at the head of the house na utenda kukafu ok kuna kila mbachu alia kiki na onani itu the right thing to do na ii na ona haita kua kus kuna mbengini unezenda kufanya kama hau jafanya ki tuenye alizema my friend ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha shida utapula ugali ha ha ha ha na unge kama mboga oja tuge kama wanaume lakini ha ha ha ha ha umeka uto hapo osrong nothing kuna shida apana lakini kwa sura na juenye kuna shida rwanda penyanapika penyanakata katipole pole kama kaweda ha ha ha ha rwanda kuna shida apa so at the head sababuli angaliw kuna indio the right thing inye na zafanya na maybe ta sa idea our family na ta sa idea our future so you will just have to do it because you are the head ha ha ha ha that's a point eba chini skiza kwa na yes skiza kituana unge musianda kufaitu oni ni skiza kituana unge kikwambia hivi ok then ondo kai chinsa so angali ni kitu gani kenyali onge ambacho inye na una ni right this month kumekuana kumekuana lot of discussions especially on on a media about mental health wasiwa na juwa they kill their children they kill their wives and their husbands and they die by suicide because kuna conflicts and bothers ina kwa unresolved a movie doctor movie niske kutoka kwa kwa ewe eba unge kidogo atawerik give me your thoughts about what you think because now we are talking about conflict of values and interests these things in eza fanya watua jinyongi yes which is not the way yoni yoni ukueli kusabu una juwa I think if you nyaliyongi I'll say ma wakatini umenda kupa tanam tu remember whom too she's not your sister he's not your brother so mumetoka so kila mutua metoka na ako navile alile lewa yes kila mutua konavile alile lewa so wakatini umu kukunyumba yes sometimes muneza kukurofisha na muneza kurofisha na muneza fight muneza angaliasa inginia ako na kitu yeni umutua na fanya nasifurahi they kitu muneza sema nini si kuenda kuji kujiwa haiku solishon solishon si kujiwa ju yes muneza kwa yes atu diza atu agri kwa avitu fulani kuna zili ambavitu aki kaivi aki ongiwa na muangaliwa na sema but solishon si etu na enda kujiwa ju sometimes wakatini wana juwa haiku saidi na haisahidi umtu umtu mwanyu maybe umenda kujiwa ume muwacha kwa shida na upe ume hacha umutu kwa shida na upe madili zi na na umatana na umatana so unapata witu kaizo then kitu moja neza sema niku kachini sometimes muneza kwa mukaimu ongi uskize ita atamitumagini kuna wali amba kansel kachini ongi na kuskize muneza na tanini waweli atakama sometimes muneza kwa bibi na bwana napata watu hawailewa nimutu ataki kwa na umgini umke fight iwa kura nini wuki ona wakite miya town bibi wuko wana bue bue muwemi una taku fika na muki fika na iwa wakatini umuku kwa relationship badu amja wana angaliya that's all the scale time ina kwa mbia wakatini umununa wakachu ote muna kwa muki putana tumuna fight sit down and think umtukweli niki tuki anza kuishi maisha tama bibi na bwana tutawiza kuishi wakatu a relationship niku sumana it's true it's very true niku sumana it's very true the key is to think najiwata wana nipiga but the key is to think in a relationship this is your best friend muneza vibe muneza talk muneza vibe muneza naizu vituza utuna ziangaliya wakatini umuku kwa relationship kabisa ata iya 80t patiya 80t all 80t are solved by 80t patiya attitude patiya attention it's that simple and those ones you learn pole shape wana wafu utu oza na miu sema kama onuna umuku kwa marriage na onuna life ina kwa hard hamuelewa ni hamuni ni unawale wei onuna sikiya bwara na ingiya kwa nyumba ni kuchapanga bibi every day so rangaliya vituka izo muneza kumbiya unezata jitoa unezata jitoa tu seme wacha ni pay time ni hangaliye kwa anza mambo e kwa aje e kwa kwa watershed they are using the wrong road fasa when i was saying this 100 days visa 100 days visa 100 days visa 100 days visa 100 days visa kwa sayema you see like that time you are saying about lady maybe anok patiya 80t or something use the analogy of a body if your leg is giving you 80t you will not leave it there you will attend to that leg pakaipon you will calm down and attend to that leg at least your leg is taking you don't beat it you don't beat it or you don't ignore it every attention is for that leg so that you can get an understanding and move together the brain will tell you give attention to that leg i patiya attention until i pone yo wende this is part of the body this is the brain when the eye is not saying you will take it to the doctor miguita ipeleka so if we learn that uniformity moso before we get married and even when we get married if we keep remembering that analogy you are only as strong as your weakest link so don't let their beards their beards weak link if it's a weak link go back there you are as weak as it lift it lift that link wow okay doctor you are grongon grongon grongon one thing that i will not fail to say you guys are amazing people thank you sir so guys there is a debate online so people saw our posts online and on our poster we wrote erik smith samist yes and on the movie gos felatist erik smith for mezona i am just a samist that's how you use it we want to help a mother i want a shikana we want one in the same you are just a samist good one good one i hope she is watching i know she is watching i want us to shift gears a bit because now we are done with that particular angolenda i am told time is not on our side i thought we were just beginning muda mekwisha muda mekwisha you only come in mezona there are some things that we i cannot fail to tackle because i am with people who are known in the gospel industry and i must give honor to whom honor is due erik is doing a good job and so are you Dr. Bovee let me start with you erik there is a song you released 2 months ago you mentioned it's called hunam shaori let's talk about that maybe give us a hunam shaori isongveje li kuja ili kwa kunakatin kwa nasuman ni niya Daniel kanga liya Daniel ili kwa narafiki yamba ili kwa Darrius ili kwa friend kabisa kwa Daniel one day kuna wali wini ya kwa na furaya so wakauna na wali kwa pia kwa government wakauna ah imtu na bidi maaligani tom pata wakauna waja tom pati place ya then kanga liya Darrius ili kwa Rafiki ya Daniel but haku weza kumprotekt ju waka tini alikuja waka tini wali sema ah ulikuna luwa maoli toa na yolo liya ndika ukasain na always end again so lazima umtoch puliwe awaka kwa tundu lazima jamali chukuliwa ka rufa uko the only person mo nyalimuchunga ni god when Daniel was thrown in the den of a lion mo nyalimuchunga tu ni mo yes apu haku kwa ni ni Daniel sato apu apu hafunga lazima she wola wemo wemo na sema kiniya mamulaka ya kutu nukuna usalama kiniya mamulaka ya kutu nukuna usalama umtoa nezakuwa na ukuna kingdom fula ni naku iko juwe ya kubat aiwezi kukulinda venye mungu nezaku kulinda and in other words when god is your weakness then you are your greatest strength when god is your weakness then that is your greatest strength you are at your greatest strength god can shut the when god you are a majority shut up no ma so that is the song you are on youtube so far it is doing well i have seen it in a song nashkuru buvi kunungu makuwa metua this week 3 days monday what is it about it is in kamba nikama kukatuura kupanga many other plans of a man but it is god's purpose that lasts but when god gives you plans then his purpose leads you through all those plans in the right time so it is about two gentlemen actually one is called john kikama means john useless jipangi so he fails in life juli is mothanga so pangamai shayako submit your plans to god and he will guide you and excel but if you don't want to be a sloth let that man not eat so you must plan how you make that money god said i will establish your plans that was my word this week guys but don't create your problems don't create things even if i am a sloth i will not be getting a sloth i will give up i will give up i will be open to you some of you are keepin' that some some of you are keepin' that oh some i want us to bring this discussion to a close before we do it Ya, ya, ya, ya, ya. Yuki ni? Ya. Ya. Ya. Ya. Ya. Ya. Ya. Ya. Was it because you had to go to Istanbul? Yes, and of course that brings us to the end of this evening discussion, our quote of the day is up on your screen coming up. This is by Dan Arrailly. The quote say, tell me if you believe in this also. The most difficult thing is to recognize that sometimes we too are blinded by our own incentives because we don't see how our conflict of interests work on us. Asan indantomat nid usedkaikit waena, tezihhat kuwa m wilawhila 7 pm to sto crush dasho 7 pm Mika... 11 am Me bakayım Mealth Chak probably Taka hm taking me Izawa kama Asistur Edipa K intact Kwa k박 nii ngama Fel nasih sacani H счia waj revenge Na tansurumiku Makoko Hbik payutu PC Kwww