 Hello everyone, welcome to another Narx Viva Live video, in this one I'm going to be speaking to you about when the narcissist comes face to face with reality, because this is something that many of you may not have seen up until this point, but for a lot of you it may only be a matter of time until you do finally see that. At some point they will come face to face with reality, it's only a matter of time until they see that, even though as we know everything they do is an attempt to run from it and to also distract you from reality as well. Narcissists are not what they seem, they act grandiose, they act as though they're so much greater than what they actually are, they exaggerate their own abilities, worth and importance, they manipulate, they lie, they future fake, they make you believe in so many things that aren't even true, they pull you into their lands of make-believe, into this world that they have created inside their minds, to where it then creates a bond, an attachment, a shared fantasy, where you are serving them and you act as their source of supply, but it's not serving you in any way because it isn't even real and yet you, although you may not even realize this, you are so much greater than what they have led you to believe, you are worth so much more than to be someone's puppet, someone's pet, someone's slave, because you're actually far more powerful and far more valuable than they are and that's why they want to have the power and control over you, because you have that much value, normally when something has no value you're gonna want to go in the opposite direction, but with these narcissists they are coming to you, they're hunting you down, they're not even you alone and not only that but they're trying to pull you into this alternate reality, where they are so much greater than what they actually are, even though they've never actually done anything, they've never done anything to prove their worth to you and yet you may look at yourself and think that you haven't achieved, you haven't accomplished anything that great yourself, but that's because they're the authority in your life, they have power over you to where they're able to dictate your behaviours and the course of events, they're able to pull you into their alternate world, their fake reality where nothing makes any sense, but they've actually been gaslighting themselves their entire lives, they couldn't hack it, they couldn't deal with reality, they couldn't accept that in the grand scheme of things, they're actually just not that great, they couldn't accept that, so then they went for the grandiosity by proxy, by targeting someone like you, being in your presence it makes them feel so much greater than what they actually are and the reason for that, even though you may not even realize it, it's because you have all of these wonderful qualities, you are intelligent, charismatic, you're physically attractive, you're beautiful, you have so many good qualities about yourself, you're hard-working, you're motivated, you're enthusiastic about life, you're empathic, so of course they want to target you, of course they want to be around you, because they've failed at life, so they want to have a second chance with you by being in your proximity, so that they can get that grandiosity by proxy from being in your space, because yes, you're really that great, you're actually the real thing, you're so much more, so much different to what they are and because they've indoctrinated you, they've brainwashed you, you can't even see it, many of you don't even know just how great you are, just enjoying this bubble tea, but yeah, at some point the narcissist in your life may come face-to-face with reality and that often happens when they've drained the life of you, then they leave, they move on with someone else, and you're left by yourself, or you may somehow find a way to leave them, which can be extremely difficult if you do manage to do that, but yes, some victims do manage to get away, and yeah, whether they leave you or you leave them, and then once you move on, you will notice how your life just begins to change, and when I say change, I mean really change, more than it ever has in your entire life, the entire time that you were around then, the entire time you may have thought that you were nothing or nobody, you were no good, everything that they told you, and then it's like once you get away from them, all of these magical things just seem to happen in your life, and I found that my own experience of how the entire time I couldn't even get a job, I couldn't make any money, I had nothing going on in my life, and then all of a sudden, once I got away in such a short amount of time, I then became a millionaire by the age of 33, and now I've managed to achieve almost 180,000 subscribers on YouTube, 18,000 followers on TikTok, approaching 50 million views on here as well, and yet, if you were to ask the narcissist in my life, even now they would probably say, I'm still just nothing, still just a nobody, none of this means anything to them, because this is what they have to do when you are that great, when you are that special, they have to live in denial, because they're envious and jealous, so they're in competition with you, they see you as their enemy or opponent, and the reason why is because you're just too great, you're just too powerful, you're just too special, so they already know that if they were to be fair and involved with you, you would need to have the authority over them, because you're just better all around as a person, and this is why when you're involved with them, and they do have the power over you, as you may have experienced it already, I mean of course I already know every single person who watches this, they're gonna agree, the narcissist just kept you down the entire time, you couldn't achieve, you couldn't succeed in anything while you were around them, and yet they were blaming you and making you believe that it was you, as though you were the one who wasn't good enough, and guess what, here's the thing, the reality is that you weren't good enough, and you weren't good enough because you were around them, try going off somewhere else, away from them, watch how things get so much better for you in such a short amount of time, and I've heard it from so many people already, that as soon as they got away, suddenly their life began to improve, their health got better, I'm sure many of you have seen the picture I posted in the community, community page, I got two pictures that I posted on there, one I took back in 2019, and then the other one was last year in 2023, and it's amazing how these pictures are four years apart, and yet it's like I look ten years younger now, and that was just from maybe a year and a half of being away from narcissists, not completely of course as they are everywhere, but it was like all the time, that's how much I managed to improve in such a short amount of time, things got so much better for me, because you're around someone of extremely low value, and actually as I said before, they don't have an inner sense of value, they actually have a negative amount, it's negative, that's why there's so much negativity, because they're trying to get value from you, you're the one with all of the value, you are a high value person, so of course it makes perfect sense that if you leave a negative person who has no value, and they're leeching off of you, and then you go somewhere else as the high value person that you are, what do you think's going to happen? Of course your life is going to completely change altogether, and theirs is going to get a lot worse, because they have no value of their own, they're getting their value from you, your high value, you have all of the value, so of course if you go somewhere on your own, things are going to get so much better for you, because you have a positive amount of value, they have negative, which means that they can only ever be a leech, a parasite, a bottom feeder, and in fact everything you do when you are around a narcissist, everything that you express, everything that you put out, any amount of value that you try to give, whether it's to yourself or another person, anything that you do, in that moment it gives you a vulnerability, a weakness and opening, it gives access for them to get in, where they can then shoot you down, they can make things measurable for you, because you're putting something out, so they can then respond to it, they can hijack it, even if it wasn't even intended for them in the first place, they can still do that, and this is why, as Ross Rosenberg has mentioned, we should use the grey rock technique, this is where you act dull and uninteresting, normally you might be a very fun and lively person, you like to talk a lot, you like to be out all of the time, very outgoing, but when you are around narcissist, you need to turn that off, you need to stop reacting, stop giving your emotions, especially if you're an empath, because they can become addicted to that, they can become hooked on you, where it's like they need it all the time, they've got to have your reactions, because it's fueling them, it's making them feel alive, and they can distort it in their minds, even though it wasn't even meant for them, they can look at it as though it was, as though it was about them, and then that fuels them, it makes them feel better about themselves for a moment, and this is why you need to shut that off, stop reacting to them, stop giving them that supply, when you are around them, you have to grey rock, be boring, be dull, be uninteresting, don't give that to them, because they're just going to see that as a way for them to get in, and then they're going to be negative, and by doing that, they're taking value away from you, and they're making you think in your mind, they're distorting your thoughts and beliefs, they're making you think that what you're giving, what you're putting out is no good, that it's not a value, that it's bad, and yet at the same time, they're happily taking it, they're receiving it from you, and they're downplaying it at the same time, and here's the thing, if it's not that good, then why keep coming back to it? Why keep taking what you're giving out, but again, they can also switch things up on you as well, they can give you false praise, they can act like they're happy for you when you're succeeding something, when you graduate, when you get a new job, but if you look at them carefully, you will see they are actually very bitter, very resentful, they don't like it when you do good, when you succeed in anything, they can't stand it, all they can ever do is be fake, that's why they have a false character, they constructed a false reality, but sometimes they do come face to face with a reality, and that's any time that they see you doing something real, where you're actually making the most of your qualities and abilities, and you're achieving something in real life outside of their fantasy world, and not only that, but when they run into other people as well, they may come across someone who isn't an enabler or fly monkey, so they may be grounded in reality and they're seeing things as they actually are, they may even see what the narcissist is doing to you, they may recognize that, and if you're lucky they may sit down with you and talk about it, or they may even confront the narcissist in front of you, and if you get to see that, that is a moment that you will never forget, because it's something that can be very empowering for you, it can be confirmation, or it may be the very thing that wakes you up to the truth and brings you back into reality, and the reality is that they have been manipulating you, lying to you, grooming you, abusing you, keeping a code of silence about the abuse all of this time, and you didn't even realize it, the entire time you didn't even know, and sadly for a lot of people, this could have been since your childhood, it could have been your entire life, and right now you may be in your 20s, your 30s, your 40s, whatever it is, and you feel like your entire life has been robbed from you, because if you had known, if you had been aware of it, you could have taken advantage of your qualities and abilities for all of that time, so yeah you missed out on a lot and it's because the narcissist was so envious and jealous, it's because they knew life was never going to be like that for them, so they had to keep you down, they had to downplay you, they had to keep you down yourself, all of that time, they kept you down, making you feel less, making you feel bad about yourself, as though you weren't that special, you weren't that great, and of course when you realize this, when you really wake up to it, the first thing you want to do is just get away from all of it, you want to go somewhere else, you want to find new people, and you want to do new things, you want to be about something else, you want to be around someone who actually recognizes and reflects back to you your own value, instead of someone who has to like manipulate and gas like you, I make you believe that you're not as great as you actually are, because you've had to deal with that your entire life, and so when you finally wake up, you don't want to go back to sleep, because now you realize just how great you are, but here's the thing, they don't want you to know that, they don't want you to know just how special you are, I'll tell you what they do want, they want to have this incredible amazing wonderful person who comes with all of these great gifts, all of these qualities and abilities, and they've got so much passion and enthusiasm, and they want that all for themselves, they want to contain you, they want to keep you in a box, they want to isolate you where you have no one else outside of their world, and then they can keep you all for themselves and exploit you for these gifts, these qualities where you don't get the reciprocation for your true worth, so they can just give you nothing or the bare minimum to keep you around, to keep you trapped, because they've downplayed you, they made you think you're not as great as you actually are, so then you're stuck there like a slave to them, it's kind of like Cinderella, and it was quite an old movie, but yeah, it's a lot like that, whether you're a woman or a man, it's the same thing, yeah, you're so much greater than what they led you to believe, but that's not why they created the false character, the false reality, of course, that came long before you, they already had that before, because maybe they compared themselves to someone else long before you came around, there may have been someone else who was at a similar level to you, who knows, and they felt inferior to that person, so then they decided to abandon who they actually are, but they believed that they weren't good enough for their parents, caretakers, whatever it was, they created this false character to exist in a false reality, and then they have to pull other people into that, and then later on they targeted you, and they had to pull you into that reality as well, they had to impose a false character upon you to make you believe that you are less than who you actually are, that's how they do it, and of course anytime that they have to witness reality, the reality of just how great, just how special you actually are, and just how insignificant they are, anytime that they have to witness that, it's like the shock of their life, they can't deal with it, whether it's you or it's them, whether they realize just how worthless they are, or just how incredible you are, or both at the same time, which is something that typically happens, when they have to witness that, it will cause a narcissistic injury, which means that in that moment they can become dangerous, and they may try to take you down, just in that moment their false character, their false reality is being threatened, you're rejecting them and you're exposing them, so of course they're going to want to destroy the threat, because in that moment they feel like they're nothing, they feel like they're just a joke compared to you, and I think it triggers them because it's a trauma response to a situation that happened in their childhood, a very long time ago, and this may have been with their parents or caretaker, it could have been with another child in their school or wherever it was, but in that moment in their childhood, they felt as though their true self, who they actually was, was not good enough, they felt threatened, so then they decided to create the false character, because they believed that they weren't enough in that moment, and when you come along and they have to witness you, it just brings that up all over again, only this time because they're using the false character, but now it's even worse, because it's like, who I was, who I actually am as a person, who I was as a child, that wasn't good enough, so I created this false character using bits and pieces from other people, and they put that together, this concoction, and now in my mind this is what's desirable, this is perfect, and yet it's still not being accepted, it's still not good enough, it's how they see it, because you've got to understand, because they're emotionally underdeveloped at the the emotional state of a toddler, because of that they never grew out of black or white thinking, so to them everything is black or white, right or wrong, good or bad, perfect or flawed, and of course a long time ago they deemed that their true self is completely flawed, it's bad, so then because of the black or white thinking, they then develop the false character, which is meant to be this authoritative, powerful person, they're always right, they're never wrong, they know everything, everything about you, everything that there is to know, and they never make a mistake, they're always perfect, they're always right, never wrong, never bad, never flawed, but then anytime they have to witness you, you succeed in, you doing good, especially once you manage to get away from them, you can no longer be that reference point, and then they have to look at themselves and realize that even the false character is flawed, and it's flawed because it's not even real, that's why it's flawed, because it's not generated from within, and not only that, but in that moment they're also triggered to reflect on the true self, which as we know in their childhood they already deemed the true self to be not good enough, to be all bad, to be completely flawed, so when they're having to reflect on that, of course in that moment they're going to become dangerous, they're going to feel like they're in a fight for their lives, in that moment it is life or death to them, 199 live viewers, I'm seeing only 21 thumbs-ups, if you're finding this video helpful please hit the thumbs up button down below, but yeah this is how it happens, this is what they do, looks like I got a friend here, little cats come in my way, I let them touch me, but I never touched them myself, because you never know they might have a disease, but this one looks quite healthy, but yeah this shit gets pretty deep, but you really go into it and you explore it, and if you really look back, I mean if you're able to, if you have any knowledge about their experiences in childhoods, what happened to them, it will all make perfect sense, you will realize, you will understand why they felt like they weren't good enough, and why they abandoned their true self, you will see it, you will understand it, and it will all make perfect sense, of course that's not to say that we had a perfect childhood, none of us had that, but we were strong, we were able to deal with it, somehow we held on to ourselves, we held on to the true reality, I mean yeah we experienced a lot of shame, a lot of guilt, a lot of feelings even of not being enough, we had to go through that, and it was hard, it was difficult of course, but we got through it, we got through the rejection, the abandonment, even if it was for our own parents as well, and that's how we still have this power, this energy that we are able to generate from within, that's how we still have that, and that's why they don't have it because they chose to create a false character and construct a false reality, they chose to do that, they made their beds, now they have to line it, we're not responsible for that, and there's really nothing we can do about it, if someone wants to go and abandon who they actually are as a person, now then they have to have a false reality so that they can continue to exist, if someone wants to go and do that what can we do, what can we say, because of course they're in denial, there's nothing that you can do to penetrate the illusion and to get them to see sense, there's nothing you can say or do to get them to see that, all we can really do is try to avoid getting pulled into it ourselves, because as soon as you do that you will begin to feel weak, you will begin to feel like you're not who you actually are, like you're less than the real you, and yet once you get away from it you will begin to feel so much better, you will begin to feel like more who you actually are as a person, and that's why so many therapists and coaches on YouTube, that's what they advise, is to go no contact, walk away, but you do need to be very careful when you do that because as I said before that will threaten their false character, their false image, their false reality, and then in that moment they're going to feel completely worthless and insignificant, they're going to feel like a piece of crap, a pile of shit, they're going to feel like a piece of gum at the bottom of your shoe, they're going to feel like just absolute garbage, they're going to feel, they're just not going to feel good at all, and of course when people don't feel good, they do silly foolish things, in that moment they're not thinking, they could be very impulsive and reckless, they could be very unpredictable, you never know what they might do next, and that is why if you do decide to go no contact, if you are moving on and things are getting better for you, as they probably would, if you're moving on and you're doing that, take this advice, you do need to set strong boundaries, maybe cut communication, block them on all platforms, but then at the same time you need to have a strong support network, and also be aware that they may make something up, a false accusation, they may go to the police, they may take you to court, because they're very jealous and they can't stand to see you getting away, they can't stand to see you moving on with everything that you are, the value that you have within your qualities and abilities, everything that makes you you, they can't stand to see you moving on with that, and yet at the same time of course it's very confusing, because it's like, hold on a minute, I thought I'm nothing, I'm no good, so why would you care if I walk away with this, if it's not worth anything, and that's how you know that they've been lying to you, they've been manipulating and downplaying you the entire time, that's how you know that, that's why they're so jealous, it's why they're so competitive, it's why they can't stand to see you walking away with everything that you are, everything that you have, that's why they can't stand to see you doing that, that's why, but that is exactly what I want for you, I want to see you getting better, I want to see you moving on, I want to see you living your best life and becoming the best version of yourself, that's what I want for all of you, and I hope that you want that for me too, because that's also what I want for myself, I want, I want to become more intelligent, more aware, more knowledgeable, and I want to build up a greater defense against narcissists and anyone who tries to threaten the, my health and my existence and my life, and yeah I just want to become the best version of myself, I want to live my best life, I just want to become the best version of me, and I want to continue making these great inspiring motivating videos and putting them out for all of you to watch, I want to continue meeting cool people who like me, who support me, who are about what I'm about, and yeah I just want to continue to become more successful, that's what I want for myself and my life, and I want that for for you too, those of you who do want that as well, but yeah it isn't all just fun and games, what you've got to understand as well is that it's not just about the narcissists coming face to face with reality, and then you get to have the last laugh on them, that's not always how it is, because that's going to irritate them, it's going to injure them, and they're not just going to let you walk away, of course once you've injured a narcissist, ego, dignity, and false sense of pride, that will eat away at them, it will build up these emotions, this anger, this frustration, and then they're going to want to come back and take you out, they're going to come back to get you, and when they do that, all they're really looking for is just a reaction, if they do come back to try to take you down, because you've just presented reality to them, and they do not like that, they want to continue to live in their false reality instead of being confronted with the true reality, so of course they're not going to like it when you do that, and that's why they will come back to try and attack you, that's why they will come back to try to take you down, and when they do that, all they're looking for is a reaction, the hoping that you're going to be sad, you're going to be crying, you're going to be in tears, you're going to be miserable, you're going to be hating yourself with your life, you're going to, the hoping that you're going to think that everything you did, everything that you tried to achieve in your attempts of moving on, all of that was a waste of time, and instead you should just give up on yourself and your life, and give up on trying to move on, give up on trying to leave them, and in their minds give up on trying to compete with them as well, because that's how they see it, they see it as a competition, they see you as their enemy and opponent, so that is their perception of it, that's why you've got to have the strong boundaries, the support network, and be very careful with the courts and the police, because as we know Nazis do like to use that, so be very cautious, it's the same cat again, I actually saw this cat earlier on before I began filming this video, me and the cat together, I would like to stroke the cat but I think it's a stray, so you never know I might have a disease, anyway my battery's getting low now, so I should probably end this here, but yeah I hope you enjoyed this video, I hope it brought you the information that you were looking for, that you were seeking, and if it did please hit that thumbs up button down below and let me know what you think in the comment section, I am reading your comments every day, I try to respond to as many as I can, of 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