 Hytism is accepted and it's kind of like racism unless we hear How these people are feeling and how we can be more just empathetic and compassionate then we don't know how to help you Asian guys Who can should it's your duty, man I actually prefer to date women that are and that is you know being considerate of your short Asian friends You privilege guy you got privilege. I'm sorry Should tall Asian guys stop dating short Asian women Everybody I am here with my six foot to Asian model entrepreneur friend Jack Leang to talk about it Thank you Jack for being here. Thank you. Andrew love being here. I can share some of my perspective of being Six foot since I was 12. So hope you guys get some insight. Hopefully this is a funny and productive conversation So if you guys are excited about this, please hit that like button and check out other episodes of the hot-pot boys Everybody hi-tism big topic nowadays, especially when it comes to dating There's a lot of like videos out on the internet about women's preferences men's preferences But let's just put it like let's just talk about it in Asian sense because we all know that Within the Asian world there generally Asian people are known to be a little bit shorter than other people Right just a little bit maybe one or two inches right on average the average Asian male height is about five seven in America But it might be increasing as the generations go on so The theory goes and this is concerning tall Asian guys out there tall Asian guy right here If tall Asian guys date short Asian women then it throws off the balance in the dating pool for short men and Tall women because of height ism there are less available tall guys for the tall women and of course much less Available short women for short men being especially that women usually want a guy who's taller than them, right? I don't think Andrew saying like we're saying you can date anyone you want but like should we be Consideration like it should we consider? Like other people's perspective right you're saying these are dynamics that feel very very real to a lot of people now We between us we know a lot of like really short Asian dudes Yeah, so I guess like Jack you being a six foot two like you know considered a handsome guy Thank you. I guess what's your initial reaction to all this and when did you start to realize that this was such a huge dynamic? Yeah, I mean I started realizing it as early as 13 when people started Commenting like hey man, you're tall like you think you'd be different or act different if you were short and and then it I thought it was a one-time thing, but it just kept on coming up and this still comes up You know guide the bar was like hey you it's unfair. You're tall and you're muscular. I'm like Like I didn't you know you could be muscular like But but as more people start approaching me with it I started to get more compassion and like wow, there's actually real pain here, right? It's it's kind of just a different perspective and and hearing So many people talk about it. It becomes real Yeah No, and I think it is a conversation that it's hard to have with a lot of like tall Asian guys because it might make You feel kind of guilty, right? Yeah, like oh Jack you're privileged man Like you're the tall Asian guy you can date whatever type of woman you want and like you don't have to date like short Asian women And by short I'm just referring to like maybe five one five two You know like women who are even more than like eight inches shorter than you, right? and I guess like at the end of the day guys obviously our stance is like of course you can date who you want seek healthy relationships seek connection but being a Desirable tall Asian guy is there something to consider because we all know these tall Asian guys and some of them do date short women and You can't help but as a shorter Asian guy feel like You know whether it's true or not But you feel like that that's messing up your dating pool as a shorter Asian guy because there's not like an influx of Like a bunch of other women who like short Asian guys in particular, you know, yeah, you know if friend of mine who's more average height we go to a Bar and we see two beautiful women and the shorter woman is more attractive and You know, I might be interested. I want to create a better experience for all of us, right? So that's my goal and I would definitely Allow or just like want my my friend to be like, hey, you should talk to to the pretty woman, right? And see you what that's like, but do you think like even you having that? State of mind to be like, hey, you know what like maybe this shorter attractive Woman of the pair is actually I'm more attracted to her and she might be interested in me But for the sake of just having like a fun interaction with people, let me try to balance it out Like how did you come around to that? Is it because like you kind of had to date enough and feel secure that you Can get attention so that you don't have like this kind of scarcity mindset that to be honest a lot of People and particularly Asian guys can have right because there's not a lot of Asian dudes out there That are getting a lot of attention and we understand this because I document this very clearly on this channel Yeah, so like did was that did that take some time to come around to that? Yeah, I mean it took some time as obviously be an Asian guy There's a lot of issues with how we were perceived and you know, I live in the bay Andrew it was predominantly male predominantly Asian male and I felt like a lot of guys were very Insecure sometimes and almost treated me like a thread and I'm here like hey We're supposed to work together, but honestly, we're not obviously, you know, you can't control how people like uh, hey Excuse me jack. Uh, you know, there's not a lot of uh, how do I say fellas like you in the bay area? Uh, you know, we're usually all just real regular guys here Yeah, so somebody like six two like yeah, yeah, I mean they're like, hey, this is our field You know like there's like my friend my friend said this was kind of like revenge of the nerds. It was like You know and no disrespect to those guys, but there was a feeling of that right? It felt like that Yeah, and uh, what did they they probably thought you were just doing the some bodybuilding app out there? Yeah, there was like, you know, what's this guy do why is he here? And I'm like, hey, you know, I'm just trying to be like, you know, one of you guys I work at I worked at instagram like, hey, you know Let me let me in, you know, and they're like no I was like damn I I guess, you know, um Hydism is such uh an accepted form of discrimination Right because like even in the workplace there are studies that show that taller and a particularly also taller and more attractive people They also end up getting more opportunities and possibly getting paid more There's also this story that I read from this woman who felt like That during the pandemic over zoom calls That's when she actually felt the most equal with everybody else because nobody could Discriminate against her 410 height Wow, because she is short 410 is small and in a workplace people are constantly looking down on you Like physically and they can't help but that color how they view you, you know So it's like Hydism is such a thing that everybody just accepts and embraces But you know for it is a very painful thing like you mentioned Yeah, I mean especially for a lot of like I'm 5 9 so I'm not the shortest asian dude And I might present even as 5 10, you know because my hair. I think you're taller. I think you got the 5 10 I'm definitely 5 9. I am not taller than 5 9 trust me, but But you know, I got a lot of friends that are 5 4 right, you know, and they're always like, man, man Nah, man. I can't do that. I'm too short. I can't do that and it's it's definitely um It's definitely real guys. There's some funny comments from the internet. Let's talk about this guys, uh When tall girls can't find themselves tall guys because the short girls took them all Can you it's funny? Because being very tall for a woman can actually play against you just like being very short as a man. Yes, right? But I think the difference is like because if you're like a tall asian woman, right? Let's say you're 5 10 Like and you want a guy who's clearly taller than you then you're really looking at like six foot asian guys, right? And there are six foot asian guys, but not a ton and also they might be dating shorter women that are like 5 3 5 4 Right, it's possible right because those shorter women are like really like they really love the tall guys Not all of them, but yeah, you know So I and then also on on another end, you know the short guys They don't have options because if you're 5 2 and you're a guy And you need to be taller than a girl. How many what's the market of women that you you can Probably pull from right? Um Because these are all these are all real life dating dynamics guys Yeah, I mean I think back to what you were saying it was like heightism is accepted, right? It's kind of unfair because a lot of people are born this way, right? And and it's kind of like racism unless we hear Uh, how these people are feeling and how we can be more just empathetic and compassionate Then we don't know how to help exactly. Yo this funny comment I can imagine all the tall girls and short guys are gathering at a bar to vent their frustrations over height attraction Sounds like a fun party I've seen some parties like that. I think they're like rigid dudes and uh, you know models Definitely they exist. Yeah, those those couples exist. All right. So, uh, and then there's this other comment That's like tall good-looking Asian guys should date outside of the Asian pool Just like tall good-looking Asian women often do Right. So now they're kind of saying like Even though Asian guys in general and you and you can even Confirm this that even as a taller, you know, handsome Asian guy You can still say that you felt discriminated against just for being Asian Absolutely, even at your tier, right? Yeah now, but a lot of taller good-looking Asian women They probably often do date outside of the Asian ethnicity and the Asian community So then this comment saying like yo you Asian guys who can should it's your duty, man Yeah, think about that. I you know, I It didn't come to me like that's not natural thought But like after hearing it it kind of makes sense Like we should deviate from what is expected from us, right? We should see and and expand if we're able to So that's what I think I guess at the end of the day And we're going to get into our takeaways and wrap this video up. Hopefully it was a good conversation But like do do should Asian guys tall, you know Above average Asian guys should they feel some responsibility not to date super short women that Should be or could also be dating shorter Asian guys Yeah, you know, honestly back to what you said. Let's love who you want But It's your job. It's our job to create a better experience for everyone and that is you know being considerate of your short Asian friends You privilege guy, you got privilege. I'm sorry Um So I guess guys overall I got some takeaways obviously I want to note that not all tall Asian guys are The same privilege, you know, they don't not all Asian guys are super desired You know, some of them, you know are have their own issues So I don't want to just say a blanket statement like all tall Asian guys are in a way way better position, right? Because it also depends on the family you're from how you look how you act how you raise your education level, right? Motion levels. Yeah, but yeah, I do think that tall Asian guys Uh Shouldn't shy away from this conversation because being tall amongst Asians, especially it comes with certain perks Okay, it does come from with certain advantages, but it also comes with some responsibilities You got to also be partially you're expected to be more of the protector jack Yeah, you know some stuff goes down a tense situation. You got to get in there and kind of Break it up. I guess yeah, I felt like I've always had that responsibility But I also feel like hey man, like let's just create a good experience You know look out for your friends, you know, like make sure everyone is is is having a good time and has has a chance to You know talk to the pretty girl. Yeah All right, everybody Again, share this video with a tall Asian friend of yours. Let us know in the comments down below what you think about this Did you find this conversation helpful? Um, and yeah, just what's your thoughts like are you a tall or short Asian person? You know personally for me. I actually I actually prefer to date women that are between five four and five eight That's kind of And I've dated women my height before it doesn't I don't know. I guess I I guess I kind of like it for some reason. That's just what I'm attracted to Everybody has their preferences. Again, you you fall in love with who you want to love and make the healthy connections But uh, you know, maybe as tall good-looking Asian guys, you have some responsibility there Yeah, it almost doesn't feel like we have that much responsibility because you know, we I feel like as Asian man There is so many discrimination towards us But like yes, you know hearing all the feedback seeing these comments is like, yeah, we do have some responsibility here All right, everybody. Thank you so much. Shout out to jack. You can check out his instagram down below Um, let us know what you thought and until next time we out. Peace