 how is the relationship between the father and the mother and that's extremely important as well sometimes you have a house a family where the father is always arguing with the mother or the mother is also arguing with the father that kind of argumentative environment is not very healthy for the children you find the children are always intense now people say no no we're fine thank god nothing is wrong no they can read your face those of you who have children you notice children can read your face if you're upset immediately they'll come you know they'll realize you're upset and if you're happy they know that you're happy so if they see you intense fighting with the father or the mother the whole time what do you think the environment in the house is whereas look at the environment and the relationship in the house of فاطمة and امير المؤمنين عليهم السلام what kind of one last night i mentioned in حديث الكساء السلام عليك يا بنت رسول الله وعليك السلام ويا ابل حسن ويا امير المؤمنين يا فاطمة اني اشب مو عندك رائع what a beautiful conversation you know سلام how are you your kids and so on so forth even when امام علي عليه السلام in those days when he did not have much money and they did not have much food for the children فاطمة علي سلام would not fight with him where is the food you keeping us hungry for three days where is the food she'd never do that and when he asked her why haven't you told me يا بنت رسول الله that you have not had food for three days she said i did not want to burden you يا امير المؤمن i didn't want to add to your pressure i know you don't have much you know so god the beautiful environment in the house this is something important you have issues to discuss as a father and a mother try not to do it in the front of the children try to once they go to sleep for example to discuss your issues and try to solve your issues always have communication but try to solve these issues in a manner that does not reflect and impact the children you just need a little bit of patience my brothers and sisters a little bit of patience these days we unfortunately don't have any patience we don't have any patience the minute she said one word خلص i'll answer her with 10 words and then she'll answer back with 100 words and so on so forth خلص that's and then we'll call it quits مع السلامة you go your own way i'll go my own way so many cases of divorce that are happening these days when i speak to the man to the woman you find this is the essence of it you know just be patient a little bit she says a word خلص okay sorry i beg your forgiveness even though she might be wrong or if he says a word even though he might be wrong just say i'm sorry i apologize you know it's okay please forgive me for this فاطمة الزهراء عليه السلام on the last day of her life she called امام عليه عليه السلام and she said يا يا امير المؤمنين if i have said anything or done anything to wrong you please forgive me and he cried and he said يا فاطمة ما رأي إلا جميلة i did not see but beauty from you what are you talking about and he answers her he says نعم يا سيدتي yes my master يا سيدتي when in fact he is the say it because now رسول الله has died he is the امام he is the امام of الزهراء عليه السلام yet he calls it يا سيدتي look at the status of the الزهراء سلام الله عليه look at the respect between the husband and the wife this is the اخلاق وينا is this how we talk at home is this the language we speak at home you know i see some men laughing it's like yeah right whatever i will tell my wife my mastery i sure you know so the hadith says when a husband tells his wife i love you he owns her heart in other words he's يجب on the husband to say i love you to your wife and sometimes show love not only with words with actions if she's too tired for example she's tired she's a human being at the end of the day too just like you but no i expect her to be a machine you know i can get tired but hawaii cannot get tired you know she has to cook clean do the laundry do everything look after the children everything that's yeah that's her responsible i know i come for more come tired خلاص i go asleep that's it and i have to wake up and the food has to be on the table already everything is ready she's a human being also she gets tired if she's too tired you say you know what i'll do the dishes tonight no problem i'll do the laundry today no problem help each other she wakes up and she finds the dishes are all done that's a gesture of respect a gesture of love this is something important this is what we find in the house of فاضم and اميغ المومين عليه وسلم such kind of respect this is kind of relationship that's here in the house