 Ha ha ha! This is our true course, you can go in the jungle, get a camera, as if I can see myself, to make sure that I look suitable and presentable for you. Thank you so very much for staying with us on Why in the Morning. We have posted at 7 am, we are going to end at around 10 am. This is Queen's Wednesday, we are currently talking about loving ourselves, and we invite you to interact with us at Y254 on Facebook, at Y254 channel on Twitter. Hashtag is Y in the morning. So originally I'll tell the truth, originally the topic was gonna be something like body shaming, but we decided to put a bit more positive spin on it. So it's loving you. And I think there are a couple of layers into how someone should love themselves, or how someone gets to love themselves. But we're gonna focus on two things today too. Now since Nisquia was down now, we're gonna talk about what ladies like to talk about. Okay, help me welcome my panelists. Hi, guys. Hello. My name is Zoe. Wow, I like it. Let's start with you. What's your name? My name is Joy. I'm from there. What do you do, Joy? Currently, I'm a student at Libs College, but I've finished doing journalism and mass communication. So you talk one app around this house? Amen. Hey, Queen, how are you? I'm fine, thank you. What is your name? Stacy. What do you do, Stacy? I'm a student at the State University, communication, yes. Hey, where can we find you on social media? At Stacy86 on Instagram and at Stacyadion on Facebook. It's a hot babe, 3,010. I don't have one. I don't have one. On Instagram, it's under GoJoy. On Facebook, it's JoyasJoy. See, brown skin, 55. Wow, King, welcome to the group. Please don't feel overwhelmed as we have enough love for the boy child also. What do they call you out there? My name is Jesse Muirore. I'm in the insurance industry as an assistant administrator. Insurance, eh? Assurance, how do we do that? Kind of like this one. Social media? On Twitter, it's at jess underscore Muirore on Instagram, it's at Muirore. All right, so if you caught us when we were just starting the show, I did a little shout out to a queen phenomena. Me fan dem, oh my gosh, hi, first of all, and good morning, and thank you for watching Y254. But as we continue, as we wrap up Girl's Talk, I will be showing a couple of pictures of girls or ladies or women, however you'd like to refer to them. How it looks to love yourself, like, after loving yourself, it's nice, okay? What do you guys understand by loving yourself? Okay, for me, basically, it's just believing you who you are. You know, loving yourself is just a prize, but loving, people loving you, it's a bonus in life. But you really loving yourself, it's just a really big prize, yeah. What do you think loving yourself is? For me, I think loving yourself has to do with appreciating yourself for who you are, and also appreciating your body and your insecurities embracing them. What do you think loving yourself is? For me, loving yourself is all about having a chat with yourself, knowing the kind of person that you are, both in and out, and also taking care of yourself in terms of what you eat, how you carry yourself to other people and to yourself as well. I once met a monk who told me that energy is not supposed to go like this. It's first, that's how energy is supposed to flow, so you receive and then you give it out because you can't give something you don't have. We have a question, and it's on a slide, and at White Fairfax on Facebook, at White Fairfax on Twitter, hashtag is white in the morning. So the first question is, what is something that you are insecure about? We're talking about appreciating yourself physically. So what are you insecure about? Or were insecure about? I've met people who don't like their foreheads. Personally, I didn't like my hair at some point. I went to high school, I don't even think I liked myself. Like, I was round, guys, round. Like, their shapes. They were like, I'm the one with the shapes. So I did, I really did not like myself and I had a very, very hard time, you know. You know, you can't even have a normal conversation because you're there thinking, ah, look, street, how? Oh my gosh, am I offending them? Like, ah, it's nonsense school. Are you insecure about something? At a particular time, I really just didn't love my face. As you can see, it's just round. I'm round, I like the hair. Thank you, thank you. It's an evil, and then you just appreciate yourself. Stylist is against that, okay? Just put them, believe in you, work high-heard. Ah? New York. So, how do you deal with people who don't like themselves and don't like themselves? And I can't remember who's the one who's the one who's the one. How do you deal with that? How did you come to deal with that? For me, I'm a Christian, yeah. And in Psalm 139, verse 14, it says that we were wonderfully and created by God. And so, you're supposed to know, you know God is our creator, and there you should know that in chanzo that this is the beginning, that God created you in his own image and that you should accept who you are, you should accept yourself in no matter what people tell you, yeah. Oh my gosh, look at her shining. Yeah, oh my gosh, where was this? And why do you look so fly? Wow, I see, guys, please love yourself, okay? This is just an example of how, how wonderful. Eh! When will I cut this up? Hey! Hey! Okay, okay. Hey, okay. Hey, that's me. Hey, Masaya impressing me out there. Thank you, my super team up there. All right, are you insecure about something? Okay, that is the wrong question. What are you insecure about? Because everyone is insecure about something. Really? Everyone. I don't think there's something I'm insecure about. I don't think there's something I'm insecure about. I think Dressalba Sahi, maybe he wishes his nose was smaller. Hmm? Ah, hi, hi, hi. I don't think there's something I'm insecure about. Like me, since I grew up, I grew up in Nizali. And by the time I realized who I am and appreciating my body, I think I've just loved myself the way I am. Like when I was a kid, I've never wished to be like CG, but I don't want to say I'm old. Plus size. So you want to put pressure on your body. No, I can't imagine whether you have sports. Taking sports, I don't think I'm insecure about myself. As if I'm a GB, we cannot just do that. Let us prosper in peace. I don't think I'm insecure about myself. Like I wouldn't say I'm having security to do with my body because I don't depend on anyone. I've never, never. And you know, that's beautiful because that translates into, I don't know men as a Kujakwambe. I don't like the way you look. Your hips are too small. Well, it's not too small. In fact, it's not too small for women. It's not too small. But if you're a G-panda, you don't let that get to you. That is key, girls. Ladies and gentlemen, that is what this topic is about. You must, in Baku GMB or something, tell yourself to be... Wait, wait. Sister's Tonga, you'll just be surprising me. Okay, let us look at her pose. Please. Wow. All right. How are you? I'm fine, I'm fine. Nyeri? Yes. I'm from California. How about you, Ruaga? I like that, man. Thank you. So, guys, understand. Once, as a lady, when you're a G-panda, you say, okay, I like my face. I like my hair. I like my hips. I like my legs the way they are. So, anyway, in terms of Kujakwambe, you say, oh, I don't know what you're doing. So, it's okay. I see the future. I see the future for you. I see the future for you. I see the future for you. I see the future for you. I see the future for you. I see the future for you. I see the future for you. I see the future for you. More than most. Really? Yeah, more than they'd like to admit. That's why I don't know what I'm doing. Eh, Nakwa Garia. Tell me, what kind of insecurities do you guys have? Most times, it's... Most times, and often, it's not about how you look. It's about what you have or what you could have. Maybe you're small. You're body-sized. But then, there's a bigger dude. Taller. Ooh! Tall, dark and handsome. She's well-bleached. Yeah, beard. Now, I'm very good at this. It's okay. I don't have to go to school. I can't afford to go to school. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's why I don't go to school. Yeah, that's why you're working. So, for guys, it's more how you look and how you feel on the inside and how other people have this view of how you should be. Because you find that there's come this ideal, the same way you're saying now. The previous guest was saying, African ladies are supposed to be Kavi, Kriken, Ni, Ni. The same way nowadays, there's a standard. If you're not tall, dark and handsome. Get out of here. Get out of here. Guys, make all these... Oh, my God! And this one is handsome. Please. Out of the way, it's very handsome. Wow! Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey. Tell him you... Okay. You guys, eh? Come back and I'll take you out to America, too. Come back, you have swagger. Wow! I'm about to ask you guys over there on inside the TV, please. I try to perform on Facebook, I try to perform on Twitter, hashtag is where the morning please send me a nice-looking picture of yourself. I try to celebrate. I'm Anna Ganye. Alright. I'm Braio from BG. I'm from DEM, Hwangezah. Hagan, I'm sorry. restlessness Oh, like this is now a kind of question. Why do girls get enhanced? So, why do you think such ladies do it? Basically We ladies we try to live like what the world has said for us Again, we want to be those socialized people and so we try to defeat The life that is in the world is is bringing you. I'm at the face in you and so like About the um, um, realizing yourself knowing who you are as in Instagram Accept yourself I have a very special question for you. Um, I I am aware that versitica Lighten she's lightened herself Do you think that's that's a sign of being empowered or an insecurity? Because What do you think that translates into I feel like by the time if he care someone wants to Sorry, someone wants to change their skin tone It has to do with insecurity more than being empowered because for example if Um And then we realize that we have a particular hang-up joint when you took yander Mostly guys will probably approach you. I'm approaching me single There's that insecurity that will crop in What is it that these guys see in you that they don't see me So it will make me want to be like you that is like if you're insecure about yourself So I think I don't have much to say about versitica. It was her choice And maybe she wanted to feel nice about herself I can't believe she's going to be okay. And I mean I'm a manager. I'm a financial She's attracted the views So I think she wanted to do what's making her happy They did a documentary on the same A very extensive one about bleaching and they went as far as And then what surprised me is The the most vocal of them was a guy It made him happy like it it made him feel you know better I didn't know that it's that deep for guys You don't you don't cry in front of people Supposed to be the strong one That's that's where you learned all these things how to relate with other people So if you're told as a man, you're not supposed to do this. You're not supposed to do you're not supposed to open the show love Then even if it's about a grow kid you are now you do it a core mentality Again, sometimes you may change Social media may come you know come the pressure and it's inevitable. It's only inevitable that they get to you So And you try and find other ways That's a human foot Father your sons are lying to us You've not seen the scripts Grow back your hair you've been bald a lot food is another there's there's a hair growth for for beer But I don't know if it works disclaim. I don't know if it works, but it's there. So you guys will try anything More than they like to admit Wow All right, so show me don't make guza Mali, but before we get there. Hi, Val. I'm just from rungai I think men make us insecure. They try to change us to be like the exes or dream women women advisories. Wow, that's deep Oh, the king has said no no why disagree Women are the all-nice enemies So you're there you're wondering why am I not I teach you Your friends want to approach Now even when you're not you find that women they're not really friends. They're just friends Yes, I don't like that mess and that the people I let around me who are female. They need to be some type of wait I got to is equal at Yeah Your your friend will let you go go out looking like that. What's even worse? I've seen situations. Sorry for cutting you short. I've seen situations where maybe to mend a place maybe Body tight like body con kind of dress Ladies please please please because the difference between having a dress and a Chanel dress We are doing it for ourselves We are a brand it's basically for each other So king you've refused. It's not your fault. It's our fault as as much as a guy will tell we will say And I admit but Eight times out of ten. It's the pressure is coming from the female side Not that because a guy with me But we if you choose to do it But if your friends Dress some type of way But I feel like The pressure from the guys is more than the pressure from the ladies You know, this is someone of the opposite sex someone I want to interact with Hey, I imagine in you five years from now You know, there's a way you start feeling So I feel like as much as It doesn't happen to all women by the I think it's all about also knowing your circle Not every woman is jealous of the other Bless your heart for knowing them too Bless it Queen you must wake up and realize like flowers can grow together. That's how a garden is made That means for example, she is shining in her own right. She is shining in her own right. We are shining together like I don't It won't take away from my shine for you to look good. Yeah, in fact, it complements I But this is a morning show. So how do I edit this? He feels that He is a bit too brief when when it comes to intimacy. So he has a bit of an insecurity about it. So how Do we assist him? Said his name is Dennis then Daniel's son from ember. Yeah First of all, you the fact that I admit the that's already a step in the right direction But um, you know, it's a step in the right direction. So my advice is to explore other things Before you like make the extent the the whole process I'm talking about four plays. So Teach yourself my my brother Gifu is a four play like really get good at it because once the woman is satisfied Well, shine on with your 92nd of film She will not remember Wow, okay, okay, okay. Wow. All right, um women are their own enemies They don't empower themselves what you pendent or pendre. Yeah, we we are working on that. Thank you Hey, but this is not about loving ourselves. So maybe it's All right, so we are going to move on from appreciating yourself physically to being aware of your emotions and and to keep to key to key to it We are very Difficult a little bit because what I'm trying to bring out is what standard corner emotions mean. Natus Kata, please I'm not I'm not blaming you for being emotional. I'm just Acknowledging that we have emotions. We have menses every month. That means our hormones are imbalanced for sure We are going to change within ourselves other. We like it or not Things are just going to affect us. Can you climb it? I Because you know how you're feeling uncomfortable, you know So now this one comes and say Suddenly now it's a whole different thing. How do we become aware of our emotions so that at least we remain pleasant to be around Okay, fully just as in stay calm We're doing as in Anger when I lead to sin as the word Bible says And so as in when when someone tells you As in your body, you know, what you're going through and what what and then someone says Okay Um Or you find yourself maybe um You've you've done something first of maybe maybe you're working out Maybe a little bit Like it should Bro Maybe I had I had a friend. Um, she was in a relationship. It was new. It was new and so boyfriend She was telling he was telling her that I Like you should reduce your your your belly that uh equal to a march So she was like But do is he mean on electric brick, but I was telling her Please love yourself. It's important. It's really important today when again when we're starting the show There was a story about a guy a guy who was killed by I think his wife or No, he was slashed on his head with a bang or something because of a quarrel over money Like yes, uh, economy But no Then why are you getting so angry that you're slashing someone's face? This is being aware of your emotions. What do you do when you find yourself getting upset? Um The important thing you could do as a person once you know yourself you'll be able to understand your emotions There are people when they are angry. They'll walk away Kunalua think even if they're angry. They want to like address it there and then So if you find yourself you're in a relationship with such a person like for example Um, let me use me as an example. I'm the kind of person when I if I'm angry. I'm a if I have an issue I want to address it then then Stuck it to laleka to jonga and maybe the person I'm dating is someone when I say See you're getting to my nerves. Nini. Nini shut up to me. I was an ajua tempazake Nimbaya So it's also more to do with understanding each other And then once you're able to understand each other it a bidi mojawenu If it's me, I'll just decide okay fine easy They won't take us anywhere because the more like I continue shouting in Nini He might even end up Um Let me just go out and see my friends So it's a matter of knowing yourself knowing that emotions because enough you can get at this point And you know the things that should do emotions and even try and avoid them This conversation Like what a woman at home booking a mother Imagine you won't at the field pain. Just relax because I can give you Examples after examples. There was this lady beautiful very beautiful. First of all committed suicide because aliyah I don't know what kind of insecurity that was scare them longer It's it's it's we laugh, but it's not funny. You know someone is no longer with us simply because I don't know. I like when I scare maybe she's not worthy and you're so beautiful. I say There's someone praying for you. Who's it you? Please relax. Okay? Relax. You are loved. No. I'm coming back to GMB. I am I am Beautiful. Yes. I am in fact. That's our next Nini. That's our next Umbrella, this is the umbrella that was the next point after it Like could you torture it has to be out loud Your words are very powerful and you must believe what you tell yourself before you listen to what someone else is about you Yeah And you say it out loud repeat say it out loud. Yes. So what do you say? What do you tell yourself when you wake up? For me, I just look myself at the mirror and say joy go for it That this is your day. Like Oh How would you speak life into yourself my god to every day No, like if they ask me a question Me do let me say Like I just believe in myself so much in it. I I don't think someone can just bring me down easily Do you know how wonderful that that's no one can take that away from you? King do you prep yourself for the day Handsome boy Yeah, killer every morning Well, it's not really about words for me. We would you go tear took a cure And you're gonna leave you like three seconds Think about what you're planning for the day and then just give myself a fist bump and then I'm off But there's something there's something that you must tell yourself in the morning. Please let it be good Be kind to yourself Be nice. All right. So we have a couple of questions. I'm going to read really quickly and then we wrap this up at Wow, good morning. How do I deal with an insecure boyfriend? How if you weren't insecure boyfriend, how would you like your girlfriend to deal with you? Uh Yoshida you have to understand it stems from key to early experience in the past so Me when I okay based on what I've what I've done in school. I did psychology and sociology So me that you are and I love the thought process and how when you have curious eye It is a result of when you're learning your experiences throughout life. If it's in a relationship It's past relationships. So come on if the chick is aware that how boyfriend is insecure Uncle is yet to change this you you do this and It it's you know, yes So just talk to me we will address it because if it's a relationship then it's not your problem It then becomes our problem. So me neither attack who can you confront? I'll be scared at first like you can even use Last time I was concerned come on. I'm just crying. I love the secret one and the problem not know me It says you have beer. Maybe I'm machine.com beer is fellow dudes But who need who need them young so me neither attack and you lose and I can lose I'll be hesitant at first like you need to catch me then you talk about it even if it takes time to open up At a company at work. Last month I was recognized machine. I will see you say marty Where can I when I'm on a guy to come back? Yeah And don't shave me go with them Wow, but yeah, I feel like if you do not You say more if you do not heal on those who cut you you'll bleed on those who did not like if you do not heal on those Who hurt you you'll bleed on those who did not cut you So I feel by the time when I'm working with relationship now, of course, what what what to open down or to watch Anna? It's not money. It's life. But you can't work here at Chika Amen, who's she? Exactly. Who's she? Try to find now your journey in solitude. You know relationships You do not have time with yourself to love yourself. Appreciate yourself You do not have time with yourself to love yourself So that you can position that you're now ready for the next relationship. That is what makes most relationships this is work And the way he's saying Okay, he was talking about guys having its securities and talking to them Oh, yeah, yeah come on. I do your personal very well. I don't think it's ideal to have insecurities come on. I do them Yeah, um people have insecurities maybe with um The way they are women dress The kind of job that they do But come on up and down to if you can listen up and down to you've dealt with your insecurities I don't think it's easy for you to have insecurities. Of course Because you can claim to have insecurities deal, but it's a minimal So what were jailed to? Nakama, Nakama if you as a chick Chaliya ko ezi ko angale shabot iz iwi tu Wepia lasmu mo diyangali Coz kamu no na honestly akona shida lakini hai zi pwambia Lasmu yo ni kipu Santana, jo pa ni mi nima laika Apana laika Sabu question Okay, well you as the chick you recognize your your boyfriend has some insecurities But he's unable to share them with you Also don't push him Ten years and therapy. You can't heal everyone. You can't heal. What do you do? Okay, this is aside from relationship, boy-girl relationship, even your sister or your friend who's a girl or your friend who's a guy. What happens if they're hurting on the inside and you're really doing all the best that you possibly can do to help them. But when you're hurting, now you're the one. Because hurting people hurt people in turn. What do you do there? And whether you do know there are some girls who do really not talk, like how I do to it. When you're trying to appear the boy child, appear there are some girls. And it's not nice. Yeah, because then the next thing you hear someone was stabbed. That's the end. Why are you putting things inside? Remover. Remover. I laugh when I say, I don't remember what happened. My guys, please fix yourself. Fix yourself. All these years of education, man say. All these years of education and no one taught us how to love ourselves. Please allow me, allow us to help you, to walk you through that journey. And with these life skills, it's like a must. It's like an institution. Curriculum. What is it? It's nothing. It's nothing. It's just a shift. It's nothing. Nothing can save money. These things should be ingrained in us from school. What is equal to MxI, plus C, MxI. What is equal to MxMx, plus C, universities, universities, universities, universities, ... What does that mean? What does it mean? Hurry up! That is almost done. That's it. I was just starting out, but now we are winding up. Let's wind this up. Your last words perhaps, or let me start here so we can finish the clip. Would you like to tell the audience? for me just love yourself that's what I can say love yourself and know who you are know the journey that is ahead of you know like the previous guests that she has said that the footprints that you're leaving behind let them make an impact yeah that's what I can say Believe in yourself Germany Germany and pray pray works God is the king Wow it a bit more coca-twenty came Dunyansima we are more than seven billion people but none of us have the same fingerprints not identical excuse me coming for you no but you don't have the same thing up so all of us are unique so it's all about recognizing yourself as a unique being you only have one version of you there's no clone there's no two point wherever weakness is in the words of my dad who's watching have a meeting with yourself you can go through whether you believe in God as I do or you believe in evolution all of us evolve differently otherwise we would all be you don't look the same so we depend on you and affirm it to yourself words are very powerful if you don't believe it look at the placebo effect maybe what you confess you possess here with Domina Monico for today oh my gosh at 254 on Facebook at 254 channel on Twitter hashtag is wine the morning there has been overwhelming messages coming through thank you so very much I'm sorry we couldn't get to read all of them but I want you to take this home with you imagine you're amazing like imagine you're amazing you might be as crazy as I don't know but mungu and up and that means you have a purpose all right King Queen please don't go away I want you to have a fantastic week on Wednesday so midweek onwards but I want the rest of us to come and say bye properly