 Recently I was introduced to a coaching tool known as the balance wheel and I tried out myself, I tried it together with my girlfriend and we both enjoyed the exercise, the tool very much, so I decided to not only go through whatever I discovered personally in the process, but also just my insights and thoughts of why I feel it's a great tool to suggest you to try it out as well. So the balance wheel, it's a wheel actually, well this is how it looks. This is my girlfriend and me, we did it together. I'm obviously using editing magic, you're seeing the scores and everything on the screen. So it's basically a wheel, a circle where there are different sections, career, money, health, family and friends, etc. and you ask yourself how satisfied are you in that particular field and you give a number and based on that number you create, you put a line or kind of a circle of line and then at the end of the exercise you, first of all you see how bumpy, I think the one of the questions whoever introduces the exercise asks how bumpy would it be to use that type of wheel, you know if it's really out of balance and then different shapes, but what it also does wonderfully and it definitely did for me and my girlfriend, it's made me become more conscious about you know what aspects am I actually not as satisfied about and to naturally ponder and ask myself the question of what would make the difference, like what could be the solution, the step, the action which would take and level up the number, why am I not satisfied, like it's just creates so much consciousness, so much awareness that helps you navigate on your life and maybe understand better what am I not so happy about and where can I, again what can I do about it to make it better and also I read a bit more about the balance wheel and there was a good question posed as well that it makes you ask so what number would actually satisfy me and why is that enough, so there's so many questions that naturally pop up and it just gives you such a great chance to basically just know yourself better, understand yourself better and potentially lead to action, so that's kind of the setup of the balance wheel but I always, whenever I share something, it's always important for me to share from personal experience, so to not be like oh I will tell you what's right and what's wrong, but instead to do this together, like we're sitting here together drinking coffee by this tree and exploring my answers, so you would be encouraged to explore yours, so let's do this. So if we take a look at the wheel, starting off with, let's start with career, I don't know why I'm starting with career but I guess that's the first one I filled up to or that's the one which caught my eye and both me and my girlfriend we chose pretty much the same number, she wrote three and a half which is even less, I wrote four and that's if you're following this channel, if you're following this journey currently, you're not living in the future, you're not like in 2022 looking back and saying oh that's how Rokas was and now he's awesome but you know that I am in a challenging life situation where I'm not happy with what's happening and it's really fascinating, this part is fascinating because, actually checking the sound, okay, so this part is really fascinating because technically my career is actually doing quite good, like the Mars Large Journey YouTube channel has 100, my main channel, my main YouTube channel has 100, 3,500,000 subscribers, it keeps getting regular reviews without any effort put in, I receive a good amount of money from it and it's just like you know on that level, like I am creating influence, I am having positive influence in people's kind of Mars Large Journey so there's so much good stuff there but that's what I want more, that's not what I want now, it was satisfying before but now I'm in a space where again you may know that already I want to create positive change outside of Martial Arts and I'm not happy with the capacity of what I am capable of giving and that's why I'm so focused on learning right now and exploring and finding better tools, finding better answers and I feel like I'm not delivering the value that I want on the level that I want, this journey is still just building up and I really am happy with the connection we have, you and me as we're sitting here together and the number of views I'm getting, they're satisfying but my earning is so much more bigger and I feel like I'm incapable of giving as much as I want so all of that just makes me put a four and if I talk about my girlfriend, she's a professional singer, she just finished her master's degree and she's actually in my eyes she's successful but again on her standards that's the same thing, the same thing I guess it shows how much perception plays, how big of a part perception plays a role in this is, you know she doesn't feel successful and she doesn't, she's not having as many concerts as she would like to, she's not reaching as many people as she'd like to so we're kind of in a similar situation here, so if we move on to money, money for me seven, I don't feel like I need a lot of money, I keep saying that I'm not a big spender, I earn a decent amount which is enough for me but I didn't write, I didn't go for eight so eight would be ideal for me, I don't need a nine or a ten in my finances, I'm fine with an eight but I chose seven because as you see my girlfriend's number is free, you know she's having a harder time with money and so I want to have more money at the moment to support both, to be able to support myself and her which she doesn't want but I want to have more money just in case so that's why I want to earn a little bit more, I will focus a little bit on earning more money and that's why it's seven not an eight and for her it's a free because again as I said she's not earning by far as much as she wants and not because she wants a lot and she's not earning much but instead she doesn't have like a like a like a source of income which is there all the time let's say if she's having professional concerts, music concerts, they're irregular you sometimes you get them sometimes you don't so that creates a level of uncertainty so oh that I don't want to speak too much for her so I won't I won't go there too much but that's kind of the setup if we look at health I'm happy that we're both I'm nine she's eight I think she probably wrote eight because she feels like she she wants to become more sportive I wrote nine because I don't know why not attend like I'm not like I'm not like all the time energetic probably that's the reason but but I haven't been sick for a long time I feel good so it's nine I'm happy to to be able to see that family and friends I again we were quite similar here so I'm seven she's six for me family and friends I was close to writing eight I guess I felt seven because I haven't seen my parents for a little bit and actually I did this circle at my parents place so I felt actually great and I have a great relationship with my parents I love my parents but I didn't see them as often as I wanted to these last few months so I guess maybe that lowered the number and friends I don't like I would be satisfied with an eight entirely this is again friends is not like an important part of my life I appreciate friends and so on but I don't feel that sense of oh I need to surround myself with friends and all the time meet them up and so on I I just feel like occasionally I like to hang out with friends but that's like again not a big priority in my life and I don't like these days I'm doing goods I live in business capital 20 I have a bunch of my old friends from old times and we meet up and this and that so I feel fine but again like I don't know maybe an eight would be you know maybe having some friends which we we would have more like we would meet up more constantly and maybe those friends would be someone who I would be really like you know looking forward to me I and I don't know maybe maybe that's why it's a seven for my girlfriend it's a six because she's not from around she's from a different city and most of her friends are there family as well and again I don't want to talk too much about for her but basically you know she doesn't hang out with her friends as much as you'd like to there's some family stuff as well so it's a six love and romance again happy wasn't like five and ten I'm like hey I feel our relationship is awesome and she's like it's terrible that'd be a red flag but no actually where I'm 10 she's nine she was actually considering 10 as well I was actually kind of for a moment I was thinking like you know I thought about writing nine but I thought that's kind of more out of humility like like I asked myself so why why shouldn't be why it should not be a 10 and I just couldn't find a reason our relationship is doing really well it's been a year that we're together really wonderful lady that that I'm spending time with we we barely have you know we very rarely we have like like clashes and we work both hard on our relationship so it's just like I have no complaints I mean you know there's always like if I would like to complain about something there's always something I would find but there's nothing which is like deeply in me where I'm like upset so yeah it's a 10 I'm really happy about that and for her it's a nine because it's a discussion we have sometimes I keep telling her we're actually you don't realize that we actually have conflicts very rarely compared to most couples but she had less relationships than I had she has less relationship experience so sometimes she thinks that like if we if we have a clash once per month she thinks that's a lot she thinks that's significant I'm telling you this is nothing so I think just because of that doubt hesitation she wrote nine now personal growth I am at a solid nine because as you may know I'm really focused on learning these days I'm all about going mad and nuts with learning and reading books and writing journals exploring and and I'm enlisted on a eight month coaching course so there's so much happening there's so much I'm investing in personal growth so so yeah it's like I have no trouble with it it's not a 10 just because I recognize that there's ways to go still and I wanted to respect that but but that's the only reason for her it's a six she feels like she wants to learn more like she wants to spend more time developing her singing skills and so on and she feels like she didn't do that as much as she wants to so that's why it's a six fun and recreation we both wrote seven and we actually kind of both I think we both feel fine at seven like eight would be like over the board for me at least because I don't focus I do feel like sometimes I do I do appreciate fun and recreation because then I realized that you know I I spend so much time so much time working and learning especially these days that it's important to sometimes counter it and balance it but we actually both spend most of our fun and recreation together with my girlfriend so I think that's why it's a seven seven we like watch TV shows together we you know go out and have like like like a glass of wine somewhere or some nice lunch or or just you know we do some stuff together and it's both satisfying for for both of us and we feel good at it so it's like seven is actually enough because I also realized that I also maintain a philosophy that if you want to achieve a great amount a great deal of things it's important to sacrifice a little bit of of of stuff too and I'm okay at sacrificing a little bit of friends I'm okay with sacrificing a little bit of fun and recreation so it's like I'm I'm set for that you know I'm like okay with a seven both in there and there and physical environment again very similar I just realized man we have very similar circles besides money so physical environment for me it's a four for her it's a four and a half and that's because we live in an apartment for me it's because we share our apartment so there's like there's free rooms in the apartment and there's two other people living in in the two other rooms our room is quite tiny it's an old house it's it's lovely and it's it's not less than four because it's in the middle of the city center which is amazing to have that luxury but it's an old house not a lot of space we don't have enough space for all our stuff so there's things like that where it's like it's not like this this apartment where you come back and you're like oh it feels so good to be here it's more like it's cozy it's cute artistic but it's not ideal so we're both kind of recognizing that but at the same time we discussed about our circles together and for both of us we realized that we actually at the same time we pay an absurdly low amount of money for for our rent considering that we live in a city center of capital and so we really appreciate that aspect and we both want to make sure we are not spending too much money right now and it's the city center so there's so much good stuff there that that it's a four but we're none of us neither of us is complaining about that or neither of us is upset about that we're not rushing to change that we're much more focused on we want to invest our energy into improving our careers you know she's she's focused on improving her monetary situation her personal growth we want to invest our energy and focus on on those things which matter and for us the physical for me the physical environment was never really that important i lived in a bunch of weird crazy places i slept once in india in a public public bathroom i spent the night there and it was fine for me i guess i do feel like i'm getting older i actually just turned 31 yesterday as i'm recording this video congratulations happy birthday locus so uh having yeah so i do feel like i am getting a bit older and a bit more picky like like part of me does want to move to a place which would be not a shared space which would be more kind of nice space but at the same time it's not a big priority so if that opportunity happens i'll be like okay let's do this but i'm not in a rush so that's how the wheel of the bounce wheel looks on my end uh try it out i'm going to leave a link below on where to find this example explanation uh check it out do it let me know in the comments you know how how it goes through you i found it to be a really nice tool and i hope also to just just hearing me you know sharing an honest exploration of my wheel may be encouraging for you to try it out as well so that's the most i can help for hope for so let's connect up in the comments and i'll see you next time