 Hoping this here working. Let me see now here. I know this is a random time 10 40 a.m But what I want to do is come on here and sorry about that. I muted my microphone Want to come on here and shoot this live so that way I don't have to record it and then upload it So I know some of y'all work from home But some of you got to go into work, but wanted to come on here and Do a little talk because I And it's an open chat, you know, not just the the bless tribe, but Want to come on here. So we have other individuals in the chat So y'all mind your manners if you're not in the bless tribe because a lot of times I go live It's just only the bless tribe can chat and to join the bless tribe. You'll see it under the video where it says join But wanted to come on here and do like a follow-up. I just did one on Instagram From the interview I posted yesterday on the community page That I had on the know for sure podcast so this isn't a Q&A just kind of like a recap of that interview and It was very real, you know, it was a real interview and They were very welcoming and respectful and for me it was different getting outside of my element and going out and talking on a podcast that You know talks about God and things of that nature but could also be seen as secular because of you know profanity and topics of conversation, but That's what you know, I don't judge anybody and that's what I feel we are Supposed to do to go into different audiences in different places and spread a word and Glory you might be coming in A little late some people watching this from the beginning Where I had muted my thing So y'all forgive me. Can y'all hear me right now though cuz I glory probably talking about she probably watching it from the beginning And so if you can hit me right now, I'm not gonna be really Paying too much attention to the chat. Okay All right We got a lot of new people in here who not in the bless tribe because the option today I didn't give it to me normally when I go live I can just put only members, but for some reason YouTube changed their their settings from the phone from the app So this everybody in the chat so y'all forgive them who may not Know how this work But on there I was looking and what I do sometimes is try to See what the comment say just so I can address some of the things and the first thing I will say is When when a conversation is directed to a certain Gender we need to sit in that and let it be that so The young lady asked me be Simone asked me do all men cheat She asked me do all humans cheat. She asked me do men and women cheat the same She said do all men cheat and so in answering that question I'm addressing men, but a lot of times what happened is when we do that It's always people who say well, what about the women and do women cheat and all of those things so it's kind of like You know Be real Please don't come on here or promoting people stuff. We don't know I don't know who the people you're talking about and so, you know Don't y'all come on on here promoting just random people cuz you taking my life and you driving people to Somebody I don't even know and so that ain't they ain't what we do here And that's normally why just the bless tribe in here commenting because people outside of the bless trial Don't really understand the the mission and the message over here So if you're not familiar with the chat, just don't just don't say nothing in the chat, you know just kind of watch the the video and You know, it's all right for y'all to listen and Still feeling like you have to chat Be in the chat and so what we have to get to the point is where we can start to Sit in what we sitting in so if the message for the man Let it be for the man if the message for the women, let it be for the women because until we can have that Individual accountability we can't really Get anywhere. We can't really do anything because as long as men are blaming women and women are blaming men We just running in circles. We stand in the same place. So understand that Another thing that was misunderstood is what tapping into purpose means and tapping in the purpose does not mean Just being out in the streets Serving the homeless tapping in the purpose could mean being a stand-up man a good father for your children a husband could be your purpose and Your job could also be your purpose Your life and just leaving a legacy could be your purpose and to be tapped in means that you have discipline You have self-love you have self-control and that's what a lot of people didn't understand and people were saying Oh, you know, it means you know It means To be faithful, you got to have self-love. You got to have discipline. That's what tapping in the purpose means it's one in the same and That's the thing that until men come to a place and I don't believe this is true for women because a lot of people say women cheat just as much as men and typically the only people who say that are cheating women like loose women and Men who have been cheated on? They've been hurt But one thing you won't hear a Man who has played the field a Man who has been out in the field and tried to sleep with multiple women You won't hear in the multiple women meaning women of all races and classes and all those different things you won't hear those men say Women cheat just as much as men because if you've ever been that guy Then you know how many times you got turned down because a woman says I have a boyfriend Or I have a husband and she goes she's gone about her business And so once you understand that then you start to see, you know, you start to realize That that's not true But how many women have you talked to? Who have told you? Hey Women Men cheat less than women meaning she's tried to talk to me Meaning she's tried to talk to me and And men have turned her down over and over and over because they said I have a girlfriend You don't often time see that and that's where we need to get to I saw a guy in the comments He was saying that if the two hosts Told me they want to do this or do that to me that I wouldn't have turned that down and That's our problem in our society is that we don't even believe that men could be faithful We don't even believe that men can grow that man could change and Some people come and they say well, oh How you get married and then you know you go cold turkey and In the interview I talked about my first two years of marriage It's like that that weaning off period like that period where you still in limbo that period where you still wondering Hey, is this for me? Is this marriage for me? Never in there Did I say I Cheated on my wife or I was a cheater. I said them first two years is where I still was learning and growing and Kind of went through explaining that but a lot of times we don't Really listen and pay attention to that and that's that's where we have to be real that because The problem that hurts so many Relationships and the reason why so many relationships come to an abrupt end is because of the fairy tales so the fairy tales that we have where people come and They are in a place of they don't understand where They cannot See the reality of love and so they come into a relationship and women just think that oh a Man is just automatically because he got married He's automatically gonna be faithful and faithfulness is gonna be easy and that because he loves me He sees nothing else. He feels nothing else and all of those things and that's not Real so it's important that we understand the realities of human beings So that when you go into a relationship, you actually can communicate about those things I've had so many women that come to me and say well Tony if a man is attracted to another woman outside of his wife doesn't that mean that he doesn't love her and For a woman to ask that question It lets me know that that's how she feels that when she falls in love with a man no other man catches her eye or is she attracted to them in that way and Maybe that's for her. I know other women will say otherwise For themselves But as humans we all can see attraction. It doesn't mean we want to sleep with somebody doesn't mean we're gonna approach to somebody doesn't mean we're gonna give our phone number out or anything like that but as men and women as humans we all can see attraction so Married or not and it's good that we can be real and that's a place that even I had to come to and understand Tools that I'm human my wife is human and I got to be understanding about that So I can't be in this fairy tale mindset to think that my wife is not gonna think any other man is handsome And just because she thinks a man is handsome doesn't mean she wants to sleep with them Doesn't mean she wants to be with them and that's what we have to come to that place in that realization of really having real conversations, but we live in a world today where Couples are so a lot of couples with a platform are so into Monetization and trying to monetize love that when you just focused on monetizing love You can't really be real about real feelings and real struggles and what we really go through and then that hurts us that hinders us in our relationship building because then singles Assume that marriage is just supposed to be easy and perfect or That is supposed to just be a nightmare and it doesn't have to be and it won't it doesn't have to be just one or the other and It definitely doesn't have to be a nightmare But you do as humans still have to learn and grow and heal and communicate and this is our things that we have to learn and understand and come to that place to where we can be respectful of our own process and also respectful of our spouses process and There's a lot of Times where we don't want to hear the truth. We don't want to accept the truth We don't want to confront the truth because the truth requires change the truth is Painful at times and there are times where we got to evaluate ourselves. So even on the podcast we talked about we talked about profanity and there were a lot of women who Mentioned the young ladies profanity. Well, that's very common in our society. Like I'm sitting around Quote-unquote Christian school teachers Christian female school teachers and their cursing they're using profanity like you see people who Never seen a hood in their life Using profanity never seen a struggle in their life using profanity We live in a very profane world And so I address that because when you tap into righteousness and you tap into purity and you believe that there is a holy Spirit and you believe that this holy spirit is residing in you Then at that point you no longer can use profanity because you don't feel comfortable Mixing the sacred with the profane But when you are not operating from that spirit and you don't have that spirit Living within you is very easy to be profaned because you don't feel any type of conviction and so I Address that because that's where I want to see us grow to to the point that we can be role models for children 24-7 to where we can grow and we can heal and we can learn and we can change those things that don't Benefit our life. And so a lot of times we have to ask ourselves, you know, is this smoking adding years to my life Is this masturbation masturbation adding years to my life is this drinking Adding years to my life is this cursing adding years to my life and the things that do not benefit us that we start to decrease those things or Completely remove those things so that we come to a place Where we are growing because if you're not growing then you're dying and so this is what we have to start to really process and understand and You know, I want to get out there and Share a different message and that's why I'm talking. This is not something I want to do It's not something that I'm that's fun for me I'm a lot of days like Lord, you know past this cup like can I do something else? can I talk about something else but We got to go where we need it and we got to address what needs to be addressed and In this time and in this season is so much misinformation. It's so much misdirection It's so much conversation around love and relationships that are so skewed and jaded and Not really understanding what it is and what it takes to have a happy and healthy Relationship and knowing that even in that it's gonna be a lot of rough times It's gonna be a lot of low moments It's gonna be a lot of times where you feel like throwing into the towel and I even talked about that which Which people think that you get to a certain year. Oh, you get the year 10 you get the year 15 You get the year 20 everything from there is gravy. It's easy. That's not the case Because life always presents new challenges and new changes and in those times You never know how you're going to react or respond to what's going on in your life And so you can be married 30 years and still get a divorce because at that 30 year mark the woman may start to go through menopause or the man may start to go through a midlife crisis and everything changes in the relationship and That pushes you to a divorce because you didn't see it coming. You weren't prepared for it You weren't thinking about it like that and you didn't know how to handle it. So love is a job It's not a vacation Love is a job that we cannot retire from we have to get up and that's a quote that I wrote Decade ago We have to get up and we got to go to work Every single day and you got to try and you got to grow every single day You got to put in the work and you got to be about it every single day and It does not Get easier it just gets different It changes and I was naive to that even in the beginning of my marriage and early on in my marriage And when I started speaking and teaching I would say stuff like oh love is easy Relationships are easy and I would say that just because of the mind space I was in and I wouldn't have no problems but then as I went on and I start to see life change and I started to see the different things that happen in life and See different challenges then I learned and that's why I say none of us have all the answers Because the more we go the more we learn So someone who is single and giving advice It doesn't mean that it's gonna all be bad advice. It's just gonna be limited advice So when they get in a relationship The advice is gonna be different when they get engaged when they get married and then when they get Five years in ten years in twenty years in the advice is going to change Because the deeper you go The more you see the more you learn the more you have to Understand in order to survive and so we have to get to that place of understanding that that There will always be another lesson and it's important to have different voices It's important to you know be out there and be able to hear these things, but We got to understand what we know and what we don't know You know where we are and be wise enough to know when we should just listen and Give things a try if what we've been trying hasn't been working out for us and so for me I Want to see more men tap in the purpose Tap in the purpose and give faithfulness a try give a relationship a try. I want to see more men meet women and Get to know a woman and start to build with a woman and really be honest and genuine With that woman I really want to see more men tap into love Because whether you have kids with a woman or you adopt kids with a woman Being a man and being in your relationship and doing what you're supposed to do You're touching and changing the world and you leave in a legacy That will outlive you and the children that you reach will go on to do things in our society That'll move the story forward and that's what we need more men to do to stop running from the grind to stop running from the work to stop running from the the discipline that it requires and No one is better than anyone else No one is on a high horse We talking and we trying to build and we sharing experiences hoping that we can learn from each other And that's what has to be understood. I feel like a lot of times men get to the point. They feel like they're being talked down to But then are very quiet when there are men talking down to women But even talking in a tone just like this But speaking truth to power a lot of men feel attacked or feel bashed because they're being asked to be responsible To be accountable to man up to be faithful to one woman to stop lying and cheating and manipulating and deceiving a lot Of men feel attacked by that when all it is is just a call to To better a call to greatness a call to excellence and one of the things that women need to stop doing is To stop coddling men and stop making excuses for men I saw a lot of women who Look at that the little short clip and we're like, oh, we're just gonna act like women don't cheat And it's like we're not talking about women in this segment in this piece in this moment and I said some one of y'all sent me a video of a guy He was saying that men aren't allowed to have standards in our world and that women say they want a man Six foot or taller but then when a man says he wants a younger woman, it's a problem and that men can't even say that and Yes, it is a problem when men say that but it's also a problem when a woman Says that she wants a man six foot or taller And so the same thing that I say to men I say to women in the sense of You can't ask for a stand for a preference and then be sensitive When someone has a preference that does not prefer you So if you want to be accepted for who you are and where you are Then you have to have that same mentality when you're looking for somebody and it's so often I see people who are not where they're supposed to be and they want somebody who is where they want to be So they're here and complacent But they want somebody who's living the life of their dreams and expect that person who's living Their dreams not the person's dreams, but the person who is seeking they're in the place of Where this person wants to be and so they want to be with that person But that person over there is saying hey, you're not where you're where you need to be You're not doing what you need to do So how do you expect me to compromise for you? And that's truth in that and that's why I tell women all the time when you want a man That's six foot tall with a six-pack and six figures or six inches You might end up with a devil on your hands Because you picking a man just based on preferences But you should let his character be his currency and see who he is. What are his morals? What are his values? What does he stand on? Does he live by that? Does he really live it? And then go from there because a lot of the other things the aesthetics those things could be changed those things We could learn how to dress we could learn how to eat, right? We can learn how to lose weight But it's hard as an adult to change your whole identity if you're a terrible person If you had bad if you have bad character That's a lot harder to change Then it is to go to the gym and get in some shape or to eat right and lose some weight And so we got to start really identifying and paying attention to what are we looking for and And what we're looking for Does that matter in the grand scheme of things? And so when character becomes currency, that's when we really start to see and And so that's where we have to understand that Ryan God bless you and Jane a welcome to the blessed tribe So it's it's some real stuff out here that got to be addressed and what I want you all to understand is to Understand that it's a lot of Wolves It's a lot of wolves in sheep's clothing and it's a lot of men and Women who are misleading the people and they're doing it because they want to be significant They want to be famous. They want to be seen. They want to be known and They know that they don't know what they're talking about and they know that they're not living what they're talking about But money and fame and quote-unquote significance means more And so we have to be mindful of that be very mindful of that and you have to use Discernment when you listen into people and make sure that you can sense and that you can feel that they're living what they're teaching and that it's really that it's adding up because You know people it was women who was saying, oh What if his wife sees this when I said that my first two years of marriage? I still had wondering eyes and it's like I'm going on 16 years of marriage It's my I'm on the public internet You don't think my wife know that but one thing I've always been with my wife And what it has helped her is it has helped her minister to her friends because I've always been so Transparent with my wife that she's able to go to her friends and say Tony says this Tony says this about me Tony says this is what me and feel this is what me and go through because I'm being transparent with her never being with her in a way to making her think that Men have this angelic experience without Meditation and without struggle and that once a man gets married His wife is the only woman that he recognizes or sees for the rest of eternity and that this switch Just automatically turns off and that's what some men try to allude to and That's what some women think and that's not real so we have to make sure that we're we're getting the realness and and To the men and women who are talking, but you know, you're not living it What I'm asking you is to shut up If you hear this and you are giving advice And you're not living it behind closed doors And you know that you're giving advice. So you talking Out of the side of your neck For money and for clout I'm asking you to shut up and the reason why I'm asking you to shut up is not just for the good of the people But for your own safety Because one thing that people don't understand is spiritual warfare and when you are Operating in a spiritual realm meaning when you are shifting the way people think and the way people live That you go into a realm of good verse evil and if your message does more harm than help if your Message does more harm than help Now you become susceptible to being touched what I mean by that is Spiritual warfare often times operates and shows up in the physical Because eventually the vessels who are carrying evil end up devouring themselves or being devoured Because what the adversary does is he uses vessels? But because he comes to steal and to kill and to destroy When the vessel has been used then the vessel will be destroyed. It's almost like a self-detonating Device so this is what I want you to understand because It's very dangerous and a lot of times when people don't really know God and they don't really fear God like I Heard a gentleman talking on the interview and he kept you know Just he was talking about God and how he gave his like to God But then he was cursing and he was missing and he was using curse words in profane manner and I'm like that doesn't even add up because You can't say God's name in vain and in curse like that if you really Rocking with the Lord because it just will be a conviction in your spirit of Mixing the sacred and the profane and in that moment I then knew he's playing with God and when you play with God it never turns out good It never turns out good. You will get caught up You will get exposed or you will pay a grave price and that grave price could be in your grave and You know, we lost a gentleman who was from what I call the other side Because our message, you know contradict each other and he lost his life in What seemed to be the mist of sin, you know with a woman that he wasn't married to and Was living that life not being married but was also telling Women hey be in fornication if you get if you go on a date Be ready to fornicate if you go on a date at the 5 p.m. Be ready to fornicate Telling women hey if you got a child You need to be willing and ready to fornicate So now what this message does in the spiritual world is it disrupts healthy? Relationships it disrupts marriage It derails what God wants what God wants for his children which is healthy faithful loving relationships and When I saw that happening I did a video and I said listen If you are upending the work of God meaning if you are disrupting derailing distracting from the work of God Then you will pay a price You will pay a price because that is how the spiritual realm works So you have to be mindful of what you're spreading and so what a lot of people don't understand is is that in God's word The word is expressly against fornication It's expressly against adultery So when people go and they say the name of God, but then they also condone fornication or adultery now You are making a mockery of God and the good book says God will not be mocked And so the reason why although I realize that fornication is Or the abstinence of standing until marriage although I realize that is extremely hard and Although everybody a lot of people I know failed at it. I'm not going to condone it and Promote it. I'm gonna encourage people to fight the good fight Win the battle that I lost You know win the battle that I lost win the battle that your mother or your father or your friends or this person That person lost, you know win that battle. I'm not going to tell people. Hey, oh, no, you know, give in You know give in to sin and just it's okay to fornicate and what a lot of people don't realize is that and they said Oh, it doesn't make sense to save yourself to a marriage or oh this right here doesn't make sense So that doesn't make sense But what they don't realize is when you instructing people to live a life of sin then you're instructing them to ignore and Disobey God and when you do that now You align y'all got to forgive me with the sound chain out of phone in When you do that you align with the adversary So when you tell people a it's okay to fornicate or saving yourself till marriage is not realistic And being with one woman is not realistic You're then telling people to live the life that That Satan wants us to live. So now you are going to war against God now you are telling the whole world that you stand against God and that having healthy whole faithful relationships you are against that and One thing that you don't want to do is to be misaligned With God to be going against God to be going against the productivity that We are expected to have as humans You don't want to do that So and this what I tell people like they showed the NFL player who had the jacket on at the Super Bowl the one who almost lost his life from the hard hit and Then he wore a jacket that was like mocking Jesus and had a picture of Jesus and look you know weird cartoon of Jesus and it said eternal on there and And it's like I was telling my son. I said I don't believe I'm not Buddhist, but I don't mock Buddha I'm not Muslim, but I don't mock Allah I'm not, you know, Hindu, but I don't mock their religion because Somebody believes in that and I don't know or understand what they believe and I don't know how real it is for them It's not my thing, but I'm not going to mock it But people will literally mock Jesus Christ and will mock Christianity and will mock God because they don't believe so they'll call God a Fairy tale they'll say Jesus wasn't the son of God. They'll you know say these things, but it's like listen You don't know that for sure and If you see millions of people who have good head on their shoulder good brains Good, you know all of this right here Then you can't take in mock that and so this is something that has to be said somebody say represent Jesus of mocking he was mocking them because it was a caricature of Jesus and looking all funny funny face funny this and that and That ain't how you don't take in Represent something in a light that makes it look bad or makes it look silly You don't become a hindrance to your brethren, but that right there you know Is the same mindset that a lot of people have and so that's what There didn't there were people saying oh well You're supposed to go to him in private and you're not supposed to judge him and all of this And so we have this very watered down approach today Where we're just so afraid We're so afraid and we're afraid to Stand for truth. We're afraid to live righteous. We're afraid to be better We're afraid to stand on what we stand on and that's what is destroying the fabric of Society and even as parents it's hard for us because there's so many parents who Don't have common sense There's so many parents who don't know how to parent and so they raising their children to do whatever they want to do So then for those of us who want to raise our children with standards and with morals and with values We start to look crazy because we asking our children to do things That no other kids that they know we're doing and we are asking them to live in a way that it's not common And so that narrow road that narrow road becomes a lot harder to walk down than the broad road But that's something that we still have to stick to and we got to stand on what we stand on And we got to be willing To do what's right regardless of who's not doing it. And so here's the thing is In the spiritual realm there are In the spiritual realm, there are things that spirits that oppose and There are spirits that Repel So what happens is and a lot of time people ask and they say well What Tony why don't you go on more podcast or why aren't you on this podcast or this radio show? and the reason why is because I'm not invited on those shows and The reason being is because a lot of shows cannot share a Message that stands on something They have to cater to everyone because they don't want to offend certain audiences. So they have to Cater to everybody so when you stand on something You become Liability to those outlets that don't want to say the name of God or the name of Jesus that don't want to Give a message that is going to move the family forward And then also sometimes it's the spiritual alignment of the host so if there are hosts who they are not aligned With righteousness and they don't want to be then They're not gonna bring someone who they feel is aligned differently and is going to confront or convict them because they don't want to even sit in that and then also there are Spirits and things that cannot be introduced because what a pure spirit does When you are operating in a pure spirit, you become the light in darkness So when you go on your job when you and your family when you at the family reunion when you at church You become a light in the darkness if there's darkness around you. And so what happens is? Adriana God bless you. So what happens is let's say a man has this this podcast and he is cheating on his wife or They're going through a really tough time and When he looks at my message or someone like me He looks at our message and he sees that all of this messaging What convinced his wife to leave would tell her you're not being loved, right? You're not being respected. You're not being treated, right and that because of that she may leave so he will not bring me on his podcast because He doesn't want to condone or stamp or promote my message because it could upend his own situation And so that's why you will mostly see women bring me on their outlet because if I'm speaking on manhood and a man being gentle and loving and Faithful, it's not gonna offend the woman that ain't gonna step on a woman toes It's not gonna upend her situation but if a man is not living like that and that's why I try to express it and share that I Was not living like that that I had to learn that my message comes from me learning and I'm still learning That's why I shared on the podcast that a I still last year was in spiritual warfare and going through and Struggling and trying to make it and just trying to carry, you know this this weight And so we have to understand that we got to understand that and Come to a place to realize that this isn't about Being judgmental or anything of that nature These messages it's about us growing for the family for the future for society and That's what we need We need to be able to hold ourselves accountable Look ourselves in the mirror and make the changes that need to be made And so that's that's what I'm standing on and that's what my goal is my focus is and so if I have to expose myself and you know share my message and Teach from that place, you know using myself as an example then that's what I have to do but I want to Encourage everybody to look in the mirror Stop pointing the blame stop waiting on somebody else to change and look in the mirror and see What you need to do for you and watch how that changes your life watch that piece that passive all Understanding come over your life. So a bitch Tony Gaskins. God bless you. Thank y'all for popping on here I really ain't expect nobody to be on here this time of morning. So I hope y'all ain't stealing a stealing time off the clock and Malika God bless you And my boyfriend gave up smoking because your message resonated with him so well, that's deep That's deep. Thank you for sharing that and I'm praying for him that he stay in the fight and he keep going He did the right thing and that's all it's about, you know It's just growing and just pressing to that next level and really looking and saying hey Is this benefiting me or could I be doing something different? Could I be doing something better? and just growing in that way and as you do that it comes to a place to where you You start to reap the benefits you start to reap the benefits of Your sacrifices and then once you reap the benefits of your sacrifices it hits differently because you like whoa This over here this harvest is way greater Than what I had before and it takes some time to get there take a while a lot of time you're gonna question Should you have changed? Should you be sacrificing? Where's the reward? Where's the payoff? But it take time Because see God ain't gonna give you nothing just right away because that time that it takes You're being refined You're being renewed You being made whole you being prepared for what's to come because if you get it too soon it could destroy you So that's what we got to understand. Hey, it's Tony Gaskin. God bless you and Make sure y'all check out Tony Gaskins Academy dot com Everything I do that I know life love and business. I put it on Tony Gaskins Academy dot com The whole blueprint everything I know every ounce of success. I've had in life love of business I put it on Tony Gaskins Academy dot com and this Saturday We having a bonus session for our group coaching program. So it's called the growth club You'll see it right on Tony Gaskins Academy dot com. You'll see the growth club So y'all join us in the monthly group coaching Nancy. God bless you appreciate that blessing means a lot God bless and we'll talk soon