 Hi everyone, welcome to another live video. I'm out here at Scarborough Castle in North Yorkshire. So I did a premiere the other day. It was called Free Things That Will Happen Before the Narcissist Returns to You. And I think it's important to know that certain things will happen before they return. They do take certain things into consideration. First you've got to look at why they left in the first place. The reason why they left is because your supply lost its potency. And then they went seeking out another fresh source of supply. And they go through the love-bombing phase with this new source just as they did it with you. And then before you know it, they're devaluing the new source. And that is when they might consider returning to you. Once things start going wrong with the new source. But of course there are other conditions that need to be met. You need to validate their false self. You need to believe in the illusion, the lies that they're portraying to you. You need to be susceptible to their manipulation. Because the last thing they want when they do return is for you to start questioning and confronting them. If they think you're going to do that, that's one of the main reasons why they won't return to you. And in many situations, even if you are still susceptible, even if things aren't going right with the new supply, that doesn't automatically mean that they're going to come back. As we know, narcissists have a lot of pride and arrogance. They have to feel like they're in control. They have to feel like they're winning. They have to feel like they're on top of you. And in many situations coming back makes them feel like you have the power. It makes them feel like they're beneath you. In their minds, resistance means more power to them. And then there's also the smear campaign. Towards the end of your relationship with them, they started talking to people about you. They smeared your name and they gave you a really bad reputation to make it look like you were the problem. To save their image, only problem is, a lot of times when they do this, they end up shooting themselves in the foot. Because now they can't come back to you without making it look like they're the fool. As though they are the problem. Because if you are so bad, if you were really this horrible person who didn't treat them right, who couldn't do enough for them, then why would they ever return to you? When it comes down to it, it's a choice between their image, their false self, or you. And no narcissist is going to choose a source of supply before their image and reputation. Because that's all that really matters to them. And that's why many of you, you may be waiting for the Hoover and it's just not coming. You're not getting it. And the reason why is because those conditions are not met. And even if they are, then there's the smear campaign. They've made it impossible for themselves to return to you. Let me know your thoughts on this. Let me know if the narcissist did return to you or not. And I'll read out your comments here and we can discuss this. Four of the kind words there. I'm glad you like the new haircut. Beautiful view in the background here. Got a comment here from Adele. Horrible people. You never can understand unless you were in such a relationship. Sadly many don't get it. Or narcissistic personalities themselves. So true. Joshua J sending love brother. I'm in court with my narc now. Lovely Anna says my ex-narc hoovered me this week. Wanting to go on dates to talk things through. Yeah, that's what they'll do when they come back. They're just trying to return to the love bombing phase. And the hopes that you're still susceptible to the manipulation. The false character. Adele says COVID's launched sneaky smear campaigns. Very true. They can be very sneaky compared to the overt smear campaign. Sometimes a lot of people don't even see it coming. Thank you Nala. So I'm just going to continue looking around this castle here. I hope you're all having a good day. And maybe there will be a live video later on on the spiritual secrets channel. So if you're not subscribed to that yet. Search on YouTube spiritual secrets. And I will see you there later.