 All right, guys, here we are again, day number three at the 21 Convention London, the men's conference of the century. Yeah, exactly. So coming to the stage next is a very animated, fun guy, and if nothing else, you'll love his hairstyle. Please welcome Sasha Daygame. Thanks, dude. Cool. What's up? I know what you're all thinking. What the fuck? DJ Fuji, what? No, no. How are you guys doing? You guys enjoying yourself? Everything's good? Happy? Fun? Good. Oh, how fucking awesome was Marcus? Fucking awesome, right? Like, basically, when I found out there was extra time, I just basically was just like, Anthony, dude, trust me. Trust me. Look at me. I contact. Put Marcus on. He's awesome. And yeah, fucking great. Hard to follow because he's so fucking good. I'm just like, yes. And we're actually very similar in what we do. Like, we spend hours on Skype talking about shit like all the funny wind-ups we do and all the pranks and just fucking with people. And we could go on for like hours. I might bring you up in a bit just for fun just to tell them some of the goofy shit we get up to. But yeah, man, for us, it's always been about just having fun, entertaining ourselves. It's like a really key thing. And like me personally, I've been doing stand-up comedy my whole life since I was like 18 years old. That's it. I've never done anything else. I've never had a real job. I've just always been telling jokes. And that's kind of really permeated throughout my existence. And I just love making people smile. That's just my thing. Like I get up on stage and I'm trying to cut it down because if I didn't cut it down, I would just be up here like doing jokes and you go, ah, it's hilarious. And they'd be like, we didn't learn shit. We just, it was really funny. But it's, and I found that by, again, by entertaining myself and just really loving making people smile and having fun, that has gotten me a lot of success because again, as Marcus was saying, I really put my own amusement first. When I meet people, it's like I want to meet them and I want to have fun. I want to enjoy myself. I want to, you know, that's, my whole life is about just making people smile. I love it. And throughout the years, I, you know, I brought other elements into that. So like, you know, being really direct. Recently I've been on this massive direct thing. So I like, you know, like, like flirting with girls and telling them they're hot and just being really honest and expressing myself. And I think I talk, and it's hard to really sell out what I want to talk about. I guess it's going to be about having fun and self-expression and just being direct and just kind of going for what you want and not being like a pussy. You know, I think my favorite expression over the last month is, why be a pussy when you can be a dick? I think that's my favorite new expression. So that's it really. And I think, yeah, again, a lot of people go wrong because they take all this so seriously, you know, like, you know, they're coming up to girls and they're like, okay, all right, I'm going to do this and then the opener and then I'm going to try and build our thing up and then I'm going to get attraction. I'm going to do all this shit. And then you're so in your head worrying about like what's going to happen and what you're going to do in planning the shit out where you just lose the plot and you freeze up and that's why your people are in their fucking heads. And I find when you're just out there actually enjoying yourself and having fun, that trumps everything. Like if you're just there and you are loving every moment, just having fun, you're making people smile, you just don't give a fuck. That destroys, what am I going to say next? Or body, oh, I got to keep my shoulders back and I got a good body line. No man, do you think, do you think if you come to a girl and you're having a blast and you're just, immediately she likes you. You're just having fun and she picks up that you're having fun and you don't give a shit about what she thinks or anyone else thinks. That is so much more attractive. That destroys everything else. That trumps your body language. That trumps, you know, the angle you're, you know. I'll come in like this from the side. I don't want her to know shit. I like her, you know, it destroys everything else because you're just, you're living life and you're being in the moment. When you walk into a bar, okay? You walk into like a bar, whatever I say. I mean, personally I hate, you know, I don't like bars club, but just a room with like a bunch of people. If you look in that room and you're like, okay, there's some chicks over there and yeah, okay, we'll just don't look at that. We'll go stand over here for a while and then we'll be at fuck. As soon as they see you, they're just like, yeah, okay. You know, they don't even say just whatever. Doesn't matter. You walk into a bar, you're talking with your friend. You're just joking around. You're having fun. You're just being a complete dick. You're messing with people and you just, you don't care. You just walk in and you're in your own little world and you just, you don't care about what other people think. You're not caring about what people are looking at you or what people are thinking. That bubble of energy is just like it will spread and women and everyone in that room is going to look at you and be like, these guys are just in their own bubble of fun and you're having that bubble of fun. Everyone wants to be in that bubble. You know, you've all seen that. You're there somewhere and you just see a group of people. You could be on a bus. There's just a group of people and they're just having fun. They don't care. They don't care they're being loud. They don't care people are watching them. They don't care about any of that. They're just being dicks and being loud and having fun and you're just there going fuck, man. I want to be like that. I want to be in that group. So it's all about being that creating that energy being that and you know what, if you're out there and you're like, you know, I'm going to have a blast. I don't give a shit. That is going to get you so much success. You're going to meet so many interesting people. You know, you're going to meet other people who are on that energy level who just want to have fun. You're going to meet girls. You know, all the girls that I've met in my life, you know, that's what I'm attracted to. I love girls who are like, they'll laugh at my jokes and I can do stupid shit and I can just, you know, just have fun. Those are the most amazing people in my life and by coming up to women or just people and being that way immediately, I'm meeting the people that I want to because if I just come up and do some goofy stuff and girls look whatever, I'm just like, okay, there's nothing for me to continue. But if I come in and I'm doing my thing and girls are like, ah, you're crazy. I can tell you're creating that. There's immediately vibing with me and they're joking and they're having fun. Instantly, I'm like, it's on. It's on. I like this girl. Okay? I don't have to fake any stuff. I don't have to build any attraction. The chick like, like, I'll be telling the girl what I really feel. I'll be like, oh my God, because I'm being me, it's so easy to be like, you're fucking cool. You're laughing at my jokes. You're smiling. You've got a great energy. I fucking, you know, I love you. You're so cool. And that's all true. I don't have to fake anything ever. I would never fake an emotion. I would never pretend to be anything. I'm not because I'm looking. I'm just being the way I am, which is for me is just a little bit of a, you know, slightly crazy level of fun. And I'm sucking in the people that I want to be around. I'm sucking in those people who, you know, people that want to just do crazy stuff, dumb stuff. And I'm going to share with you guys some of the stuff I get up to, that's just fun. That's just fun and always, it's always about me. That's the thing, this is always about me. It's not about oppressing anyone. It's not about anyone else but you. It's all about you. This is the one area where you can just be selfish, man. It's all about you. Whenever I talk to people, I fuck with them. Okay, and this is something that Marcus taught me, actually, initially. That's right. I told you I would plug you properly. So much of the stuff, like I've learned more from this guy than anybody. And so it's pre-frames, right? If you come up to a girl, and again, I'm always direct, so I just want to come to girls and be like, hey, you're fucking hot. Oh my God, I have to talk to you. You're amazing, you're whatever. But the problem is, if you come up to somebody out of nowhere, and again, I'm talking about just like coffee shops walking down the street, whatever. People, you know, it might be too much for some women. They'll just be like, what? They don't know how to handle it. And so one of the advantages to not just having fun, but using pre-frames, you'll see is it gives people a moment to take in what you're doing and just realize, okay, this guy's not crazy cool. Give you an example. So how do I have fun with this? I won't just come up to somebody and just be like, hey, hey, you're hot. I'm going to mess with people. All the time I'm going to mess with people. So for example, come up to a girl who's just like soaking hot and I'll just be like, hey, don't take this the wrong way, right? Build up that, they're like, what? I'll go, you look fucking amazing. Who are you? So I'm making them think I'm going to say something like, yeah, your ass is hanging out or you got a big booger. Like whatever they're thinking. I'm building up to something really bad. Like, hey, you know, don't take this the wrong way. They're like, what? And it just builds up that tension. And I'm like, you're so fucking hot. I had to come talk. And they're like, oh, okay, fuck. Okay, releases the tension, right? Having fun. I'm fucking with it because it's fun. Okay, do it all the time. It might be something as simple as just like, hey, I know this is a bit weird. Stare it a little bit. You look fucking hot. What's your name? We mess with people like every opportunity we can. Like we'll walk into a shop and just be like, just walk up to them and be like, hey, dude, I'm not being racist or anything. But can I get a bottle of water? And they're like, what does that have to do with nothing, bro? I just, you know, and then people are laughing. We're just like, no, I just want to make you smile. Dude, you're here behind the counter. You're working all day. You know, people just give you the money and then they leave and just want to fuck with you. And we mess with people all the time and it just makes people happy and they're smiling. It's great. And I take that vibe and I use it with women and it's just awesome. Like I remember this one time I walked into a McDonald's. I used to do this all the time. I'm going to McDonald's and this girl, she's just there and like they're just used to people just being really normal. You see, I like, I'll have a big man. Okay, cool. I'll have some fries, okay, cool. So all of a sudden I'm just like, hi, can I get a, can I get a whopper with cheese? And she's just like, what? I'm just like, I want a whopper called, you know, the flame road whopper with the cheese and I want that. That's going to be awesome. She's like, we don't have that. I'm like, you have that. I want a whopper. She's like, we don't, we don't have that. We, this is, this is McDonald's. You want Burger King? I'm like, look, I know what I want. I've seen the ads on television coming here for, don't you can't spend millions on the ad and then not give me what I want. Give me the whopper. I want it right now. Don't fuck with me. They're like, look, sir, this McDonald's. I'm like, let me talk to the manager right now. You're not going to give me what I want. I'm the customer. Give me the manager right now. Manager comes over. I'm arguing and then after a while I'll bring like, fine, you're not going to, all right. I accept you don't have whoppers, but I'm the customer. I want to spend my money here. Go and get me a whopper from there and bring it over here. Make me happy. They're like, no, I'm like, I'm the customer. Eventually, you know, sometimes you get thrown up, but this one particular girl, this one particular girl, at the end of it, I just can't just like, I'm totally messing with you. We're just having fun. She was like, oh my God, I can't believe it. And she just, she was so happy and she was like, hugging me and she's like, my job is so fucking boring. This never happens. And we just made her a day and I was just messing with her because it was fun. But if that girl was my type, if that particular girl, that particular incident was hot, Jesus. It would just be like, you're cool. You love, you have to come out with us. You have to just come and be stupid with us sometimes. That's it. We do it all the time, man. All the time. Stupid shit. One of my favorite ones is a sandwich rental. Okay. Walking through a shop, dead serious. It should be like, hi. Yeah, yeah. Just put a sandwich down. She'd be like, hi, I want to rent this sandwich. And be like, what? And be like, I don't want to buy it. Like I might be hungry later, but I'm not sure. So I want to like maybe rent it. And then like, if I'll eat it, I'll come back and pay for it. But if not, I just want to have it with me just in case. And they're like, we can't do that. I'm like, listen, I want to rent the sandwich. I'm the customer. You're this capitalism. Make me happy. I want to rent the sandwich. They're just like, no. Again, whatever. I'll just make a big ass scene at the end. And I'll be like, you know what? Fine. If you're not going to rent me a sandwich, I'll go eat somewhere else. I'll slam the sandwich down and I'll walk out of the shop. I do it because it's funny. You know, we've done all kind of, we can go on for ages. First time at his mum, the original vodka prank, the first time I met Marcus's mum, I had the vodka with the water in it. And I came up to her and I'm just like, oh, hi, how are you doing? And I'm holding it in my hand. I was being really nervous and I just went, she went to shake my hand and I was like, oh, I get nervous meeting new people and I did it. And I drank the entire thing of water. Oh, look, look, look, look, look. It just burped in the sugar hand. And she's just looking at me and I'm just looking at her. And I went, it's just water. And she went, ah, Marcus got me good ones. We're at his house and there's a, there's a, like I'm just, I'm in his room and I hear the front door go and I'm like, oh, what's going on? And he runs into, he runs into his room and he's like, dude, there's a hot chick outside. Her car broke down. She's really hot. And, you know, he's got a girlfriend. He's just like, yeah, I'm here. I'm just like, oh, sick, awesome. Okay, so I come out and I'm just like, and I just totally just be like, hi, how are you doing? Like, what's going on? She's like, yeah, my car broke down. I'm like, yeah, we'll help you with that. But you're totally cute though. You're so hot. I'm like, what's the story with you? What's going on? You know, maybe it's fate. You, me, it's a beautiful thing, you know, right? And I'm just totally fine. And it's going really well, right? I get her number. I'm just like, yeah, we'll hang out. It'll be wicked. You know, I make her call my phone. I got her number. It's awesome. And so Marcus is like, all right, we're going to help her get her car going. And we're like, yeah, opportunity to be a man. Yes. We're going to push that car. So I come out, we come outside and, and we're there and we're like, we're getting ready to like do the thing where you push the car and she's going to do the thing with the key. And it's, you know, we're taking her positions. And at one point Marcus just looks at her and says, you're, you know, you look amazing. And I'm like, what? And he leans in and he just starts making out with his shirt. Making out with her. And I pause and I look at her and I'm looking at her. And I'm like, first I think you fucking dig. And I went, this is your girlfriend, isn't it? And he goes, yeah. I'm like, oh. Dick. Right. He fucking got me. It was so funny. Right. We're always doing that shit, man. Always doing that shit because it's, because it's just fun. But again, so, so preframes. Yeah. Anything you can think up, you know, yeah, don't take this the wrong way. Listen, I've got nothing against homosexuals, but what's your name? I'm like, what? I'm like, I don't know. I've got nothing against heterosexuals. It doesn't matter. Doesn't even have to make sense. But just all the time messing with people. And it's all just about having fun and making myself smile. It's great. It's like, you know, when I flirt with women, right, I'm just having fun. That's it. I'm just having fun and cracking myself up. I'm going to teach you guys a couple of things that hopefully you can actually walk away from. I talk a lot. We all talk too much. But I want you to actually walk away and be like, I'm going to do that. And if you get the mindset down of just like, you're entertaining yourself and you're flirting with girls and they're hot and you're telling them they're hot. It's like, you'll never again be like, I don't know what to say because you're always going to be like, I'm going to go fuck with that chick. I'm going to go fuck with that chick. It's going to be funny. And in doing that, you're going to meet them every time. It's like, it's just this mindset where you're just going to go and have fun. And that's going to get, that's going to, you're going to meet everyone you want to. So, so yes, preframes, anything, just throw anything in before the, the column just like any ridiculous ass shit, you know. Hey, listen, I'm not saying we can't be boyfriend and girlfriend, but you've got an amazing ass, whatever. It doesn't matter. Okay, those are wicked. Okay, so, so flirting, right? So I love flirting. Flirting is real. It's like the easiest thing in the world and guys are like, I don't know how to flirt. I don't know what to say. And it's just like the easiest thing. First of all, be shameless. Right? Like if you're going to flirt with a chick, be absolutely shameless always. You know, guys have this mindset of just like, oh, what if somebody sees him? I'm flirting or I'm trying to pick up this chick or I'm trying. Dude, you're a man. She's a woman. She's hot. There's nothing to be ashamed of. Be absolutely relentless in what you're doing. There's nothing wrong with it. It's a beautiful thing. We're put on this planet to make sweet love and make baby. Come on. We're all here for one reason. You know what I'm saying? If it wasn't for making sweet love, we wouldn't be here. It's fine. What you're doing is natural and good. So when I come to girls, check this out. My mindset, I always assume that no matter what happens, girls are trying to pick me up all the time. If a girl looks at me, I'll just walk up to her and be like, hey, I saw you check me out just then. I'd be like, what? I'm like, I saw you check me out. You looked at my ass. You were picturing me naked. I could tell that's what you're doing. It's totally fine. I'm a very sexy man. Totally fine. But you know, you can just come over and say hi. You're friendly. You don't have to be molesting me with your eyes. Totally fine. What's your name? Even if a girl's never looked at me, a girl can be standing there looking that way. I'll come up behind her and just tap her on the shoulder. Excuse me. Hi. I saw you check me out just then. She'll be like, what? I'm not even. I'm like, yeah, totally you did. It's fine. It's cool. I get this all the time, obviously. But you can just say hi. What's going on? What's your name? It doesn't matter what they do. It doesn't make any difference. Any opportunity, I'll just assume girls are trying to pick me up. Again, one of our ones, in a conversation, a girl could be like, pass the ketchup. And I'll be like, is that a sexual innuendo? And I'll be like, no, I wanted ketchup. Oh, OK. I just thought you were totally fine if you are. I mean, I'm up for it. I'm just saying you could just be direct. You don't have to be like, pass the ketchup. You know what I'm saying? It's totally fine. It doesn't matter what they do. I'll just always be like, you're trying to pick me up right now. Do you always do this? How many guys have you? I flip around on them. How many guys have you picked up today with your little flirty tactics? Just wondering. I'm not jealous. I'm just wondering. Always flip it on them. That's number one. Every girl is trying to pick me up. Great mindset. You do that. Any interaction, you could just be like, whoa. Are you hitting on me? Fine if you are. I'm just wondering. Beautiful. Works really well. Number two, this one is really fun. Number two is this. It's denying that I'm flirting with a girl. Denying I'm flirting with a girl. This is very funny. And it just gets them smiling and chatting and laughing. It's fucking awesome. It's this simple. I used to do it this way. I used to run up to a girl on the street. Stop them and just be like, hey, don't panic. Another favorite of mine. Don't panic. This is not a robbery. Great proof. They're a little bit scared. Don't panic. It's not a robbery. And just so you know, I'm not selling anything. Just so we're clear. Not selling anything. A lot of people on the street are trying to sell me stuff. So, you know, she's like, OK, cool. I'm like, cool. And, you know, I'm not all those like scouts, you know, those recruiting guys. And they try and get models. And then you pay the money for the portfolio. And then you don't get it. It's a scam. You don't get any work out of it. I'm not one of those guys. Just so you know, they're like, yeah, yeah. That's cool. I'm like, cool. You know, I'm not going to hit on you. I didn't come over to hit on you or anything. Like pick you up. There's guys out there on the streets that go around to hit on girls. Not doing that. Just so you know. She's like, yeah, yeah. Totally fine. Not a police officer. You've done nothing illegal. You're not, you haven't broken any laws. Just so you know, there's nothing. You've done nothing wrong whatsoever. Just so we're clear. He goes, yeah, yeah, that's totally cool. That's fine. Cool. I'll be honest with you. There's probably like a 25% chance I'm hitting on you. But 75% chance I'm not hitting you. Just so you know. Yeah, that's fine. I'm not one of those artists. You know, those artists guys, they try and take you. And they try and do the art. And then they draw you. And they try and sell you the thing. I'm not one of those guys. Just so you know. I'm not one of those guys. She's like, yeah, that's fine. At this point they're smiling and laughing. I'm just like, just so you know, I'm not one of those dudes. She's like, cool. Yeah, I feel a little bit guilty because I might have misled you. But there's probably more like a 50% chance I'm hitting on you. But that's not any more than 50%. So we're clear. She's like, yeah, that's cool. Yeah, I'm not like a martial arts teacher. And I'm going to try and like sign you up to my martial arts class. Maybe I go to a martial arts academy. So you know, it's not like that. I don't teach anything like that. I'm trying to sign you up. She's like, yeah, that's totally fine. I feel a little bit guilty because I might have just misled you a bit before. There's maybe more like a 75%, maybe 75% chance that I'm... All right, let's be honest. I'm hitting on you. I pretty much came over to hit on you. So hi. You're hot. What's your name? What's going on? Now, can you see how that can never go wrong? It can never go wrong because you're going over there to fuck with this girl and have a good time. She's either going to think this guy's fun. He's funny. He doesn't really care. He's just being a dick. Awesome. She's going to step into your reality and just have a great time. Or they're just going to be like, what? No, and they just completely won't get it at all. And I'll be like, it's a joke. Get it. I'm hitting on you, but I'm denying it. They'll be like, what? And I'll be like, it's fine. Don't worry. And I'll walk off. Has nothing to do with me. Right? I'm in my own little bubble of fun. I only want to meet the people who are going to be in that bubble with me. Okay? That's it. You don't want to join my little reality. I don't want you there. I don't need you there. Okay? Another example. Same thing. Just shorter. I don't know why I did that long version. It was the denial open. We were like, yeah, it's the denial open. It's awesome. We never really told anybody, but it is fun. Another great one. Again, this is about being shameless. Right? Shameless. But I don't want a bus. I want a bus. And there's like some smoke. It could be empty. It could be like midnight. There's a smoking hot girl in the front of the bus. And who's been in this situation? Like there's one hot girl. But if you sit anywhere near her, you know like she's going to think, oh, this guy's going to, you know what I'm saying? And it's awkward. And you're like, oh, and then you just sit in the back and you're standing here going, fuck. She's still hot. Damn it. I can't just, it's going to be weird. Okay. Okay? This is my mindset. Totally shameless. I'll get on the bus. She's at the front, right? I'll get on. I'll walk to the back. Walk up to the front. Look around. You know, look at her a bit. Look at the seat next to her. Look around a bit more. Look at the seat next to her. Walk right up to her and just go, hey, is this seat taken? And she'll be like, oh, no. And I'm like, oh yeah, do you mind? She'll take her bag off and I'll sit down right next to her. And I'll be like, I know what you're thinking. You're thinking I sat next to you to hit on you or something, but that's not it at all. I just, I like this seat and you're having to be next to it, but that's, you know, just a coincidence. And she'll be like, okay, yeah, that's fine. Just thinking like, what the fuck? And I'll just look away just for a few seconds. I mean, not that I wouldn't hit on you. I mean, you're lovely. There's nothing wrong with you or anything. I'm just saying this time in particular, I didn't come over to hit on you, but there's nothing, obviously, you're very attractive and everything. She's like, yeah, yeah, yeah. So I feel like I have to hit on you now to prove that I would. So, hey, you're hot. What's your name? Where are you from? And I'll do like a cheesy pickup. I'll be like, I'm not very good at this. So, you know, what's your name? I was influenced by a, that was Woody's version of the Denial Open. So, and it's just, I'm entertaining myself, man. I'm entertaining myself and I'm going over there and I know I'm offering a good time. I'm not going over there like, hey, I'm going to go over there and I'm going to bang this shit no matter what happens, man. I'm fucking on. I'm going over there. No, I'm going over there because like this shit's hot. I'm going to talk to him and have fun. I'm going to enjoy myself. And yeah, maybe we'll hit it off, you know. There's nothing can go wrong. It's either going to, again, it's either going to go well or it's going to be funny. I mean, there's no, there's no, you can't lose. It's fucking great. So that's it. Ah, my flirting frames. Good times. Now, because I wanted to be professional for you guys, because usually I just go when I do like this massive rant and they're like, it's your out of time. And I'm like, ah, I'm going to cover four basic points. And I written them down. So this time I'm going to get through everything correctly. Right. Cool. I need water. Just a quick shout out to everyone on the internet. Hi, you're in front of your computer on YouTube. Are you having a good YouTube experience? Thanks for tuning in. Just thought that would be nice because obviously it's all for the guys here at the event. I don't want the people later watching this be like, it's like they don't know we exist. We know you exist. Next time come to the event, you douchebags. All right, good. So quick question. I'm just curious, right? Who has, who's sort of been like, you know, trying to talk to girls, but you've been sort of doing like the indirect stuff, like starting conversations and anything but coming up and being like, you're fucking smoking hot. God damn. Like if you're not doing that, don't be shy. Put your hands up if that's kind of what you're doing. Okay. Bunch of you. Okay. And who's been doing stuff just coming to be like, you're delicious. You're fucking hot. Yeah. I've never seen people's before. Okay. I like your shoes. I want to fuck you in the mouth. What? So. With me. In the, in the recent years, like basically my story is an interesting story because like I was friends with a, you know, very well known, uh, pickup artist dude since the late nineties. And, uh, so I was around like all the indirect stuff for such a long time. And, uh, it never felt right for me, man. Like from like 1998, I was aware of it. And I, you know, I did a bit and I was like, and then I went off to become a comic. And then I, you know, I read the book, the game. And then in 2007, I was like, you know what, man, I want to, I want to get better with shakes. You know, even though like I'm a funny guy and I'm good looking, whatever, I have some advantages. I was shit with women, man. Oh, fuck. Like, you know, like you're not looking at me right now going fuck you. You locked me inside you. It's fine. So. See, some of you laughed a little too hard there, which makes me nervous. That's all I'm saying. So I had, I had natural advantages. You know, I was doing stand-up and whatever, but like I could never, I could never like pick a girl. I could never look at a girl and be like, that girl is amazing. I'm going to go, I'm going to talk to her. I was just absolutely petrified of, of talking to girls. It was really brutal. Um, and the one fear that was like keeping me back was just like, you know, be talking to girls. I'm like, what if, what if she finds out I want to fuck her? You know what I mean? Like tell me the end of the, whatever she finds out I want to have sexual intercourse with her. If she finds out I want to put my cog in her vagina, it's all over. I might as well just jump off a building. And it was just, it was brutal, man. And just like, who's, who's just gone out and just had like half an hour interactions with women and just lead absolutely nowhere. Cause you just tear, you just don't want to be like, I want to fuck you. Okay, great. It's brutal, man. It's brutal. And I was like, it was like really bad. I was super needy with, with chicks. Like every time I met a chick that I actually liked, I'd just be like, they just like run away. I bought a stripper, a car for like $38,000. Anyone do that one? No? Okay. And then I just went, damn. You guys are like, I blew 25 bucks for dinner on this chick. I didn't even get a $38,000. Cool. So we just established that. It's done a lot of stupid shit. And it all came from neediness, man. It all came from like, oh, I don't want, I don't want to let them know the truth and just trying to get girls to like you. It's all fucking bullshit. It's so much easier. This is what I've been doing now for like, for a while. It's so much easier to look at a woman and be like, hmm, God damn, like fuck. I just look at her and I think, what is it that I really fucking like? Like first thing you notice, like be honest with yourself. Don't censor yourself. That's what it all comes down to. I look at a girl now and I'm just like, God damn, look at her. I got a stomach fetish. I don't know, anyone like a stomach man? Stomach, anybody? One dude? All right, me and you brother, you two guys here. Fuck all you ass men, man. Fuck you guys. So basically like, I'm sure he has like a flat stomach. I'm just like, God damn, yes. You know, I like the petite girls and with just the, oh man. So if I see that, I'm like, God damn. And recently I've been, I've been like looking at girls asses. I started to like ass and a little bit of leg, but I'm still like a, I'm still a stomach man. You know, but it's changing. My tastes are changing. But I know what I'm attracted to. And when I see a woman I'm attracted to, I'm just like, God damn. And I really focus on that and just like, hmm, fuck. That's yummy. And I immediately, I'm just like, right, I'm going to go over there and instantly, like zero second rule. I see a girl, I'm just like, wow, okay, boom. I go straight over there and I tell her exactly what I'm thinking. Exactly what I'm thinking. I'm going to give a fuck what it is, how dirty it is. It doesn't make any difference. Like anything. Usually nine times out of 10, whatever I'm thinking is based on her looks. Because I'm a man, I've got a penis and usually I'm thinking, holy fuck, she's hot. You know, I'm going to tell her. You know, once in a while I'll be like, wow, you're wearing a crazy dress or you know, I like your hair, whatever the fuck, cool. Yeah, that's the first thing you thought, be honest. But generally it's going to be your looks. And if she's just absolutely stunning, if she's like the hottest girl in the world, I will walk up and be like, what are you doing? Whatever I'm thinking is just be like, you are so fucking hot. You should be behind bars. There's no, how are you walking the streets dressed like this? Everything's hanging out. Guys are going to be fucking knifing each other, fighting over you. Guys are going to be fucking smashing their cars. What do you do? I have to, who the fuck are you? Right? I'm angry that she's this hot. I'm like, what the fuck are you doing? This is wrong. I'm not supposed to see this in life. I have things to do. I'm supposed to be in the gym now and I'm meeting a friend and I'm here because you're fucking so hot. Right? And I'll say that shit. And genuinely, this is what girls do. They go, huh. And then they want to talk to you and they're like, cool. The last girl, you know, they'll just be like, yeah, one girl like dragged me up here. She's like, I got to come with me and just went off and spent like, you know, went up for like an hour. But guys aren't doing, like guys are just, they're tired of the fucking shit. They really are tired of, oh, so, you know, I'm like, yeah, do you shop here often? Cool. Nice day, isn't it? Yeah, it's a really nice day. Okay, well I'll see you later then. I just fuck, man. As soon as you're just like, right, I don't give a shit. I'm going to go up there. They're laughing because they know. You know, I've got a couple of my girlfriends here. They know. They're fucking tired of the, all right. So just stop censoring yourselves and just be a fucking man. Again, who gives a shit? You're going over there. You want to express yourself. First thing I see, and if it's like great ass, I'll just be like, hey, and again, I'll throw in one of those pre-frames. So I'll make it a little bit, a little bit like fun, but still fucking direct. So I'll just be like, hey, don't take this the wrong way. We have a fucking amazing ass. And they're just like, or just like, you have a really sexy butt. Whatever the fuck it is. They just, they just go, you can actually see them sometimes just go, and that's not even that direct. Like really direct, like my buddy Alan Roger Curry, he does direct, he'll just start saying shit like, I want to put my dick in your, you know, in your pussy. I'm just thinking, but just he'll just like, you literally, within a minute, he's just like, I'm just imagining my dick going in and out of your mouth and chicks are like, what the fuck. I thought a couple of direct, but just for me, it's generally that just being like, you're fucking so hot, I love this about you. Who the fuck are you? This is just like, the self, the, we're used to in life, you know, again, this has been touched on, but censoring ourselves, you know, we're born, when you're born, you're just having fun, you're not censoring yourself, you do whatever the fuck you want to, you know, you say what you want, you want to, you want to piss, you want to shit, you want to eat, you want to cry, you just do it, you don't think about it, you're just, you're just living, right. And then when we get older, all these fucking layers of bullshit stack on, you know, I can't just have fun or I can't just talk to people. I can't just, you know, I can't, you know, you can't do it. Yeah, you fucking can do it and nothing bad is going to happen. You're either, she's either, if you meet the right type of girl at the right time, you're going to get laid, you're just going to get laid. That happens, or you're going to do a conversation, you know, you get laid later, you go on a date, you make a friend, whatever the fuck's going to happen, it's all going to be good. Worst scenario? My god, they run away. Funny story, category. I told this girl she had a great ass, she fucking, she tried to kick me in the knee and she ran off. Funny, funny story for me. This was my story for years, the worst thing that ever happened to me. I was in a coven garden part of London and these girls were walking by and the one in the middle, I liked her, she was hot and these girls were, and I tried to like, you know, chat them out, I was just like, hey, what's up guy? And they just completely blanked me. They walked by and the one in the middle, she had this little tight ass and it was just jiggling. You know, those ones are just like, hello, they're talking to you, right? Love your bum. Then she just turns around and she just goes, my mom is dead, you asshole. See, there's no recovering from that. There's no recovering from that. But that's a funny story and I tell that story and everybody just like a lot of people are like, mortified, who the fuck cares it's funny? And I think the only, since that story, the only bad thing that happened to me once is I was teaching this event where I was like getting guys to be directing until girls are hot. There's like 25 of us standing on a corner and this woman walks around and she makes a little, again, like just in the moment she made a little joke like, hey, it's one pound, you know, one pound to pass us. You know, we're in a gang, you know, just smiling, a little joke. She doesn't say anything, she just walks by. And as she walks by, again, I thought, God, that body with smoke and I was just like, oh fuck, actually, I'll be right back, fellas. And I run over there and I'm just like, huh, and all I got out of my mouth was, huh, and she just went mental. You motherfucker, you think I'm a hooker and she took her bag, she started hitting me with the bag and just kicking me and scratching me with a nail and chasing me around 25 and she starts attacking every guy that's there. So there's one chick trying to beat up 25 dudes, right? Like a fucking nutcase. Obviously she had a bad day. And all I said was, hi. That was it. I said, hi. Okay? Fucking hilarious, right? Like, it's hilarious. I tell people, like, hey, what's the funny thing that happened? There's a chick attack 25 dudes, it was awesome. So you'll find that the worst case scenario is going to be like a really funny story you'll tell your bunnies right, you know, the good and the bad and just the shit that happens. It's all about that. So don't be afraid of the swings, man. They're all good. So, yeah. And so I got to find, like, once I started doing that shit and just like, seeing women just being like 100%, just like 100% authentic and like what I'm feeling, then everything changed for me because I was going around enjoying myself and just being fun, but then being really, really, really honest with girls about what I wanted and just telling them. So, you know, I'll start fucking with her and I'll just stop bringing that sexual thing. So, you know, so, you know, get into a conversation and then after being like, you're so fucking hot, whatever, you have to talk to women. I'll have a chat with them, whatever. And at some point, I'll just stop and I'll just look at them and just be like, we're going to have so much fun together. You know, just, you know, and just don't be afraid. Like, if you have that feeling and you're talking to them and you're just like, God damn, tell her, man. Tell her what you're feeling because it's, you know, again, too many guys are worried about what women are thinking. It's like one of David look them up if you haven't. Don't worry about what she's thinking. Worry about what you're fucking thinking. Everyone's just, oh, they're up there in their heads. Oh, what if I see as well? Who gives a shit? You don't know what she wants. You have no fucking idea. You don't have a vagina. You're not her. Okay? So, worry about what you want. Express it. Because if she wants that too, you're done. You're in there. That's it. Hey, I want to fuck you. I want to fuck you too. Cool, you know. I think you're fucking hot. Oh, you're kind of cute, but whatever. Stop holding that shit back. Stop holding those emotions back. Once you let go, it's like a fucking flood. I got one of my students here. His nickname, well, not really proper anymore, but super AA guy, okay? Had a massive social, just terrible social anxiety. Just the thought of talking to women. How would you describe it? Just debilitating shit in himself. Paralysed. He was paralyzed. He was paralyzed at the thought of coming up and talking to girls. And he once, he spent 45 minutes on our second session, just shitting in the McDonald's, shitting. It was brutal. Like, I've never seen anything like it. Okay, now, what were you doing last night? Yeah. Who's a cop? He was fucking a cop last night. Female cop, obviously. Otherwise, that would just be weird. Yeah, such a day game. Woo! My solution. Get dick. It's easier. That'd be funny. No. And, and now he's just, he's just coming up to chicks, just being like, you're fucking hot. What's going on? He doesn't give a fuck anymore. He's just explaining, like, how do you feel, just saying what the fuck you want to say and not giving a shit? You know, it's just, it's just, it's just, yeah, it's like the idea of coming up to a girl now who's smoking hot and just being like, hey, so, yeah, my, my friends, girlfriends out of town and they gave me some money to buy her a gift. And yeah, I just, a lot to come over and talk to you and stuff. I'm like, are you fucking kidding me, dude? You're going to just bullshit, waste your time, and look, as soon as you talk to a girl, she knows you want to fuck her. Most girls that are hot, they know what's going on. And so, when you're doing that bullshit, whether consciously or subconsciously, you're being a fucking pussy. And they're not attracted to pussies. They're attracted to dicks. And that's their lesbian, it's a different story. That's what it comes down to, just fucking letting that shit out. And yeah, it's nothing you can put, I don't know if you can put it across and like, make a little talk, I have so much, and it's just so much easier than memorizing shit and just, you're fucking hot. Fucking great. All right, I'm going to pause it there. So, anybody have, because I need water, I don't have any questions. I'm a fast talker and I kind of go, somebody's got a question? Oh yeah. Yes, sir. Not this guy. Shoot. No man, I wanted to ask this because, and you don't talk about this a lot, you didn't talk about this in your speech, but you have a lot of experience in the community. And I think, that's not to be overlooked. But what was your evolution of stuff? Because, you mentioned it briefly, you didn't necessarily start out direct, you rolled with some pretty big players, some defining players. And you came into this, and I think that that's important, because you have pretty much more experience, what was it like, 90, 98? Yeah, so you have more experience than pretty much everybody in this room of being in the community. And what was your evolution of that? Okay. Yeah, it's a good question. Fuck. That's a long journey. Where to begin? All right, so yeah, so in the old days, well, if I'm going to tell the story, I might as well tell the fucking story. It was Mystery, it was Mystery's first wingman, in like 98. So this was like, I was doing stand-up, and it was like before all this stuff was kind of written. So, yeah, so again, it was all, it was all about the magic back then. He was doing like all these magic tricks and shit. And I'd have like floods of women just walking around, and he'd be like, you know, all this kind of shit and moving straws out of people's drinks and all this kind of shit. Good for getting attention. And so for me, it just, I don't want to learn magic. I was like, I want to do that. I know a little bit from what he taught me that came later on. But yeah, I didn't like it. I didn't like clubs, and I just all felt wrong. And the whole idea of having to go out to meet chicks, it struck me as wrong. Like why would I have to go somewhere to a specific place in time to meet women and spend money? Like it didn't make any sense. And for a long time, I just knew it wasn't working and I almost kind of dropped it. And I went off to do stand-up comedy, which is my passion. And years went on where I would, once in a while, I'd approach a girl, it would always be some kind of crap, you know, I'd find a reason to talk or whatever, and it would just go nowhere. Like once in a while, I'd get lucky, but it was just crap. And I always had this feeling that it's just like I wasn't happy because I just didn't have it under control. And it's really frustrating because I was just such a pushy, like I'd have girls in the bed with me in their underwear and there's a pretty good hint. She's naked in the bed. I think it's a green light. Better not be, better not take the chance. Let's just sleep and you know, maybe she'll jump on top of me. Like what? Are you serious? So that went on for years and it was funny. So years went by and I was doing stand-up comedy and then I ran into a guy called Cajun, who some of you might be familiar with, on a bus in Canada. This was like 2006, I guess it would be. And we started talking because he was talking about girls on a bus and I was as well. And we got off the bus and he was like, yeah, yeah, I said this to these girls and you know, he was just learning with them and I'm just like, yeah, here's a funny line and here's a pickup line whenever we start talking about this stuff. And I actually just said, oh, I said, this is like years ago. I said, oh yeah, sometimes I do this little magic trick. So I showed him this like this cool trick, the mystery Tommy and he was just like, who taught you that? And I was like this dude called, you know, Eric, he was like a, yeah, mystery. And he's just like, are you fucking serious? He's famous now. Like there's a book and he's like rich and I was like, he's rich? Fuck, he still owes me some money. Awesome. I could get paid. And so, you know, basically, I read the book and then I got in touch with Mystery and you know, introduced Cajun to Mystery and then he told me about this, this layer called the London Seduction Society here in London. And Mystery's like, yeah, you should look it up. It's, you know, it's a big layer. I was like, cool. And I looked it up and I went, you know, and I joined it and I was back in London and this was like 2007 and I joined it. It was all these guys who were just like dedicated like going out and like it was mainly guys going to clubs, going out and meeting chicks and who were really taking steps and like on improving themselves and I was massively like, I was like, fuck, this is so cool. And again, I felt like, fuck, I've known about this for such a long time and I still haven't gotten my shit together and it's really frustrating and I'm still like, I'm still shy and I'm still crappy. And that's when I just snapped. I was like, fuck this. This is bullshit. I'm going to do this. And I just started going out every day. I didn't really read anything. I just, I literally went out and just started going out and like hitting on girls all day long. Like 15, 16 hours a day with various people we had was one of them. And it was just became an obsession, just became an obsession. And I did it so much I just desensitized myself to like rejection or results. I didn't care. I just went out and I started having fun. I just started developing the fuck, enjoying myself. But for the first while I was still doing indirect stuff and then one day I was just like I'm just going to go tell her she's hot. And instantly it just made life so much easier and shit just started to happen and I'd like hook up with one girl and another one. It just became more and more. And yeah, it just went on. Things got better. And eventually I discovered like, you know, like the direct masters like David X, Alan Roger Curry, Bad Boy. And that's one of my mind was like, fuck dude there's other people doing this shit. And I just started and that's when I just started killing it. Just started fucking grabbing just doing whatever just doing whatever I wanted just saying whatever I wanted and just not giving a fuck. And it's weird because it's like they almost kind of go counter to each other being fun which is my thing and being direct. And Alan like yells at me he's just like, man when's it last time? You know, he'll say to women he'll be like, okay so last time you were fucking a guy and tell me the last time you were fucking a guy you made a really funny joke. She was like, never. Exactly. And it's almost like they just counter to each other but for me I just find it I just merge them together I'm still being myself I'm still being fun and flirting but I'm just like I'm gonna fuck you but I'm still gonna be fun about it. I'm not gonna be like a serious dude I'm not a serious dude I can never be that. But anyway so yeah I just continued growing and then yeah and I'm just trying to get the message out and I put this massive event together called the direct dating summit which actually involved all those three guys I just mentioned and it was just awesome I just want to spread the whole thing of just like don't be weird be fun be honest be direct yeah and it's just it changed my life like massively massively so I guess that's the story but yeah there's always like massive detail I mean just it's a big ass story but that's basically it yeah yeah the thumbs up cool it's a big story cool so yeah any questions just about the whole thing couple hands you sir not like how I call you sir like you're 80 I mentioned on stage it's a lot of approaching and pre-framing stuff what's your midgame like hmm I wanted to talk about that also I wanted to talk about dates but just there's never enough time to say everything um I find like a lot of people will say like go and have these you know long ass interactions I've actually found if you're going to be like really quite direct you just want to go in and just be like you're fucking hot you may have to hook up you know I find actually keeping it short is really good so they have to know you're not like a freaky weirdo you're not a psychopath so you need to have a bit of a chat so I think it's all really about the energy your portray it's not really about what you're talking about you know I find two minutes of just being totally normal having a bit of banter and where they can recognize like oh this guy's normal this guy's not a psycho killer that's enough uh so I'll keep it short and I'll get the fuck out of there alternatively best thing I always go on instant dates if possible because in an instant I don't know the girl but I find standing there on the street for like half an hour you know you're kind of going into the friend zone so it's either keep it short or get her somewhere where you can really you know get to know her and all this kind of stuff so yeah I do the same things to anyone like to put it short just get to know her like what is her passion what the fuck is she doing in life does she like her job if she doesn't like it what does she really like doing you know how does she end up on the shops I'm trying to find out everything I can and my general rule but yeah she's from here she loves this she hates this is her favorite book you know she loves her parents she hates her brother whatever it is she'll be able to walk away and say a bunch of stuff because if you can't there's no you don't know shit about her so when you call her she's just gonna be like what the fuck but then if you're being super super direct and you're just like I want to fuck the crap out of you she doesn't have to know anything about you because if she knows you're offering dick and she wants dick but yeah it's a big question over here was a dude with his hand a second ago yeah oh that was the same question nice let me cover yeah anything else okay yeah you said you were gonna you wanted to talk about dates and stuff so I just wondered if you could give us quick yeah that's one thing like a lot of guys just aren't sure what to do on a date so there's one thing what I'm talking to a girl don't just do that like the number one thing that people do is they'll just be like yeah yeah they'll just get a girl's number like yeah yeah we'll hang out it's just really fucking weak try and make actual plans so I'll find out like what do they do for fun what are they like doing and I'll actually make actual plans for like something that's actually different and weird and I'll actually say like I'm not gonna go take you for dinner that's boring we're gonna do some crazy shit we'll go frisbee and we'll play frisbee or just like anything that's out of the like how many guys are taking chicks and be like yeah let's go we're gonna go rock climbing instantly or we're gonna go do some crazy shit I'll always make actual plans that are fucking fun so chicks are like what we're actually gonna do that we're gonna do that we're not gonna sit there or like a watch a fucking movie where you can't even talk it's crap so make actual plans right there on the spot and I'll be like right so I'm gonna meet you tomorrow right there by that tree so on the date fucking like have a blast like first of all I might quickly go for a coffee half an hour have a talk so I know that we're on the same level it's not just get to know them a little bit and then go do go do some fun shit man just fucking have a blast putting the effort in like I know the community is like yeah just like you don't want to buy your stuff and you just gotta try and fuck her no don't try and fuck her right away Jesus Christ so many girls I've lost as I try to fucking right away I don't want to go home with it then fucking later it's beautiful unless literally that's all you want it's all about going for what you want if you meet a chick and she's cool and you're enjoying your company and you think this girl's awesome I want to have her in my life why would you try and fuck her like immediately what do you do like why but if you meet a girl and just like I just want to fuck you and she's like yeah I just want to get laid okay cool come over to my house then there's no need to have a date but if you actually like someone fucking relax man so many guys they're like grabbing her titties and they're fucking making out with her this is an awesome person she loves me man she was all over me she was grabbing my ass she was grabbing my cock if you didn't fuck her you're never going to see her again ever who's had that one before awesome date you're making out and stuff you're like yeah it's great they'll never see you again never see you again why why do you think they feel like a slut there's an expectation that they're going to fuck you now they just feel like a dirty ass hoe you know yeah sure they got carried away in the moment and that's good go for it pull the trigger when you know you're going to have sex with her sure have sex with her she's going to want to be a host she's going to see you again but don't put girls in that position if you have an awesome date you're like this chick's so cool she's amazing she's great I want to have her around in my life you know what you do you grab her at the end you'll be like this was awesome pull her in you know just give her a kiss on the forehead or grab her face kiss her on the mouth don't do the you know the 50s kiss right you know they just go just hold that and like you watch those movies like what the fuck are they making out this is gay what kind of shit is this do that because it's not there's no like it's not dirty it's just like because you're grabbing her and you're kissing her but you're not getting all you're not doing all that shit so she's just going to be like oh man he's not a pussy he kissed me but he wasn't doing the whole slimy shit the next time you see her you're going to fuck the crap out of her so what's the problem but guys just get they got this idea of just like yeah you got to fuck him you got to fuck him just chill out man enjoy you're like a little fucking horny rabbit fill every hole must fill holes just fucking Jesus Christ just relax enjoy yourself you know and again it comes down to just like I'm really honest about what I want so if I meet a chick look if I have to lie to get pussy I don't want the pussy I just don't want it you know because why why would you lie to a chick or like try and fuck a chick with a boyfriend there's another girl behind you who's just as hot who's fun who wants to get laid who doesn't have a boyfriend so why are you going to fuck with this girl who's got a boyfriend why would you lie to this girl in some way like I've got a couple of wonderful girls here and you know like one of them the Lithuanian I'll call her no names we were you know we were hooking up a lot recently and you know we hooked we met a couple of weeks ago we had coffee and she said she said cool you know I'm cool to be friends with you we can hang out we can be friends and I'm not angry and I said okay that's good and why and it was pretty quick like a few weeks after we were hooking up she was like it's cool we can be friends now and I said why why so fast and she said it's because you were honest with me about everything you're always honest about your lifestyle and that there's other girls all this kind of stuff so because you never lie to me there's no reason for me to be angry with you you know what I'm saying so I'm always that way that's like there's nothing to hide about what you're doing just do what you want to do and just be honest about it and you're going to find other people who share they want what you want and you can just have a fucking blast and enjoy yourself and have lots of sex woo oh come on if you don't make noise for lots of sex what do you make lots of sex I haven't gotten a sign so I think we're okay any other questions I like answering questions it's fun it's all about you guys not you people on the internet it's not about you it's about these guys right here come on let's all let's all make fun of the people on the internet they didn't come out come on let's make fun everybody turn around and flip off the people go at everyone right now get up right now and go everyone everyone get up right now I'm serious right now on three one two three everybody get up walk to the middle walk to the middle and go on three one two three you weren't here dick hey first time for everything right people at home like this is bullshit man fuck I had to go I listened to an ad to watch this fucking video and now they're telling me to fuck off this is bullshit really I'm not going to top that so yeah that's it they're just yeah I'm not going to top that so that's it really what can I say yeah it's been great this is my first time speaking this thing it's great all the speakers are fucking great yeah thanks for coming and I'm Sasha Daygame and you can find me if you look for me on the internet thank you enjoy the rest of your event and that's it peace