 Welcome back to every way woman So it's time for a few life bites if you will and they say women who want it all are unhappy Well, I know I want it all but I don't know if it's possible Madison. I don't think so. No can't have it all. Sorry That's a little depressing if I can't have it all I don't know where okay before we get into Define have it all help me with that. Help me with that. I have it all I mean Yeah, I think for most women. It's the career. It's the love. It's the family I mean, there's a lot of things I know I want but I heard you say you're always have the wisest words You can have it all you just can't have it all at the same time, right? I'm trying to live by that. Okay, but I don't even know where to go from here Okay, so have it all is relative right because they the topic is women are unhappy to have it all is relative I'll use myself. I'm a woman first I'm a mother second. I'm a I'm sorry. I'm a wife and I'm a wife second Thank you. I'm a wife second Then I'm a mother then I'm a career person in all those things and so I can have it all It's just not at the same times sometimes I have to be more of a wife then a mother then I have to focus on my career But we put a lot of pressure on women to say you got to be doing x y and z and by the time you're 30 Yeah, why do you think it's so unrealistic? Well, okay, first of all We do have biological clocks, so you do have to do certain things with Yes, I know your room is shriveling right now as we speak Thank you Madison, all right, but yeah some things have to happen, right? So at some point you might have to make a choice Do you want a career or do you want to be a wife and have a family? Sometimes having a career can overwhelm or overshadow being a mother and being a wife Or sometimes being a mother can overshadow the the the career because something has to you have to give energy At that time of whatever is important correct, okay So what I do here sometimes is I hear a lot of young women saying they want it all at a certain time frame Like by the time they're 45 why can men have careers until they're 60s and 70s? Why can't women change their point of view and say you know what maybe I can be a mother and a wife? And I can do that earlier on in life, and I can continue to educate myself I continue to have life experience and then when the kids are ready to start sustaining themselves then I can have a career I can have a career my well Do you know I think there's a lot of pressure put on women. Yes, you have it all Beyond we put the pressure on them. Yeah, don't put that pressure on them. We put the pressure on each other Absolutely. Oh, I put the pressure on myself and my mother of course But you know I think it's a matter of also learning how to set realistic goals for yourself and figuring out what you want Don't want. Okay. You did a dream board. Okay. Tell us about that I couldn't even figure out for myself what I wanted or didn't want you know beyond the basics What does my life really look like so I took a friend's advice and I made a vision board for myself a dream board If you will because I heard you know if you list your goals or you visualize them There's a better chance of them coming to fruition on that dream board You want to accomplish a course along the course of your life? No, I'm on it right now I'm not gonna on 30 I'm working on it right now, but what was interesting is that in doing that I noticed that there was a lot of things I Intuitively wanted that I didn't realize or that described my life and there was a lot of things I didn't want in letting that go and being okay with it I think it's very important for a lot of women out there. It's okay if you don't want Yeah, and that's that's right you can do that, too I think sometimes people get social pressure or they get pressure from their family that they have to Have to have kids or they have to have a career Then you don't have if you want to have a career you want to be a CEO You want to do it you don't have to have children you don't you can choose not to it It doesn't make you a bad woman if your only thing you have to do is you have to love yourself And whatever you choose to do you have to work hard other than that the table I mean that there's a blank canvas well But you know in that blank canvas can be very intimidating Stacey I mean at what point did you realize in your own life what you could have and what you did want? At the point well first of all I live the half part of my life was a farce per se I mean I just hadn't deal with anything so I did a lot of things to make others happy, right? So I speak to this not really being genuine to myself because if I if I go back and I look at that I do a lot of things different. I would travel. I may not have gotten married I would have traveled before I got married I would have finished my graduate degree. I just would have been more Serene, but I had depression 26. I get married got to do things So that's what I'm telling you the cameras is playing take advantage of it take advantage of it ladies We'll be right back with more every way woman stay tuned