 Hello everyone. Welcome to another live video, Narc's Fiverr and today I am live from this beautiful villa here. The swimming pool in the back. I'll have to have a dip in there after. Got the spare waiting for me to dive in tonight. Looks really cosy. And yeah, checked in here today. Here for a little while. Gonna go explore the area in a bit but before I do that, I'd like to talk about this and maybe I am stating the obvious a bit. But some of us don't always see it especially in the beginning. We think that they are so intelligent as though they always know exactly what they're doing with their manipulation, their tricks, their games, their lies. But you know what? They actually do all of those things because they're very stupid. That's what it is when someone lacks intelligence, logic, reasoning. They resort to these silly little games. They manipulate, they trick, they lie, they cheat, they do whatever it takes to get ahead of your logic, of your reasoning skills, of your intelligence. Because it overrides it. Their manipulation overrides our intelligence and that is how they get ahead of us. That is how they manage to trick us. But the only reason they use them in a belation is because they lack intelligence. And because they know they're never gonna win that game. They know that we are more intelligent than they are. That we are better with logic. So of course they have to resort to them in a belation. And that is actually how they are very stupid. Because if you look back, they actually, they had something to make it work with you. They had what they needed to get what they wanted from you. Never end in supply. Stability, security, predictability, everything they want. Money, a place to stay. They name it. You would have done it for them. You were willing to do anything for them at one point. I mean, you literally would have done anything. If they said jump, you would have said how high. You would have done anything for them. And then they started playing these games. They manipulated you. They tricked you. They lied to you. They cheated on you. They stole from you. They did all of these impulsive, reckless acts, things that you did not approve of. And at this point, you probably wouldn't do much for them now. Because now they've lost their value in your eyes. You don't value them as much as you once did. They're not worth anything to you now. Because you've seen what they're like. You've seen what they're about. And once they've been involved with so many other people, they've done all of these crazy things. They go to bars and clubs every night. Or even if it's every week, they're getting drunk. They're taking drugs, sleeping around. No one wants that. It's like if someone goes and takes your car or takes my car. And then they go drive it down the road. They drive up on the block. And they're doing donuts in it. You know, they're revving it to the max. They're slamming on the brakes. They're doing all these crazy things, wheel spins, everything. And then they come back to you. And they're like, okay, I've had my fun with it. Here's the keys. Here's your car back. I'd be like, no. That's not my car anymore. That's yours. You've just taken it and driven around the block, done wheel spins, donuts, everything. That's not mine anymore. It's nothing like what it was when I had it. You keep it. And that is the same mentality you need to have with these narcissists. You know, once they've been taken out, they've been around the block. They've done all of these crazy reckless things. That's not the same person that you knew. That's a completely different person now. They're nothing like they used to be. So you need to forget about them. Leave them in the dust. Leave them in the past. Because that is not the same person you once knew. It's a completely different person that that is why they act so different. It's not the person you thought you knew. Because that was a false character anyway. But that's just it, isn't it? Like I said, they are actually very stupid. Because if they were smart, if they actually had a brain, then they wouldn't have done all of that because what they've done is just cut off their nose despite their face. It's like they were holding a gun. And they tried to shoot you, they try to hurt you. But they just ended up shooting their own foot. And now they're going to deal with the consequences of that because now, well, I'm hoping that you wouldn't want anything to do with them after everything you've seen. After everything they said to you, everything they've done to you. You should know by now that they do not deserve you. And you should know that you deserve so much more. You deserve way better than that. I don't know that many of you you will move on and find so much better than that. You will find someone who when they put their arms around you or you put your arms around them, just feel so right. Just feels like this person really loves you and cares about you. You never had that with a narcissist. You thought you did maybe in the beginning but you were just buying into the fantasy. Many of you were just lying to yourself because you wanted that so bad. You wanted someone to love you, to care about you. You wanted to feel like you actually mattered to someone but you never had that with them. They never give a shit about you. Don't want to hurt you but I just want to tell you the truth because now it's time to wake up and leave their arses behind, forget about them. They're never going to change. They're only going to play the same game because they are stupid but soon you will find someone. You will realize or someone who realizes that there's no point in playing these stupid games. They're too smart for that shit and you should be too. If you are intelligent and you know what you want in life, you're not afraid to go after it and you know you have the capabilities to make it work. You don't need to play any stupid games. You don't need to manipulate anyone especially if you are thinking about the long term because you know you're about it. You know you've got what it takes to make it work. So you can do that but that's the thing. These types of people they're not about anything. They're not thinking long term. It's all about the short term impulses. They're very reckless and they know they're not good enough for you anyway. That's why they manipulate you. That's why they try to trick you and play these games. Give you the false character. That's why. That's why because deep down they know they're not good enough for you. If they really believed that they were good enough for you then they would have just given it a shot. They would have given it their all just like you did for them because you knew deep down that you were good enough for them. That's why you gave it everything you got because you knew if I give everything I got this is gonna work. This is gonna go well because deep down you know that you are about something. You know you have the capabilities the potential. You know you have it all. You know you've got everything but they live in this scarcity mindset and deep down they feel inadequate deficient. They don't have enough so they've got to hold on to everything so tightly. Their feelings, their emotions even financially they've got to hold on to it all. They can't let it go. They can't give any of that to you because deep down they feel inferior and inadequate. They don't have enough. It's all about getting that from you because they already know that you're better than them and you wonder why. You wonder why the narcissist never gave you their all because deep down they thought that if they give their all to you and you looked at it and you compared it with everything you gave to them. You would just laugh at it. You would just be so dissatisfied with it the same way that they act like they're so dissatisfied with everything you do for them. The greatest fear is actually getting that response from you. So they hold back. They don't give you nothing because they're so scared they don't want to see that response from you. The last thing they want is for you to look down on them. For you to start measuring what level they are at and setting the bar for them. They don't want you to do that because then that gives you the power and it's no good you having the power because they're not about anything. They can't produce anything great. So you would just be laughing at them all day. That's why they've got a hold back. They can only give you little breadcrumbs, morsels. So then it makes you think oh you must be capable of more than that. It's not that you can't do it you just you're not doing it and they would rather you think like that. They would rather you think that they are holding back. They're not giving their all than they have just given their all and that is it. The last thing they want is to put themselves out there and you thinking that they ain't nothing. That is the last thing they want. So of course they're going to hold back. Of course they're going to give you breadcrumbs. Of course you should expect that because the last thing they want to do is put all of their cards on the table and you see their hand and it's just not that great as you thought as you expected because in the beginning they sell themselves as this incredible person that they can never live up to. So anything they give you after that is just never going to measure up to what you think it is. To the dream that they sold to you they can never live up to that. So all they can do with withhold the fantasy because it was never real anyway. So yeah but they have to just manipulate because they are stupid, they are incapable. What else can they do? I mean just think about it with a narcissist if they don't manipulate you what else are they going to do? There's nothing else they can do. It's either of that or they just leave you alone. There's not going to be any authenticity any real genuine interaction because even if they tried to give out to you you would just sit back and think what is this? This is who you are. This is what goes on in your head. This is this is what you have to give. This is what you have to share in a relationship. This is as deep as it gets. You would get bored very quickly. I mean you wonder why they play all of these games. Why there's so much drama and chaos. Why they're always fucking with your heads. You wonder why. The reason why is because they know if they didn't do that. You would get bored so quickly. You would be out of the door so fast. You wouldn't see any point in sticking around. So they have to cause trouble. They have to cause disruption so that you're always confused. You can never think clearly because they would rather that than you thinking them that they are boring. But that is exactly what they are. I've said it before. I've made a video on that. Narcissists are boring. Narcissists are no fun. It's true. You take away the games and the manipulation. There's just nothing entertaining about them. Nothing exciting. That is why if you look back there was never a time. I mean you could have been with them for months years. Some of you may have been with them for decades. There was never a time where the two of you sat in a room alone. No distractions. No music. No television. No drama. No chaos. No stupid games. Just the two of you sitting in a room alone together and just having a normal conversation. It never happened, did it? If it did start to happen after a couple of minutes they would have tried to do something to hurt you, to gaslight you. Just something to get on your nerves because they already know if we talk from but for more than a few minutes you're going to see just how boring I am. Just how stupid I am and you're not going to want to be around me anymore. It's as simple as that. They are stupid. They are incapable because they never took the time to work themselves. All they did is just work on the illusion, the false character. Just think about how much time and money they spent creating this false image. They're always out buying clothes, doing their hair. Some of them get plastic surgery. They do all of these things rather than spend their time or money on their capabilities actually becoming something great for real. To them it's all about just looking great. There's nothing underneath that. So they would rather just ghost you, discard you, leave you alone with the illusion. Leave you alone with a thought that maybe there was something more. Maybe there was this whole of the sight of them that you never got to see. And then they discard you, they move on to someone else and they give you the illusion that yes there is this whole of the sight of them. They never gave it to you but they're going to give it to someone else. So you're all missing out, you're losing out on that. No, it's all an illusion. Everything you saw from them that was it. Take away the drama, the chaos, the manipulation and you've got pretty much nothing. Well actually what you have is just someone who needs you so bad. You've just got this void that needs you to fill them and that's really all it is. That's all that is. And when you realize that, you realize you're wasting your time with them. You realize that if you're around them the only thing you're going to do is just you just have to pour everything into them. You have to give them all of your money, time, energy, effort. That's all it is. There's nothing more to it than that. And if they move on to someone else then that other person has to do that. Exactly what you're doing. They're not going to get anything special out of it. There's nothing to get out of it. And when you realize that it's so much easier to walk away. When you realize that there really is nothing there other than the false self and the illusion. Just this trickery of making you believe that there's something more, something else. But you never actually see it. All you see is the games, the drama, the distractions. Narcissists are stupid. They could have just made the choice to work on things with you in the beginning. They could have done it that way. Instead of causing disruption, instead of being impulsive, reckless and cheating or lying and stealing. Because now it's game over after that. You're never going to see them the same way again. You're never going to see them as this pure naive innocent person as they want you to see them. You're never going to see them like that. Just take this knowledge and move on. Don't ever look back because nothing is ever going to change. Things can change for you. Just not for them. No it's quite a sad video today. But you guys got to know the truth. You got to know about it. Just think positive now about your future. Because you haven't got a future with them. But if you move on on your own, find someone else, you can have a good future with them. Someone who actually loves you and cares about you for real. There's no better feeling than that than someone who actually cares. But they're never going to care about anything but themselves. Because they're feeling as quick, they feel that they are deficient in something. You just got to find someone who doesn't have to engage in these impulsive reckless acts. Someone who already has their life figured out. Someone who is independent. Someone who has their own thing going on in life. They don't really need you. They can live without you. But they want to be around you. And you need to get yourself to that point too where you don't need anyone. But you wouldn't mind being around someone that you like. And when two people like that come together, just fits very well. It works. It's a beautiful thing. And I hope that all of you will find that it might take time. May not be straight away, but I hope in time that you will find that all of you. I'd love to hear from you, you know, those of you who have managed to move on. Success stories. You managed to find a good person. Someone who loves you, cares about you. Someone who is there for you. If you've done that, I'd love to hear from you. Send me an email. I'd love to hear success stories. Unfortunately, I do hear a lot of horror stories from people every day. But it's good to hear some good things sometimes. It really gives us all hope that things can get better. And they can. Things definitely can get better. It all starts by leaving these toxic people behind and moving on with their life. That's the first step. It's all part of the adventure. Remember that. Even these dark times, it's all part of the adventure. That's how you go to see it. When you see it that way, you will feel differently about it. These dark times. These difficult things that you're going through. It's like in an action movie. You have to walk through the dark forest. You may not like it. But then you come out the other side and then there's this beautiful lake. You can hear all the birds singing, butterflies. See the fish swimming around. But you've got to walk from the dark forest first to get there. It's all part of the adventure. That's the kind of mindset you need to have when you're going through these things. Don't always see it as a negative thing. I mean, of course they are to blame. They hurt you. They abused you. They did all of these things. I'm not saying that. I don't invalidate what you went through but it's good to reframe it and see it a different way. Think positively about it and then you will get a positive result out of it. All right. Almost 30 minutes. I hope it was helpful. If it was as always, please give it a thumbs up down below. Share your thoughts in the comment section. Hit that subscribe button to receive notifications for my future videos and if you would like to speak to me one-on-one, I'd like you to know that I am always available. You can book a session with me from my website. It's Narcseviver.co.uk and you can also message me on Instagram. It's Narcseviver YouTube and I also have new pictures and videos on there every day. So definitely check that out. It's Narcseviver YouTube on Instagram. All right. Thank you all. It's a beautiful day. So I'm going to head back out and explore. You will have a great day and I will talk to you soon.