 Hello everyone, welcome to another Narc Survival Live video. I'm just outside this family mart in Kyoto Japan. I just went in and got a few snacks and I thought I'd get on here tonight and do this very important video where I'm gonna be talking about how the narcissist is never going to find anyone better than you or me but yeah they're never gonna find anyone better and I'm not just saying that to make you feel better about yourself I'm saying it because it is the actual truth they're never going to find better than you that is never going to happen and I'm not just talking about physical attractiveness money wealth power or connections although yes of course of hundreds of clients and I know many of you are very successful I've spoken to a lot of psychotherapists psychologists I spoke to a lawyer some celebrities very successful people also a West Hollywood director and very wealthy people were women in Hawaii and I can remember who owns a fleet of supercars and a ten million dollar house very beautiful lady so yeah many of you you're physically attractive you're wealthy you have a good job you got a lot of good things going on but I'm not just talking about that these are not the only reasons why the narcissist will never find anyone better than you it's much deeper than that I'm talking about and I know you will all resonate with this I'm talking about how you cared about them more than anyone else ever cared in their entire lives I mean you cared about that ass says more than they cared about themselves you treated them better than they ever treated themselves in their entire lives better than anyone ever treated them you really think they're ever gonna find anyone better than you anyone who cares that much at all so consider the fact that a lot of people who do have money or they're physically attractive those types of people they tend to be quite self-absorbed egotistical they don't really tend to care that much about another person but you did you cared a lot about them you were always there for them you were always on their side you were always in their corner and not only that but you tolerated so much abuse remember all the things they did to you you put up with things that most people would never put up with and on top of that you were an amazing person you were always there for them you listened to them you stuck by them you were there for them no matter what and I can promise you that most people are never gonna be there for them like that I can promise you that I mean you just got to think of it like this what are the odds that they're gonna find another empath like you or I but they're gonna find another person who cares that much about them because remember that's what they targeted us in the first place because they knew that we cared and that we would give them their supply but even then when they found us they mistreated us they misused us so even in the extremely unlikely case that they find another empath like us again what do you think they're gonna do of course they're just gonna abuse them they're never gonna treat them right they're never gonna treat them with love and respect so the odds of them finding another empath and someone who's better than you and having a consistent relationship with them the odds of that happening are zero that is never going to happen and I can promise you that you are the best that it gets for the narcissist just as I know myself I am the best but it gets for any narcissist that I've ever dealt with in my entire life they're never gonna find anyone better than me but it's never gonna happen they're never gonna find anyone more handsome they're never gonna find anyone sexier they're never gonna find anyone who worked so hard someone who cared about them so much they are never going to find that and just remember if when they got you they had you how did they treat you they had this person who cared more about them than anyone else in their entire lives how did they treat you did they treat you with love and respect or did they abuse and mistreat you they didn't treat you right did they and that's how you know even if in the rare case that they do come across another empath you already know exactly how they're going to treat them they're not going to treat them with love and respect so where do you think that's going to get them it's not going to get them anywhere and they are never going to find anyone better than you they're not going to run into another empath as I've said in past videos one to two percent of the population are empaths and as Dr. Rahman he says narcissism affects over 50% of the population so the odds are they just got to run into another narcissist because as we know like attracts like yes narcissistic people do tend to attract each other and even gravitate towards each other narcissists they're not even that bothered about empaths anyway they'll just settle for whatever they can get whatever they can find whatever fool it's willing to take them in and take care of them and yeah I know at one point that was us I was me that was you we were dumb enough to take care of these fools to give them the love that they didn't deserve that they misused that they took for granted yeah we gave them that and now it's time for us to take it back but yeah this video is not just to make you feel better about yourself this video is not meant to do that no this video is to give you the truth and the truth is that they will never find anyone better than you that is never going to happen I can promise you that and I know yes you may see on their social media it looks like they've moved on they found their new supply they're riding off into the sunset occurs another knocks by the quote as I've said in some of my past videos they're not riding off into the sunset they're riding off into the depths of hell because everything you're seeing it is just a facade it isn't real they love you to think that it is real so that they can hurt you and get their narcissistic supply but the truth is that it isn't real it's all fake it's all a facade they're just using it to manipulate you and to make you believe that they couldn't have anything with you but they can have it with someone else I asked just typically how it always is with narcissists it's like in the beginning they love no one else just you and then by the end of it it's like they would rather be with anyone but you like you are just the worst thing that ever happened to them like you're nothing like you just don't even mean anything but that's just a manipulation the truth is that you cared more about them more than anyone else in their lives more than they ever cared about themselves more than they ever did for themselves and you just got to look back and write a list of everything you did for them everything you gave to them you shared with them and then write another list of what they did for you you will see that what they did it was nothing in comparison it was never an equal exchange you always did far more for them and they were never happy they were never satisfied with that it was never good enough but you just got to think who's gonna do that for them who's gonna do half as much as what you did for them it's pretty cool that you're now so I'm gonna get back in the car but don't go anywhere yet this message has just begun I have so much more to say yeah you just got to think who is going to come into their lives and do anything near what you did for them I mean they really make us doubt ourselves I've been with narcissists I mean I was earning 15 $20,000 a month staying in five bedroom villas by the beach driving supercars I had two three cars at the same time I was doing all this stuff and that still wasn't good enough and I already know all the narcissists that I was with they are not in a better position or situation now the best they had was with me and I know they're never gonna find anyone more handsome anyone more charming anyone more loving more caring more empathic anyone who cares about them as much as I did because I can tell you although yes I am obviously a very successful man I've done a lot in my life I've achieved a lot I'm also very high maintenance I take very good care of myself not only all of those things but I also have a very big heart I'm a very loving caring person and I can tell you that is extremely rare there are not many people in this world who are physically attractive successful intelligent charming charismatic confident and not only that but empathic and they have a big heart and they really care and they're loyal and devoted do you know how rare that is in this world and that's when you should look at yourself and realize just how special you are because you are very special and there aren't many people like you in this world they are not gonna find anyone else like you they're not gonna find anyone else on your level I can promise you that yeah they play it down they act like you're nothing I know yeah they do that all the time doesn't change anything in reality though does it you're still who you are and just think about it you really think they're gonna find anyone who cares as much about them as you did just that part forget about everything else I know yes we have so many wonderful qualities and abilities we're beautiful people we're successful but all of these things yes I know forget about all of that and just think about this one thing ask yourself this question anytime that you think they've moved on they're floating their new supply they're trying to triangulate them with you just ask yourself this one question will they find anyone who cares as much about them as you did and of course the answer is no they're never gonna find anyone who cares even a fraction of how much that you did and I know that because you're watching this video right now most people they wouldn't even care enough to search for these videos to try to figure out what's wrong with them to try to make things better most people wouldn't even care some people would just leave them behind straight away and not even think twice about it but you stuck in it you cared enough to watch these videos to find my community you cared enough about them and you stuck with them all of that time you tore it so much how many times did they manipulate abuse and deceive you did they trick and fool you did they cheat on you lied to you steal from you and yet you still remained loyal you really think they're gonna find anyone else like that and at the same time you're beautiful you're gorgeous you're intelligent you charismatic you have a heart you're hard-working you're passionate they're never gonna find anyone else even close to your level they're never gonna find anyone else like that you are as good as against for them I could promise you that and even if in the rare case that they find anyone even close to you what do you think they're gonna do of course they're just gonna mess it up again just as they did with you because what do they do when they meet someone like us when they meet an empath they take us for granted they just see us as an object or something to be used exploited and then they just throw us away like garbage because they can't do much with that they can't do much with our empathy because they don't have any empathy of their own they have an inability to be vulnerable to connect to experience true love or intimacy so a lot of these wonderful qualities that you have they can't do anything with that anyway because they can't love they can't connect to you or anyone else they can't be intimate so you're presenting these qualities before them and to them it's just like what is this it's like if I went to a restaurant and someone well if I went to a vegan restaurant and then someone put meat in front of me I would be so confused I'd be thinking what am I supposed to do with this I can't eat this this isn't vegan and this is the same thing with a narcissist when you're presenting before them your love your empathy your compassion your ability to connect to love to be intimate they're looking at it the same way as I would look at meat that's been served to me when I'm at a vegan restaurant they're looking at it like what am I supposed to do that I don't know what to do that I've never seen that my entire life I've never seen anyone try to love me try to connect with me it doesn't make any sense I don't know what to do with it I don't speak that language of love it was never taught to me yes because unlike us they didn't see that vision of love in their childhood they haven't seen two adults connect and be vulnerable be intimate show love to each other they've never seen that before and at this point in their lives it's already too late for them to learn it because their entire lives they haven't been authentic they abandon their true selves at the child because they believe that wasn't good enough they felt unlovable so they created a false self which needs excessive validation attention and admiration and just their entire lives all they've ever done is manipulate and deceive people they were never concerned about love a connection or true intimacy they were never concerned about that at all so of course they are not going to find better than you even when they had you what did they do because they couldn't really do anything with that they used your empathy your empathic concern they use that in a different way in a wrong way let's just go off let me turn on the car let me know if it affects the sound quality I'm going to continue they used your empathy in the wrong way there's a certain way that it's meant to be empathy is meant to be used to understand the person to provide emotional support to them to validate them they mistreated it they misused it they used your own empathy to abuse you to put you on this hamster wheel where you were running endlessly in an effort to try to please them when the reality is that they cannot be satisfied they have these insatiable desires that can never be fulfilled and you just got to think now you've already set the bar you have you are the measuring stick for everyone who comes after you so they're gonna look back and they're gonna think right yes I was with Christopher he really loved me he really cared about me he was always there for me gave me a back rub whenever I needed it took me out to restaurants twice a day for something to eat took me to fancy hotels he took me on trips took me for a drive in his car whenever I wanted to go out he listened to me no matter what time it was it doesn't matter if it was 3 o'clock in the morning Christopher was there he was always there for me he always less than he always cared he always put me before himself he was so selfless yeah the narcissist is gonna be thinking about all this stuff as you set the bar you're the measuring stick for everyone who comes after you and you really think they're gonna find anyone who ticks all of those boxes no of course not they're never gonna find that you know how rare that is this is something that people fantasize about they dream about this kind of stuff because most of the time it's not even reality I mean just look at me just look at how many views I've got here on YouTube you know how rare it is to find someone like myself when they first started doing this I was 29 years of age I had all of this information I have so much passion I have this ability to actually care about people to be selfless to put other people before myself and at the same time quite a handsome guy I'm successful I became a self-made millionaire by the age of 33 I've traveled the world I've been to so many countries I'm very intelligent you really think they're gonna find anyone with this unique combination of qualities because as I said typically people who are physically attractive they're very crazy they don't act right because they're predominantly focused on their physical attractiveness rather than their mental health or their emotional health they're predominantly focused on that so they might look good on the outside but that's just the outside on the inside there's nothing actually there there's nothing inside of them the light's wrong but no one's home and then you've got a fact to win all of these other qualities like intelligence are they hard-working are they successful have they made something of themselves with their lives you need to remind yourself of all the stuff to remember just how great you are how special you are they're not gonna find anyone else like you they're not gonna find anyone else even close to you they're never gonna find that and even if they find someone who is at a fraction of the level that you are what do you think they're gonna do they're gonna mess it up even if they find someone who is even remotely empathic they're just gonna mistreat it they're gonna abuse it and the empathy they're gonna misuse it they're not gonna use it for the right thing to establish a connection and build a relationship because they don't even care about that that means nothing to them as I said it's like the same thing as me going to a vegan restaurant and they put out real meat in front of me I'm gonna look at it I feel what is this what am I supposed to do that I can't eat that I can't eat that same thing with a narcissist that's exactly what they did to you that's what they do to all of us that's where there's millions of victims of narcissistic abuse who are on YouTube watching these videos every day that's why because all of us we all have one thing in common we put our hearts our love our empathy our compassion right in front of this person we wore our hearts on our sleeves and what do they do they abused us they took us for granted yeah we all have that in common millions of us around the world have been through this the same thing happens every time I've never cured even one time of anyone loving a narcissist and the narcissist can reciprocate or things get better for them or they have a successful relationship no it always goes wrong it goes bad it goes really bad it doesn't end well every time there is no such thing as anyone doing well with a narcissistic person that just doesn't happen that never happens there isn't even one single relationship I ever heard of if I research my studies my experience it just doesn't happen so 100% it's a guarantee they will never find anyone better than you it doesn't matter what it looks like on social media it's all fake as dr. Romney said the better a look a relationship looks like on social media the more toxic it's likely likely to be in real life thank you for the donation there Teresa I appreciate it they're never gonna find anyone better than you remind yourself of who you are you are beautiful you're smart you're intelligent you're kind you're helpful you're considerate you're caring you're generous you're a good listener kind you're nurturing you care about people just because an artist says took you for granted that doesn't make you any less than who you really are that doesn't say anything about you that just says a lot about them you're still the amazing person that you are just because the narcissist and appreciate you that's their problem I can tell you they will live to regret it one day they will realize it of course they're gonna go out into the world they're gonna come across it and people they're gonna date they're gonna have relationships as we call it that's just their supply their sources of validation admiration maybe money a place to stay whatever it may be they're gonna go out into the woods and they're gonna find that and it's gonna hit them hard it's gonna hit them like a ton of bricks yes they're going to realize it of course they're not completely blind they're not completely detached from reality they are but not completely they do have enough sense to realize that things are different and when they were with you the way that you cared about them yes you cared about them more than anyone else ever cared about them in their entire lives you did more for them than they ever did for themselves they're never gonna find anyone who looks at them who looks in their eyes and it's like yeah you actually see them you acknowledge them they're never gonna find anyone who desires to be close to them yeah you were very affectionate with the narcissist you loved to be near them to hold them put your arms around them to kiss them because they meant that much to you they're never gonna find anyone values loves and cherishes them like that someone who holds their hands and looks deeply into their eyes someone who kisses them and it's not like just because it's something to do now when you kissed an ass says it meant something to you when you held their hands when you looked into their eyes you put your arms around them it meant something to you it felt special and especially in the beginning it felt right it felt good and you felt like you really loved them like you really belonged with them they are not gonna find anyone else like that someone who sees them as they actually are and you still accepted them you were still there for them everyone else all they care about is the illusion the false self that's how it is with narcissists that's all most people really care about they're not like you all right when they get around a narcissist they're not trying to get to know who they actually are they're not really listening to them they're not trying to have a conversation and get to know them they don't even care most people don't even care about that when most people are around narcissists they just validate in the illusion the false self they're just giving them compliments and praise they're not here who they actually are underneath the facade they're not seeing that at all they don't even care about that it doesn't even matter to them it means nothing but to you that means everything that meant everything to you who they actually were under the mask you wanted to get to know them it wasn't just about superficial things it was much deeper than that for you yeah you actually cared about them for real they're not gonna find anyone else like that it's not gonna get any better than that for them and you know although they don't as I said they don't really care about love intimacy a connection of course when you put that before them what do they do they just trampled all over it but that translates to them as very powerful form of validation but they're not gonna find anywhere else they're not gonna find that level that potency of supply and another person and someone who actually cares about them for real someone who actually loves and accepts them for who they really are as I said most of the people if they did anything even a fraction of what they did to you most people would have walked away a long time ago they wouldn't have put up with that they wouldn't have loved cared for and appreciated them as much as you did so they are never gonna find better than you you are as good as it gets you are the greatest that they will ever find that they will ever have and it really is as simple as that the only thing that's wrong in this situation it's just your belief you just don't believe it so they can trick you into believing something otherwise other than that there's really no limits the person that you can be to everything that you can achieve I mean you could be a billionaire I think it's Jeff Benzos he's one of the richest men in the world his wife still going out sleeping around with men half his age a half her age as well and this guy is one of the richest men in the world a billionaire so you see there really is no limit you could be the most perfect person walking the girth it still wouldn't be enough for them anyway you'd still have really bad self-esteem no matter how great you are as long as they can get you to believe it when you're around narcissists the only thing the only defense you have is yourself love you've got to love yourself no matter what you've got to love yourself when you are around these narcissists because they're gonna try and pick at your self-esteem they're gonna try to make you feel small because that is the only way that they can keep you around them if you really know your worth and you know what you're capable of you know how great you are you're gonna be looking at them and thinking yeah yeah I know I'm great I know I'm a wonderful person but what about you what are you bringing to the table what can you do for me and you're gonna look at it and you're gonna realize they can't even do anything for you what do you think they're gonna do you think they're ever gonna be there for you have they ever been there for you so far of course not they betrayed you they were never loyal to you you got to look at what you've been doing for them and not only that look at what other victims of narcissistic abuse have been doing for these narcissists just listen to what the other people are saying in the comments in the live chat everything they're saying they've been through I mean just remember my story I've taken knocks on trips around the world to so many different countries then in five star hotels villas villas with four floors five bedrooms four bathrooms where the beach driving around in supercars I'm a well-educated person I've been a private school my entire life I've been to university very hardworking I came from a very wealthy family on both sides my mother and father and yeah I'm just a very high-value high-class person I was very selfless with these knocks I give them everything I give them everything I had now you've got to think what can this person do for you and even forget about all of that forget those superficial things the rocks I was with even just the kind gestures the work I put in every day I would be cleaning their clothes washing the dishes sometimes even cooking them food cleaning up after them around the house taking them shopping several days a week giving them a body massage yeah I would do all this stuff for them I never even expect to thank you it was just normal for me to do it I would listen to them all of the time for hours but anything they had to say whatever was on their mind I was always there to comfort them I was just always there for them you really think that knock is gonna do any of that for you you think that knock was ever going to be providing anything of value to your life less than anything you have to say giving you a massage every night giving you manicures pedicures even trying to learn how to do that to make you happy to make you feel comfortable they're going to be there for you to dye your hair when you want to change the color of your hair you think they're going to be there to give you a facial with a clean your clothes cook your food wash your dishes take out the trash drive you places you think they're going to be there to do any of that aside from money aside from spending money taking you places you think they were ever going to do any of that for you or anyone else no of course not they're never going to do that they're never going to be that they're never going to be nothing that's why they chose you because you were that they targeted you for what they didn't have for what they didn't possess for what they could not be for you or anyone else that's why they chose you that's why they targeted you because you cared and they were just not the type of person who cares they were looking for you what they didn't have in themselves what they didn't possess that's what they were trying to extract from you the problem is you spend so much time looking at them or what they're doing it's like sometimes we just to stop and look in the mirror and realize we are just a million times better of a person than they are than they they will ever be and it's not because of superficial things it's because of our qualities our empathy yes these qualities are very valuable they are replaceable there is nothing more valuable than that this world would suck if there were no empaths this world would be no good we need more empaths in this world so yes we do need to avoid these knocks we do need to find other empaths and we do need to impregnate them and make little imperfect babies yes that is something that we need to do and it is very important that we do that we need to start getting around these knocks because sometimes it can be genetic other times it can be learned either way to the rematter the point is that you're having kids that getting raised around narcissistic people and I'll just look at what is happening to the world yes this is a problem and as empaths we do have a duty to bring more empaths into this world because at this point statistics show only one to two percent of the world's population are empaths there aren't many people who have these qualities like we do and if it was up to me I would just go and travel around the world and just impregnate as many women as I can more parts of the world because yes these characteristics are very important more people need to care about each other but instead what have we got we got these knocks these knocks are out there getting women pregnant or they are the women who are getting pregnant giving birth raising these little knock children who are of no service to the world all they do is just fake shit they pretend they never actually gonna go out and do something for real they never actually gonna get up and do the damn work and be something all they're ever gonna do is talk but it's never going to amount to anything all they do is just manipulate use to see people it's just the same thing again and again and that is why there are so many victims of narcissistic abuse I saw a statistic that said just in the US alone it's over 140 million victims of narcissistic abuse yeah that's just in the US so that evidence right there these stupid knocks going around the world and they are victimizing everyone this is what they're doing and it's no good it needs to stop how much worse is it gonna get if at this point one to two percent of the world's population or empaths what is it gonna be like in another few years and a decade of a century how bad is it gonna get are we all gonna become extinct because at this point it's like there's no use for us narcissism is everywhere and these dogs they don't even really need us they don't really want to be with us they prefer to be around other fake people just like themselves they don't really need us they can do without us why do you think they always try to destroy us because they don't need us yeah this is a problem as empaths were all dying out we need to stick together we need to be very careful because if we're not then we're all gonna become extinct can you imagine a world without any empaths I mean at this point that's what it already feels like when I go around the world everything just seems so fake it feels like it's just me it's no one else only when I get on here and I speak to you only then do I feel like I'm actually speaking to someone who actually cares someone who actually matters someone who actually decides to listen to what I have to say someone who actually cares about this world and that is you you who are watching this video right now in the real world it just it feels like no one really cares about anything that's really how it feels and this is a pattern I'm seeing I hear all the time I see it all over YouTube Dr. Brahmini she said she believes that narcissism affects over 50% of the population remember this Dr. Brahmini she is a clinical psychologist and a professor at the University of Los Angeles she's a very successful psychologist she's even done interviews with Kendall Jenner Will Smith and other celebrities as well she's been doing interviews on television for over 10 years as far as I know I'd even she believes narcissism affects over 50% of the population NPD that could be anything up to 15% and don't forget COVID narcissism that's not NPD that's separate and then there's people who are narcissistic they just have a few traits and then there's all of the other cluster B disorders sociopathies I can't put the borderline and then there's all these other mental illnesses as purges autism Alzheimer's bipolar schizophrenia the list goes on and on and I even saw a statistic that said 96% of families in the world are dysfunctional and maybe the other 4% are the ones who are recovering so yeah we're going through end times something that's happening in this world what kind of a world do we live in where most people do not even care about each other well only 1 to 2% of the world's population are empaths and even that small number of people they're being abused they may not be healed or awakened they may not even know that they are empaths they may not even know what that is this is just how it is in the world today just how it is and we all need to stick together we are all on the same team here we should all want the same thing we need we all need to stick together and protect ourselves against these knocks who do just want to wipe us out they have no use for us they just want to destroy us they envy and hate our empathy because it's something they do not possess but the narcissists will never find anyone better than you and where they're gonna go who are they gonna find where where are they there isn't gonna be anyone better than you there isn't gonna be that you think there's gonna be anyone better than me for the narcissist that I've dealt with of course not but guess what that same thing it doesn't work the other way around I've talked to plenty of people people who are very successful psychologists like a therapist even some celebrities I remember one of my clients very sweet lady she lives in the $10 million house in Hawaii she has a fleet of supercars yeah I know so many people who are mega wealthy they got tons of money very beautiful people I never really feel any need or desire to get too deeply involved I really don't because I don't really care too much about that I mean I am an empath and what really makes me tick what I really like what I really want someone who is more like myself someone who is empathic someone who can share feel and understand my experience they put themselves in my shoes they can see things through my eyes they can love they can be vulnerable they can be intimate they could experience a deep emotional connection that's what I'm really looking for I want someone who can love me in the way that I can love them and someone who wants to be loved in return someone who can receive love meaning they're not emotionally damaged to the point where they cannot even receive it because I know for me if someone came at me like that with empathy love and compassion even after everything I've been through I would still be very welcoming of it I would still invite it in I would still give it a chance if it was actually real yes I would still do that so that's really what interests me and that's why it doesn't work the other way around I mean yeah I have been with some very beautiful girls not just in what I stand relationships as well have very beautiful symmetrical faces slim tight bodies I've been with girls like that I then even after seeing those girls I've been with other girls that I haven't even I even anywhere as attractive as they were because I'm not too concerned about those types of things physical attractiveness that's not always such a big deal to me what matters most is the heart the personality I mean what's the point just having an empty vessel an empty meat suit it just sits there they got nothing to say there's no deep conversation there's no love no intimacy no connection I mean that's what we dealt with with these knocks and it drives us away so much and then we have to get on here we watch these videos we talk about it because we just don't want to deal with it so yeah it doesn't work the other way around it does work that way for them because they are narcissistic so of course all they're really concerned with is things like physical attractiveness money connections but even above all of that as a grey day sources apply it's about how much you are willing to do for them are you gonna be at their back and back and call are you going to listen to them cooperate submit to them be everything that they need you to be that's what they really want that's what they're really looking for a narcissist I mean even a side of superficial things yes they need that as well but they're never gonna find anyone better than us they're never gonna find that at all it's just never gonna happen it's not just that you're beautiful it's not just that smart you're intelligent it's not just that you're charismatic you're charming you're kind you're nurturing you're a good listener it's not just all of that so much more it's the fact that you cared about them more than anyone else ever will and they will never find anyone like that they will never find anyone like you doesn't matter yeah they walk out like they like you never meant anything to them they just take it granted they're gonna run off or should I say ride off into the sunset or should I say into the depths of hell the new supplies are they gonna quickly realize that most people are not like you or I most people are not empathic most people are not gonna be there for them at their back and call at least not those were on our level they're not gonna find the full package they're not gonna find someone like that someone who takes all of the boxes that is never going to happen no matter what they think in their minds they're gonna go off and they're gonna find that out very quickly and then they may try to come back to you they're probably just keeping you on the shelf but even if they do you do not let them back in narcissists off limits I did a video on that a few years ago I even to this day I stand by that do not let the narcissist back in it's only gonna get worse they will never love you they will never appreciate you they will never be there for you in the way that you were there for them it's never going to be like that for you with them or for them with anyone else they're never gonna have that with anyone but you well you can if you want to if you want to have that if you want real love intimacy what a deep connection if that's really what you want you can have it we can have that and it can be something real it doesn't have to be something we're just pretending with these knocks it could be something we have in real life we just need to find other empaths other people who are like ourselves other people who can love other people who can be there for us just as we can be there for them and we can find that we can have that we will have it I know it I believe it I am sure and I want it I want it myself I want someone who cares about me just as much as I cared about the narcissist but not just so I can use them and take them for granted no so I can care about them just as much as they care about me so that I can give them the love that they need yes I just want to love an empath I just want to pour my love all over them and I think that is what we should all desire to have instead of getting involved with these knocks because nothing good is ever going to come of that it's never going to amount to anything good I mean just got a look back this really reveals a person's value to you it's like if you've been with them one year five years however long it is just think about how much things have improved how much they've done for you how much they've bettered your life I didn't then just think to yourself and am I willing to stick around for another year another five years ten years just to see that same amount of progress am I really willing to stick around to see that I think in most cases the answer is probably not I mean unless they have made a significant amount of change in that amount of time then otherwise what is the point I mean if you you can already pretty much see where it's going if you stick around for another five or ten years you probably need to get out of that relationship I mean because just look at yourself look at how much you've done for them in the past even just like one month look how much you've given to them of course they're gonna stick around if they think they're gonna get the same amount in the next month in the next year yeah they're getting a lot of you but it's not doing any good for you because they're involved with a high value person which is you and you are involved with a low value person which is them the only reason you're still there is because they're lying the future faking they make it you think that if you just stick around you're gonna get something back in the future and meanwhile they're just sucking the life out of you the draining you for everything that you've got how much more are you willing to lose until you finally accept the truth I mean you gotta look back at everything you've done to realize that at this point how are they ever going to repay you how are they ever going to compensate but you've had a fraction of everything that you've done for them there's no way that they're ever going to be able to do that because you just gotta look back and think even right now they're not even at your level now forget about being at your level the level that you were when they first met you before they devoured and degraded you so they are never never gonna be whatever you think whatever they've led you to believe they're never gonna be that they're never gonna be that for you or anyone else I mean just look at that exchange of value how much you've given to them compared to how much they've given to you that should reveal to you that it is in fact they who need you you don't need them if there's one thing you need you need to get as far as way far far away from them as you possibly can that's what you need to do and what they feel like they need to do is hold on to you for dear life because you are a very valuable person and that's how I know that they're never gonna find anyone better than you you are the best you are as good as it gets I've said that before in many videos and that is the truth it doesn't get any better than you you are the best that it gets and they need you to know that I need you to be aware of it again let me know what you think about what I've said this video in the live chat down below I'll read a few things out quickly before I go I got to go back to my room get some work done on my laptop I've got some pre-recorded videos coming up very soon instead of seeing the narks have a logo in the videos you're gonna see my face a lot more often it's gonna be more of this kind of this connection it's gonna be more personal more like one-to-one instead of just my voice I think that's really what people want to see more I don't think people really like to just hear my voice and just see the narks have a logo they want to actually see me talking they want to see me there so that's why I've decided to introduce these pre-recorded videos now which will be up within the next few days I'm really looking forward to seeing the response to those I fly G1 to 3 says the narkrise wolf went too many times yeah that's another foolish thing they do I mean a normal person would kind of like at least notice and observe the threshold and see okay if I push it past this point it's gonna be pretty hard to get it back but the NASA says there's just no cut-off point for the abuse that is push it as far as it will go and they really push you to the limit to where there is no way to get you back they just completely burn the bridge I mean that's just how stupid they are they could have kept you around for a long time I really milked you for all you had but they were so dumb they just pushed you over the over the edge I mean you got to think how retarded can someone be to do that I mean they could have milked a lot of you like a hundred times more than what they got I mean that's just how stupid they are they're really that dumb they just shoot themselves in the foot they cut off their nose despite their face that's why we're better off just getting as far away from them as they can because they're that stupid there's some talk about malignant narcissism yeah malignant narcissist that's kind of like the next level of the abuse I mean the malignant narcissist that's the one who sadistic it may also be comorbid with SPD that is sadistic personality disorder and that's just where a person finds pleasure in your pain in your suffering and misfortune but that's pretty much what the malignant narcissist is they get off on your pain it brings some pleasure they enjoy it I guess I'm supply a regular narcissist they may not be that bad they may not be so focused like a predator on really just hurting you because you know they have this sickness where they enjoy it they find pleasure in seeing you hurt a normal narcissist won't always be like that that's just more than malignant crude VW says something about the histrionics histrionic narcissist that is small how do I explain this histrionic narcissist there is a good example of it but I can't remember this is character from this movie I can't remember her name I'm sure some of you may know it she is the perfect example of a histrionic narcissist I mean that's someone who is heavily focused on their physical appearance and I've definitely been involved with a few of those they will really wrap you around their finger sexually I mean they they really know what to do in bed typically female but it can be male as well there can be male histrionics too and they will just all of your sexual fantasies will come to life with the histrionic narcissist and you will become addicted to it you will constantly think about it no matter how much you try to get away it's like no matter where you go you can't replace it you can't find anyone who can do it like they can and you just kind of feel like the only thing you can do is go back because there's no one else who is at that level sexually they really tune into all of your sexual desires whatever you like whatever you want I mean they are into it all they may even study and research it they may watch porn whatever they think will pleasure the most to be BDSM deep-throat anal schoolgirl fantasies they will study it they will explore it all and they really know exactly what to do I mean everything they know exactly what to say when to say it they know all of the right facial expressions the tone of voice they know exactly how to do the hair the makeup they know exactly how to touch you to keep you coming back I mean they really know how to have power over you sexually they really do of course that is why that's the first thing they're gonna do when they get involved with you straight away they're gonna make sure they've got you in bed as soon as they can because they know that's their way in that's how they're gonna get you how they're going to influence or control you and keep you just stuck to where you just feel trapped like there's no way you can get out because you're addicted sexually and you just can't even imagine anyone else who knows your body like they do they know exactly what to do they know how to touch you where to touch you when to touch you they know the right technique the right amount of pressure they just know it all it's like they know your body better than you know it yourself like if you tried to replicate it yourself through masturbation you wouldn't be able to do it you wouldn't be able to have such a powerful orgasm like you can have when you are with that histrionic narcissist which can be a serious problem I know it sounds fun it is in the beginning but it can really get you stuck because how do you move on they could just do whatever they want with you they've got you trapped sexually it's where you can't move on which is exactly what they want so yeah that's the the histrionic narcissist that's my little description of that let me know what you think if you think that's accurate but also let me know what is the name of that female character the actress who is really the perfect example of a histrionic narcissist I can't remember a name now that's a really good character I remember where it's from Eiffel Tower says you've got to be out of the toxic relationship long enough to finally see it for what it was that was my case I was so stupid naive desperate to please to accommodate a people pleaser yeah you're right Eiffel Tower you don't really see it for what it actually is when you're in it other people can see it from the outside and it looks like you're in a trance you're under a spell you're under some form of form of hypnosis that's where it looks like to them when you're finally outside of it the fog begins to clear it all begins to make sense and you see that yes you were just being fooled you will be manipulated it makes a lot of sense when you're out of it Eiffel Tower again says people don't respect people pleases they see them as pushovers and will take advantage of it yeah that's very true it's very sad because I know myself when I see a people pleaser I mean there's one myself I'm kind of like very cautious I don't want to walk in on eggshells in a way where I'm like I don't want to cross the line I don't want to step over any boundaries where I know when they go unintentionally abused this person's amazing qualities that I want to protect and preserve that so I'm very different to most people in that sense because you're right most people do see them as pushovers and they will exploit them well we got some some examples here Jada Smith and Beherds mother Gothel and in generis for the histrionic narcissist no that's not what I was thinking of I can't even remember what movie this is but there's this female character I mean she is the perfect example it's this young girl I'm talking about the actual character in the movie perfect example of a histrionic narcissist I just can't remember the name it's like on the tip of my tongue I just can't remember it someone help me out it's really annoying now because I can't remember the name I wish someone could just see it because I'm I don't know why I can't remember Lee May says Regina George yeah that's actually a very good example of a histrionic narcissist it's Regina George from Mingo's that's a brilliant example yes she is very much perfect example of a histrionic narcissist I mean she's very very beautiful very sexually enticing effect she knows what a man wants she knows what she has to do to charm to manipulate him that's not who I'm talking about though she knew what movie it's from I'm sure we'll remember in Chile but right now I really don't know another thing I don't know either it's a young girl perfect example of a histrionic narcissist can't remember the movie because it's a well-known movie as well the main character who is very seamless I don't see a character she's not the main character videotaping remember what movie it is someone dimensioned history on our system and I want to strike this man you can't hear me you're saying what about now is it better can you hear me better now yeah I just don't know who it is I just can't remember the name it's really annoying I'm surprised I don't know when asked knows as well oh well just let's just forget about that for now if anyone else thinks they know this perfect example of a histrionic narcissist it's a character from a movie not the main character if you think you know who it is let me know in the comment section down below I'd love to just be reminded of it because it's like on the tip of my tongue but I can't remember it it's really annoying I can't remember the movie nothing I can't remember anything about it right now I don't know why I don't know why what I do know is that it is irritating me a lot and I think I just need to get my mind off it now it's not gonna come to me now I'll try and check for it later when I get back to the room but yeah that's it for this video it's been a long one today or tonight's you but yeah thank you all for joining me on another narc survivor live video and if it was helpful for you it's very important that you give it a thumbs up down below because it helps to get this message 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