 Hey everyone, in this video I'm going to be talking about how the discard phase isn't real. When the narcissist discards you, when they leave you, they make it seem like it's so serious. Like they're walking out on you and you're never going to see them again, but it's really just an act. It's an illusion. You think they're gone, you think they're not coming back again, but in most cases they always come back with the Hoover. If it's not a few days, there might be a few weeks or months. At some point they come back again. The discard phase is an illusion. It's really just an act. They will always find some way to pop up in your life again. Just when you think that you've got rid of them, maybe they'll drive past your house. They'll show up where you work. They'll always find a way just to say, peekaboo, here I am. It's just like this obsession they have, you know, they just can't let things go. It's like you can try and move on. You can go no contact with them. You can change your phone number, your email address, you can delete your social media accounts, but they always find some way back into your life. It's like you could just be leaving your house one day and suddenly there they are, driving past. Or you go to the grocery store and there they are, they're shopping as well. It's like no matter what you do, you just can't get rid of them. They're everywhere. They're just always there. So yes, the discard phase isn't real. They want you to think that it is when they walk out that door, or when they text or call you telling you that it's over, or if they just completely ghost you. Of course they want you to think that it's real because then they get supply when they know that it's hurting you. And they might even upload some pictures and social media, making it look like they're so happy without you. But then before you know it, a few weeks, a few months later, there they are again. It's like you just can't get rid of them. So when the narcissist acts like the discarding you, just remember it is an illusion. It isn't real. But if anything, if you've watched enough of my videos and you know these individuals inside out, you should be wishing that it is real. Because trust me, there's really no better feeling when you know that you've gotten rid of them. When you know that they're not coming back. When you know that you're free, you think that you had a good time while you were with them. At least in the beginning you might be thinking back to the love-bombing phase, thinking that you had a good back then, thinking that they treated you right. But trust me, your life is gonna be so much better. When you get these individuals out of your life, you will be so much happier. You'll feel so much more free. Life is so short and it's meant to be enjoyed, not endured. And you all deserve to enjoy it. You all deserve to enjoy your life, not waiting around for someone who never appreciated you to come back. They don't deserve you and they know that you deserve so much more. That's why even when they were there, they were always so paranoid and hyper-vigilant. They were afraid that you were gonna leave them. And a lot of the times, they're just beating you to the punch. It's like they want to leave you before you leave them. So yeah, I just wanted to share that with you. The discard phase isn't real. It is an illusion, but you shouldn't stress too much over that because you're not really losing anything anyway. All you're losing is a problem. So yeah, I hope that message is helpful for you and do check out my website www.narksviver.co.uk. And if you'd like to get in touch, you can email me at coaching at narksviver.co.uk or you can message me on Instagram at narksviver YouTube. So yeah, thank you all for joining me tonight and there will be more videos tomorrow. So have a good day or night depending on where you are and I'll talk to you soon.