 Hey guys, what's up? It's Andy Elliott. I'm here today with my amazing wife, Jacqueline. This video is going to be about how to be a marriage millionaire as a salesman. Number one, I'm here today with my amazing wife, as I said, Jacqueline Elliott. She's incredible. And also just to let you know this, me and my wife and we team sold together. We made over $50,000 a month selling as a team. Three to four days a week. Yeah, three to four days a week. And I want to explain this to you. As you listen, you're going to understand the way that we connect. And I really believe that that's important. Whoever you are, when you're watching this video, man, woman, it doesn't matter. I don't care who you're married to or if you're single. But at one day, you're going to want to spend the rest of your life with somebody. And maybe you already have that somebody now. It's very important that before you're rich, being a marriage millionaire, right? You must feel rich in the relationship that you have. And as me being a salesperson and obviously as my wife, she's an incredible saleswoman as well. It's important that we're close in that at the end of the day, after we go to work and we hustle all day and we grind, that we don't go home and give our family leftovers. It's important to go home and have special energy safe for your family. So I wanted to shoot this today and have my wife here. And by the way, my wife is my business partner. She's also a better salesperson than me. She's a better closer than me. She clothes bigger deals than me. Clothes do. And she clothes me, that's for sure. But here's one of the neatest things that I want you to understand this. And if your saleswoman watching this, this is amazing, but any man watching this. I know that, you know, you have a wife at home. And I want to tell you that it's important that my wife when I come home at the end of the day that she sees that I'm fulfilling myself as a man and playing at my highest level in my best. And when I come through the door, I don't look at her like, man, you know, well, what's deep? No, I come in and I'm like, man, baby, what's going on, man? God, I miss you like crazy. And you're like, Andy, where do you get that energy from? Well, I get it from the balance that we have with our family. So it's really important. I wanted her to maybe share some stuff with you that we've done as we've grown. And I would say me doing most of the growing and her telling me what to do, because that's what she does. And she's great at it. And by the way, I want to say this to you, she writes most of the content, all the closes that I have, most of the time I'll hit her with it. And she's like, you know what, Andy, what if you set it this way? And I'm like, okay, it looks like that's the way we're going to use it. And that's what I do. So we sharpen each other. I think iron sharpens iron. And you know, a lot of guys have like a best friend that they share stuff with and all that. I share everything with her. I really believe that if you want to be the best sales person in the world, I believe that you're going to have to have that relationship at home. And we call this, in this video is titled, How to be a marriage millionaire. What does that mean to you, baby? Well, before we get into the marriage millionaire thing, I think that a lot of us commonly make a lot of mistakes as couples and as business partners or whatever. One of the things that I see a lot of, because we train a lot of people complain about at home is, hey, my wife doesn't support me while I'm trying to grow in this business. And I think that a lot of that is like self induced a lot of times. And it's because sometimes we have certain obstacles that we get at work or managers or co-workers or whoever could be giving us certain things that we kind of like put us in some type of mood or that affect us. And the person that we vent to obviously is our spouse when we come home. So the thing is that sometimes we forget to share the good things and sometimes we share too much of the bad things. So then as a salesman, I think that you get a lot of the, hey, my wife doesn't support me or I had to stay late on this deal or whatever it is. And now she's upset or vice versa can be the other way around. And it's because we tend to tell the bad things. And when the good things happen, we don't. So I had this thing kind of before everything with me and Andy, I had something set in my mind, a lot of things and my family thinks Andy's like a God. Yeah, no, I'm just kidding. But no. But why though? Because she only shares. Yeah, I always say, hey, you know what? There's something that I made a commitment with myself. And I always saw a lot of my friends always not support the couple or whatever it was. And it's because I noticed that they would basically share, oh, I got in a fight with him today or I didn't agree with him this or he told me this or whatever. So I knew that if I said anything bad because my dad's only girl, and I knew my dad only wanted the best for his daughter. So I was like, hey, you know what? I'm not gonna tell my dad, hey, we got into a fight or we had this or that because I always wanted him to look at Andy a certain way because I know that whatever it was, we were gonna overcome that and that he was always gonna have that look in his face or those things stick with parents. You can translate that to business. You can translate that to your home life or whatever it is, but you always have to know, like choose your words wisely and share everything with your spouse. But when you really want that support, always have in mind what you've shared with them and really look from the outside in and be like, hey, if my wife were to be telling me the same things that she's experiencing at work, would I want her to be that and live a miserable life and keep going to work and still be late at home and giving us the type of life? No, so always think about that. So always learn what you feed is what you're gonna get out of your relationship just like a plant, obviously everything. So in being marriage millionaires, I mean, obviously, I mean, we weren't millionaires when we first started, but something that we grew, we learned something that we always said, you know, someone wins, no one wins, you know? So it was one of those things that, you know, we just basically learned. We gotta learn to fight fair. You fight fair, you don't say something that's gonna be mean that you're gonna regret later. Don't say something that you're angry that you're gonna come back and you know, have to apologize for later that you don't really mean. Don't say anything that you wouldn't like to be said to yourself, you know? And in the beginning, we probably weren't as fair, but we learned to be fair with the years and you know, and everything else. So that's why. And I think going back to that is, look, when she took me on, right? Like I was a project, okay? She was 24, I was 26. And you know, it was like, hey, I'm an alpha, right? She's an alpha. And you know, we both wanted to win. So we had to learn when someone wins, no one wins. And that's what that means. And so what we did is we set out some rules that we had to learn to fight fair. And that means that we could no longer get historical. She said, hey, Andy, you know what? If you wanna be the man that you say that you're gonna be to me, I'm gonna trust you to start being that person. And then by the way, I wanna be the woman that you want me to be as well. So anything from today forward, let's focus on and let's not focus on the past. So what you did six months ago, I can't throw that back up in your face in a fight tomorrow, okay? I can't say, well, you know what? And you know what that reminds me of? Remember six months ago when you did this? You know, we agreed that we couldn't get historical anymore. So we had to fight fair and we had to also hear each other out. You know, one of the things is when she starts talking, I wasn't even really listening to what she was saying. I was preparing for what I was gonna say next. And that right there is like, man, I mean, at the end of the day. Truly listen, truly listen is a big thing because if it's something that's bothering the other person, I mean, it's something that means something to them. And men and women are different. There's some things that are important to Andy that are not important to me and are not so important to me. There's some things that are important to me that are not important to Andy. Through the years, I think we've learned that we've kind of like the things that are important to him are also important to me and that we also learned to like kind of be the same. Like he's good at- Well, I've learned to care because I really care about you. And I know if it's important to you then it needs to be important to me. Exactly. And I think that that's the deal. Are you willing to adapt and change? And you say, Andy, well, man, this is on a sales channel. Listen, how great is your sales life and how much do you sell when you're fighting with your spouse? Oh, you can't. I mean, how emotional, right, is it when you're fighting with the person you love? I mean, when we go to work, we talk about the number one thing. As a sales person that you gotta have is a great attitude and energy. You pull the great attitude and the energy out, you're done. And what are the two quickest things to pull energy and attitude out? It's fighting with the person you love. I think the worst thing that could happen is that sometimes we ask for advice through the wrong people. And most of the time, our friends and even our family, because they try to protect us in a certain way, they protect us the wrong way and they try to give us advice, like, oh, you shouldn't be that, or I knew he wasn't this, or I knew she wasn't that, or whatever it is. And those I told you saying things are not good for a relationship, what you have to do. I mean, I believe, I know exactly what it is that I've wanted to do in my life 100% of the time. And when you ask for advice, you're just asking for confirmation of something you already know. So follow your gut and what you want. And if you truly care about your husband, you truly care about your wife, you're gonna make that a priority. And if you really wanna be a good businessman or woman, you're gonna learn to make that your priority because I know that when I support Andy, he's limitless. Like he can go so far and he does so well and he can pour it into others. He can pour it into others because I know that you, as a woman, you nurture that. And in the same way I can build you up like that, I can also put you down and that's the power of a woman. Let's not miss that what she just said. Okay? As fast as she could build me up, she could also tear me back down. It goes both ways. Yeah, no, she's my gold and then she's my kryptonite at the same time because you put your whole heart into relationships. And by the way, life is better lived with somebody. Now look, if you're in a bad relationship and you got the wrong person, maybe there is a tie, you gotta cut and just move on and take this advice for the next person that you're with. But the idea of it is, is that I would tell you that I was a mess, okay? And she gave me multiple chances to change and we're going back into our 20s and I'm 40 now and she's 39 so she's about to be over the hill. You know what I'm saying? I am. It's been a few more months. I'm still in my 30s for a little bit. We've been together for a long time but I just wanna tell you that I was thinking about the other day and I was like, man, like strong couples, you know? There's no wonder why they succeed and why they have the great life. And by the way, you may see our marriage right now and you're like, man, that's the marriage I want. It is, we have the most phenomenal marriage in the world and without money involved, we were marriage millionaires. Before there was a dollar, we felt rich and we worked really hard to do that just like you work hard to make money. We worked hard to build this marriage millionaire love that we have for each other and also that our children feel. And we're able to take that now and into our self-training space, love on other people like never before. We have a trust and a bond that like without question or doubt or anything or suspicion, like I'm not worried about my wife on any day, she's not worried about me. We are on a mission together and it's so cool when you can get to that space and I think that you can do it. I know that all you have to do is the person that you're with, right? Is just decide to say, hey, you know what? We're sick and tired of being sick and tired of having the relationship we have. It's there. Exactly. Let's take it. And a lot of the times and a lot of in business and I saw it with you and I see it with a lot of our salesmen and people that we talk to very successful or not so successful, whatever it is when they get to a certain point in life, when they start doing well in business, they start feeling like, hey, I can't be a great father or I can't be a great husband or I can't be a great wife or a great mother at the same time because I'm a great business person. That was one of the biggest things that Andy had to, that struggled with at one time until I told Tim, hey, you know what? You can be all of it. You don't have to decide. You can be a good salesman. You can be a good business owner. You can be a good father. You can be a good husband. You can be all of it. A lot of times I think a lot of people limit themselves as, hey, I have to do this because I need to accomplish these goals in my business and then they forget the other part. But imagine if you had that support at home or if you had that love and you had that, from everybody, how much stronger, how much more could you do in an hour than you would in 24 hours working against the wind? It's like you're running against it. I mean, it's just the force that you get with everybody involved and with all the love and everything. Take the glass ceilings off. You can have the parenting at a 10, the business at a 10, and the marriage at a 10. And I really believe that that right there is the one thing that I was struggling with, like she just nailed, is that I wanted the business in so bad that what I would do is almost push these other two off, which I didn't mean to, but because I was chasing business. And then I was like, well, if I spend more time with my family, then I'm gonna miss sales at work. It was like, I was constantly torn and like she said, she's like, dude, do you really want to live your life miserable? You can have it all, Andy. You just gotta open your mind and believe. And guess what? I just said, hey, you're right. Like I'm in my own mind. I keep making excuses, which make me look like an idiot. I keep making excuses. And at the end of my life, if I continue on this path, I will die with regret. Even if I'm the most successful businessman, I will be regretting the way I took care of my family. Now, we do understand sacrifice in our family as salespeople. Yeah, we make a lot of sacrifices in our family, but they're sacrifices that we know have a certain meaning and we know we're not, we wouldn't leave our family or anything like that. I mean, it's something that we do together as a family. We're all involved. Yeah, and she said all involved. So when I make a sacrifice, it's not like I say, hey baby, I had to make this sacrifice. No, we have already talked about this sacrifice. And I said, honey, I just feel like I'm having a trouble in this area. What do you think I need to do? Obviously I want to win and I want to win here. I want to win everywhere, right? And that's the way we're built. So what do you think? And she says, hey, I think you can do it. And I think that I would understand if you did this and then we can do that way for a couple of weeks to get you back on track or get you ahead. Let's restructure and we make the plan together. These kind of relationships do exist. They do, okay? And by the way, you could have had the worst life up to this point. But as long as you decide that from this point forward, God made you to have a great marriage, a great covenant, a great relationship. Also to be extremely successful and to raise wonderful children if you have any. You can do everything and to stay healthy. You know what I mean? Right health and wellness and staying in shape and taking care of each other. These are all goals that we push together as a family. So we don't talk about it enough. And as my wife always guides me and I think about the next thing I wanna teach, what do I need to put in this seminar? And I'm always trying to stay ahead. It's like we try to think like a year ahead constantly on where the market's going, what sales people need to be taught, how we can level up every day and get better, which we do every single day of our life and also how our marriage can get better every single day. And the interesting thing about that is we see it in the people that we train. We train a lot of young people, but we also train a lot of people that are married and they have their relationships and their life has fallen apart. And burnout comes in the marriage like it comes into work. Exactly, but they're not making money. They're not doing, they're not fulfilling their obligations financially, but also like they're not having a good relationship. They're not being good parents. They're not being good husbands or wives. They're not doing any of that. So part of what we teach and what we preach, is that it's not just about the money. Yes, the money will facilitate a lot of things in life, but it's about being a better person, a better father, a better mother, a better everything, a better wife, a better husband. It's about being a better you. So you don't have to live that way. So if you have your spouse involved and you have them bought in to what you're doing in life, it's always so much better to get to something, to achieve a goal, to when they're part of it. So, you know, don't keep them in the dark. Don't just tell them the negative things, tell them the positive things, tell them, hey, you know, babe, I'm working really hard and I'm working a few extra hours, but I'm trying to do this for us. And then that way they understand, they understand because what they ultimately want to do is they want you to be happy. They want you to be passionate about what you do. I guarantee you, if you work a ton of hours and you show them passion for your job or whatever it is that you do in life, they will support you more than not. And they won't give you trouble for being laid or whatever it is. You know, obviously as you get better at your job, you put doing that as well, because that comes with skill. But what I'm saying is if you are miserable and you show them that you're miserable at work and everything, then they're not gonna support you and you can't complain about it later. Yeah, coming home after working a 12 hour day and saying, hey, what's going on? Nothing, I'm just working my ass off, man. I mean, nothing's panin' out. I mean, she's like, dude. What are you doing? I mean, what are you doing? Show her that you're passionate. Be passionate at what you do. Be passionate at your work, you will make more money. Be passionate about anything you do, you're gonna make more money. Be passionate about your relationship, you're gonna have a better relationship. Be passionate about being a good father or mother, you're gonna be a better father or mother. Be passionate about life, be happy, smile, Lord. I mean, just be passionate. This right here, my wife, me and her have created Being a Marriage Millionaire. We have had the worst of fights and we have had the best of days. But through all of it, you know what? Our fights, we got over in five minutes. Our five minutes. Our five and five minutes. And anybody that tells you they don't fight, they're a liar, okay? What we've gotten better is to not fight as much. And then we do fight, always fight fair and fight really fast. So that- That was the big project we did. Yeah, yeah, you see the passion, guys? I mean, you can charm them like this. I mean, it's easy. But he's good at fighting fast now. Yeah, yeah, because I want to get it over with. And I didn't, used to want to get it over with because I didn't want to fight because I'm a very non-combative person and I'm very low, I don't know, low key even though I'm aggressive, right? No, no, no, and I'm a hunter. I'm also very non-combative. Like, I don't like it, you know what I'm saying? I don't want to talk about the uncomfortable things. So I just wanted to tell everybody that look, if you want to kill it and dominate it in cells, if you have someone else that you're married to or that you're with or that lives with you or that's important to you or you think you're gonna marry, you know, just think about this video. Maybe even watch it with them. Because if you're gonna be extremely successful in anything in life, you are going to have to be rich before you're rich. So with that being said, hey, we love you guys. Thank you, baby doll. I appreciate it. And hey, and by the way, man, listen, if you watch this, I'm trying to get her to do a bunch of killer training videos. Comment below if you need, if you'd like to see her do some killer training videos, she's really good at them, okay? Anyways, love you guys. See ya. Thank you, see ya.