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Listen, man We got a guest in here today that don't really need to I said every time you said every time I'm thinking you know I'm saying it's my channel. I feel you know I'm saying y'all listen If you want me to stop saying, you know, she doesn't need an introduction or he don't need an introduction Yes, I mean, you know, whatever what you want to do about it. No No, we got a special guest in there today y'all and she don't need no introduction She's a man this this young lady right here love after lock up life after lock up, you know This year is this year is wild. I never would have thought I even got to meet this young lady, man Monique is in the building. What's going on? Hey? Very happy to have you here today But for me personally, I like to get to know you as a person I don't care who sits in the seat and how popular they are. I want to know where you came from I want to know your humble beginnings all of that sort of stuff. I know you were born and raised in Chicago, right? Yes, what part the West side of Chicago the West side Well, let me just say this about the West side, you know, they stand in front of them stoves over there I went out there. I couldn't go in. I was nervous. I had been watching the news back then I quit watching it since then But yeah, I was like dang man. I need to go to the north side It was something about going to the north side that made me feel a little better But we don't get it. I want to hear about this West side. I did go over there and interview a few people though But I mean, you know, it's a hype about Chicago that have people that kind of they they kind of we don't know, you know what I'm saying But at the end of the day, I missed some great people up there. But yeah West side Couldn't get out of it then when I went it was like big is it bigger than everything else? Yeah, the West side is pretty big That's what I thought. Yeah, it seemed to be like the biggest part of it, right? Well, he was riding it I was trying to figure it out. I'm like, man, I ain't gonna never get out to the West side. I'm not I'm not coming back I love the fact that way how I saw people be always It felt like community in some sort of way where people always be outside chilling hanging out So I know everybody know everybody everybody be looking out for everybody in some sort of way or fashion Is that how it is or that I just got a wrong idea now the West side is like Everybody know everybody right, but we grew up so sheltered like we just didn't go outside. I hang out. Really. Yeah, so I thought everybody can we drive on the street? Everybody be outside just chilling. No, she didn't go out her mom and dad and then went putting up with that Yeah, I can tell you right now. Is that am I right? With your mom and dad. Yeah, okay. How long had them in together? They're still together right now. They've been married for over what 30 years Wow So long time But growing up, how did you? Did you you saw them together? How did you feel because you know a lot of households don't have that a mom and dad in it? Did you notice that growing up that you know other friends of yours didn't have that? Yeah, a lot of my friends they really didn't have fathers in their household But did you feel special because of that? How did that make you feel? Did you are you didn't even care? Honestly, I don't really think too much about it. Hmm. Yeah, so Yeah, she had it. They didn't you know my mama left my daddy and he wasn't I was nine And she just decided she didn't want to be with that nigga no more So she took off and we went with her and I went back to my daddy because she really couldn't handle me You know what I'm saying? So, you know how they go, but you you blessed out to have to go through that You want to talk your mom and dad was together before eight years I know but everybody a lot of people sitting that seat. It's always I was raised by my mother My dad was a rolling stone blah blah blah or I didn't know my dad. I hear that a lot So I want to say a 10% of people are in your shoes. Yeah. Yeah, my dad He was very active in my life growing up I feel like I'm closer to my father than I am to my mother really daddy's girl. Yeah. Wow, so how many kids? I have five sisters all girls all girls. No boys. No brothers. Oh age difference range from anywhere between what like 41 to 19 to 19 Same mother and same father. Yeah. Well, yeah same mother. Yeah. Wow That's good, but not same father three of my sisters. We have the same father. Okay My two older sisters have different father different fathers. Wow, and all of you lived in the same household Yes, we all live in the same. What was it like growing up with all girls a lot of cat fights. It was crazy We was always you heard everybody arguing some every day. So one of us is arguing with each other So, yeah, should I let y'all go outside go outside get you talk about your parents and let you outside I couldn't deal with all them girls in the house. Oh man, y'all go outside and play with your friends go outside I can't deal with that. Mm-hmm. That's too much. Yes. So what did you like doing as a kid growing up? As a kid I was pretty quiet. I was always pretty much to myself really So, yeah, we grew up as like we didn't really have many friends because my mom raised us to you know Y'all don't need friends like y'all each other. Mm-hmm. So we're y'all each other best friends Yeah, we all were pretty close. That's good. Let's get down to the business Was it dangerous or not over on the west side because you know, we seen that we seen the movies, okay? I seen barbershop too. I've seen a few movies about Chicago. Tell me is it really is it safe? You know, I came and I ain't gonna lie to you I skated by this about the second time in state in Naperville because I knew You know So how is it like just is that because we can just debunk the whole It's this is that for you. How was it was there danger? Was there gang violence? Was there was it just good living? Of course, it was it was gang violence But we grew up staying out the way like we wasn't the people that ran the streets and was doing things We weren't supposed to be doing we went to school. We came home and You know, that was it. We didn't hang out in the streets. That's hard So yeah, so you can't live up there as a family man and got your wife and kids and you know I'm saying and be and stay out the way. Yeah, that's hard I like then but then that's crazy because just like how you said your parents kept you out of the streets Out of out of trouble and so forth I know people who say that they were raised in good households with mom and dad and strict parents and still end up The streets keep calling and they still end up going on the streets Especially when they get of age where the mom and dad can't tell them none of that. I can move out So how comes you didn't have that drive to like be on the street? And I'm asking this from perspective because I'm a parent and being a parent You always want to know how to keep your kids. What's the right way to do what to do What not to do to keep your kids from not going that route? I Will say my mother and my father like they pretty much gave us any and everything that we wanted So it was like we didn't need to go to the streets for anything. So We we just pretty much They just raised us right I guess Which one of your sisters like the bad boy listen that bad boy one of them five is Five y'all One of them like the bad boy, you know what I'm saying? He was out there. You like how she ended up talking it was at you You like the good guys Like when I was younger I wasn't fast I wasn't worried about men and I think that's how it was with all my sisters like we didn't We waited till we got up in age and still you know once we got out of high school and stuff like that to entertain guys Then that's that's the y'all just some good girls then, you know But I just don't I wish I could have been a how they say it a fly on the wall But it'd be in that house, you know because that is something about you know family man You know I'm saying to y'all a family that prays together stays together though I will say that you know it had to be something that kept y'all needed and you know throughout the years You know I mean so kudos to y'all for getting it right man because we need more that in our communities You know we've been together for 20 years and you know Raising family and trying to put family first, you know what I mean and so I get it man So I mean, you know you are here in Dallas, Texas man. You pulled up on me. Yeah, man Thank you so much man. We love the fact that you came here first. This is it the first stop Let's just be real about it You know what I'm saying so we don't get into the show, right? Mm-hmm. Okay, so first of all, how does this show even happen? That's what I was wanting to know like how do you end up on this show? Well, the show was nothing that I've ever applied to be on like when I Met Derek. I was in like a women's support group who had incarcerated boyfriends or husbands So it was more so like we all were in the group talking about our experiences our relationships with the men that we were dating and Who introduced you to that support group? um Actually just scrolling Facebook and I had saw like prison wife girlfriend support group. Okay Because a lot of my friends they didn't understand like why I chose to waste my time and deal with somebody in prison Let me stop you right there because I'm gonna be honest with you didn't waste your time I'm gonna be real with you. You know my mom. I told you she left, right? Mm-hmm. I didn't tell you about Jimmy feels See Jimmy feels was right in my mama's house and my daddy didn't know it and I seen these letters I didn't really understand what was going on at the time. Mm-hmm. You know I'm saying but Jimmy feels was locked up He was giving all these good scenarios about what he could do But he couldn't do much because he was locked up. Mm-hmm, and I think he got into her head You know I'm saying yeah, cuz she ends up moving and leave. I never told you this story really But yeah, Jimmy feels them letters. We didn't see at the house for mama. He didn't you know We couldn't throw house out and found some letters from my mother and my daddy after my daddy passed away And I was happy about those but you wouldn't have seen the Jimmy feels and how you knew about them letters I used to be nosy as hell. You know what I'm saying. And so she was writing This dude that was in prison on my dad. Mm-hmm, and Jimmy feels was his name now How do you end up writing somebody that's locked up? Honestly, um, I Was scrolling on Facebook and I just came across like a like a Facebook like prison pen pal group Really? And yeah, he was the first guy that I've seen so he was handsome I liked what I what he said and I had reached out to him. Wow. I was bored. It was like two three o'clock in the morning He's always bored. Um, yeah You like you know, let me go ahead How long did you have to wait on this nigga when he was locked up? Which you mean how long I have to wait wait till you come home? Like two and a half years. Would you do that again if you ever I would never do it again Like for a nigga to be locked up and you out here with all these strong men Look at that. We are here in the flesh. You were seeing all the people while he was locked up. No In the beginning I was seeing other men Okay, so when you wrote him initially you had a boyfriend. I didn't have a boyfriend, but I was dating other Guys, okay, so when did it fall like when do you be like, okay? Yeah, he might be the one Maybe like a year into the relationship. What did he say them to make you fall because? Honestly, but he started doing things for me that those other guys really wasn't doing like he was like sending me money Like for my birthday Like from in prison. Mm-hmm. Like he was doing things for me like sending flowers and stuff So I was like, okay. He's you know showing me Right, you know a little bit of effort. So I'll entertain it a little bit more. Mm-hmm. So You know, did you ever go visit? No, cuz we met around COVID. So, okay You know, they shut down visits and everything so you didn't see him in person for the whole two and a half years. Nope Wow That's crazy. So he had a phone No, he didn't have a phone. You know, they'd be sneaking cell phones in there where you can like FaceTime and stuff like that No, we don't have a phone, but we did a video chat. Oh Yeah How y'all video chat was he in the cell or was he in the visitation room? So you basically, you know, so It's a crazy thing though you wouldn't when when everything said and done you end up this film and all I want to know about this with this film that came out and we like how did y'all end up getting to that point? Well, I was in communication with the cast and director and you know, she liked me as a person She felt like me and Derek. We had an interesting, you know relationship So you kind of created it Yeah, pretty much pretty much. Yeah, and then they also liked the fact that we never Saw each other in person, right? They like the fact like oh the first time y'all gotta be meeting each other is the day He get out of prison like we want to see how that goes and So you let her from the Facebook, I'm sorry the casting director How did you meet the casting director? Well, because I guess they were like looking for people to be on the show So they were like in these groups like okay talking to people So I wasn't the only person that they reached out to they reached out to a lot of other women in the groups too It seemed like you was one of the most popular ones to me So so do you when you did it do you feel like like how did it change your life the way people were? You know responding to it to you I would say I think it changed me because people automatically assumed that I was an insecure person Because I reached out to a man in prison and I was never insecure before the show even you know started. I think once it aired and Things went the way it went was when my insecurity kind of started But over the time it's like, you know, I'm not gonna allow You know people to change the way that I feel about myself Well, some of those things like that made people think that you was insecure I hope what made you feel like people thought that like you got to think about it did I mean The comments they they can be brutal And I think it was because a lot of people was not used to seeing a bigger plus size woman on TV Yeah, they they automatically assume a bigger woman like a man has to have ulterior motive like oh She must be spending money on him or you know They don't feel like a man could just love a plus-sized woman just because they love, you know, they feel like They have to have ulterior motive Well, but they is a shelter because I didn't see this all my life Yeah, you understand I'm saying in certain situations when you think about it There's somebody that somebody loves and it's always something that you can't put your hand on because it ain't their business No way, you know saying so, right? That doesn't surprise me Right now that will not even So that's that's what I can't but the comments again people there's all type of people out here because we get it as well And they thinking this and saying this and that's what they do So yeah, I get it I could see that being a thing for them because when you look at the Lizzo's and the Monique's and the different people that have came about there always have been things that people would pinpoint For them because they're brutal people or not people are there's a lot of evil people in this world. Everybody's not nice I can remember a time when I was crazy as hell. So I know it ain't you know It's just it's a known fact So when you think about it like like how do you feel are you comfortable like doing the show now? Like in the way you looked on the show. Did you like the way it turned out? I'm comfortable now Cuz now I'm secure and I know who I am at this very moment back then I would say I think After watching it back and you know all the you know infidelity and everything that took place It kind of made me insecure because it was like Why is it they you know you cheated with all these different women? It wasn't one woman or two women It was you know over 10 women. So yeah He was So it was 10 over 10. I don't know. That's what was said, but I mean did you I mean, you know Cuz I didn't watch every episode, but did you you caught him red-handed? I never caught him red-handed. So you don't you know What you think I Mean it is what it is to pass like I don't you left anything, huh? I really do too much on it no more. It is what it is. So you pretty much gone. It's over never never again But before this situation, you know how your life wasn't in the limelight You know one thing I always say about people who now become in the limelight as in celebrities and stuff like that Your life is now an open book to everybody to see and scrutinize Do you ever feel like man? I wish I didn't I don't think I feel like I wish I I didn't No, no regrets cuz I just took it as a lesson You know, I know better for next time to make yourself stronger. Yes Because now forward your life is gonna be out there for everybody to see and know and scrutinize continually, right? Well, you know, you set up cameras like me Yeah Did you ever do any good on your camera? I used to know, you know setting the cameras up trying to figure things out I never set up any cameras. Okay I Mean you was a super spy you got the phone you you would look through it, you know Do you believe I leave mine open cuz I don't want no problems, you know, I'm saying whatever she can see I can see whatever I can see she can see. I mean, is that the way you get out or no I mean only felt like I had to you know be an investigative mode because you obviously was doing sneaky stuff So it's like I wanted to see what's going on So how'd you end up like what did you what's your first thought like let me get me? Not cameras, but I'm gonna check this damn phone. Yeah, I'm check the phone check location You got a you did you put a help on it or anything? Mm-hmm. So you could tell when when he would say he were here or there Yeah You really do you might need to get into tech to work So do you think you would do this with like all any any guy or just that particular situation I would never do that with another guy because if I feel like I have to go through your phone check your location and do all They're like you're not the man for me. Like I want to Be secure in my relationship. I want to be able to trust somebody So I would never do that again in another relationship. You had evidence in reason Yeah, you know, that's what the police say if they have any reasonable reason to do this You know, I mean you had you had things that may triggered you into doing this You had skin in the game too, right? Cuz you had been you know being there for somebody who didn't have that somebody you was there for him as well He whether it was monetarily or whatever the case may be. I mean a lot of time people do think well You got that she be a bigger frame girl. She'll plus size so she gonna let him buy her car dry Oh, you know I'm saying she gonna buy him a car. Did you ever buy a lot of expensive gifts for it? No So he was using you say you were using him I was using him. I feel like when a relationship like you Give and take it's a yes a given take I'm just trying to figure out what the hell the world so the nigga just was a whole and really more than anything That's all I'm here. That's what niggas do You know, I ain't gonna lie some of them. Now when you get a mature man a real Mendingo warrior When you get your one a real stomp down Man who already Test stood the test of time, right? And he gotta believe in God, too. I gotta say that but You you won't have to go through those things. Exactly. Well, how caught how precautious are you gonna be on this next election? I mean you in Dallas. Mm-hmm. It's a lot of men here in Dallas, Texas. I mean he looking for a woman You know I'm saying somebody that they can hold on to at night, you know what I'm saying How are you gonna make the choice this time? What's what what's your steps? Give me a little rundown? That's what I'm looking for. Oh Explain to me what you see in a what is an Octi a older man Somebody that has experience Teach me new things that know how to treat a woman. How old you know over 45 What's the oldest you'll date? I Would say 65 Okay, I've always dated older men though. Yeah, he was one of the youngest guys I ever dated So I that was me stepping outside of my comfort zone Now I'm just like, you know, I'm gonna go back to what I'm used to older men that you know faithful faithful Somebody who knows how to take care of a woman. Oh, but it's some old holes out here, too. Now You know I'm saying don't get it twisted Yeah, it's my old holes out here that'll take care of you and cheat on you at the same time, you feel me But he's gonna be slick about it. He got two Oh, he gonna do it gonna be respectful I'm not okay with it, but at the same time Don't give me a reason. Well, not even don't give me a reason But if you're gonna be Cheating at least be slick about it because I've met women who say as long as he taking care of home He taking care of me. You don't have no woman stepping to me. Nobody calling my phone. I'm good I've heard woman old-school woman who would tell me that because they know that men gonna be man They're gonna step out there and do what they do anyway. Mm-hmm. Is that you it's not me But I also heard of a respectful way and a disrespectful way to cheat What's the respect so I decide to cheat don't be disrespectful don't be having a woman go through your phone calling me And you know doing all the extra stuff like yeah, yeah, yeah, don't call my house That's what you mean don't and that mean my cell phone that I can look at the bill, right? Don't want a man who don't cheat at all. Yeah, no, were you faithful the whole time? Let's be real Now any beginning a relationship. We wasn't committed to each other. He was still locked up. Oh once he was committed once he came home Yeah, I was faithful never once did you even you know cuz Bob said if you even think on a man in that way No, okay. I was completely faithful. Wow And you was completely let down You the victim Yeah, wouldn't you say that I wouldn't say I was a victim Why why how are you like he just didn't know what he had and he just fumbled it basically Have anybody have you tried to get back? Since when since all this kind of been like up and down. Yeah here lately. Have you tried it not for the past month? All that nigga coming back you too. I don't wanna be he gonna be calling change your number cuz he car Would you ever date another person coming out of prison? No, don't never say never them niggas be buff Don't ever say never don't ever say never you don't know no you mean in prison or just getting out We don't know You know No, I was somebody that's already got their shit together. Hmm. That's already established I ain't trying to build the man up. I want him already together. I heard you say in an interview That when your relationship you stuck it out because you thought he would change But then you know what came to my mind, you know, whenever you said that is majority woman We all think that way, but we still know that you don't ever date somebody thinking that you gonna change them because it never usually Happened however, they are that's who they are. Mm-hmm. So You knew that right It was more so like I would I Knew he was just getting out of prison. He's been in prison for almost 10 years since he was, you know, 19 So I was just hoping like I see some type of growth not even change change him, but just growth Okay. Okay. So that's I think I was sticking around waiting to see like, okay, when is he gonna grow up like It's best in time now Yeah, wow So You've moved on he's moved on And it no smoke nothing else I mean now you you've moved on he's got him a new female You looking for you a new boo up here in Dallas In Dallas, you'll get a southern one. No street for it right down the street, too You know what I'm saying? Yeah, it's all listen you and you and you right here in the midst of it Oh South the dirty sound Arkansas. You keep going down 30 all this stuff. How you gonna tack it, you know No, you're beautiful lady, man, you know, I mean, you know God comes to what what impresses what how do a guy impress you? How do we you know I'm saying how do we get next to you? I love it. I would a good sense of humor cuz I love to laugh. Yeah, that's me. I'll be cutting Oh, that's how I got her right there. Get my attention Right if you say so, how did I get you the clone with the clone and and God You know I'm talking about and that you're God fair man back then I want it's in our key. You niggas don't go get it It ain't smelling the same no more. They done changed up the code. Oh I think that was that blue wasn't it I would have this regular Yeah, I got it with that. I knew it was gonna get you like a man who were a lot not a lot of cologne But smell good when you say that nigga smell good So what's up like like in Chicago like where's a nice place like where do you go out when you the scene like what does the singles go? I don't know you can't go and see you must have been in the hole in this church Like you don't know what it go I'm really your home body. How you spend to get somebody I know I know but I'm out of Dallas So hopefully I feel like my husband is here. It can be because Yeah, but when I you know when I come through I will float never did hit the floor just Gliding through but so do you think like like you you think Dallas is a good place I mean would you ever do a show like you remember them shows where you would where people would try to meet you You know I mean one of me different. Would you ever do a show like that like a matchmaking? Yeah matchmaking type show That'd be hard. Yeah, cuz you already got a you got a you already you got a brand and everybody know who you are So you see what I'm saying. Yeah, I think that'll be live You might think about that cuz you get that's a and it's a plus because it just keeps everything going. What you think? Yeah A lot of men at one Romantically like having sex with all of them or none like I just said she's gonna date them. Yeah, there's difference. Yeah I'm gonna ask you this one more thing about The other guy like his girl Have you ever heard anything you say they come back at you or nobody calling did somebody reach out to you come at you in the wrong way who like Hit you the other guy. I want to see his name stand away from me. Mm-hmm Derek. I think his name Did his girl any of his new found friends reach out to you or anything cuz they know the show You know what I mean? Like they know you was the girl and everybody know you was with him Do they try to do messy stuff? Of course try to play you into situations call your phone hang up or get on Facebook That what they do get on Instagram Facebook and TikTok, but you know, they sit and they argue with themselves Say that I don't respond, but they want to respond. Yeah, and it's a waste of time because if that's who you're with Why are you trying to get a reaction? Wow? because Because you know what's going on. Yeah, they know what's going on So do you feel like like like you shine the light on people? From what you said you rich out and you you created this thing where they wanted to be a part of y'all Because you evidently was the one making the moves for the show to even happen, right? Mm-hmm That's star power really that that's that's a hustler mentality Like like for them to reach out to you and say, okay We could do this when he get out or whatever now you put him in the line I'm like, did he have to sign papers and stuff to even do all that? Yeah, and so Everybody was going good. You thought it would been marriage and all that at that point at one point Like you see what I'm saying. Yeah, we would have been married, but yeah, but I was that was before he proposed Yeah, before he proposed. Yeah, like we was fantasizing really cuz that's what y'all do my mama used to do it when they locked up Actually got out and got me a ring. It was like, okay, like he for real and you believed it. I believe them Damn, but you know Things happen life goes on What would your advice be to other women because I know a few women who sit down for years? Waiting for that person to come out and even when they come out and they're together for a little bit They go right back in they go right back in and they waitin again. What do you how do you advise these women? To should they get out of it should they not get get into it today, what? And my advice would be baby Livio life Okay, if you gonna take a man serious straight out of prison allow him to come home and establish him. So let him You know figure out what it is that he won't like don't sit around and waste. I don't even want to say waste your time, but just Don't go by words go by actions wait to He comes out and can feel it and you have a so now you're signed again to another episode, right? Yes, I signed on for another season Not a complete season. It's like a like a follow-up like follow-up. Mm-hmm. Okay. So what can we expect from it? Just basically like what I'm up to now like how things have been since the break-up Okay me working on my wig line. I'm doing Brand ambassador deals. I'm looking for some more traveling doing more bbw body positivity events Mm-hmm, and I'm working on my lip kit. So is that I'm with that you have on that's your line I'm sorry. Is that your line that you have on now? No, this is not my hair line Okay, you're supposed to be wearing your hair line all the time I'm still working on vendors again samples and stuff like that. So it's not quite perfect to get so it's still in the process Okay, but you do bbw events, right? Mm-hmm. Let me ask you a question about that. Have you growing up? Have you always been a bbw? Yes all your life. Mm-hmm. Okay. So I know that People sometimes especially recently with social media stuff like that can be very cruel with people who are plus size, right? Especially if you are very confident I love a plus size woman who I think because I have a couple friends who are so confident They'll wear whatever water and she don't care that they dress better than some people who are not plus size. You know what I mean, so How do you feel about Woman when people say that plus size women shouldn't be dressing so revealing so sexy so this so that what would you say to those people? I Would say just if you're confident just be who you are don't allow other people Opinions affect how you feel about yourself. If you feel like you look good in it. That's what makes you feel good Do it don't worry about what other people think Yeah, because what I think about I don't always think about the adults who are plus size who are trying to put that image out There I'm thinking about the kids who are coming up who are having issues With that confidence because when you're a kid and you're plus size That's when you're battling with that the most to me until you come into yourself and build that confidence up to say You know what? I don't care about nobody say this is what I love to do. This is how I love to dress This is how I express myself That's who I think about because they're looking up to a lot of women looking up to you when they see you and to see How you dress confident and how you're walking with your head up high You don't care about what nobody say a lot of children are looking up to you who are that you know Mm-hmm. So that those are the kids that I be thinking about yeah, I want to go back into This guy and Your family how did they feel about you? Seeing this guy that was locked up because that's something they never liked him from day one Oh, they didn't they didn't even want to deal with that are none of them not one They didn't know him They just didn't like the fact how I was wasting my time talking to somebody that was incarcerated they didn't like that Really, but that didn't stop you it didn't And so and and I get it cuz they didn't want to see you go through it cuz they know when that nigga get out Mm-hmm. That's how you be thinking when you when that nigga get out That nigga is gonna do you wrong? He gonna do he gonna turn on you I'm just telling you how a family cuz they love you. They try to protect you Mm-hmm, he ain't gonna do right and they told each other that over and over again. I could damn well believe Put a risk in between you and your family a little bit. I would say Once he got out and they knew like I was on my way to go see him. They was just like That's crazy Do they meet they met him of course. No, my mom and my dad they never met him. They didn't want to meet him But your sister's dead. Yeah, my sister's man. I wonder they met him. What did they tell you? He ain't for you. They knew it already, but you couldn't see it. I couldn't love was blinded Definitely. Yeah, love will blind you. I'm blind now So so like like when but the thing is it's funny because That's a whole deal because when you do start dealing with somebody's incarcerated you become co-dependent So you start being locked up with them in a sense. Let's be real That I tell my daughter she work at the prison. I'll be like girl You like she locked up half the time too because you got to go in there with them So it's the same thing, you know, so like like the thing is I'm glad you kind of you know You switching it up a little bit. That's all I could say. I appreciate the The switch up, you know, I can't wait to see this new new episode of follow-up to see what happened Which I hope you can find your man here in Dallas, man You know I'm saying what's your IG when people if they trying to get a hold of you My G is miss unique and my SS die and IQ you E All right now y'all heard that I better get on it Dallas stand up So I definitely know that I'm gonna be standing tuned with everything man I just when I thought about it and seen just how you You know kind of how you you know went through all of this it was fascinating to me because I know a lot of people I still to this day, I write prisoners. I know prisoners. I you know, that's a part of what I do Just for just to give them. I'm not trying to go with them. I'm just trying to be there for them You know what I mean, right? So I'll send some money or whatever if I'm rocking with whoever I see them go in jail Let me write them and send them something because you know people people want to You know, it's lonely in a damn place when you ain't got nobody, you know what I'm saying? So, you know, but but then once you go through it like you locked up with them You don't want to go back through that no more, you know, you definitely you don't want to go with that What would you what if you could go back and change anything in this whole situation? What would you've changed? I would have changed I Would have created more boundaries and I would have Not gave so many chances so after I saw the first red flag, I would have walked away Had I known it was gonna turn out the way that it turned out. What was the first red flag? Your mommy asked while he was in prison or once you got out the first red flag The first red flag would be I would say When he told me he was he didn't call me for like a day and then I called the prison and And what he told me he didn't call me for a day because he was in a hole and then He had somebody call me and tell me that he was in a hole And then I had called the prison to see if he actually wasn't a hole and they told me he wasn't So you already had doubts at that time for you to Call them Yeah, and they told me he wasn't in a hole and in the whole time he was That they he didn't call me he spent on a phone talk to one other girl So you really have to lie about that And he told me he wanted to he wanted to relax his mind he didn't feel like talking on the phone So he lied and told me he was in a hole. So I just thought that that was stupid Yeah, that red flag that was that was a and then what was the red flag when you when you feel like because you know People just watching they may be going through something My mama needed you back in the days right now, you know Go ahead just like what was the next next red flag when he got out? I would say like maybe a week after he got out He was like he was gonna go see his dad He wants to go see his dad So I wasn't tripping and then I was like he had his location on and Then it was like two o'clock in the morning. I woke up and he still didn't come back to the hotel so then he came back to the hotel saying he got robbed and He was with his I'm like, well, how did you get robbed? Like did your brothers get robbed? I was like I was that new girl they got a new one now. What's that girl name down there since you got Man people born out here So he lied and say he got robbed but in actuality he gave all his belongings to his brother to hold for him So I could believe he got robbed. So that was just like But this rod this one running just No, man, like Scott is in the water y'all in Chicago with him. No, he was in Cleveland. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah So so so what's I mean you gotta think about it, man You you didn't did your thing now. So so what about you? Have you started? Do you have your own YouTube channel? Are you I started my use that's what I'm talking about For the food man, I get mad about that. Yeah, so you're gonna push it up You're gonna start working more push it up more. You know, I'm in Dallas. So I'm a, you know Do some shorts or do you know because that's important, you know So many people looking to hear from you a lot of times they can't wait on no episode Yeah, they want to see you now in Ralph on in Dallas Downtown, you know, I'm saying the way of it's gonna be what so what's the big event here in Dallas? So I have a pajama party going on tomorrow in Arlington and then Sunday. I have a BBW Pool party event. Wow shot to my girl, man. Teresa, man. She brought you through man. That's your manager How'd y'all link up miss bank? Yeah, you've she from where she from Arkansas little rock. Okay. Yeah And so how did y'all link up? What you be on that social media girl You see me now you you following me today We're gonna get down. So so what so when you what made you what made you reach out and what made y'all link up like that? Well, she reached out to me and I just loves her from the very first conversation We had cuz I could tell she was like dedicated. I know she was for me and you know She just have a very positive and you know good vibes. I just really got good energy from her She got that way about herself the way she affect you, you know, it's the thing where you be like, okay You know, I'm saying that she dope like I'm rocking with her. Mm-hmm. Shout out to her and her daughter, man I met him and when I was in a little rock So it's just live to have these connections man when she reached out to me. It was a no-brainer. You know, I'm saying I'm like, yeah Let's get it man. Yeah, she coming where what I'm gonna shut it down. You know You know, I hope when whenever you come to Dallas off. I'm in Chicago. No, you're Cleveland You're Chicago now you be moving a lot, huh? No Yeah, I'm just tripping off he didn't clean you You went up tell her how'd you like it? I didn't like it. It's nothing going on out there. Like You like what the hell I don't got myself into so I mean that's so Definitely going back up to Cleveland So but like like when I come up to Chicago I'm gonna rock out which cuz I do I do get up there. Like I said, I love you up there sometime man, um, like, you know When it I gotta ask you this like Give me some top threes. Give me a top three. I do everybody a top three. What can I ask? Top three most influential plus size models or plus size influence I like that Number one I Like her too cheese. She's hard. She don't give a dang. She will put it out there like nigga. This is what it is Okay, and she from Houston, Texas So there's no number one who else Honestly, although the other two are usually like people that I see on Instagram Name them name them since you want to put them out there. They're Instagram. Whatever I'm gonna just name them over Monique. I'm kind of mad about that. You don't like Monique that much She lost weight a little bit. Maybe you upset what you upset? Why do you do you check Monique out sometimes You gotta understand man, like it's few far between because like I said y'all A lot of times a lot of times people are saying oh, man, you know, she be she shouldn't even do this She shouldn't do that. You know, they'd be on y'all about certain things you're wearing all kind of stuff So y'all have to be strong in this world. It's this internet world crazy So you say the other two would be on Instagram So you don't know their names Unless you know the first and first and last name if you do that you can name that It's one girl that I follow her name is fitting fancy. She hold on Fitting fancy you called out on boss. I'm gonna one today. No, what's the other girl? The other one? I think her name is like curvy Something I don't know Man, that'd be hard. You ever thought about coming out like with a clothing line and stuff. I did I'm I actually have something in the works Let's get it then. I'm gonna be I'm gonna call you up. I'm gonna call you out on that Okay, where is it at? You know, I'm the one be calling people I tell people in here, you know, I say it's been a lot of people sitting that seat last year in line. I'll be putting them right back That's crazy, right like so, you know, when it's all said and done in your career like What do you think what if you couldn't speak and somebody had to do a documentary on you in your life What would you want it to be about? What would you want them to say things that a couple of things to stick out About me. Yeah, it's your dog. You mean Basically, like how I really build myself up like I went through something like I Wanted to say traumatic but something so heartbreaking and I still you know still chose to move forward and not allow that to hold me back and To hold me back. So it's just like all about me moving forward and doing what's best for me. Wow and putting myself first. Wow Yeah, the let's talk about the pool party one more time to shout it out one more time What you going with was it what's going on the pajama party? Yeah So the pajama party is going on tomorrow and then I'll be a special guest at a BBW pool party on Sunday Man both the islands and both the knowledge and y'all better come out Is it anybody can come or is RSVP or what? What is it? Anybody could come they could purchase a ticket one Even break the link is in my Instagram bio already y'all. Hey, man. Y'all see it y'all heard it man So hey man, we love you. Thank you. You know that when I say that it's time. It's about to be over What is your Instagram link? Me Is Say man, we love you You can come see me you don't talk about So man, hey man, listen, it's been another great segment of boss talk 101 what a boss is told and we out