 What happens if you have mostly an Asian friend group but all you do is partake in white culture together? What sense does that make or is that kind of logical? Let's discuss. Yeah got deep on this reddit post It is actually from a girl who I believe is from China came to America learn English her post is why do I? Attract Asian friends who worship white people so basically she says as I became an adult I realized that most my friends I make are white worshipers I thought that they would date somebody hot since they are not dished interested in any one Asian But they always end up dating average to below average looking white guys whether they are my gay Asian friends or my straight Asian female friends She herself is a female. She says that they get super excited every time they throw a Christmas or a Halloween party But if she invites them to a lunar new year party, they would never show up. She goes on to include more details Etc etc and let me tell you Andrew the comments on this got explosive All right, so David Do you have any takes before we get into the comment section? Do you have a take because I got a take on this? Yeah, I mean I would say that this girl is describing something that I believe her I believe her it happens But I'm almost surprised that she's surprised because we're living in the anglosphere. Yeah, first of all I think you live in America. So it's hard to avoid white culture or American culture Which American culture is heavily influenced and mixed in and fused in with black American culture at this point So that's the greater American culture, right? So obviously spectrum within America. Yeah, because people always say when you come to America You either adapt white behaviors or you adapt black behaviors or like interests. That is what is a common binary? They're melded now Carlos and even you know, yeah, but but basically Guys, you live in America. You might as well partake in some American culture Of course that makes sense and you should to an extent because you live here, right? And there is nothing wrong with coming to America and learning about America Yeah, no, but but but but it is true. I agree with her because she's probably from China So she's looking at it like yeah, you guys like like getting together for Oscars party But if I say this is the best movie in China or even three-body problem remake on Netflix Nobody wants to come over to my house to have a watching party Exactly. There is a rejection of Asian culture amongst Asians in America and With as meant as much progress that Asian content has made There are still plenty of Asians out there that are like shying away from like that's a Chinese movie even Korean movie Maybe they even have trouble watching parasite, you know, they're just like, I don't know I just want to watch a movie in English. So here's my thing I think a lot of people in America first of all There's a lot of Asians in America that do reject Asian culture like some of her friends But there's also a large part that don't don't put white people on a pedestal, but they do put white life Styles on a pedestal meaning that like Because people still view white people successful white people cool white people a middle-class to rich Yeah, as having the best balance in America not saying all white people are in a good position But I'm saying they have the best balanced life that that is really what a lot of Asians mean when they say Oh, I want to get treated and live a life like any other American. You're probably referring to a white American Right, you're talking about there's a difference between whitewashed white worshipping just wanting to partake in some sort of like free-minded White ease of life. Yeah, there's there's different words to describe different things. Yeah Now obviously if you in 2024 still are a self-hating Asian Then clearly you got some deep-rooted stuff because it's a lot easier to get into Asian stuff Then it was a decade ago But do you think it's true that she's Chinese and she's got to be referring to a primarily Chinese friend group? Because Koreans may get together and watch k-dramas more often than Chinese get together to watch c-dramas Well, I you would you would assume that maybe they're Chinese because she's talking about lunar new year and like that would mostly appeal to Chinese or Vietnamese really those are the two groups that that celebrate it the hardest So she's probably yeah, she's probably talking about a lot of other Chinese Americans And it's true because Chinese ancient Chinese culture often is very hard to get into it There's a lot of barriers to it. You got to know the language or you got to have some reference for it It's not gonna be the quick release dopamine looking for from a white elephant Christmas friend party or a St. Patrick's Day even I don't think Asians I'll say this it really depends on the city that she's in because if you're in the three or four cities that rep that Celebrate lunar new year for example really hard like la SF New York Maybe Seattle or Vancouver, Canada like these places have big lunar new year celebrations Then it's a little bit more cooler But if you're like in Ohio and these are your Asian friends in Ohio, I'm not shocked at all Yeah, not only that let's be honest in places like New York There's hyper modern brands that are trying to like bring Chinese culture or Asian culture into the modern day Like almost and we went to a few events this past lunar new year Chinese New Year where it was very expensive luxury brands Trying to mix it with the year of the dragon, right? Yeah, they probably she probably doesn't have that available in the city She's in exactly so what I'm my quick recommendation is I guess to compile a lot of the cool Asian or Chinese content or whatever it is the content that you want to show them and you just kind of Keep testing them and throwing it at them. Maybe not it's maybe it's not a lunar new year party Maybe it's a movie that you guys watch together Maybe you guys do a at-home hot pot first and play some Chinese rap or Chinese pop music You know what I mean, right? Like don't just and there's not nothing wrong with Jay Chow's greatest hits from like 10 or 15 years ago But like there's new songs that came out this year in China too like there's new music It's not just Jay Chow's Wow's greatest hits from the golden. No David That's all the Chinese music that was ever made. It would just ended at Jay Chow after his peak That's it. There's no more pop music after him after Kabul alcohol, right and it um anyway Let's just get into the comments section somebody said, you know It's very interesting because Irish and Chinese both arrived for the first time in America in the 1850s But Irish now have an Irish president and Biden obviously that they had one in JFK and Chinese are still considered Essentially perpetual foreigners in this country. Who is to blame? Is it because the Irish had these advantages to blend in or do they have a different game plan or is because they're also Christian even though they were Catholic instead of Protestant and the Chinese just stayed super separate from everybody, right? Interesting to use the Irish as a use case. Well, let me tell you this when you look at Irish person You look at a Chinese person not only fundamentally thousands of years back is their culture completely different That's a hard one because Ireland is connected to the United Kingdom Well, no and then Anglos are the from the lower part of the United Kingdom that dominated the world Yeah, so they're kind of wrong Ireland is part of the UK. Just it's not part of Britain UK is the larger kind of region Right, right, right. So I'm saying that like it's your part of your larger zone Like took over the world You probably can be able to adapt with them even though there was some beef from back in the days Or maybe there's still some contentiousness then somebody from literally the other side of the earth Yeah, yeah, it's it's not a great analogy. Oh, yeah, yeah, I will say this to acknowledge this I think that the people who came in the 1850s were not put in a great position to amass a ton of like influential long-term power in America And that's why they haven't even in places where they landed like SF Chinese are way weaker than their representation should be technically right so I mean Cantonese specifically downplayed themselves in this country for the last 150 years anyway somebody said self-hate is always weird It's honestly the lack of self-respect in the worship of whiteness. It is so off-putting for me Let's have a little bit of pride as Asians. Yeah, and I think nowadays having pride is cooler It doesn't mean you have to hate on white people. We're not we don't have a channel full of just hating on white people and stuff I think you can acknowledge that there's differences and that you know They're the ones who are is a general dominant culture, but you can be proud about being age It is easier to be proud of being age if you cannot be proud of being Asian in 2024 There is something wrong with you like 600 proud Asian meme pages, right? Listen, if you weren't proud to be an Asian 15 20 years ago I can actually even understand to an extent even though I'm unhappy to hear that but nowadays Oh, you're not even doing the work. You know your eyes are not even open and that's not an Asian Man, and I'm not happy about this some a lot of parts of the world are unstable. You know, it's pretty stable Well, at least you know, I'm not saying maybe meant Structurally Asia You know, I mean I think we still put a lot of pressure on ourselves from our parents and a lot of expectations But that yeah in that way take pride in the stability and the productivity. How about that? Somebody said I feel like my Asian female millennial friends from non Asian majority communities tend to be way more white worshiping than my guy friends Shocking. Oh wow. I'm so shocked. No that makes complete sense. I'll say this when you feel like growing up in Asian Millennials probably in the earlier developmental formative years. They felt like being Asian possibly especially for Chinese Korean could be 5050 depends on you know how exposed you were to HOT and all that stuff it's like I'm saying that you probably felt like you were on a sinking ship and Your natural reaction when you're on a sinking ship even though it's your ship It's a hop on another ship But I think that especially if you are a girl and you were pretty It's way easier to lateral onto another ship and have that like ships captain and crew accept you Then like the guys not only the guys may have some innate sense of not wanting to jump ship But even if they try to jump ship, they might not even get allowed on the gallows of that ship Yeah, you gotta take the women and children first and then the guys they gotta fend for themselves. Yeah Yeah, um somebody said it's really a whole millennial thing You must be a millennial you didn't say your age But I'm guessing you're a millennial because it's way different for people 25 and under nowadays because things are changing No, I still think I do agree It's mostly a millennial thing but depending on where you are in the country man It's still like feels like you're a millennial. You know what I mean? Oh, you're saying Gen Z can be living a millennial lifestyle If they live in a throwback geographical cultural zone Yeah, different hot spots. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I agree with that America's a big country guys There's a lot of variants in culture when you go blah blah blah Midwest the East Coast West Coast South Coast Somebody said you need to make friends with Asian Canadians Asian Americans from Hawaii or at least somebody that was raised in Western school from Asia Yeah, I would say this if you are from those places You just have a different mentality because the society you were raised in all the distributions all the pressures and stuff were different Somebody said man, you don't need to fault your friends. They'd all get together and want to be white together Even though they're all Asian. There's still good people. They're just not cultural warriors Okay. Yeah, that's fine. I mean no you could still be friends with them I didn't say don't be friends with them But if it really bothers you then yeah somehow you got to find some new friends or Get the more into being Asian. Yeah, everybody prioritizes different value systems in life Yeah, but for you to convince them to be more proud of being Asian It also helps if you're cooler and you're viewed as cooler and they view you as like somebody who Is cool to she did say that she might be lower ranked in the friend group So she doesn't have the leverage within that fishbowl to be like the top leader of goldfish to lead all the other fish In the fish tank, that's how social dynamics work guys. Somebody said it has to do with Confucianism Embodiment of submission to authorities and higher ups in the US the white people or the white culture is the higher up So Asians unaware of their motherboard programming will unconsciously submit Almost to a level that other everybody else is even shocked to see Yeah, I guess I think there's truth to this. Yes, I don't think that's the full reason but certainly not wrong Ultimately man, I think that this girl should join a church move different cities Maybe start a cooking IG of whatever culture she values and she's gonna connect with it If you cook a culture's food a lot Andrew once you agree that there's some likelihood that you would value it to some extent Yeah, and then you also connect with people on social media and then I mean there's just so many ways to go about it And I think this person Probably likes their friends probably is grateful that they have a nice friend group grateful that they get to go to These Halloween and Christmas parties that are set up. Listen. I'm gonna be honest. I've only been to a Couple Halloween and Christmas parties of friends in my life. I've been a more Lunar New Year stuff to be Yes, so I have to admit that as American eyes as I am I still have not partaken in this white party culture in America the White House Party culture in America that much I have but not that much. So you've been on a few boats Hosted by Asians trying to be whites. Uh host. Oh, yeah, also, but There's a white sorority who I was on a grab a day with but yeah, you know very few very few times listen guys I think culture is changing, but you got to just understand your micro environment and your own exposure and your own fishbowl You got to look at what's happening in other cities and what's happening around the world Singapore Sydney there's there's a ton of stuff happening, but Your own fishbowl might not have a lot of stuff. Yeah, my overall takeaway again is if you cannot find some way Somehow to be proud of being Asian To find some Asian inspiration in the world right now in this vast content world that we have right now You are just destined to be a self-hating Asian Or you're destined to be stuck in an environment where you feel helpless and you're like I'm boxed in but I also can't hop out Of the box because there's no other boxes, but there's other boxes But you got to do the work and sacrifice You know how the willpower to get to those so be like a frog and leap out of the box is what David's saying Alright everybody, let us know in the comments down below what you think about this person's issue about having whitewashed Asian friends and until next time we out. Peace