 Hey y'all she was seven I'm back Okay, so I had a video request, but I don't know if I'm gonna do it because it's been done so many times The answers are super obvious So I don't really think that doing a video or covering a subject about you know This particular topic is going to be any help I was gonna do a start a bunch of trolling and arguing in the comments. So we already know Why certain men of certain races act a certain way and other men and other races act a certain way another way Okay, and we can't place all the blame on on this type of man because this type of woman as well Has played a part in it. So if I have to talk about the man I gotta talk about the woman so and I don't want to talk about these women because some of them are My friends some of these women have the same circumstance as my friends. So You know if I'm gonna talk about The black man as far as dating and marriage and stuff I can't talk about the black man without talking bad about the black woman. So guess what? I'm really not gonna cover that subject because We already know our flaws. We already know our faults. We already know our stereo tight I mean, why even put it out there. It's already out there. We already know it. We already know why certain women and certain men Have worse relationships and broken families. We already know why okay, so what why would I discuss that? Now in general I will discuss it in general But like I said The problem is Everyone's fault in that situation, you know So I'm really not gonna make a video on that I'm not trying to bash a certain group of people So I mean everyone knows their flaws are they can work on them all day long if they want or they never will But the the topic is it's like been done so many times Now everyone knows that they can change themselves if they look in the mirror and decide to just do better y'all everybody knows that Now personally me watched other people make mistakes over and over and over and over I've watched it. I Learned never make that mistake Never fall for the okie-dokie aim high Don't end up like this person don't end up like that person and it worked for me because I'm a Pisces and Pisces like to be comfortable in life. That's just in our chart That's in it's in any Pisces wants to be comfortable in life. They don't want to have to struggle They don't want to work super hard. They want the good life. So being a Pisces I Never took risks That would lead me to a place where I would not be comfortable. I Never took risks that would Leave me struggling because For me Comfort is a necessity. Okay. I need that Especially for me so When I was growing up You know if I had a boyfriend or you know was dating someone seriously and we had intercourse I was protected all the time. I took birth control. I did all that because I didn't want any kids Until I was married Okay like Until I was finished with school Until I was married until I had degrees. I didn't want any kids Because I knew what like I Didn't want that struggle, you know, I didn't want to risk Being a single mother, you know, I wanted to be married. I wanted to have the family The structure the home the car You know, I wanted to have it the package So I decided when I was like 17 Like right after high school, you know Make the life you want be the cause of the life you want y'all I'm not gonna sit up here and bash people because they made bad decisions and They didn't think about the things in the future I'm gonna sit up there and bash them because You know Some people just need to learn from experience and some people can learn from watching other people make mistakes Now I was one of those people that learned from watching people make mistakes. Although I've made my own mistakes But the giant major mistakes I watch other people make I haven't made them. Okay, and I don't ever risk I don't risk You know, well, maybe maybe I can change him or maybe he'll do better once the baby come I don't even risk that child. Mm-hmm. I'm like, you're gonna be doing better already before you even get me pregnant Okay, you're gonna have a career. You're gonna have an income. You have stability. We gotta have a house I mean all that stuff has to be in place. Okay, because I didn't want my kid Or my children growing up you know in an environment that Would just not Benefit them. Okay, so I already had it up in my mind when I was 17. I'm not gonna You know do all of that. I've seen too many people do it and the way they've ended up and My mom was one of those people y'all You know, she got married. She got divorced and stuff like that She was single mom for a while then she got remarried and I watched her struggle and I just did not want that for myself You know, I watched my cousin. I watched a lot of people Go through this and struggle and I just can't do it. I could never do it. I would never want to do it and you know Props to those who do it every day, you know, I commend you because I couldn't even imagine You know going through that I couldn't not saying that You know anyone no one's better than the other person, but I know me and I know I couldn't do it You know, I would probably be insane by now if I had to do all of that. Um, I Really would so knowing myself. I made the correct decisions to have the type of life that I wanted And I think a lot of people need to do the same thing, especially women, you know There's no like ladies if if you're you know, if you haven't gotten into Any relationships if you don't have no kids if you don't have any of that wait, don't get pregnant until you are married, okay? Do not get pregnant until you're married not not when not when you're in a relationship. No, you need papers, okay? Do not get pregnant until you get married unless you already got money and you can take care of everything if you're if you're not stable Don't have a kid, okay? I think even Michael Jackson say it if you can't feed your baby Then don't have a baby And don't think baby You can't feed your baby You'll be always trying and stop that child from crying Her slits still in line in my baby slowly dying because you're going to be started something You got to be starting something You know, I know I just broke out into song but You know Michael Jackson is my guru. What can I say? So, yeah, it just makes sense, you know Having a baby is not going to keep your man In fact, it's probably gonna make him leave if he's not married to you because there's no consequences of leaving You know, especially if you're not gonna file child support if you do file child support And he doesn't have a job or he has a low-paying job. You're only probably gonna get like $50, okay, so y'all think about it, you know, y'all have to plan ahead women men to like men If you are going to lay down with the woman and Get her pregnant. You better have a way to take care of the baby, you know So if you don't then use protection God, it's that easy. They have condoms everywhere. There's birth control You can get free birth control. I don't understand anyway some women Think it's gonna help and it never does y'all don't help. I mean it might help sometimes Every once in a while it might work, but it's not gonna work for everybody, you know, I Already, you know, I was like No ring no kids You know and then like after you get married don't have kids right away No wait a few years, you know get comfortable and get to know your husband get to know married life without kids And then go jump into having kids, you know, it's not that hard to do You know, if you demand something people will comply if they want to be in your life You know, if someone if a man doesn't want to marry you then why are you with him? You know, if you've been with somebody for over a few years and they don't see themselves with you for the rest of their Life, it's time to move on. Okay? Okay, I'm trying to read an email Anyway, so yeah, it's some if some man is with you or you're living with some guy and It's been years and he hasn't married you or asked you to get married or still married to somebody else and blah blah blah blah Let me tell y'all If he dies or something happens to him, you don't get any rights. You don't get any of the money Nothing, you know, you can't even get the social security. So the papers are important y'all. I'm like it it's so hard to Keep saying the same thing over and over and over or over to people You know Don't have children from any man who doesn't want to marry you. I don't understand why people do that You know, I would I wouldn't I would be like, you know what? Until I have a ring on my finger this the condom does not come off darling. Okay? We gonna be you know until I have a ring and a marriage life and the condom does not come off darling, okay? Doesn't and that would if that will get you to get married Try that so you know what I'm not I'm not going to you have to have a condom until we're married I'm not you know just keep talking about and eventually it's gonna get put in there subliminal Maya And they're gonna start thinking about oh She wants to get married and you know, it'll be in their mind You know if you keep talking about it as you know as a woman, they know that's what you want and that's gonna make you happy So, you know, it's you have more of a chance of getting married if you talk about getting married all the time You know If you just afraid to lose him and don't want to pressure him and then you'll never have them You don't have someone until you they're married You know, I've seen it in the funeral business when I used to be a mortician They'd have these common law relationships and the woman would get no say the family of the mom or the sister would just come in And take everything over and these people have probably been together for like 10 plus years But she has no say she gets none of the money. She's not the beneficiary on the insurance. It was his mom So his mom got all the money. So she's left with nothing. Y'all y'all need to get that paper Okay, don't have kids Until you're married if you haven't already had the kids because You know a lot my sister my my I mean my my sister got married after she had a kid, but shoot it was like You know, it was harder. So what I'm saying is If you want your life to go smooth, you know Keep your priorities in order Okay, and I'm not down at any of the women who have kids out of wedlock because I know a lot of people that do and There's nothing wrong with it. I'm just saying life would be a lot easier for you if You haven't already had kids it's gonna be a lot easier for you And so I'm not really making this video about bashing certain races But yes, it is true that a lot of other races do get married and have children in that order instead of the The other order of having kids and never getting married and just you know leaving. Yeah. Yes We already know that so there's no use of really discussing it We already know that and that's why a lot of women want to explore, you know interracial dating because a Lot of women choose a man to be their husband on how good of a father They're gonna be you know, they say, you know, I want my kid to be ticked, you know to have a good father I want him to go to the park. I want him to play play with them I want him to spend time with him. I want him to be a role model And so a lot of women will date outside their race in order to have a good father for their children, you know And that's very understandable Because you can't you know You can't really risk Having a bad father for your kids If that's your dream to have a good father, you know Like I see how much time where I live. There's like fathers and children walking around every day, you know, and it's it's a beautiful thing to see and The family unit is intact and you know, a lot of these people grow up to be successful because they have a solid foundation So I'm gonna leave this video at that and Like I said, it's not a bashing video It's not meant to make anybody feel bad who have already, you know, had the children on a wedlock It's not make meant to make Any guys feel bad for abandoning their children. It's just meant to educate those Who still have these decisions to make? Okay, so I hope no one takes this too personally and I would like to see what y'all think in the comments And I'll see y'all later. Okay