 السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم والصلاة والسلام على سيد المرسلين سيدنا ونبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه وسلم يا ربنا لك الحمد كما ينبغي لجلال وجهك وعظيم سلطانك اللهم يا مقلب القلوب والأبصار ثبت قلوبنا على دينك اللهم ارحمنا اللهم معلمنا ما ينفعنا وانفعنا بما علمتنا يا رحم الراحمين يا رب العالمين مشاء الله today inshaAllah we will be starting a new series that in which we will be bringing into focus the biographies of the first generation of Muslim women and the important role they played in the overall development of their society right from the very beginning but before we start let's have a quick look at women in the pre-islamic period at that time women were in a very lowly status in arabia so an Arab man would look at women as a source of shame and humiliation if a father was given the news of the birth of a girl then he would be extremely distressed wondering whether he should have the humble option of keeping this baby or the other option of burying her alive and Allah سبحانه وتعالى mentioned that in surat al-Nahl in ayah 58 he says وإذا بشير أحدهم بالأنثى ظل وجههم مسودا وهو كظيم when one of them is informed of the birth of a female his face becomes dark and he suppresses grief so the birth of a girl was actually something humiliating at that time يتوارى من القوم من سوء ما بشربي أيمسيقه على هون أم يدسه في التراب ألا سأما يحكمون so he hides himself from the people because of the bad news that he got he had a baby girl so what are his options should he keep this baby in humiliation or should he bury it in the ground and questionably evil is what they decide so this is what Allah سبحانه وتعالى mentioned about a father having the news of getting a baby girl when the Prophet ﷺ received the message there was a change there was a change of how to look at women so women became prominent figures and we see خديجة رضي الله عنها the mother of the believers the wife of the Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ she was the first person to believe in Islam to believe in Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ she was the first person to comfort Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ and to assure him that what he has received is nothing but the angel it's the message from Allah سبحانه وتعالى سوبي بن تخياط and this is Amr's mom this is Amr's mom so she was the first murderer in Islamic history so other women, Muslim women accompanied Muslim men under immigration to Abyssinia so Muslim women became prominent figures so the women now if we ask who is the woman what is the role of a woman the woman is the person who raises a generation she is the one who takes care of the family a family without a mom is not you feel there is something wrong no one can take the role, the position, the duties of a mom so she knows how to important roles so these are the important roles of the mom she raises a generation and she takes care of the family so should she know how to do these two important roles then society will be prosperous with great Muslim women so we have to understand the role of the women in society and at the time of Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم we saw how many young men how they love to sacrifice their lives for Islam for Sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم so let's أسامة رضي الله عن أسامة رضي الله عن was nicknamed as الحب he lived the army when he was 17 years old so who is that woman who raised this child to be a leader to the army of the Muslims at the age of 17 so compare that amazing fighter that amazing commander that amazing leader who was 17 years old and compare him to a 17 years old of our age he was a leader what are our 17 years old doing here are they leaders if they are then we have to thank the mom who is raising this child so as moms we have to know how to do that we have to know how to raise this great person to be a leader we have to raise young men like usama like this leader so we see so many women in our age in our time they know the responsibility they know what they have to do and they start to take care of their family and they started at very early ages since their baby they were babies they would make them listen to the Quran to the recitation of the Quran they would make them recite the Quran when they get a little order later they would make them memorize the Quran so these children are raised with the love of Allah they are raised to the love of Sayyidina Muhammad they are raised to the love of the Quran so with this love they will be protected in their life life is not easy it's a test and this test starts when they are just children and the test at that time is for the parents it's not for the child if you are raising good Muslims then they will be able to stand they will be shielded from the many arrows that are aimed at them look at our society look at the challenges that this new generation is facing we have to get them ready to face these challenges we have to prepare them to be strong Muslims so they are not affected by any of the currents around them it's just a challenge sometimes you hear from a mom that she's complaining she has a 17 years old son who is not praying and when she asks for advice what should I do where were you when he was young you must have left some of your responsibilities when they were young so you are not able now to control them when they are old when you raise them properly they will be ready to accept your advices when you give these advices and it's always the mom always so the mom should always take care the mom should always take care I think there is a difficulty I hope everything is okay so the mom should take care of the children of how she is raising her children so when when she takes care of them when she takes care of them then she knows that they are well taken care of now she pays attention for their life she pays attention for their needs but what happens what happens after that she doesn't stop here because she cares about their أخرة she doesn't care about their دنيا only she loves her children she wants them to be saved on the day after that's why she does her best in this دنيا she wants them to be happy in both lives not only in this دنيا she would get them all their needs and she would support them with everything they want no, that's not it she takes care of their أخرة she takes care of them she wants them to be in high مقامs of the أخرة and that's why she does her best in this دنيا so we as moms we want to raise children who will be coolness of the night to say the محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and particularly we want to focus we want to focus on the we want to focus on raising good mums when the girls are young then everything will be easier if taken care from the very beginning so we want to raise daughters who will be great mums in the future and the most important thing is that the the daughter will be a mom she will take care of her children and there is a line of poetry it says a mom is a complete school she's a school if you know how to raise a mom how to make her a good mom then be sure that you saved a whole society and you will be raising good generations so we have the mom has to be the first thing she has to be a model she has to be a model you cannot as a mom to tell your children do this and do that knew yourself to not do it or you yourself do it you cannot you have to be a good model they are copying you they are understanding you they are looking at you as their model so we have to raise them so we have to raise them so الله سبحانه وتعالى looked at the hearts of people and he chose say يجدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم to be the prophet he chose the best of the hearts to be our prophet and he chose the best of the people around him to be his companions I say يدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم says أصحابيك النجوم بأيه محتديتهم بأيه محتديتهم محتديتهم so my companions are like stars whoever you follow you will be guided they are the best generation so they the companions bring for us they related for us the outer life of sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم but there was a need to know how sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم is living inside his houses so that was one of the important roles for his wives and his daughters and so they would tell us how he would how he would act how he would do everything so his inner life his inner life was conveyed to us through women around sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم عائشة رضي الله عنها was raised in the house of sayyidina أبو بكر and she was well protected and when she was just very young she got married to sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and there was no effect from the outer society to her so she was so pure she was an amazing person to convey to us our religion sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم says خذوا نصفها دينا من هذه الحمارة take half of your religion from this bread woman this is sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم so Allah has chosen and his choice was the best and we know that there are different types of women around sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم some of them were women who were given the glad tidings of jannah that they will be in paradise and I can list at least 20 of them those are the ladies the women who were given the glad tidings that they will be in paradise أم المؤمنين the mother of the believers خديجة بن تقويلد رضي الله عنها فاطمة بن تؤسد أم محران بن تم الحان نسيبة بن تكعب أم رومان بركة الربية بن تم عويل سمية بن خباب كبشة بن ترافع أم المؤمنين زينا بن تجهش عائشة بن تؤبي بكر فاطمة بن ترسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم the daughter of sayyidina محمد الفريع بن تمالي أم المنذن أسماء أم سلين أسماء بن تيزيد أم مهشان and the mother of the believers حفص بن تعمر رضي الله عنها so this is the first group of women around sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم they were the those who were given the glad tidings of paradise there were women around sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم they were teachers other women were physicians right through sayyidina الاسلامية رضي الله عنها she started a surgery in a tent when she she was looking after those who were injured in the battle so women other women were fighters other women just went with sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم in military expeditions some of them tended the injured fighters some of them provided soldiers with water and drink one one of the an example of the heroines of the battle of أحد was um Aiman رضي الله عنها she saw one of the non believers aiming an arrow at sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم so she jumped to she yelled صلى الله عليه وسلم and she was hit in the shoulder this is the true love of sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم this is how we want to raise our children to be lovers of sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم a smab in jiazid killed nine peasantian soldiers in the battle of al-yarmud using the pole of her tent so we have women around sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم companions around sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم they had different characteristics they had different characters they had different roles in in society today inshallah we will talk about one of the Muslim Sahabi one of the Muslim women who were with sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and her name her name is been to asad so who is this amazing companion of sayyidina محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم with this amazing female companion فاطمة been to asad رضي الله عنها was born into a household that was the center of spirituality her grandfather hashim بن عبد المناف was the leader of and the keeper of the very very very honorable family and he was cable and generous man he was the leader of his of his group so he married a girl from his own family and this woman she gave birth to his son asad and asad is the father of fatima so fatima being to asad and asad is the son of Hashim بن عبد المناف so the members of the very family were well known in the tribe of quraish they were well known for their moral virtues and high humanistic characteristics among among the Arab tribes they were known to be very noble generous courageous so very well known family fatima بن عبد المناف was a remarkable Hashimi lady who believed in Allah سبحانه وتعالى she was she was so kind loving and caring and she herself had she had four sons and they were طالب جعفر and رضي الله and she had also two daughters أم هاني and جمانة and above all she had سيبن محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم he was her adopted son so Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم his mother we all know very early in life when he was 6 years old his grandfather عبد المطالب brought him to his home and he took very good care of him so he lived with his grandfather and سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم lived with his grandfather about 2 years but when he was 8 his grandfather died and that was that day was a day of grief in Mecca so the leader of the of the tribe عبد المطالب passed away no one felt the pain such as سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم his mom passed away 2 years ago and now his grandfather dies in front of him and أم أيمن his nanny used to say رأيت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يوم إذن يبكي خلف سرير عبد المطالب I saw the messenger of Allah he was a child at that day I saw him crying behind the bed of عبد المطالب he he felt that he he is an orphan again he felt that he felt that there is the big heart who used to take care of him is no longer there he knew that after عبد المطالب his uncle his uncle a biotaalb took care of سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم so عبد المطالب was poor and he had so many children but he loved سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and he saw that happened to him and to his family when his his nephew came to live with him so for example if they how if they if mom prepared the food and they want to they want to eat if the children if his children started to eat they will be the food will not be enough for the family but he noticed that if محمد the young boy if he started with the food if he started to eat the food he was first to eat from the food there would be blessing there would be بركة the food would be enough for everybody so he noticed that there is something special about his nephew and his wife his wife بنتو أسد الله سبحانه و تعالى شوز here to raise سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم so now this amazing woman raised the child who will be the prophet she was the mother of so الله سبحانه و تعالى she put the love of this orphan boy محمد عليه السلام put his love into the heart of so she was taking care of him way more than what she used to take care of her children so he was a very attractive boy he was very polite he was very handsome he was very kind and فاتي مرضي الله عنها loved him she took amazing care of him and he stayed with her around 20 years to decades so he soon found a second mom in فاتي مبنتو أسد and he did not miss the love and affection that a mother alone can give she looked after him she looked after him in his boyhood and in his youth she says she made me her son and she always made sure that سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم had the best of everything so we can say that if her husband protected سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم from his enemies outside فاتي مرضي provided him love and comfort and security at home so he was well taken care of both of them took very good care of سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم now the point of mentioning the stories and the biographies of the women around سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم is to take lessons of their lives and their attitudes of what they did now the main thing that فاتيمان did was she took care of an orphan and there will be a lot of rewards for taking care of the orphan and looking after him so سبحان الله so what are these rewards how will Allah سبحانه وتعالى will reward someone who takes care of an orphan the first thing is this person will be close to the Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم on the day of judgment and he is says in one of the narrations the one who cares for an orphan and myself will be together in paradise and he he held his two fingers together to illustrate so he had his both fingers close to each other and this is how the one who takes care of an orphan this is how he will be on the day of judgment in paradise with سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم another reward the house where this orphan is being raised will be described as the best house the messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said the best house among the Muslim is the house in which orphans are well treated and the worst house among the Muslims is the house in which orphans are ill treated so sometimes someone is married to a husband who has children their mom dies there are orphans the more she cares for them the higher the reward for her will be on the day of judgment their house will be described as the best house and also another reward is that this person will be among the righteous person how الله سبحانه وتعالى says so righteousness or true righteousness is in one who believes in Allah سبحانه وتعالى the last day the angels the book and the prophets and gives wealth so he spends money for the sake of Allah and how he does that in spite of his love for this wealth so who does he spend he spends he gives it to relatives orphans so this person will be considered of the righteous people and this is our example Fatima and this is an important lesson for everyone we have to keep in mind to be good to the orphans even if we are not raising them but if we know that there is an orphan to be kind to that person we have to be kind to this child so this message was presented in surat al-insan in ayah 8 and الله سبحانه وتعالى says so Fatima was a great example of this which says and they give food in spite of the love for it to the needy to the orphans and to the captives and what is in return so we feed you only for the sake of Allah we wish not from you reward or gratitude this is another lesson for us do not ever do anything anything and expect a thank you or expect a praise for what you did why when we do something we do it for the sake of Allah we know that we will be rewarded in the day after so we don't seek any of these words in thank you thank you notes or thank you words in this dunya if it is said it's good but if it's not said then remember that you already did it purely for the sake of Allah was going to give you your reward in the day after so don't have any expectations from people you know why you wish for them to say or to do something or to say something and they did not you will be upset and we want to to have a clean and a clear heart towards everyone when we want when we want to go back to Allah سبحانه وتعالى with with يوم لا يم فعوما لن ولا بنون إلا من أتو الله في قلبين سليم so on the day of judgment when wealth or children will not benefit anyone no matter how wealthy you are in this dunya and no matter how many children you have in this dunya nothing will be helpful the winner the winner on the day after إلا من أتو الله في قلبين سليم is the one who comes back to Allah سبحانه وتعالى with a sound heart so years passed now and سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم passed about 20 years of his life with and she was the closest of people to him she took care she took a very good care of سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم after that الله سبحانه وتعالى has chosen that سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم gets married to خديجة رضي الله عنها so خديجة will be his wife so he moved because of Fatima into Assad رضي الله عنها but he was a very good person to Fatima to the wife of his uncle he wouldn't forget her he wouldn't forget how how good she was to him and he used to say she used to be she used to be the best of Allah's creatures to me after my uncle so when سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم was revealed to Fatima into Assad رضي الله عنها was of the very pioneers to believe in سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and Allah سبحانه وتعالى has blessed them with all her children to become Muslims also so later on her son married Fatima into سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم the daughter of سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and she was the best mother-in-law okay another message be good to your mother-in-law be good to your daughter-in-law be good to your son-in-law we won't raise a healthy society when this society is built on love then it will be a strong society all will be one family all the family will be united so Fatima رضي الله عنها was a very good mother-in-law and سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم used to take to respect her a lot and he used to always to check on her and to send her gifts so time passes and it was her death سبحانه وتعالى أنا سبن مالك رضي الله عنه says when the prophet الله عليه وسلم got the news of the death of Fatima he immediately went to her house and sat beside her and prayed for her and he cried he gave his shirt to be used as part of her shroud and the prophet himself entered the grave and he laid there for a while then he came out and there were tears coming from his eyes so the tears fell onto the grave this attitude of the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم represented his closeness to her so it was also a compliment to her for the grave that the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم his blessed body touched this grave touched the grave so it became a blessed grave the companions asked Sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم about his attitude toward her and he said and they said oh messenger of Allah we have not seen you taking care of anybody the same way that you did so you gave her your shirt you you lay down in the grave you are shedding tears so what is it and the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said just a few words that were so touching he said كانت أمي بعد أمي she was my mother after my mother she fed me before her own children and she fed me and she herself was hungry she came to my hair and put rose oil on me first and her own children were still dirty they were dusty she was my mother I have not met anybody who took care of me more than her after my uncle Abu Talim and I put my own garment on her so that she will be closed in garments of paradise and I laid down in her grave for a while so that life in the grave will be easy for her this was the lady with the big heart this big heart loved سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and he in turn loved her and respected her so much so this is our first example of the companions the women companions around سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and these these examples are our mother that we want to raise our children to be like them so we ask الله سبحانه وتعالى to help us we ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى to protect us we ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى to protect our children and to raise them with his care so they will be goodness of an eye to him goodness of an eye to سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم so inshallah until we meet next time and your salam to سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and inshallah we'll meet next week with another woman who was around سيد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and we might cover more than one so depending on time inshallah وسلم وسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته