 السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته إذا كنت تحب شخص جديد من رمضان ورحمة الله سأقوم بعمل هذا الشهر يمكنك أن تساعدنا على أسئلة at www.amu.org سأعودنا today as follows A revert is struggling with a bad environment at home in this Ramadan but can't move out and struggles to balance between worship and helping their non-Muslim parents What is your advice? الحمد لله ربي العالمين والصلاة والسلام على المبعوث رحمة للعالمين نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين This question relates to a revert Muslim who is going through a hard time at home who it appears from the question is concealing their faith not telling their parents about it who is struggling to pray and who is struggling with the month of Ramadan So we like to start by asking Allah عز وجل الحي القيوم asking Allah عز وجل the ever living and the sustainer of all creation the one who there is no God worthy of worship but him to make it easy for this particular person and for all of the reverts who are in that situation where they are under pressure and in difficulty because of the environment that they are in We ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى to الفتح We ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى who is the one who opens things up to open up the doors for them and to make it easy for them and to give them the ability to be able to come out from that environment into an environment where they can worship Allah with ease and I'm going to try to answer the different aspects of this question as best as possible seeking the help of Allah عز وجل so first of all we have a very important principle in Islam and that principle is taken from the statement of Allah عز وجل فتقوا الله مستطعت fear Allah عز وجل as much as you can have as much Taqwa and just for the purpose of a quick translation to have as much fear of Allah عز وجل protect yourself from the punishment of Allah عز وجل as much as you can so we're always going to be saying to that new Muslim to that reverb we're going to be saying to them that do your very best do whatever you can to do the right thing try to come as close to it as you can and do the best that you're able to do and that's going to be sort of a principle for you but I'm now going to go into a little bit more detail also to try and give you some more specific advice but as a general principle in Islam you always try to do the best that you can and that's why there is a hadith and a narration from our Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم which was reported by the noble companion أبي هوريرا and in this narration the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said he said that he said that if I command you to do something then do whatever you are able from it and if I forbid you from something then leave it or in another narration keep away from it so really we want to start with that principle because I believe that there's many things in terms of the situation of this new Muslim that they might come across where they're not able to do everything the way they would want to so you do as much of it in the best possible way as you can but there is a difference between the prohibitions and the commands and that's why in this hadith there's a difference that is made between the two in the prohibitions it's easier to leave them because something that's wrong you just have to stop doing it but as for what things you have to do like you have to do this you have to do your prayers and give yours a car and you have to fast the month of Ramadan then you do the best that you possibly can and the most that you possibly can in the circumstances that you are in and Allah is the greatest in the Qur'an Allah doesn't burden a person with more than they can bear and now I want to move on with my advice and answer to this question and I want to talk a little bit about dealing with the non-Muslim parents as well because I just believe that if we have a river in the situation and there are probably many many people in this situation around the world I want to also give some general principles that will help you إن شاء الله الله سبحانه وتعالى told us in Surah Al-Uqman in ayah 15 الله سبحانه وتعالى told us if your parents they compel you and they force you to make a partner with me in that which you have no knowledge of then do not obey them but accompany them in this world in the right way in the best way so what's really important here is that when it comes to being forced by non-Muslim parents or being compelled even if they compel you to make a partner with Allah سبحانه وتعالى even if they compel you compel you and force you and put pressure on you with regard to your religion there are two things number one you must not obey them in that you must not agree with them in that and number two you must not cut off from them and be rude or be bad towards them rather you have to do your very very best to help them and to support them in this world but you can't obey them if they tell you to do something that is wrong so we hope that principle or that concept will really help the new Muslim who is struggling with this so now we come to the issue of concealing a person's ايمان a person who doesn't tell because this question was worded in a very long way we just summarized it for the video but the longer question mentioned that the person had was concealing their ايمان and wasn't telling their parents about their faith we have an evidence for this in the story of the Islam of a companion whose name was أبو ذر and the messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم he said to him يا أبو ذر اكتم هذا الأمر او أبو ذر كنسيل this matter كنسيل your Islam and this hadith is narrated by البخاري and others as well ويبنو تيمية he said رحم الله تعالى وكتمان الدين شيء وإظهار الدين الباطل شيء آخر and this is a very important point for the questioner he said concealing your religion is one thing and seeing your part of another religion is something else he said فهذا لم يبحه الله قط إلا لمن أكره بحيث أبيحه له النطق بكلمة الكفر والله تعالى قد فرق بين المنافق والمكرح he said شيق رسلام رحم الله تعالى he said that concealing your religion is one thing and telling them that another religion is a different thing he said for this he did not allow someone to say that they are in a different religion except for the one that is forced the one that is forced through a threat of death or they fear they're going to lose their life or they are tortured this is the one who it's allowed for them to say I'm not a Muslim as for concealing your religion just keeping it quiet this is a totally different matter and this is easier and lighter in the sight of Allah that it is possible for a person to conceal their religion not to tell what religion they are or not to openly tell the people that they are a Muslim and I know that's what the questioner seemed to highlight but I wanted to differentiate between these matters the difference between telling someone that I'm a Christian I believe in Christianity or saying words like somebody who says that Jesus is God for example this is only allowed for the one who is in the threat of death or severe torture or beating or something like that as for just not telling people you're a Muslim this is something where we would give the following advice we would say to this person not telling people you're a Muslim brings about its own difficulties and hardships and we would not advise that and we would not say that that is the usl that's not the original way that a Muslim should be because Allah said وَأَمَّا بِنِعْمَةِ رَبِّكَ فَا حَدِّثِ as for the blessings of your Lord tell the people about them and more than one of the scholars of Tafsir they said that this means to speak to the people about Islam and to tell people about Islam so ultimately the basic concept for the Muslim is that you should be telling the people about Islam and you should be happy to tell the people that you're a Muslim however if you fear a hardship upon yourself and you are scared that something bad will happen to you then it is permissible for you to conceal your Eman and you shouldn't go to the level of saying that you're a non-Muslim or doing non-Muslim practices like going to a church or a temple that is in only the most extreme of cases where the biggest threat and the most danger is there for the person the next issue that we have is regarding the prayer the person asked about their praying and they said that many times when the door opens they leave their prayer because they are scared that their family would find out and in this we have a statement of Allah عز وجل in the Quran in which Allah عز وجل said we reveal to Musa and his brother to Moses and his brother to establish for your people houses in Egypt and to make your houses قبلة to make your houses the place where you pray and some of the scholars of تفسير رحم النخي he said it and others رحم الله تعالى he said they were scared so they were commanded to pray in their homes so in this it tells us the permissibility for you to pray in your room if you're scared of your family finding out and you really believe that it's going to harm you and as we said it's far better for you to find a way to tell them about Islam if you're able to rather than living with that fear because it's extremely hard to live with it for a long period of time but if you found a situation where you couldn't get out of it and that's the situation that you're in then you can pray in your room and you can conceal that from them and the prayer has to be prayed at fixed times إن الصلاة كانت على المؤمنين كتاب المقوطة المقوطة has been appointed and fixed for the believers at those fixed times but obviously that time is a that time is a band of time right so it doesn't mean that there is a that you have to pray at one minute past one for example you have a band of time from one prayer to the start of the next prayer with the exception of فجر which ends at the time of sunrise and إشه which ends ideally at half the night in most circumstances at half of the night so we understood there's a period of time in which to pray this is important in this question so there are two types of fear here there is a fear which is constant all the time like the person is just I can't pray I barely can pray one of my prayers this is a constant fear and in this situation of the constant fear than what might be more suitable is to look at joining between the prayers like joining ذور to أسر and joining مغرب to إشه and the person prays however they can even if they have to pray lying down on their side as if they are asleep or sitting down as if they are sitting what they pray however they can but ultimately if you are in a state of constant observation and constant fear the ruling is different from the occasional time meaning I can't pray in my room but sometimes my parents open the door from time to time sometimes during the day so in this situation one of two situations apply one of two conditions apply either there is no time left for the prayer in which case you continue praying however you can if there is no time left for the prayer you have to pray you have to pray you can't stop praying but you pray however you can however it's possible for you to pray you pray in the situation where there is no time left but presuming there is time left if there is time left to repeat the prayer there is no harm in you breaking your prayer in this situation there is no harm in the person breaking their prayer and then repeating the prayer presuming there is time left to repeat the prayer and if the person needs to join between in certain situations from time to time because that day they are struggling then they can do that insha'Allah however also we should bear in mind that if a person is able to avoid breaking their prayer this is what they should do so as an example for this the door opens the person doesn't know if the parents going to walk in and talk to them or if the parent is going to just knock the door or if they just break it so if they break the prayer every time some of the scholars they mention about this that they mentioned it from somewhat that it's particularly with regard to sometimes women who fear for their child or something that people break their prayers all the time and it's not allowed for a person to break their part of the prayer except in a very serious situation so the first thing is when you hear that noise of the door opening you don't need to break your prayer just stop what you're doing and even if you have to make a small movement with your hands down by your sides or that you just have to move slightly without changing your like too much away from the قبلة or something like that maybe the person is in the تشاهد position and they change just to sit normally and wait and see if there's a need to break the prayer or not then if there is a real fear that the person fears a severe harm for themselves then they can break the prayer and repeat it but there has to be a fear and that's why we continue to emphasize to this particular person that finding a way to tell your parents about your Islam generally speaking is the root that you want to go down that's where you want to go to unless the fear is very very severe and you fear extreme harm upon yourself because the hardship of this praying in secret and repeating the prayer is very very difficult but that's some advice that we want on that particular issue the question in this description of the problem that they are facing they mentioned that there is very loud music and whether they could put earphones on in order to remove the distractions and from this we have something we can allude to from a hadith of our mother Aisha رضي الله عنها in this hadith the Prophet ﷺ prayed and in his prayer he became distracted by the patterns on this in this piece of material he became distracted and he he said that this has these patterns or these things have distracted me in my prayer and he commanded for a different material to be brought and Imam Al-Hawad Ibn Hajar رحم الله تعالى he mentioned that this hadith can be an evidence for the need to remove all anything which distracts you in the prayer so we have to remove the distractions and in some of the statements of some of the people of knowledge we found a statement that they said that it is for a person to put earplugs or to put something to block the noise from them if that's what they have to do and they said that people shouldn't do this out of a need to get near to Allah and that's correct people shouldn't try like it shouldn't be the case that everyone watching this video says or that will really help my kids make noise I should put earplugs that's not the case but for the person the situation like the one that is mentioned where this person their parents are not turning it off and they're concealing their faith then if the person puts earplugs in or something to block their ears so that the noise goes down or if they put something that will you know I don't think playing Quran is ideal because that's going to also distract you from your own Quran that you're reciting in the prayer but maybe you could if you had like a noise cancelling a headphone or something that would switch off the noise or lower the noise down but this is something that in this unique situation it could be allowed in order to get the the least harm of the situation or the best out of a bad situation but we continue to emphasise and encourage this new Muslim that the earliest opportunity to look for every opportunity to leave the place and to leave where they are and not to worry about it not to feel like that not to feel that they might suffer or they might have لقد他们 will open up for them and Allah will make it easy for them so so I really genuinely advised them to do everything they can to get themself out of the out of this situation and the last part of the question they said that they spent a lot of time serving they're non-muslim parents and they mentioned that when they're serving نحن نقول 2 ونضع نهاية أخر أول هو أنهم يجعلونك موضوعا من فريضة تلك الموضوعية مثل أنك لا يمكنك أن تقوم بقائد أفضل موضوعا في الوقت والأخر هو أنهم يجعلونك موضوعا من نوافل الموضوعية لذا كما لدينا الموضوعية حديث حديث أبي هوريرا حديث جريج الموضوع وأنه أمه صدقا وأنه في موضوعا هذا ليس الوقت قبل إسلام وأنه في موضوعا وقلت قال اللهم أمي وصالاتي قال أمي أمي أمي أمي وقلت وقلت صلوت وقلت لذا في وقال قمت أمي وقلت وقلت فقلت بقلت إذا أمي أن أكتبت أولياء وإن جاهدك على أن تشرك بما ليس لك به إن فلا تُوطِئهما وصاحبهما في الدنيا معروفة لا يمكنك أن تبهيهم في تركيه شيء that is obligatory but you have to be so nice and kind and gentle to them when you are doing that but at the same time don't completely exclude your options to worship Allah سبحانه وتعالى and find those opportunities to do that in a way that is pleasing to Allah in a way that doesn't upset your parents شاء الله but you can't obey your parents if it means disobeying Allah سبحانه وتعالى that's why Allah is very easy for me to mention Allah knows best والصلاة والسلام على لبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعي