 What's up you guys welcome to the single guy channel. My name is Lloyd. I didn't email recently from this guy And he basically writes. It's kind of a stat email and he says Lloyd. I Have had no luck with women in my life whatsoever. I have no friends. I've been depressed for a long time I feel unmotivated every time I've tried to make an effort in the past with women with people. I felt rejected I feel unmotivated and I don't know what to do Please help All right The funny thing about this email that I got is that I probably could have written it about a decade ago Because I was in the exact same position man I have a lot of I have a lot of empathy for people that are in this position because that's how I felt You know, I remember being a single and you know in college and I really didn't have a whole lot of options I didn't have friends. I was I was alone. I was depressed. I think I took three I took three tests three psychological tests At that time and pretty much all of them told me I was at risk for suicide And two of them told me to seek professional medical attention immediately actually I remember this So I definitely know how to help this guy out I doubt if you're a person watching this who feels completely lost and you don't know where to start or be successful with women You're talking to the right guy because I've been to that spot man I've been in areas where you just you feel like you're never gonna get out where you feel like there's no end And so I can definitely help this people this guy out So I'm gonna get into my story before I do I just wanted to say that I have a couple spots opening up in my coaching program And if you're a guy who's watching this video who's in this position if you're a motivated, dude I'm just looking for motivated people who are willing to join so I have three well actually two One of them got taken already. I have two spots open So if you're a guy who's really motivated who wants to get this started text me the words action You can send it to my email about single guy 2017 at gmail.com cool so now that I'm done with that blurb I Want to get into the story and the story is basically this where I was exactly like this guy, you know I was in an area. I remember I was in college. I Took those tests and then afterwards I had this girl dump me. She you know I've been friends on fire the whole year. She finally agreed to go out with me and Then the day after we went out. She just like said hey I don't think this is working out and then she ghosted me later found out she got back together with her ex-boyfriend So that was a really shitty time in Lloydsville. So what did I do to get out of it? Well, the first thing I did was I remember being so like Walking around my campus. There was tons of gorgeous women all the time And I just remember feeling rejected by all of them because every time I try to make an effort They weren't interested or they were interested in the bigger more handsome guy. That was like You know standing next to me and it sucked it sucked being in that position all the time So what I did was and this is what you guys should all of you should start doing this Stop following thoughts on Instagram. I remember us, you know at the time Instagram didn't exist But you could find chicks online that were hot So I just said it I wasn't gonna look at any of that sort of stuff In fact, I stopped going on social media at all. Facebook was very popular at that time I don't think I think I deleted my Facebook or I I think you can put it on like suspended or or whatever I just didn't go on anymore And those two things put me a step in the right direction Because a lot of times what you'll do is you'll go on your computer You'll go on this or that or the other thing and you'll look at something And it'll be something that you want and because you don't have it now You start to feel sad and you sort of feel unmotivated and you don't want to do it So that'd be the first thing that I would say you should do The second thing that I would say you should do is write down a game plan Whatever you want to do write down what you want to do and go after it like it doesn't matter Just come up with a plan and you don't have to think it's gonna work Just do like have something there a plan that you think might make you push you in that right direction Okay, come up with a plan that has actionable things that you can do and then the third thing that I'm gonna say is when you come up with this plan Stop tying yourself to a certain identity Okay My identity at this point this is getting very personal was I always thought there was something wrong with me in high school I felt this in middle school. I felt this even I remember even feeling this in elementary school I remember feeling there was something wrong with me The kids just didn't want to eat lunch with me people didn't want to be my friend Like there's something that people just didn't like and I had a lot of explanations for I thought my face Looked too angry whatever it was but whatever the reason it didn't matter the fact is I was holding on to this horrible shitty identity For too long Changes are you have an identity that you're holding on to whether you're depressed whether you're you feel like there's something wrong with You like me whether you feel like oh, I'm just like, you know I have ADHD or whatever it is, you know something that you're holding on to like an identity that's preventing you from and I'm saying ADHD doesn't exist I'm just saying is an identity that people hauled on to that explains what they can't do something Okay, whatever your identity is if you're watching this video unless there's something seriously wrong with you Like you're completely disfigured or whatever you can be successful with women stop holding on to that identity Okay, so now that you've stopped watching thoughts on Instagram You're not using social media as much you came in with a game plan you've let go of your identity Well, maybe not totally let go of your identity But you've you said okay, I'm not gonna let this hold me back Once you started doing this start taking action start trying things try anything dude I remember there was this one scene in a in house of cards if this that show on Netflix and I think it was the second or third season and He's present. I think he's president at this point and no one in the country likes him All of the house doesn't like him all of his advisors think that his plans are gonna fail And he wants to pass this bill and he knows it's very unlikely that it's gonna happen So he goes into the meeting room and he says look, I know this bill is not a good bill I know it's probably going to fail I know we don't have support in any of the houses, but the least we could do is to fucking try And that's my favorite scene probably maybe in television when he just said we should at least fucking try because that's how I felt at that point at least if I did something Anything I would feel a little better about myself I would I could at least look myself in the mirror and said that I did something about it And whatever it is whatever game plan you came up with let's say you want to you know get a girlfriend Or you want to have the awesome girls hook up with some girls come up with a game plan to find that and try it Try something the truth is is when I came up with this game plan the stuff that I did for the subsequent years a lot of it didn't work a lot of it didn't work and I don't think I started actually being on the road to success seriously until I was like 22 23 and So obviously that's a huge gap But here's the thing dude. I was getting a little bit better than I was last year and Those little wins I focused on so that's the next part is focus on small wins Dude if you've got a girl to smile at you freaking great. That's awesome Don't focus on the negative part. Ah, she wasn't that cute or ah, you know like a hotter girl Smell that somebody else again stop comparing yourself to other people Focus on the small wins write them down if you were better than you were last year if you were better than you were yesterday You can be better than you are tomorrow It's very simple So I focus on the small wins and so that's what kept me going because if I just said oh, I'm worse than what I was And sometimes I felt like that but in the end I Reflected on it and I seriously thought about it. I was like no no I'm I'm doing better than what I was Okay, I can actually walk up and talk to people. I can actually get a girl to smile at me sometimes whatever it is So then after that the last part of this is when you celebrate small wins Stop thinking a million steps into the future Stop thinking like the reason why you feel unmotivated and the reason why you feel like there's no hope Is because you are thinking about oh, how do I get a hot girl? To be my girlfriend have sex with me whatever it is. You're thinking that far into the future That's not what you should be thinking about you should be thinking. Hey, can I get a girl to smile at me? Hey, can I have a conversation with a girl? Those are small wins right there if you can get those you're on the path towards success Then eventually you start getting phone numbers Then eventually if your phone numbers you start getting dates then after you start getting dates Then you start getting some of these girls come home with you Then after you start getting some of these girls that come home with you You just they start having sex with you then after you they start having sex with you Then you're able to keep them for longer and then they're able to get a freaking awesome girlfriend or whatever it is You want to do maybe you want to keep being a hoe like me then you keep doing that So that is how you get onto the path to success and that's exactly what happened to me It took me a lot longer than I wanted it to it took me freaking. Oh my god like Maybe seven years and going out five nights a week or something like that for me to actually start to feel like I was good at something I don't want it to take that long for you guys. I want to take you know a lot shorter. That's why I'm making all these videos That's why I have the program that I have is to get guys who are motivated who are in that position up to that level So if you are interested in that again shoot me an email the single guy 2017 at gmail.com That's my story man. I Don't really have anything else to say about it. I've talked about this before when I talked about my depression I'll probably talk about this in different in different videos and I'll share different parts with you So hopefully you got something out of this man be on the path to success That's it start every every all beginnings are small every single one every single guy that I've ever known that has gotten good with women There was a time where he sucked there's a time where he was fumbling over his words And he didn't know what to say. I don't care if they grew up when their family was all getting late I don't care if they've been late since they were 15 There was a time where he didn't know what to say There's a times where he felt like he wasn't good there are times where he felt like you know He wasn't that attractive guy But he made it through every single guy goes through this and if you're man enough you can go through it too and be successful Thanks a lot. Good luck out there you guys