 When you're in a transitional space in your life, between, especially in midlife, with so many people that I coach and mentor, I say, listen, whoa, stop, hang on. Don't just jump to another opportunity. In case you are the old you in a new space and it still doesn't work, so you think, ah, the problem is I chose the wrong space, I'll choose another one and another one. What we should be doing is we should be choosing external involvements, external relationships and commitments and responsibilities that increasingly align with our internal evolving identity.