 It's really important to fully accept someone as they are, but if you don't, then you can't really accurately relate to them, or even determine, when I say fully, I mean as fully as you can, you can't determine whether or not you like someone or not, really, unless you can accept them for who they are. Doesn't mean, so when you accept someone for who they are, it doesn't necessarily mean you put up with who they are. But denying, you know, not accepting someone for who they are, in a certain way, you know, I'm playing with words a little bit, and I'm trying to sort of create two different things, rather than out of something that is sometimes one. So when accepting someone as they are, it can mean being okay with that person as they are in relationship to you and not leaving them or something like that, it can mean that. But we can make it more refined if we can accept someone as they are, be willing, in other words, to see them, and then accepting that that's how they are, and then making the decision, or I'm going to base it, whether you want to be with that person or not, giving that this person is like that. Because sometimes we don't accept someone as they are, and we sort of live with this dual relationship with who they are and who they'd like them to be. Okay, this says that vlog. Like, David, fix me up. Fix her up, isn't it? Yeah, fix her up. You know, it's good value. Keep. Or as many people as you did. If I could go with a little bit of work, she could be, you know, fix her up. You know? Something like that. But what is it? Never. It's not as easy as people as this is like, you know, condos. But there's more things I think to say about that. Yeah, I mean, I think that you said that while you can't date potential. Right? You can't date potential. Well, I mean, you of course always want more, I mean, and deeper and all of that. That's a different story. But fundamentally, you have to be okay with who somebody is. That doesn't mean you have to be with everything they do. Like, for instance, I don't know. You're dating a woman. You really like her. You like who she is in general, you know, with a few. I mean, nobody's perfect. But you know, let's say she works for a bank, you know, and she wants to progress in the bank. But somehow you think money is evil and she shouldn't be working for a bank or so. Well, that's an actual issue. Because unless this is just some casual job for her that she could do this one or that one. But if she has a career you don't like, that's an actual issue, right? But like, for instance, if she, I don't know, doesn't wash her hair often enough because she's not aware of the fact that her scalp smells after three days. You'd be surprised what people get, you know, or she eats in a way that you don't like or something. Those are things you can address for her sake. Right? Not for your sake, but for her sake, because you're not the only one who's smelling the scalp or listening to her eat with an open mouth, right? You go to a restaurant, everybody else is kind of like, all right, lady, where were you raised? Right? You know, so those are things, those are things that can be addressed where you can go, I don't know if you're aware of the fact that you're opening your mouth when you're eating and your food spills out while you're talking to people, while you're eating, right? If she goes, yeah, I'm fully aware of that and that's who I am, well then you have to deal with can you stomach it or not. But if it's just a matter of a bit of refinement here or there, that's perfectly okay. And supporting somebody in going for the job that they want to is perfectly okay. But things like looks, career, things around children, religion, political ideology, you don't want to fuck with that. But you have to assume that because somebody wants to change, does not necessarily mean they will change as we all know. Right? Because how long does it take you to change a habit? So if it takes her as long as it takes you to change a habit, that might be a long time. And can you live with her the way she is now till she's changed? Of course everybody changes in relationship, particularly if you engage in long-term relationships. It's very, you know, it's startling how much people change. And it's always a matter of are you changing in ways that are agreeable? Which might be. Or sometimes it becomes not agreeable and then you have what they call so lovely in divorce court irreconcilable differences.