 What's up you guys so I posed a question for you guys last week asking you what you wanted to hear more of on my channel and the top rated comment on the channel was Basically this question that I'm going to answer on this video Which is how to figure out and identify if the girl wants to be in a committed Relationship and wants to be monogamous or is just playing around and wants to spend time before I end up in bed with her Okay, so basically that this guy's wondering is how to know if the girl wants like a more committed serious monogamous relationship or she just wants to hook up, okay? Yeah, there are women who want to do both so basically I'm gonna answer this guy's question But I think the place that this question is coming from is Something that I would I would try and shy away from and do I would do something else Okay, rather than be thinking about this question all the time There's something else that you should be thinking about basically a higher value mentality that I would invite you guys to do So first I'll answer this guy's question and then I'll get into that Okay, well, dude you could to answer your question you could just ask her you could say hey What are you looking for and a lot of times people surprisingly tell the truth If she really really likes you probably what she's going to say is oh, I don't know like Just kind of seeing where things go Usually women if they've been seeing you for a while They're gonna want something a little bit more like they don't want to just hang around a dude for three or four months And have it lead to nothing. Okay that for a lot of women. That's kind of a waste of time Some women are fine to hook up with guys But I would say more often than not like kind of that's what they're looking for if that if it does come down to that Now if she is just trying to hook up which is definitely possible I would say that she's probably gonna be hitting you up around party time, you know She's gonna wonder hey you go into this event or something like that or you'll hit her up and she'll you'll guys will meet up when you go Out late at night Basically, you'll run into each other in those kinds of situations or maybe she'll come over and you won't really do that much and And that's pretty much it But if she's looking for something more and you can kind of tell by the way they talk to you as well too Is if they are asking you more questions about yourself. They're wondering what's going on with you They like to talk on the phone during the week and stuff. Yeah, that girl probably wants a relationship You know and if you what you have to decide at this point and this is really what you should focus on and so Advancing your question. I'm gonna tell you kind of how you should really think about it and that's You should go off of you should act the way that you want to act Unapologetically and see if she's down with that okay, so if you just want to hook up Don't be thinking oh this girl wants a relationship. So I should act like what she wants But then not give it to her So a lot of guys will act like they're the girl's boyfriend or something like that because they think that's what she wants And that can get you into a lot of trouble. First of all, it's incongruent So a lot of times the girl will just kind of get weirded out and leave But if she stays and she believes that you want to be her boyfriend That's when women go crazy and they really start getting pissed off at you And yes, I've definitely messed this up when I was younger. I didn't really pay attention to what I was I always thought the girl wanted a relationship and so I would act that way and some of these girls didn't even want a relationship But the fact that I acted that I scared those girls away And then the girls that did want a relationship would stay and then I would have drama with them because I was not Acting the way that I should have been acting Okay, so a high-value guy and that's ultimately what I want you guys to be He doesn't think about it that way Okay, I act the way that I want to act Okay, if a girl comes into my life and I like her, but I don't want to be in a relationship with her I don't act like I want to be in a relationship with her. I Call her, you know, sometimes when I want to hear from her. Yeah, sure I do enjoy keeping up with girls like that, but I maintain a certain sense of boundaries when I'm doing it Okay, and if the question comes up, I don't tell her an answer that I think she wants to hear I tell her the truth and That you know, I'm pretty good at talking about it in these ways now or I don't hurt their feelings too bad but usually it's not a Usually it's not something that like they want to hear outright Don't act the way you think the person wants you to act act the way that you want to act first and see who sticks around you And the girls that stick around you are Ultimately going to be the best people for you anyway because that matches up with your lifestyle You want people that contribute to your lifestyle not not better people are gonna make you sacrifice and do things the wrong way If you're not ready to get into a relationship, don't act like it. It's very very simple Okay, and there is also a very brief part of his question where he was wondering if she's just hanging out before they hook up I mean look if the girl is going on Several dates with you and not hooking up with you. Okay. She probably wants to think a little more serious than just hooking up That's why she made you wait for so long Okay, so if you want a girl who wants to hook up then it should probably happen pretty quickly like first or second date or something like that That's you know, it's somewhere around there. I think that would be it But again be going and doing what you want to do and find women that are down Okay, if you if they're not down for what you're offering then they'll leave and it's not your responsibility really to You know predict their destiny and figure it out for them. That's for them So don't be pressuring them or doing it any that sort of stuff But have them figure it out for themselves and be honest and communicate with them too if you feel like something's up talk to them about it Okay I think sometimes you can talk a little too much and that can kind of like you know kill the mystery or kill the fun that you Guys are having too But I think talking every once in a while and just being truthful to each other about what you guys want We'll solve most of these issues too. So that's what I invite you guys to do if you guys made today Subscribing I come out with videos like this every single week And if you have other questions you want me to answer do just put them in the comment section below I'll make sure I bang them out really quick. 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