 Good evening and thank you for joining us on our first show that is on a health and lifestyle for 2020. We would like to wish you a very happy new year. We hope that your year is going on well and as you sure you know this is a show whereby we get to talk about things affecting young people. We try to come up with solutions, just have conversations around topics that interest the young people and tonight we are going to be talking about setting goals that is it's a new year and every other year we have people have making resolutions but today we really want to understand if I made resolutions probably if you made resolutions in 2019 should you forget about maybe some of the things that you've not achieved and skip to making new resolutions in 2020 hor how should we go about that and to help us talk about this topic tonight we have Sarah Muni who is a life coach we have Yvonne Yamaila who is a youth leader and we have Roy Keane who is a business speaker you can be part of our conversation by sharing your views and comments on our social media platforms that is on Y254 channel hashtag Y254 news you can also reach me on twitter at patricia moriuki one and thank you very much for really finding the time to join us this new year of 2020. So guys thank you very much for coming here I hope the year has been fair to you. Taz. It's just January, it's just January yeah wow so at least the first people have asked if there January is January and you've given me a positive response so thank you for finding the time to come and talk about this today and my first question would be for you Sarah you're a life coach I'm sure you interact with people especially when it comes to setting goals especially when people probably you have a project there are plans you have to put up would you tell us tell our viewers today maybe for someone who does not understand what do we mean when we talk about setting goals. Setting goals is very important because life is progressive we live life forwards if you want to grow in your business in your career in your ministry in your passion in your area of gifting profession whatever it is you need to set goals you know because you cannot hit a target you do not have you need to have a vision and I usually say it's very good and especially when we're starting the year at least you have a projection this year what do I want to achieve you know because if you don't if you cannot perceive it you cannot conceive it you cannot achieve it so it's very important you set goals for yourself and usually say this I mean we can talk about dreams in that same breath you can speak about dreams vision but your dreams is something big something huge you're working on you see but a goal when you speak of setting goals means that you have broken down that dream into a timeline it is measurable it is specific and this is a timeline to it yes so we need to set a timeline so that's why 12 months is a timeline by December 31st 2020 I want to have done one two three yes so it's very it's paramount I'm telling you we cannot progress you cannot build your business anything you even your life if you don't have a goal or an endeavor that you're pursuing okay so Roy for you has a as a business speaker I'm sure you set goals for your for yourself as much as you get to speak to people so what does setting goals mean to you as an individual I believe as an individual that for young youths out there who are actively pursuing business or India careers I believe that it is quite paramount for that dream that you envision yourself succeeding in the next year or so but depending on the time scope that you've put to achieve your your dream that you should put this to definite achievable milestones along the way which you can measure using goals and for people out there me included one hindrance I think that many young people face especially in the goal setting process is a lack of accountability and planning okay and so when you look at such especially now when they're setting the year many people keep saying new year new me but we keep seeing the same old habits out there but one solution I might maybe give to people out there is something called productivity hacks which is the things or the situations or environments that you put yourself in to make yourself achieve those small little steps along the way to make you be able to achieve that goal okay even for you what does setting goals mean you're a youth leader I'm sure you have things that you want to achieve in the year 2020 but what does that mean to you in my own perception setting goals it's all about what is it that you really want to achieve but you see you cannot talk about wanting to achieve a goal without set without timelines a goal is set with timelines you can say in three months time I want to have these on this after six months time I want to have these on this then you should also set what is it that you're going to do to achieve the goal because you cannot achieve a goal without doing something that means you'll have to program yourself and also plan set that you're in a position if this is the task that I'm going to commit myself in three months this is what I want to achieve so like you have to commit yourself also plan yourself and make sure time management is very important in goal setting because if you don't work with time there is nothing you achieve within after that period you might find yourself regretting that I didn't achieve such and such a goal and you see goals when you set goals you don't just say you're setting goals they need to be written down you have to jot them down you write them and say I have to write this down so that when you achieve even one you put a tick that I have achieved this and this is remaining I'll achieve this within this period of time so that after that time you'll go back to your draw book and ask yourself did I achieve this yes I achieved I didn't achieve this why didn't I achieve this I need to do something about it okay so we've talked about what does it mean to set goals whether it's business whether it's academic and horrid but for someone probably was tried it before and for them they follow that maybe like in ten the only managed to only achieve one and they lost open they're like they just live in a freelance life and they're like whatever happens happens or does not happen does not happen so Sarah would you talk to us about why now should we why do we need to come up to sit down and take time to really set goals whether it's a new year whether it's a new project whether it's something that we really want to venture in you say the thing is what did you do to achieve that one goal that you did not do and for all the other nine goals you see that's the thing what did you do to succeed in that one because that's where I mean if it's if you put in more effort you put in you look for help you land you know you look for knowledge and all that you look for support and all it's the same thing you need to apply to all of these other areas and you see what happens mostly we have people who are you know 20 you are living this 2020 we are now living 2016 goals or this now when we really want to focus on 2014 goals we wanted to lose weight five years ago we are still there we wanted to build a house for my day home we are still there we wanted to maybe start eating healthy we are we are still eating yes and now you're detoxing you know because to mekula christmas you want to detox but we are still there today is eighth we're still there you know so the thing is you need to look what did not work for me what you know is it that I put you know so many things to do or I just wasn't focused I was just lazy you know we always know how I'm doing we always know what causes us to fail you need to realize what is too small is it laziness is it just you know you dismiss some important things you need to know that and then also we did something did not work sometimes you put in effort you know sometimes we planned you put in effort and actually it just doesn't work you had a strategy I actually had a plan and you said you know I'll be saving about my goal is to save about you know like a young person my goal is to save about maybe 12,000 uh the whole year maybe I'll save maybe you in school um I'll save like okay every month you know and then you go along in April you know things just go south end yeah you need to find you know you need to change the strategy you don't change the goal because it matters it really matters to you that goal matters what does it mean to you if it's that important then change the strategy you just don't change the goal post change the strategy if you can't get to westlands route this route you know it's any and you know you have to get to westlands maybe you're looking for a job it's an interview really you can't find another route get into a buda buda or something go use this other route yeah but get your destination yes okay so I like what Sarah Sarah has mentioned that maybe in 2016 you wanted to build something for your mum in the village and it's 2017 in maisha 2018 in maisha you still not managed so uh for you Roy for someone who had a goal in 2016 who set a goal in 2016 and they are really trying to make sure that this goal is achieved do we say this person has failed do they forget or how do we now motivate this person probably because there are two ways you may be doing it the wrong way maybe you need to stop or you might need to just put any strategies as Sarah said so what do we what message do you uh for people who have set goals that have taken them a very long period of time what are they doing wrong what do they need to do differently okay for that question I'll start by basing my own examples that's back in 2016 had some predetermined goals for myself and seeing year after year all the from 2016 2017 or 2013 2018 is when I notice a pattern that every time I keep setting a goal about reaching maybe this amount of money or reaching this place in my career journey I kept seeing that as if I'm not getting there and when I managed to look back I don't as per se think as that person has a failure in case you've not achieved it but I sort of look at it as a changing strategy but let me use for example uh maybe what you have uh maybe you have a goal of uh doing a CP yesterday or you have a goal of maybe getting X number of customers for your business rights now if you see that in this location or in this environment these people are rounding that they are not making uh impact in my life in terms of uh the motivation required because you cannot be greater than the environment you are in right so if you see that that environment is acting against what you are planning to do for that year you should I think change your environment and the second thing is I think for goals if it's not simple enough for you to comprehend on a day to day basis if your goal is sort of a complex maybe kind of thing maybe have 10 goals instead of just breaking them down into two or three goals to uh to between every three or six months I think that can also be a hindrance so that your mind uh can also keep track of what you're planning to do and uh finally maybe you can say if it's a goal that uh that you really purpose to maybe achieve I think where your where your money is is where your heart is for example people who want to advance more in their career let them invest more in personal development let them invest more in coaches let them invest more in uh in these uh events or programs that will actively cost them you know once you put a cost to that dream or goal that you have you'll always be thinking about it from time to time so that's our that will be my okay so if when I'm sure that you've been set in goals I'm sure that you you have maybe some you've realized that some that you've achieved and others that you've not but would you tell us like what what are some of the like what is some of the importance that you've been able to realize along the way when you set up a goal to achieve something and when you don't so that maybe before someone is watching as a tomb and they don't take it as a serious thing they know that there is an importance there is something that comes out from when I decide to approach this thing when I've planned for it and let's just go in blind. You see when you don't set goals or let me or rather let me start with when you set goals when you set goals it is actually driving a life it is everything that you're going everything that you're going to do every day it will revolve around the goals and if you set your goal you're going to know your purpose it will drive you you'll know this is what I want to achieve in life and so I have to set my goals for example you are setting a goal of you want as just as Sarah had said for example you are a student and you want to save 12,000 in a year so you'll be like you cannot wait till December then you say oh that first is tomorrow and I had planned to save 12,000 so you should find 12,000 somewhere and put it somewhere that one will not work this goal of 12,000 you should even divide it you can divide it per month or per week or whichever way that you can such that you are in a position to accomplish it on daily basis and that will drive you give you that force to every day work towards it so you'll have that admiration that aspiration to work every day every day you'll know I have a target of saving 100 shillings so every day you'll be working towards saving 100 shillings as much as you'll have other expenditures you'll be spending but then you'll know I have a goal of saving 12,000 and each a day I'm saving a hand so like you'll have that driving force and it will actually help you in life but then if you don't have a goal you'll be there like you'll know as long as I'm living you say you'll be like because we know life is for free and it's our maker who give us this life so you'll be like if I live as long as I live as long as I live and my parents are providing for me I'm good to go of which that is not the way it should go you see even the way God put us in this world He gave us reasons to live and some of the reasons and setting goals for ourselves you see we should find that driving force in ourselves and the driving force is actually a goal whenever you set a goal you will have that driving force to every day work towards it you know this is what I want to achieve in life every day it will give you sleepless nights but at the at long last or at the end of it all you'll have achieved it so it's the best way the best place to be in like in setting goals but then those goals let us not make the mountain goals like we should break them into manageable points like they should be small small things that we can achieve on daily basis let's not just have a mountain goal it is not achievable if unless we break it okay let me say this because there are seven areas so seven or six areas that you know encompass human life in we have the maybe we have the emotional emotional wellness we have mental mental health and wellness that's that's another area there's spiritual there's career and professional there's which one physical and financial you see so you should set a goal in all of those areas because there are areas in your life your life revolves around all of those areas you're working you are moving up and down every day because of all those six or seven areas so make sure you have a goal for all of these areas you know because that's what will constitute your growth you can grow in one area you know like you study very well you always listen you are getting the A's and all that and then you very point financial planning because this doesn't goes like you only set goals that are in life just in your profession so it's good you realize all of these areas and then you say life has lived daily daily so make sure that in all of these areas there's something you can do every day every day if you take care of the minutes they'll take care of the of the of the hours you take care of the hours they'll take care of the days you take care of the days they'll take care of your ears and the decay you know you are in a new decade they'll take care they'll sort you 20 that I'm telling you when we are achieving this vision that you better have a vision 20 30 for yourself I plan for 10 years but then you can break it into a daily basis thank you okay that's a very good thing that Sarah has talked about I would like us to talk about the display yes because sometimes you ask someone so what you want to achieve in 2020 they don't have a job they maybe they just out of school and they they want like the most expensive car or to live in the most expensive neighborhood so I would like us to talk about this plane I know there is quite a lot that someone is supposed to do but I would like Sarah for you as a life coach I know you're interacting with a lot of people and this is something that you do what do you think like let's talk about the two most important things that someone needs to have or someone needs to consider when setting up are going to make sure that you don't come up with unrealistic because that you stick to it like for a decade as we're talking about you set it in 2020 a band up to 20 30 it a kupata 12 even gone a mile to achieve that goal as young people all we have are dreams we have dreams we have big ideas brilliant ideas we have the time and the energy to go for them this is the thing your dreams should be very big it should be even unrealistic it should be something you look at and you say oh only god only god can help me it should be something that you know when you set it the next thing the next stop should be on your knees because only god can help you do that but then that's why I was saying a dream broken down into a timeline becomes a goal okay so your dreams should be unrealistic your goals should be very realistic it should be achievable every day it should be something you can do every day that's why I was using that example of like saving you know if you realize you want to be saving like a thousand shillings per month then you make sure in a day or at least in a week I'm saving this amount I'm saying like uh even it's 20 but you know there's that kalinia so you save 20 bob a day it I think it was an advert that was going and people was there you know 20 but let me tell you somebody who actually did that does that faithfully at the end of the year I think they are smiling all the way to wherever they saved yes but those of us who dismiss 50 bob a week maybe 100 bob a week or even some people actually their goal is save just 200 even a month some people yeah that's that's more smoothing and the discipline you know discipline is everything yeah discipline is doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done even when you don't feel like doing it you know and in like the somebody who say this at a quote by Jim Ron he said that in life you either suffer one or two pains the pain of discipline or the pain of regret there shall be pain shall be pain so choose your pain choose your pain and choose why to because where discipline lags regret is and regret is a lament of failure you are failed in something and that's when people they always have you know you know they have they are very remosed or not remosed for they feel very busy I mean I don't even set those resolutions they don't work no they are not gonna work you they want to work them you make them work yeah okay so when you talk about setting goals every time when you sit down and probably let's say you want to start a business you will have a plan you'll sit down and look what is going to work what is you are going to work I would like you to talk about Roy we know setting goals are something to do taking a risk because you're planning for something that you're not you're not sure if as much as you invest you're not guaranteeing that it is going to work because you put more effort but I want you to talk to people someone sitting somewhere and they have the fear of trying out so I'll do you make sure that taking risk and maybe probably wanting to set goals and achieve things does not happen in our lives or because we have fear yeah so how do we now counter fear what set in our goals I think fear will always be a constant figure and I believe having courage to go after these things is not a lack of fear but doing the trick kindness of the fear so once someone has that in mind and maybe have this project this business that you want to undertake maybe you are wondering how much capital you need to start by breaking it down into what are the numbers that I need you do all the necessary calculations and want to get all the figures just to know that in either one or two years this is when my business will be stable okay so with that in mind I think you should then ask yourself the very next question if I do nothing will I have achieved something at the end of the day this is something that I learned from a very intelligent speaker called Dan Bok and he talked about something called the cost of inaction meaning that you better do something and fail than doing nothing at all then you are guaranteed no failure so I think that person whoever they maybe with that goal for 2020 maybe I want to start a small business maybe a business maybe a chicken start up whichever the business that they have in mind it's better for them to start with the resources that they have and not wait for the mass resources at hand till they maybe put that dream into action okay if one for a young for a young girl a young boy watching us today and they want to be a leader in the future and they are sitting down and it's not 2020 and they are writing down stuff the things that they want to achieve or the things that are going to lead them to the journey of becoming that leader that they want to be what message do you have for them tonight okay first of all you just need to understand yourself you see self awareness is very important because whenever you understand yourself you know what you want to have and actually you've talked about fear and fear actually means two things it's either you face everything and rise or you fear everything and fall so like you'll have to choose your way just to decide what is it that I want to have in life and self awareness being the most important thing whenever you understand yourself and you know where where you really want to go actually you'll have the drive to push you towards that goal and actually you'll actually work so like never listen to any any negative person like shut your ears towards the negative words because so many negative people will come to your life so many positive will come to your life so it's upon you to choose who do you want to listen to if you hear somebody as for myself the negative comments that I usually hear I usually give like I don't listen so much to them but then they help me to also grow because I know what I want in life but if you come and you see what I'm trying to do because I know life is a struggle so when you're trying to struggle with something and here somebody is coming to criticize you you need to push yourself up like just work up and tell yourself I'm going to make it and push yourself towards it just work work so hard that there is nothing that can limit you like just don't put limits in yourself they usually say there are no unreasonable goals just unreasonable deadlines like everything can work out okay okay I really love how this conversation is going we've talked about about maybe if 2019 did not work out do I get rid of that do I bring in like new things for 2020 I really like uh sarah for you to specify and say something about that because I'm sure we have people who set up goals for 2019 they probably maybe managed like 10 percent and 90 percent is not done and now they think that because it's a new year that this new year I'm supposed to be concentrating on something so what do we do with our goals that we did we did not achieve in 2019 do we throw them away do we keep on pushing maybe add on something else or do we change and have new goals for 2020 if you're working on something and the team work out you failed that's the thing you failed in the endeavor that means what does it mean to you what does it mean because if it really means a lot to you you'll still pursue it you usually say you get knocked down 10 times you wake up 11 times you don't give up if you really want something you really uh but want to achieve something you go for it no matter what so it doesn't mean you have failed how many times I mean if you read about the stories of kina disney the guys who started disney uh guys who have done stuff kina Isaac Newton you feel that that was 1000 times I mean this guy okay see you know you go there every day you get your woken money or your little castle when you go 10 the way okay you have thank yourself that guy uh colonel sandas he he filled in businesses I don't know how many businesses he succeeded on his 65th year having started and filled in business so failure let me tell you is part of success it's part of the dance it's part of you know the story so you don't give up just realize uh just just not what was the weaknesses what was the weak points you know sometimes you can even check your weaknesses sometimes maybe you don't just don't have the power of follow through that's why you need accountability you know you see why we succeeded in school why we passed in school we passed all those by tokodria moves it's not because we love them oh please it's not because we love matrices and those things it's because there was accountability there was an accountability system there was uh you know an exam there's a mark they are the cards they are the you know parents they are the teachers there's beating if you don't get a certain grip so there's panel and you know kuru dia has will kwa vi basana so you had to like there was an accountability system even in kampo there's an accountability system for you see we you know some of us love really yes there's re-take a whole year you know what we shall go in there's an accountability system even when you get you you get to work there's an accountability system there's a supervisor who's like hook I don't know you must give reports and all that and so for some people by that they will not submit that report and because until the last minute because you know somebody is going to ask for it somebody pushes you for uh for you to like you you know do what you're supposed to do so when it comes to your own personal goals who pushes you you can you see sometimes we're very lenient with ourselves and we have there's that lazy person in us so we always you know want to take the path of least you know resistance we just want to be comfortable make sure you have somebody who's not keeping you comfortable in your own personal goals get a life coach and my life coach might say when I come to you like get a mentor get a mentor get an accountability partner when I come to you like I ask you very hard questions we had said we want to be here by by 31st December 2020 where are we right now what are we doing what are the challenges things like get accountability okay time is not on our side I would like you uh right to comment on what now how do we do it what do we do differently in 2020 for young people watching us tonight or anyone watching us tonight what do they need to do differently to make sure that we don't have nine goals out of one goal out of 10 achieved and then as you go to 2021 we still like deliberate in do I take this do I drop this and all that as you wind up all right thank you now to start with I think you should always look back from where you've been and the places that you stumbled along the way so you can look back at the 2019 goals that you had set and looked and compared them with what you want to achieve as a overall dream in your life and once you look at that now start taking a step back and if possible you can break them into batches of three months three months three months each and along those batches of three months you can put that one specific achievable goal for example maybe I'll do cps section one in those three months those specific small achievable goals and also make sure that the environment is right okay and in relation to this because if you are in a place where you actively pursuing at this even the human mind gets tired at times when people keep weighing you down telling you know you can achieve this or people who are not basically that positive environment that you actually need for you to achieve so just as she said if you can get a coach a mentor or someone else to create that positive environment for you to actively go after them in those are the two major things that you need to do in this 2020 okay okay even 30 seconds on your final thoughts I always believe that having an accountability partner just as she said and a mentor will work through you through the way because you know a mentor is someone who works with you and tells you this is not wrong this is not right this is wrong like do this do this have a mentor and you know a mentor should also submit because some people I remember there is someone who said that I have a mentor my mentor is a dead person so like okay you can have a mentor who is a dead person but then you need a live one who will walk you through the journey so just have a mentor and an accountability partner who will always keep you on check and ask you what are you doing what have you done what have you achieved what have you okay thank you for coming today on our on Y254 to talk about that I hope that people have learnt I hope as we make a reset our goals for 2020 we'll do it differently we'll have the display to follow up we'll have timelines because you've heard from Sarah you've heard from Roy and you've heard from Yvonne I can't say more much than what they've said so thank you very much for being with us tonight on Y254 have a good night