 One of the funniest things I realized as a result of making these videos is just how skewed my perspective of how people are gonna perceive me was. So I would make videos, some of them would be you know super long like 20 minutes and I would feel not very charismatic in the videos and I would believe that people watch the videos and think that they suck and I was like oh well I don't know if it's good I'll just upload it I hope the people that you know kind of like me will get the message anyway and these videos ended up being like really good hits um to my surprise people watch them all the way think why that's your best video dude and I've also had videos that were like short and then people were like it's not responding nothing even though I thought you know they're going to be amazing so the lesson you can really get from that and this is something that I talk about with almost everybody that I have a call with it it ends up coming up is the the idea that just because you perceive yourself as something doesn't mean that other people will so let's say you want to make a video yourself and you're afraid that other people will think you sound stupid maybe not like something maybe be bored maybe they'll think you're not charismatic but what you're really doing is imposing your perceptions of you onto other people so when you start making videos and really getting to a lot of people you realize just how wrong you can be now I'm not saying that you know if you're really boring or disingenuous people are not going to notice it but you know there is some common sense some basic themes to it but making a value judgment and saying this is bad because I think it's bad you know because I'm not charismatic enough or the value isn't there that's a very personal judgment so you should try to avoid these kinds of judgments because you might be not giving your audience you know an amazing amazing opportunity for amazing content because of your personal problems so next time you're thinking about making that video you know talking to that girl or a guy always make sure to correct both the genders just you know realize it's you know the perception is extremely volatile like somebody you might think it's good somebody else might think it's shit you might think it's shit somebody else might might think it's good so really all you can do is just give your best and you know just let the other people or person have their say about it because again you can't make these value judgments if you only upload what you consider to be amazing content you might just be missing out on giving your you know your audience your best content peace