 That's it. You don't need to press the whole hold. Is it going? I don't think so. It's recording. No, there's no red dot. Red light on your right. Oh yeah, okay. My man, do you? Oh my god. All right, hi guys. Welcome back to another video on our channel. It's been such a long time and this is actually a second take. Okay. We wanted to record a video and do a live quiz about our love languages. And we're using our phones because it was easier to just be sitting here and talking to you guys. And it didn't work. So we went all the way through the whole quiz and then it didn't give us the score. Yeah. But maybe nice to tell is that it was actually my sister who suggested to make a video. So she sent me the quiz and said it would be interesting or she would be interested to hear. What our love languages are. Yes. Yeah. And so shout out to my sister for suggesting a video. We are very democratic. We will always listen to the comments. Yeah. So we're going to take the quiz live and then determine what each other's love language is and talk a bit about it. And we're doing it on our computers. Yeah. So this time hopefully we'll get a result. Yeah. I want to sit here. So maybe good to explain that anybody can take the quiz. So it's for couples, singles, teens and children. Which is what we find or we found strange. But I guess it makes sense. Children are people too. So. Yes. Children are people too. So we're going to take the quiz. Yeah. One person is going to read and we're going to answer and then take turns in reading and answering. And then later find out what our love language is and then we can talk a little bit about it. Yeah. I will put the link of the quiz in the description so you can. Also check it out for yourself. Yes. With your partner. Or even individually you can just check it out for yourself and know what your love language is. And we also think that knowing a love language of somebody makes it easier to love the person. It's stronger knowing that, you know, this is what the person appreciates or find important in, you know, being loved. So. Yeah. Start the quiz. Start the quiz. First, how do you describe yourself? I think I'm taking the quiz for my child. You're an adult. Shit. Okay. Let's go. I am single. Oh yeah, yeah. I'm single. I'm in a relationship. Oh, is yours also not loading? It's loading. Mine's loaded. My God. This quiz. My loaded. One second. One second. I'm an adult in a relationship. Okay. Yeah. It's more meaningful to me when I receive a loving note text email for no special reason for my loved one or my partner and I hug. I think I love the special text for no reason. Same. Let's go. It's more meaningful to me when I can spend a long time with my partner, just the two of us, or my partner does something practical to help me out. I want a long time. I like the practical things that help me out. It's more meaningful to me when my partner gives me a little gift as a token of our love for each other. I get to spend on their uninterrupted leisure time with my partner. I'll go for an uninterrupted leisure time. Is that with or without clothes? Okay. Somebody's on fire. Okay. Cool, cool, cool. My partner gives me a little gift or a token. Well, the gift can also be without clothes. Okay. Slow down. Why is this one difficult for you? The leisure time, I often want to be present, like when we're talking about what men actually wish women knew. I can be there with you and still be on my phone. I just love you being there. So I'll go with the token as a gift. Okay. Here. The uninterrupted is a bit too much for me. It's more meaningful when my partner unexpectedly does something for me, like filling my car with fuel. You really like that when I do that. Or doing the laundry. My partner and I touch. Please. Don't do it. The laundry I really like. Yep. It's more meaningful to me when my partner puts their arm around me when we're in public. Oh, my partner surprises me with a gift. I think I'll go with a gift. No, public arm. Okay. You never do that. So I think I'll go for the gift. Wow. My gosh. The shape. Wow. Okay. When it's more meaningful when I'm around my partner even, if we're not really doing anything, that's your favorite. I hold hands with my partner. I'll go for the hands. I'll go with when we're around each other and not doing anything. It's more meaningful to me when my partner gives me a gift or I hear I love you. I'll go for I love you. I love you, yeah. Okay. It's more meaningful to me when I sit close to my partner or I'm complimented by my loved one for no apparent reason. I'm going. Sitting close to my partner is almost. It's normal. Yeah. So complimented for no reason. Yes. I'll go for sitting close. It's more meaningful to me when I get the chance to just hang out. I don't know what this means, hang out with my partner. I unexpectedly get small gifts. I'll go for the hang out anytime. Yeah, just hang out, you know. It's more meaningful to me when I hear my partner tell me I'm proud of you or my partner helps me with the task. I like that I'm proud of you. Me too. Yes. It's more meaningful when I get to do things with my partner or I hear supportive words. I'm going for the things, man. Let's go to do something together. Okay, I don't know what things with my partner is. Sometimes we clash in doing things together. So I like supportive words and do my own thing, please. Thank you. Okay. It's more meaningful when my partner does things for me instead of just talking about doing nice things. Well, that's a bit weird. Yeah. If you talk about nice things and never do it, then that's weird. I feel connected to my partner through a hug. So I think I'll go with my partner does the things for me instead of just talking about it. Yeah. I still find it a weird statement. Yeah. Who has a partner who only talks about nice things but never does it? Yeah, I'm going to do this and then I'm like, what the hell? Okay. It's more meaningful to me when I hear praise or my partner gives me something that shows they were really thinking about me. Yeah. Praise is not something I crave. So when you give me something that shows you're really thinking about me. Because it's not like this is going to be like a car or something. We wish. Yeah. It's more meaningful to me when I'm able to just be around my partner or get a back rub or massage. No, just be around. I'll go for the around. Yeah. It's more meaningful to me when my partner reacts positively to something I've accomplished or my partner does something for me that I know they don't particularly enjoy. That one. No, I don't want to enjoy that when you do. Positively, reacting positively to something I've accomplished. Yes. I agree. It feels good. Like you celebrate together. Yeah. It feels good. It's more meaningful to me when my partner and I kiss frequently or I sense my partner showing interest in the things I care about. I want to kiss, man. Yeah. Okay. Show interest in the things I care about. Thank you. I'm more meaningful when my partner works on special projects with me. So does that slurping sound? Is that how you kiss? The hell? My partner, it's more meaningful to me when my partner works on special projects with me that I have to complete or my partner gives me an exciting gift. I think working on special projects with you. Special projects. Yeah, I'll take that. Any day. Especially when these projects bring in the money. It's more meaningful to me when I'm complimented by my partner for my appearance or to take time to listen to me and really understand my feelings. Understand, please. Okay. It's more meaningful to me when my partner and I share a non-sexual touch in public. Oh, my partner offers to run errands for me. I think I'll take errands. I'll do same. It's more meaningful to me when my partner does a bit more than the normal share of the responsibilities we share around the house or a gift. Yes, do more. Or do more when you can. Do more when you can is nice. Yeah, it's always nice. It's more meaningful to me when my partner doesn't check their phone while we're talking. Or my partner goes out of the way to do something that's release pressure of me. Release pressure. I'm going for the phone. You can be on your phone. I don't care. I care. Please do not be on the phone. It's more meaningful to me when I can look forward to a holiday because of a gift I anticipate receiving. I don't get the statement. Yeah. Is the gift a holiday? Because I like receiving it, yes. Or when I hear the words, I appreciate you from my partner. I'll take appreciate you. I don't get the other statement. I don't get it. So I'll go for appreciate. Yeah. It's more meaningful when my partner brings me a little gift after they've been traveling without me. But that really happens to me. Well, you brought me a small Gini file. That was really cute when you went to Camelay. A key chain. Yeah. Don't say a small Gini file like it was alive. It wasn't alive. Gini file without the parents. No, a key chain. My partner takes care of something I'm responsible to do, but I feel too stressed. I'll go with that one. My love has been stressful people. Yeah. It's more meaningful. Am I the reader now? Because please go ahead. It's more meaningful to me when my partner doesn't interrupt me while I'm talking. Gifts giving is an important part of our relationship. No. Doesn't interrupt, right? Yeah. Okay, go ahead. It's more meaningful to me when my partner helps me out when they know I'm already tired or I get to go somewhere while spending time with my partner. I like going somewhere, man. You are not liking going somewhere. I'm not like a go-in somewhere person, so help me out when you know I'm already tired. It's more meaningful to me when my partner and I are physically intimate. My partner gives me a little gift that they picked up in the course of their normal day. Well, I'm going for physically people. Yeah. Own your truth. It's more meaningful to me when my partner says something encouraging to me or I get to spend time in a shared activity or a hobby with my partner. We don't have shared hobbies. But we do stuff together. Yeah, okay. I will also go for activity. Yeah. I like it or I'm more meaningful when my partner surprises me with a small token of their appreciation. My partner and I touch a lot during the day. No. We don't do that. It's more meaningful to me when my partner helps me out, especially if I know they're already busy and then you go. I hear my partner specifically tell me I appreciate you. This is a repeat, but I'm more likely not to help you out if I'm already busy. So yeah, especially if I have. So it's just the reality that it won't happen. It might not happen. This is not real to me that if I'm especially busy I'll still. Maybe helping you out here is maybe, okay, you came home while I was editing something and I still get up and take the stuff. I will go for the busy. Yeah. And take the stuff from you. That's the thing. Yes. But I'm not going to stop my work and then do something completely different. Okay. It's more meaningful to me when my partner and I embrace after we've been apart for a while. Yeah, that's nice. Or I hear my partner say how much I mean to them. I like the first one. Yeah. I like the first one. The people need to know. Oh, I have the same thing. Okay. No. Oh, I thought it was break down again. Okay. So we need to share maybe in the edit you can share what we're seeing now. So we need to print screen it. Yeah. Okay. So what do you have? Share with us. So I am 33% act of service. That's my top. Act of service is my top. 23% of worth of information. Quality time is my third love language at 23% also. So worth of information and quality time are on the same level. Physical touch is only 10% and receiving gifts is only 10%. So my love language is actually acts of service. Yeah, maybe you can explain what acts of service is. When somebody, so acts of service is being at the top. Here it says can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely. Anything you do to ease the burden or responsibility is weighing on a loved one. It's acts of service. So the words he or she, the words he or she most want to hear is let me do that for you. And that laziness is broken. Yeah. And then laziness, broken commitments and making more work for them tells speakers of this language they're feeling don't matter. Finding ways to serve, speak volumes. Okay. So. And then what's this? Oh, you're going to read some books. Okay. Good. Yeah. So acts of service is my love language. Can I challenge this? I don't know. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. Maybe you can put your computer away because it doesn't look nice. Acts of service. It doesn't look nice. Should I read mine first or do you want to respond first? No, you read yours first. Okay. So mine is surprise, surprise, quality time. That's not surprise. We already knew that. It's not surprise, surprise, yeah. Then acts of service is 22%, but that's probably because I'm a bit stressed at the moment. Yeah. So does that also count that maybe in a time you're taking the quiz? Yeah, I think so. You've gone through a period where, I mean, the last few months have been quite hectic and your partner helping you out has been good. So you are more inclined to take those answers. Yeah. And then acts of service, 22%, words of affirmation, 17, physical touch, 17. I do really like physical touch though. And no, let's do this one. We are not shooting. He's going to send the form to himself. So that I can have it on his screen. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We can, we do it. And physical touch, 17, and then receiving gifts, 10%. But the funny thing is for me, I really like to give gifts. But when I receive them, I don't know what to do with myself. So it's funny, right? So receiving gifts, it's true that it's the last thing. It's not your favorite thing. Okay. So quality time, what does it mean? Nothing says I love you like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there with the TV off, fork and knife down and all chores and tasks on standby. Makes our significant other feel truly special. Distractions postpone dates or the failure to listen can especially hurt be hurtful. Quality time also means sharing quality conversations and quality activities. Well, that's nothing new. I think that was one of the things we really had to get used to. Because I feel undivided attention in Ghana. It's a bit difficult to get because you always get the phone call or something is happening outside and there's a lot of noise. There's always so many activities get grabbing your attention. So I think that was something that you also had to learn. And he's saying that we're going to get dinners where we leave our phones like on the side, but that hasn't happened yet. Yeah, so we'll work on that anyway. But I think acts of service for me, like I know you are acts of service, but I really had to get I had to read it as a love language because first I just thought you were doing chores or he's like, oh, yeah, let me drop you off. And I'm like, I can take a bolt. Like, no, don't be silly. Yeah. But then he's like, no, no, I want to drop you. I'm like, you don't have to drop me. You can take a bolt. Then you really want to do it. Yeah. But it's also nice. I just want to take care of the person. Yeah. But sometimes it feels a bit functional. Yeah, so I had to learn that it's not only functional. Yeah, it's not only functional to me. And when I'm doing these things, it comes easy. I don't feel it. I don't feel like I'm doing something out of my comfort zone. Yeah. So for me, doing chores or tasks, that's very functional. So in my brain, it's like function. It's not love. So I had to rewrite the repattern that's a little bit. Right. And it's still not like complete. So let's just I am a work in progress. We're still working on it because I think we'll do a separate video on chores and some of these things. But yeah. Yeah. It's one of the things that we do like clash. But I think it also really relates to how you have been brought up because for us as a family, we would have really have like brunch and everybody would talk about their week. How are you doing? What are you going to be up to? All these things. And also with dinner time, we would do that. And chores would have just been chores. Like you do this, you do that. And it's purely functional. Yeah. It's just something that is required of you. But for us, it's much more like I'd rather clear the table. Everybody don't worry. It's fine. Yeah. I think I had to learn that. But now I think I'm I'm growing in it. Also, so Krami's mom is here now. So now I really enjoy making your tea or cup of tea in the morning then bring it. You know, I am getting there. It's not something that's going to be really natural. So I think it will be also good to do a video on how our cultural differences have, you know, how we've navigated our cultural differences living together. Yeah. I think, yeah, yeah, yeah. We can definitely do that. I want I want to add something. You know, it's going. Oh no, it's no way. Oh, yeah, I think with the Axel service. So before it was purely functional. So like this side of my brain. But now it's also something I'm learning that I am. It's okay to ask if you're not managing. So for example, with sometimes I'm really like focused on work. And there's a lot I need to already do. And it's okay to ask him, like, could you please get the laundry for me? Or yeah, like it's okay to ask these things. And at first you wouldn't. I would not because how I grew up, if you couldn't do your task, that's not good. Like you'll get not punished, but it wouldn't be nice. And now I'm learning that it's okay to share. And of course, if I'm lazy, you will tell me, like, please, you're lying on the couch. You can do the laundry. But that almost never happens. You know, I'm not really lazy in a way. And also me doing it. I don't, unless I'm doing something else completely, and then I have to stop and go and do it and different. But me doing it when I'm not doing anything, it doesn't bother me. So I don't really mind. And yeah, I think it's nice that I can ask. Like I'm allowed to ask you and you will tell me yes or no, whether you are up for it. So I can trust that if you don't want to do it, you will tell me. Oh yeah, I will tell you if I don't want to do it. Yeah. I'm straightforward. But I think I also, on the other, to talk in my defense on quality time, I think I also taught you a lot on quality time. Oh, I'm still learning. Yeah. I'm still learning. Because you have like your monkey mind sometimes sticks over and then there's a lot happening. And then I'm able to say, okay, let's sit down. So what about the fly? Yeah, butterfly monkey mind. Just stop on different things. I'm constantly. And one of the things I really, how to say, put you out of your comfort zone was with the traveling. So when we go a weekend away, that was something really new for you. I mean, you've traveled, but more to see family and other things, not to. So here, travel for us is more functional. You're going to a place, you're going to visit family, you're going for a specific reason. You're talking about Ghanaians, right? Yeah, mostly. Travel is not leisure. I think it's now picking up this whole culture of travel for leisure, for the sake of it, it's now picking up. Yeah. I think, yeah. And also going out for dinner and having a moment, just have a beer together, talk about the week, eat some nice food. I'm not sure if that was really in your system already before we met. I don't think so. Maybe to a certain extent. Yeah, not so much. It's grown. So yeah, you guys can also try your hands on your love language. And I think it's very important to know who you are. I have one more story. You have one more story. Will you finish? I think it's more important to know your love language, know who you are, know how to be loved, and not feel like you're disturbing the other person or your partner by telling them what you appreciate the most. And how you also say it also matters. Yeah, definitely. I wanted to ask, because for me, the quality time also really translates into my friendship. So when I meet up with my girlfriends, like for coffee, we are one on one. And I want to know all about your life. But for you, how does it translate into your friendships? With quality time? No, with acts of service. Do you let people do things for you? I'm not sure. No, I do when it's within the hour. For example, when mom came here first, and I made her bring me food because she was on her way. I wouldn't go out of my way to send you. Go here to pick something for me. You know, if it's on your way, if it's within your... Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yes, then I do accept it. But I think it's rare that you let people do things for you. Yeah, it's rare. So it's even more special when you let me do things for you. Yeah, right. Okay, no, I have one more story. Oh my gosh. It's actually about this dress. So this dress is a good example of acts of service because there was one morning and I just came out of tea meeting Monday morning. And I was just chilling because Monday is my working from home day. And I was like, oh, just chilling. I have another meeting at 11. But that one will be virtual. And then I got a call from my colleague, like, are you on your way? And I was like, I'm not on my way because I thought it was virtual. And I was like, oh my God, error, error, error, error. Like everything went like, oh my, oh my, oh my. So I ran out into the living room and I'm like, I have a meeting at 10 minutes. And then I ran back because I was like, no, I'll just make it virtual. Don't worry. And then I ran back at the living room and I'm like, can you drop me? Because I know he's really fast in the car. And I was like, are you telling people that I drive like a maniac or what? No, you are telling them now. So that's not on to me. I was like, okay. And he was like, okay, yes, we can do it. So he dropped everything he had to do. And he wanted to drop me at that particular place. And we were there only 15 minutes later. So it was like a miracle. Because we did leave. Immediately. Yeah. But leaving immediately also means that we left on time the meeting was supposed to happen. Yeah. So we left at 11 when the meeting. And I texted them that I would be a bit later and they were fine. So I was like, okay, cool. So I went to the meeting. I was like, okay, slay. So I slayed the meeting. And then I texted them again when it was done. Like, okay, it went well. Thank you so much. And then I came home when it was like, and I was wearing this dress. And it's like, yeah, I'm happy you worked out. But I have to say this dress is really see-through. But I didn't want to bring it up at the time. Yeah. So he didn't want to bring it up because he didn't want to stress me out. But apparently you can see what underwear I'm wearing. Like what color. Yeah. Because she was already panicking. I didn't want to say that, oh, you might want to change your. That would have been another like 20 minutes of, you know. 20 minutes of really fast. But it would have added to already the stress of. So I just allowed it to go. Yeah, see. So it's a nice act of service to not tell me and just draw everything you wanted to draw. Because you really could see I'm like in error, error, error mode. So that's a nice expression of your love language. Wow. I think we should stop it here. Exactly. So yeah, it would be nice to know what your love language is. And like I was saying before, let your partner know whoever you're going to be in a relationship with. Even if it's family, they should know what makes your. Clock tick. Yeah. So that they know how to. But I'm also curious to know if people find it useful or not. Because for us, it clearly differs. But is that a problem? Yes or no? Is it a helpful thing? No, I don't think it's ever a problem. Well, maybe people find it a problem. You don't know. Because for me, knowing your differences, knowing makes for learning. Yeah, that's true. Learning makes for being better. So if you know and it rather you see it as, oh my God, no, I can't do this with this person because they like gifts or because they like acts of service. And that's your boom deal breaker. Instead of trying to learn, come on. Yeah, that's your approach. But yeah, unless the person who has maybe, for example, gifts as their love language is the kind of person who demands specific type of gifts that are within, not within your financial means. Yeah. So but there is a possibility that you cannot live up to what the other person wants. Like if I would be like 100% physical touch and you only have 10% and you'll never touch me, I'll crumble. Yeah, okay. So it is like, for us, we try to make it, I say, compatible. But if somebody is really physical touch and the other person is like, I am not like that, then- Is there a possibility that there's somebody who's like 100% out of all the things that happen here? I don't think anybody can be- I only want gifts. I don't think anybody can be- But in Ghana, in Ghana, especially when you're dating, the gifts thing is a thing, right? It depends on the person, honestly. Okay, okay. I thought it was a thing. No, it depends on the person, honestly. But like buying dinner as a guy is really a thing, right? But that's a cultural thing. It's not an individual thing. But it can be part of receiving gifts. But I'm saying it's still a cultural thing. I don't consider it as a love language. Yeah, but I mean, the culture is intertwined in your love language, right? Yeah. So it can still be- That would be interesting if we could ask couples all around the world to do it, and then we analyze. Really? That would be so cool. Yeah, but like you said, culture plays a role. Yeah, so it would be cool to see in maybe different parts of the continent, or different continents, maybe in America. You see that maybe out of service is more. Yeah. You see that in Europe, people prefer more quality time. It becomes something that's like a trend. Yeah, and maybe it would be really funny that in the cold countries there, they don't like physical touch. Or maybe they do, because they have to stay warm. Together, yeah. That would be really cool, right? Ooh, the temperature is rising, so less physical touch. It's too sweaty to touch. Yeah. Okay. This went on to a whole other level. If somebody's interested in testing out the research, let us know. It would be really cool. For now, I think we leave it at this. I'm curious to read the comments. We do read the comments. So if you have a suggestion for a video, or you have another interesting insight, I would really like to read it. For now, I think we wrap it up here. 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