 ہے جب منظورے بالانتاین بارے میں رجات because جو گئےcyclت ہے بے کیا اسی اللہ جوastically حکر ہوج Nick خوچا ہsek 맛있어요. کیاا ese سےota そう معلومڈ inequalities 할 meinen desse ے بہت تھیantre آ 1968기ا سوچا shiny پال نباعس کی تکاریہ ہے کے سال metabolismo ہم اگریohlہ کے بارے میں صورتے بیڈeme کی بہت، بے سلن sonute مرون즈약 اس بری касکت صوتی ايتم انہمارز جو بٹ آپ'plate دیگرہی لوگوں اور not only one day in the year every day that's your spouse that's your family tell them how beautiful they are not like the woman who asks her husband what are you going to give me for valentines she he says what do you want for valentines so she says i just want one ring i just want one ring so he says on the land line or mobile may Allah forgive us may Allah forgive us if this is the attitude we have that you only want to express love on one day you can't be a best muslim lahu akbar sometimes you know you find a spouse would perhaps buy a gift for someone give someone and you say but what about me where's my i don't want you know valentines day for us is every day of the year valentines day every day of the year meaning we don't mean send valentine and so on but expressing love should not just be on a certain day but i know of muslims whose marriages have broken because the husband did not bring a rose or a flower or a gift for the wife on the day of valentines muslims marriage broken valentines day valentines day you i want out i want out all my friends got flowers i didn't get anything i want out finish bad how am i going to show face to my friends my sister you don't need to show face a marriage that works is not a marriage that is displayed on facebook a lot of those are actually not working that's why they have to show it on facebook if yours is working you are busy working it you're not busy on the net lahu akbar so people want to put all me my husband an eye and you're hugging and you're kissing and the pictures up wallahi the evil eye is the truth it happens it comes you want to show everyone how delighted you are tomorrow broken what happened everyone was saying what a couple they're getting along so well allahu akbar people forget allah's name and so next thing you're busy fighting and you don't know why do you have to show why do you have to say oh my beloved husband and speak to the globe tell your husband that subhanallah tell your wife that so this is why we say i know of another marriage that broke because the wife suspected the man of giving her flowers that were supposedly from someone else how's that lahu akbar so here comes the day of valentine's and and the flowers came i told you the flowers are supposed to come anytime not only when you go to the graveyard sorry i need to explain myself you know at the graveyard you get these roses on people's graves sometimes the people put you know we in islam we're not supposed to be doing that you'd rather make it do a for the deceased than to do that but some people when they go to the graveyard and they are standing there they see a rose hey that's good for my wife take it so the only time they get roses you know one woman says every time my husband gives me a rose i've got to ask him did you pass by the graveyard so the reality here is there was a case and this happens and i'm talking about it because it's connected to the knot there was a case where a man says he came with the flowers the flowers are presented now there's another problem what's it where did you get these from who sent them to you how did you bring them here if i don't bring them there's a problem if i bring them there's a problem what do i do may Allah help us really learn to appreciate like i said you don't need to probe every detail if you are kind and good towards your spouse and you give them time and you look at them often trust me the love will increase if you are kind and good to your spouse and you you have good words to say you have time for them you look at them often you talk to them often with good words trust me the love will increase they won't need to go on to the phone in order to find love they have it at home there's no deficits nothing at all may Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ help us really by all means may Allah make dua ask Allah's help and work towards it and so we are going into february now and coming out of january coming out of the new years now going into february into february now there was a there was a celebration done by the romans called the luper callia and the luper callia was based upon their gods of pan and juno and um they also february is actually named after one of their gods as well and so this is a time where you're coming out of the winter and you're going toward the spring season and so they used to have large gatherings of young people and they would take the name of women put them in a large container and the men would choose them and literally have a sexual relationship so it was based upon this you know cupid concept the greek word is ارس this is modern day valentine's yeah so i want to tell you where it comes in now the greek word is ارس ایراتکہ okay so ایراتکہ is is basically sexuality and so that was the main issue on this occasion and this is where you get cupids from and hearts and things like that because this is actually the ceremony of you know open sexuality what happened was they combined this with an individual named valentine who in the roman times in the third century of the roman era he was protecting young people the roman said no marriage because we want men to fight strong in battle so we're not going to let you get married valentine you know a religious priest he disagreed with this they put him in jail he went against the state eventually they executed him and on the day of his execution he wrote a letter to two of the young people getting married and he said from your valentines so that's where valentine he's st valentines so so so they took the concept of the open sexuality put the name of a christian priest on it so it seems like a holy day but actually it's the open sexuality of the luper calia and that is the dangerous thing for muslims and people of conscience to get involved in this because what happens is pornography ڈیراتکہ this overcomes everything else so it seems like it's innocent it's like they say a wolf in sheep's clothing it seems like it's innocent because valentine was protecting young people but the reality is it is an occasion where more people commit fornication and adultery where rape happens unwanted pregnancy it is actually a dangerous time and so therefore we're saying to muslims don't play around with the devil don't play around with evil things and think that it is sport and play because what is happening is that young people are being fooled into focusing their life on their sexuality as opposed to focusing their life on their education on their physical fitness and then grow into their sexuality this is how societies develop themselves over the centuries and of course the last revelation you know of the quran brought us the beautiful example of the husband and the wife and the family and how people can protect themselves and how sexuality can actually be a beautiful thing it can be a halal permissible thing and not something wild and uncontrolled tell us now for the person who's just tuning in you know they got their friend and they said look man this this valentine's date is more to it but you know what it's in our public schools it's all over the place look johnny just wants to tell susie that she's cute you know what i mean innocent no kids are passing around what's the big deal well of course um again this is the wolf in sheep's clothing wolf in sheep's clothing meaning that it appears to be innocent on the outside yeah and you know if a person is if a boy is passing a comment to a girl or vice versa there's nothing wrong with that in the essence the problem is is that the socialization that the society itself teaches people how to take it a step further and so when they watch the television programs or movies then they will see how it goes a step further even کاتونس the two ducks you know and the cartoons even love even donald duck i mean everybody's fallen in love now and so that's erotica and so the dangerous thing is it opens up the door you know to a bottomless pit you know it's a dangerous area because sexuality is a natural thing and when we look at the quran it tells us وَلَا تَقْرَبُ ذِنَا اِنَّا حُکَانَ فَا حِشَتَنْ وَسَا اَسْبِلَا ۖ the quran the last testament says do not come close to fornication indulge now what islam is saying about sexuality is very important because the creator of the heavens and the earth is revealing to people there are certain actions that you shouldn't do you shouldn't kill you shouldn't steal you shouldn't be jealous of your neighbor you shouldn't be involved in magic and taking of interest and so forth and so on but when it comes to adultery and fornication Allah says وَلَا تَقْرَبُ ذِنَّا اِنَّا حُکَانَ فَا حِشَتَنْ وَسَا اَسْبِلَا ۖ so it says don't come near fornication don't come near adultery because it is an abomination and it will destroy everything in the past so this is a dangerous thing it doesn't say don't commit adultery it says don't come near it now why is there a difference between killing and adultery because killing is not a natural thing and any human being who sees another person killed it should be repulsed by that it's an ugly detestable thing but sexuality that's what our bodies are created for and so a man is naturally attracted to a woman a woman is attracted to a man so that's why Allah said don't come near it because it's a it's something that we want to do we are built to do that in order for the species you know to to maintain itself so therefore what islam is saying is a yes have sexuality but do it within the confines of marriage do it in an organized fashion where the man respects the woman where the you know the family is set up you know where he takes care of his children that's the way it is the lupor callia the valentine's erotica concept is uncontrolled undiscipline sexuality and it starts with that little note sent to jane or sent to zaynab that's how it starts off just the inner that's how it starts but then the pink hijab yeah you know i don't know if they have pink کوفیs on you know the pink fold so we don't do whatever it is no we don't get involved at all