 Hi, she was seven. Okay, I have some more tough love for y'all today. Okay, I'm sorry. In advance, I'm sorry if I hurt. Anybody's feelings is not meant to hurt feelings, it's just true, okay? And I don't know, sometimes the truth hurts. You know, sometimes it hurts, but I gotta say it. I gotta say it. Okay, so, ladies. So, okay, some of y'all are asking me, how do I find a rich man and how do I keep this boyfriend or how do I get my boyfriend back and all this and that and you know, and you guys are saying, oh, I look good, I'm not ugly and da, da, da, da. And you know, everyone's beautiful, right? Everyone is beautiful in their own way. But you can always improve upon your looks, okay? If you're losing your man or your man is walking or moving away from you, are you looking for a man? You can't just come out looking like normal. You gotta spruce it up. You gotta do some extra, okay? You gotta go above and beyond when it comes to your looks. You gotta invest in your looks. You have to invest in yourself. Okay, some of you guys are walking at the house with flip-flops and jogging pants on and you know, didn't even put on chapstick or deodorant. Okay, some of you guys are walking out of the house like this, you know, even if it's just to run to the store or blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Okay, now, what if you ran into your potential husband looking like this? Okay, looking crazy. They're not gonna approach you and if they do, they're gonna feel like your standards are gonna be very low and they're not going to see you in the same light that they would see you in if you had, you know, looked decent. You know what I'm saying? So it is very important for you to look good all the time, to look decent all the time. Don't go out of the house looking crazy if you're trying to attract a husband or a man. Okay, don't do that. Okay, unless it's an emergency. And some of you girls, y'all write to me and you say, you know, I look better than his ex-baby, than his new girlfriend and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But do you look better than her all the time? Like, you might look better than her when you get up and make yourself up and do, you know, do yourself up, but do you look like that every day? Okay, that's another thing, you know. If you don't look like that every day, then you really might not look better than her. You might look better than her on some days, okay? So you gotta understand. Some people feel like they look good already because they have good self-esteem and that's wonderful. But if you compare yourself to other women who are approaching these type of men or who these type of men approach, you gotta compete, okay? This is a competition. You gotta compete with how other women look, okay? So if you feel like you look good enough, but if you don't look better than the next chick who's after the same type of man, you've got to go and get it together, okay? You gotta go and get the same type of, you know, tools that you need, I call them tools, that you need to compete, okay? Some of these tools are makeup. Some of them are eyelashes. Some of them are jewelry. Some of them are clothes, you know, perfumes and things like that. You gotta compete, okay? If you ever notice the type of women that guys approach, you'll see that they're not the most raggedy-looking thing in the place, you know? They're not the most basic-looking person in the place. They're gonna look good, okay? Because men like women for status symbols most of the time. They want their friends to approve. They want their friends to be like, oh, you got a good one. They don't wanna have to say, oh, well, she's nice and got a good personality. You know, they want to enjoy the looks too, okay? Just like the women wanna enjoy the money of the man, okay? Oh, girl, that got me a rich one. Like, they don't even ask what he looks like. They're like, oh, you know, when a girl starts dating a rich guy and she tells her friends, they don't even talk about his looks. Why? Because the money is more important. And that's for women who seek wealthy men, okay? It's not about the looks. Like, for example, I did not know what my friend's boyfriend looked like for like a year. Because like, they would date and she would go out of town and, you know, I wasn't like, I was super busy in school and stuff like that. I didn't know what he looked like. And I never asked because, you know, that wasn't important because she was getting everything she wanted. But it's vice versa for men. Like, so for example, you know, his friends are gonna see her if she's not cute. They're gonna make fun of her and laugh at him behind his back or try to hook him up with better-looking girls to see if he's tempted. You know, you gotta keep yourself looking good. You gotta keep yourself looking decent. I don't care what size you are, what color, skin tone you have. If you don't look the best, you can look at all times. You know, you're not in it to win it, okay? And I'm not saying look glamorous every day. I'm not saying I'm the most beautiful person in the world and I look glamorous every day because you know I don't. But when I was single and I was young, yes, I did. Okay, every day makeup, every day makeup, hair, nails, you know, I made myself presentable so that anytime I went out the house, I was approachable, you know? And I feel like that's why I met a lot of people with money, few celebrities, you know, and all that kind of stuff approached me because I wasn't looking raggedy, you know? So I urge women to never leave their house looking crazy unless it's an emergency, okay? I know older women who will not even come out of their bathroom in the morning until they have their full face on, clothes, perfume, jewelry, okay, that's how they used to do in the old days when everyone was like ultra glam, you know? So y'all gotta get back into that, you know? We can't just do it for the Instagram, you know? And then look raggedy all the rest of the time, you know, look good every day. You'll feel good about yourself. It will raise your self-esteem, you know? If you don't know how to do makeup, there's videos on YouTube, I have a beauty channel. There's thousands of beauty channels. If you don't know how to do this and that, you know, there's tutorials online, but you gotta do better. I've seen a lot of you guys' picture and you're writing me and I'm like, well, you, you know, I have to tell you, you know, I would have to tell you personally, but I would never do that. Y'all have to do something better with y'all looks, okay? Y'all have to get your eyebrows plucked, get your mustache shaved, you know, comb your hair, get some new clothes that are trendy, you know, you're gonna have to do better. And, you know, I would tell this to anyone who I cared about, you know, if they're trying to find a man and they have no look, look, this is what you need to do. Get yourself a makeover, do a total makeover. I don't care what it is, but some of you guys are walking stuff from the 90s. That's not retro, but like way out of style. Some of y'all, I know the 90s style is back, but y'all are still rocking the exact stuff from the 90s. And, you know, they kind of revamped it. But, you know, some of you guys are still wearing the same hairdo you had in high school. You know, some of you guys are still, you know, wearing the underwear you had in high school. No, you gotta step it up, okay? You invest in yourself and I promise you, you will see results, okay? I don't care what size clothes you wear, what color you are, I keep having to say this because there's always some people in the comments. Well, I'm dark skinned, so I don't have it as easy. Well, you know what? That's not an excuse, you know? I've seen beautiful dark skinned models. I've seen beautiful dark skinned women on YouTube who are married, have money, or look better than me. You know, I've seen it all, so that's not an excuse. If that's how you feel about yourself, that's how you feel about yourself. That's not how it is, okay? There are plenty of people, plenty of people who would kill to date someone like you, okay? Now, all I'm saying is that's all in your mind and that's a program. So I don't feel like that's true. I feel like, yes, there is a preference, there is a black American standard for color and all that kind of stuff, but if you let that stand in your way, then it's gonna be an obstacle, but if you don't even acknowledge that that is an issue for you, it's not gonna stand in your way because you're not even going to think about it and you're just gonna keep going like it does not exist, you know? Just like someone could say, oh, you're fat, you're overweight, you know? That does not exist to me. That never stopped me from getting to the life that I wanted, like, you know? Some people stress out because they're a certain size and they wanna be thinner and it's stopping them from feeling good about themselves and attracting a man or a husband because they're too insecure and they feel like they're gonna get cheated on because they don't look like this model over here. None of that ever stopped me. I'm like, look, this is who I am. If you like it, take it. If you don't, move it along, okay? So I could compare being a little bit overweight to being darker, you know? This is not the ideal beauty standard. People have started praising curvy bodies more and things like that, but that's because we started praising ourselves first, okay? So if you don't love you, then how can anyone else love you? You know what I'm saying? Slant it, you know? I think people are all different and we need to play up our assets, okay? If you don't see your skin as an asset, that's your point of view, okay? That's not my point of view and that's not anyone else's point of view. That's just your point of view. Now, there might be guys that might talk bad about fat women, like they do on my comments and in the comments. You think that bothers me? No, cause it didn't stop me from getting exactly what I wanted in life. I got everything I wanted in life, okay? Being who I am, being the size that I am did not stop me. It wasn't an excuse. It didn't stand in my way, you know? So I'm feeling like it's all mental, you know? So I feel like when you guys put that in the comments, it's kind of like a cop out. Like, I give up cause I'm this, you know? I can never get what you got because I'm this. There are women out there that are 20 times darker than me that have more than me, okay? That have better man than me, that have a better life than me. So it's not that, it's the mindset, okay? I never believed that. I'm so sorry, but I can't believe that because my mom, she's dark and she had a good life, so I can't believe it. You know, it's all about your attitudes, you know? A lot of people say, oh, you know, a lot of guys say dark women have bad attitudes and they're bitter because this, this, and that. Well, you know, they've been told bad things and all their life, so they're gonna start believing it. But it's up to us, you know, to believe what we choose now. We can choose our own belief, you know? You don't have to believe what people say. You can choose not to believe it, you know? So I don't feel like that's an obstacle unless you make it an obstacle. But anyway, I can't help the skin tone that I was born and neither can you, so what we gotta do, work with it. Okay, I can't help the, you know, I can't, actually I can't help the weight that I am, but it was never an obstacle for me, okay? Now, if you combined, you know, two things together, of course, they're gonna be obstacles in your way and that's something that you're gonna have to work on, you know, for self-improving. If you don't like what you look like, change it. You know what I'm saying? I'm putting on these earrings. If you don't like what you look like, change it, okay? If you don't like what you look like, change it. I like what I look like, so I'm not changing anything, okay? A lot of dark people will say, oh, I have it hard because I'm dark. Well, why don't you bleach your skin, okay? Oh, I'm against skin bleaching. Oh, why are you against skin bleaching? Because I shouldn't have to do that to be accepted. Well, then why don't you accept yourself? You know what I'm saying? So I feel like if you don't like the skin you're in, change it. If you're against changing it, stop complaining about it and work with it and accept it, love it, flaunt it. You know what I'm saying? You can't ride both sides of the fence, you know? I know it's a lot of, these are my star earrings. I love these, okay? So I know people ride both sides of the fence and will use anything as an excuse, but you can't use excuses anymore because all is mind, okay? All is mind. If you think, therefore you are, okay? You think you got obstacles in your path, you got obstacles in your path. If you think you're not attractive, you're not attractive. If you think dark skin makes your life harder, dark skin makes your life harder, okay? If you think being fat makes it impossible to have a good man, good life, then that's your belief and that's gonna be your life. You're gonna attract that to you. If you wake up in the morning, you know, 300, 400 pounds and say I'm the best looking thing in this room, in this house and you really feel that, then go get it, you know what I'm saying? If you wake up and you love the skin you're in, dark skin, light skin, medium skin, yellow skin, red skin and you own it and you say, look, I'm not ashamed of who I am. People are gonna admire you for that, for loving yourself. People can see when people hate themselves. They can see it a mile away. They can go, ooh, she don't like herself. I bet I can get her to do anything because she needs some attention, okay? That's why a lot of darker girls get used a lot because they have low self-esteem and they don't love themselves, okay? And I'm gonna tell you why because, you know, you've been taught that this color is bad and that color is good and you believed it, you know, you were tricked. And now you lower your standards just to get some attention from any guy and they already know that. Going in, they go, ooh, I can get her. Just like they say fat chicks do. Oh, she's fat, she'll give it up easily because she don't get attention. Not true, you have to raise your standards either way, if they approach you and they can't get what they want out of you, sure they're gonna call you out your name. Sure they're gonna tell you this and that. It's not true because they just tried to approach you. They really were attracted to you and they felt like they could get something out of you. They were trying to manipulate you, okay? But if you're smart enough and have more self-love, you're not gonna let that happen and they will respect you when they walk away, okay? And then the next guy that approaches you, they're gonna have to come correct, okay? You're gonna be one of those special girls who have high self-esteem and are not for the oaky-doke, okay? You're not gonna have to lower your standards to compete with anyone else, okay? You're gonna be the one that they can't get to and that is what's going to be special about you. Oh, she doesn't do that. She thinks she's all that. And then they're gonna start viewing you as all that. She thinks she's all that. She's all that. So the next person that tries to approach you has heard about your reputation. Oh, she's not gonna give it up. She has too much standards. They're gonna come correct. They're gonna be like, okay, let's see if I can get her. So I'm gonna treat her right. I'm gonna be nice to her. She obviously thinks she's important. So therefore she must be special. I'm gonna find out what this special is, you know? If you treat yourself special and hold yourself up to higher standards, other people have to do the same, okay? That is your job, okay? That's your job. Nobody's gonna come to me talking about, oh, I know she'll give me what I want because she's a little overweight, oh, I can sweet talk her. No, they see my purse. They see, you know, my jewelry, what I do wear my jewelry. They see this and that. They know how to come correct, okay? They know I'm not for the okie doke. They know I don't mess with this. They know I would never let this type of person approach me because that is how I present myself, okay? That's how you have to do it, too, ladies. Even if you're, you know, too skinny, you know? Some people are too light. No, they get mistaken for different races, you know? You don't have to prove yourself. Just be who you are and love who you are. And the right person is gonna be attracted to you, okay? You're gonna weed out all the people that's not supposed to be attracted to you when you love yourself, okay? That's just it, okay? You're gonna weed out all the people that you're not supposed to be with after you love yourself and respect yourself and have high standards. You're gonna weed out all those stupid people that was gonna hurt you, that was gonna use you, okay? They're not even gonna be able to approach you at a certain point. So, yeah, I just wanted to address that because people keep commenting that in the comments and I think that's silly, okay? Very silly, very, very silly. It's sad and if I were dark skinned, I would never use that as my excuse. I would be like Kansas on the have and the have nots. That would not stop me. I would be the baddest thing in the room, okay? You know, I'm sorry. I would use it at my advantage. I would be the beautiful, most chocolatey, you know, sexiest, smelling goodest, arched eyebrowist, you know, big lip lined and pouty, you know, cheekbones on fleek looking, dark skin one you ever seen, okay? That's what I would be. I would make myself look like the best thing in the room, okay? I'm sorry. I'm gonna try, I'm gonna get all the tools I can get. I'm gonna invest in myself and then, okay, I know what y'all are gonna say, well, you can do all that, but then what if a girl that looks, you know, just as good as you with lighter skin walks by and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah and gets all the attention? Well, there's gonna be somebody who likes dark skin girls who probably gonna have more money, you know, and, you know, probably a lot of, a bit more open-minded as well, bit more mature, you know, a bit more involved in, you know, having not the standard, you know what I'm saying? I'm gonna be treated more. I'm gonna be treated special, okay? I'm gonna be dating a millionaire, okay? You have to have self-esteem. You have to have self-love for anybody to even acknowledge that you're worth anything, okay? So, I don't know, maybe you just needed a pep talk. Maybe you need someone to tell you you're beautiful every day. You know, maybe you need to tell yourself you're beautiful every day. Maybe you need to do things to make yourself beautiful, okay? You know, if you just walk around being upset and mad at the world because of the skin tone you're in, that's not gonna help nothing, okay? We see all these beautiful models in the magazine with almost black skin, okay? Do you think they're dating broke men? Do you think men are passing them by? No, you know? So, why don't y'all reassess, you know, start loving yourself more. Find the type of men that like your skin because not all men are gonna like my skin, okay? Some men don't like my skin tone. You know what I'm saying? I'm not gonna be trying to be all up in their face. Hey, like me, like me, like me. No, you don't like me. Get to stepping. I'll find someone who does, okay? So, no, it's not easier. It's just that people have been taught that this is good and this is bad. And I talk about, you know, a lot of things, but this is like every video you guys are saying the same thing, okay? So, can I ask you a question if you feel like this is a problem? Are there any dark skin YouTubers that are giving the same type of advice who live the same type of lifestyle or better than me? You know, are there any dark skin YouTubers? Yes, I see them all the time. Got high rises, nice apartments, thousands and millions of subscribers. You know what I'm saying? They're dark. They're not me. They're not light. They didn't let their skin stand in the way. You know, so what I'm saying is that's not the problem. It's this, okay? It's this, the skin is not the problem. It's this. I don't know what this girl's name is, but she's a beautiful dark skin YouTuber and she just had a baby, I think. And she lives in this really nice apartment, like lavish, like downtown Manhattan or some Canada. I don't know, somewhere. I don't know, but it's nice. And she's married. Millions of YouTube subscribers. I don't know, millions, maybe. It's high, okay? Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. She does makeup, vlogs. And her life is 10, 15 times better than mine, okay? So there you go. And she didn't let anything stand in her way. She just kept going. You know, there's plenty, plenty of women who are dark skin, who live way better than light skin women. And there's plenty of light skin women that live way better than dark skin women. So that's kind of silly to say, you know what I'm saying? Now, if you have high standards, you're only gonna date certain type of people. They're not gonna abuse you, they're not gonna use you. Okay, if you have low self-esteem, you're gonna let anything slither on in and break your heart and mistreat you. And then you're gonna say, oh, I get treated bad because I'm dark skin and it's harder for me in this world. Because you don't have high standards. That's probably what it is. You gotta hire your standards, okay? If you can't get a date for one month because your standards are high, you weren't meant to date in that month, okay? You're not supposed to lower your standards. If you lower your standards, you're inviting in bad treatment, okay? If you lower your standards, you're welcoming hard life. You're welcoming having people take advantage of you. You're welcoming obstacles, okay? That's what you're doing. If your standards aren't as high as the next light skin girl and you're dark, your standards are too low, okay? Just remember that. If you don't value you, nobody else will, okay? Just like if you're overweight, if you're 400 pounds and if you don't have the same self-esteem as a 120-pound girl with perfect body, and if you don't have the same standards as her, oh well, that's your problem. That's your fault, okay? Raise your standards. I don't care what you look like, you know? Make whatever version of yourself make it look the best that you can, okay? Do the best you can. That's all you can do. But don't lower your standards because you think you don't deserve something, okay? You think there's problems. Most of those things are just thoughts and they're not even true. So remember, don't use that as an excuse, okay? Because I could use that as an excuse and say, well, I have it hard because I'm black or I'm mixed or, you know, because I'm not white. I have it hard, you know? I could say that. But that wouldn't make any sense, I wouldn't. Because the only obstacles I see are the ones that I create, all right? I'll see y'all later, bye.