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They see it as though something is wrong with you But of course if they see you as the problem then They start to think that maybe their lives are better without you They think maybe it's better to get rid of you Because remember there's no self-reflection. There's no introspection They're not looking at themselves and seeing what they're doing wrong Instead the point in the finger at you they're blaming you for everything So naturally they're gonna think okay, I should just get rid of you then problem solved Then my life will be better Because you see they've already tricked their brains into thinking that you were the issue and this is how it ends up being the biggest mistake of their life Because in reality You were not the problem And in fact they tried to do it for a reason because they needed you you are actually although We might not like to see it, but you are everything that they need in their lives That is the truth and that is why they were so comfortable around you They were comfortable the way things were they didn't want to change anything You were the one that was complaining if you were the one that would change things You were always questioning in front of them and they were always pushing you away or telling you to forget about it Because they were quite comfortable with how things are they were quite happy with that But at some point they just got fed up if you always come into them and blaming them for everything and pointing out their mistakes to the point where they had to just put it all on you they had to start blaming you for that and How it is with them is that the more that they tell a lie The more that they begin to believe it you have to remember that they are detached from reality They've created a fantasy world inside their head Just based on lies and fears their own paranoia and hyper vigilance So I said I was going you're good. 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I don't think he realized I was in the middle of a video Yeah, okay, like let's get back to it then I asked to say his biggest mistake of their life to put it simply Their biggest mistake above everything else And you know they made a lot of mistakes they did a lot of things wrong, but the one thing that really tops everything else it's that They end up losing you if they haven't lost you already They end up discarding you pushing you away When you come to them with things that you don't like your problems your issues They try to brush it under the rug and forget about it That is the biggest mistake they ever made why Is it the biggest mistake of their life? it's actually very easy to answer that that is probably The most obvious thing of anything I've ever said in any of my videos you Provided them with security and stability You were predictable you remain unchanged You were the very thing that they needed more than anything else in their lives and that is a primary source their narcissistic supply On top 24 hours a day whenever they needed it you were that emotional punching bag The emotional tampon their doormats You put up with things that most people would never put up with and It is very hard for them to find someone else like that again Even for a normal person to find someone that they vibe with It's not that easy especially these days and For a narcissist to find someone like you a great a source of supply Then it's a hundred times more difficult and even if they do find someone like that It's just gonna end in the same way again Just as it did with you Everything that you went through they will be destined to experience that again with someone else They will try to make you believe that this time is gonna be different. They found someone else. They've moved on Thanks so much better now It's all a lie People don't change overnight Takes a long time to make these changes and for someone to make those changes. They have to be accountable They were never accountable with you. They can never see what they're really doing wrong. Well, they just didn't care They never tried to correct anything so whenever You see someone walking away Riding off into the sunset And they don't give you closure. They don't give you an explanation They don't try to make things right with you You could be sure that things are not gonna be right with anything in their lives after you That's just how it is That's how it works But this mistake The narcissist ever made or were made Was losing him The one person Who was there for them no matter what? You gave your life to them Everything they did you tolerated it and they already know that most people were not put up with that That's why they stuck with you for so long But then you were starting to figure them out You were starting to realize that you deserved more And that's when they knew they had to let you go but I can tell you that Once they do that Once they make that decision It all goes downhill for them after that It doesn't get better It doesn't even stay the same because trust me what you went through Most people are not gonna put up with that and even if they Managed to find someone who will it's gonna end the same as it did with you That person will eventually wake up Maybe they will find one of my videos And then they're not gonna put up with it anymore And then the narcissist will have to get rid of them too so you can see that in the end They are destined to end up alone or They just end up with people who are using them manipulators scammers con artists Because in the end those are the only people they have left Genuine real people don't want to be around them. That's only people who think they can get something out of them So yeah in some ways After all of my experience of research, I can honestly say that I do pity them in many ways Because I know their fate. I know how it ends up and whenever a narcissist has done something to me Something that I don't approve of something that I don't like They've abused me, but they betrayed me. I'm not just looking at the damage that's done to me I'm also thinking in my head Why do you have to do this to yourself? Because whatever you do to someone else it always comes back It affects you at the end When you hurt people who care about you People who really love you and are there for you that's It's one of the worst things that you can do and you will pay for that Welcome back to get them and when you see it when you see them experiencing their karma They shock you and you may want to go back and help them But as soon as you do that and they get back on their feet The game starts all over again their narcissism returns There is no happy ending with the narcissist And I know that's hard for some of you to accept You're gonna have to accept that but I hope this video leaves you Realizing that You are and you were The prize in that relationship Entirely to you they secured you They try to contain you for that reason That's why they lied to you. That's why they gaslighted you That is the reason for all of that because they recognized your value They were very jealous. They didn't want it to slip away Now you have this information It's up to you what you do with that, but I hope that You will take it into Whatever situation you're going into With the knowledge and experience that you now possess And make wiser decisions you need to vet the people that you are dealing with Before you let them into your circle, it's very important because you think someone's really with you And they're looking out for you. They have your best interest in mind When really they just see you as a snack It's just a meal ticket because these types of people they already know They're doomed They're predestined to an undesirable fate So all they can do is leech on to you and The hopes that you're gonna save them at least for a short period of time Because they know they're not gonna sustain anything Long-term that's why they just see you as something temporary because they Believe that they are unlovable They don't think that anyone will really love them if you love them then they think you just don't know them Well, you're not gonna love them after they do What they're gonna do to you So they're already expecting you to get rid of them That's why they have to beat you to the punch. They have to get rid of you first That's why they've always got one foot in one foot out Because deep down they know they're not deserving of a relationship. They know they're not deserving of your love And they know that it's only a matter of time until you figure that out, but yeah, that's really yeah, that's really the Biggest mistake They will make or have made and That's really their karma It's the laws of court and effects It's the result of everything they did to you Comes back to get them and trust and believe that your karma is good for you after everything you've been through There everything you suffered all of the trials and tribulations Then go through that for no reason the rewards are coming for you that you may already notice the immediate benefits which are now you're more wiser you're more aware and You understand the concept of What is valuable? What should be cherished in life? You have that contrast between what is good and what is bad Like you're more able to recognize when something is good for you, so yeah It's pretty hot out here, but it's a beautiful view Just take a look at that coconut trees Gold building there all the different birds Audi a6 Time to put the air conditioning back on Sweating again. Thank you all for joining me on another Knox Firelight video To appreciate you all And if you enjoyed it and give this video a thumbs up down below Let me know your thoughts in the comment section And I will talk to you in another one very soon