 Good morning and welcome back to Y254 in the morning. My name is Veetan Sohli and just in case you're joining us It's WCW on this segment. We celebrate the strength of a woman now Imagine this waking up one morning and you realize that your mother did spend the night in your house and Apparently she spent the night at her neighbor's place Reason being your father buttered her the whole night. This is the story of Liz Mosheery She is an educationist and the founder of youth enterprise Engage us on all our social media platforms at Y254 channel at Feet and Sohli the hashtag is why in the morning? Thank you, Feet. Good morning. Good morning to you. You look so gorgeous Thank you so much for the opportunity Yeah, appreciate to be here. You're welcome. Yeah, thank you. So this is Liz Mosheery Yeah, Liz Mosheery is Just another normal and ordinary Kenyan She has grown just a normal child Normal child from the normal background, but of course growing up, you know life is full of challenges here and there But of course irrespective of all the challenges. We are here today We are here today. Yeah, and because of you being a strong woman You're here on this show today, and we just celebrate and we are happy that today You're going to share your story and encourage a young girl or a young woman out there. Oh, great That's my purpose actually. Wow. And so tell us how was life growing up? Okay, um, I was just born in no more family having both parents so and I Had some three brothers. Actually, they are still there. I had three some three brothers and one sister and So growing up of course being I was actually I'm actually the last one in the family So of course I got a lot of love from the rest and a lot of attention But along the way I found my dad's Being used to like drinking he used to drink a lot, but that time he was still working So, um, it's not tender age We used to experience that domestic violence. Of course. He could come from Maybe from even around three years it was about three years going up. Yeah, so So there are moments he would come home He's drunk He would just become violent and Surprisingly, my mom is that very submissive woman who will not say a word, you know if she feels like they can they at this point, you know, like sometimes when Things to do with drunk hardness. You cannot really come to a conclusion like you cannot argue with somebody who is high So she would sometimes not even respond So when the argument maybe she could feel the argument is too tough Should just pull out sit back maybe walk out or something like that No, the problem is it didn't end there. So sometimes my dad would get violent send us out of the house Sometimes he would even lock us out out of the gate Yeah, so it was very difficult because you know as a child you cannot really understand Why are you going through this and maybe comparing yourself with other families? You cannot really tell Yeah, so it was tough all along. So actually when I was around Maybe 10 years. He took an early retirement at that time So because of drunkness, I think he just decided to quit, you know, like sometimes somebody just takes decisions So maybe he just took a decision to quit work So I think he he was just projecting to have some major projects, but I don't know what happened So when I was in class 5 actually I was the only person at home now with my mom So that that time it became like a habit every day He would go drink come in the evening send us away Just just like it it just became like a norm like every day I would come out from school in the evening and find my mom having cooked dinner and tell me just take your Because we don't know what to expect today and it was very tough now We would go maybe spend in a neighbor's place early in the morning my mom was distilled very determined woman She would still wake up early come knock at the gates He would open allow us in I would prepare and go to school, you know So as a young girl, it really traumatized me And then the neighbors you have slept in their places They are all around sitting around the room as like How are they like, their place is your refuge for like every night Yes, so it was a little bit difficult even trying to explain You know like their friends will ask you and you try to explain I don't know it just happened yesterday and then my dad was this he had such a loud voice The whole village would know that you're out there You're useless people like you just need to spend the night out there So everybody would hear what is going on So maybe at some point maybe our our neighbors understood our situation so they could not ask so much But of course my mom was there. She's a very prayerful woman Since the time I came to now understand myself I've always known her waking very early in the morning even after spending Maybe when those few days that would spend at home she would wake up very early Maybe at around three pray for us pray for all of us including our dad And I believe through her encouragement she would encourage us so much and tell us I'm here for you and God is going to see us through this situation So that's how it was and fortunately we kept working hard I kept working hard because I actually didn't want to live the life my mom was living Because unfortunately she had left her job to be a housewife So for me I had decided that I don't want to be a housewife I would want to work be an independent woman so that My life cannot depend on another person you see so And I thank God I worked hard I passed and then Yeah, I got to where I am today And so having gone through that seeing your mother going through all that How did you park in your life as an adult today Having seen your mother your father with the domestic violence back at home Did it make you at a point think of I'll never get married or I'll never have a family And maybe not maybe not that much but it had an impact Maybe that time I couldn't tell but today I can tell it had a serious impact Because um to be honest I I I actually still have that fear of marriage because to me it felt like To a woman it's it's not it's not an easy thing Because she suffers for her children I actually at some point I even asked my mother why do you have to go through this Why can't you just take us to a grandfather and leave us there We live in peace but she used to tell me for my children I cannot live here I cannot leave you here. So I'm going to persevere to the end. So for me I one thing I decided that I'm going to work hard to be an independent woman and number two Okay, I I felt like Okay, I have a bit of a reluctance about marriage. I'm not against it And I'm open to any opportunity Yeah, somehow it felt like that But for now, I know maybe being independent, maybe you may not be as imprisoned as when you are not independent yes, so If it comes across well and good, but for now I'm just chasing my goals And so talking of independence there is some way that you said that you had to go out to work hard I don't know if you dropped out of school, but you had to go out and work hard and even pay for your school fees What happened in between that your mother or your father couldn't support you? Oh, okay Now because you understand now how my dad was Yeah, at that point when actually when I cleared class eight So um that I of course he had money, but he called my brother. We had a family meeting So our elder brother happened to ask him What plans does he have for me now that I have cleared class eight? I have passed. I'm supposed to go to secondary school So that moment he told my brothers and everybody that he has no plans so um Of course now everybody knew the burden is left to them And of course my mom being a housewife had nothing to do But um our elder brother George George