 The red pill and married red pill that's not the entirety You know and I started writing posts on the subreddit that weren't received well because they weren't about sexual strategy Guys are like why the fuck are you sharing this? This is about fatherhood. Why are you sharing this? This is about how to you know, keep joy and you know relations in marriage. That's this is about sexual strategy I was like well that fucking that's not what I want to talk about. I want to talk about masculinity I want to talk about the entire man. We're at a conference right now talking about the ideal man That's the fuck I wanted to be a part of The red pills a part of that. It's not the entire picture So to stop getting blasted and fucking read it I created my own blog and I started writing and I started talking. It's there's three parts to it There's masculinity, which is a third of my content. There's marriage That's the second third and there's fatherhood because that's what makes me me and it goes in that order I am a man before I'm a brother a son a husband a father I am a man an individual masculine as fuck man, and I'm going to express that and that's the first thing you are I don't identify as a fucking father. I don't identify as a husband. I am those things I make those things fantastic and those are titles I wear with honor. I take pride in them But they don't define the path I live I live my path at my version of fatherhood my version of being a husband I make it mine because that's what we all have to do. I live authentically and that's all this is about Now from the blog I started go I went on to Twitter and I started this program called men of March And that was a fucking game changer, and I think that's the reason I'm here today. That shit Was about for 31 days Rebuilding yourself on the various aspects of manhood of masculinity of just being who you are of authentic living so in men of March Guys fucking flooded my followers like quadrupled I went from like 1,000 to 3,000 fucking all these guys are sharing it the hashtag is fucking going around and my inbox is blowing up I went to bed out of midnight. I was like fuck. I gotta just go to sleep and fucking tired I checked all my notifications. I woke up at 5 I had 314 notifications of guys just saying hey I'm fucking on board. Let's fucking do this. We need to reinvent it. I was like what the fuck There's a goddamn need for fixing yourself guys want to be a part of something but not only a part of something They want to be collectively a part of something they want to fix themselves where a bunch of other dudes are fixing themselves at the Same time and it's a similar concept to bootcamp. It I couldn't complain about getting my ass kicked because the other fucking 50 dudes We're getting their ass kicked too when it sucked for all of us and men of March It sucked for every single one of us to objectively face those aspects where we might have been failing Things about ourselves that we might have thought about You know when's the last time you thought about what's in your house? Did you buy that shit every time you walk into your home when you sit down in your living room? Are you seeing shit that you want there are you seeing shit that you were told to buy because that impacts you That that changes your mindset everything around your environment changes the way you think so fix it And that's just one aspect we did 31 fucking days where you're asking questions like that, you know, what's the thing you aren't facing? What's that one thing you're not avoiding? What's the one thing you don't want to handle it could be a relationship with your dad? It could be something that happened in your past. It could be something that you know is coming in your future What are you avoiding? Because until you face that one thing that fucking black monster inside your soul You are not going to be able to build a foundation from which you can build the greatest self that you could possibly build That's where you start with fixing you And the reason I shared my history and the reason I shared that aspect of me is because I wanted you to see who your word is Not dictate who you become. I was a fucking loser in high school I spent five years there because it was an idiot who was unmotivated And then I turned to the round two days before I came here I submitted my master's thesis that shit was fucking no joke I fucking hated school, but I forced myself to go who you were the shit You've done does not dictate where you go as long as you're looking in the past You're not looking forward as long as you if you're looking forward. You're not looking now Fuck what happened? Completely fucking disregard get rid of who you were who you keep identifying as who you keep defining yourself as I'm the guy who had this Happened to him. No the fuck you're not you're a man. Well, you know, I had to go through this because it didn't have we didn't have money I had a broken family. That's fantastic. I don't care neither does the world fix yourself Don't identify with your past who you were doesn't dictate who you become All right, and I'm telling you why fuck I almost dropped out of fucking high school And then I fucking found myself fucking going for my master's like what the fuck life comes at you fast and that gets me into the topic Authenticity that was a long intro. So this speech is about authenticity All right, Ryan touched on frame to me frame is there is frame is reality frame everything comes from frame