 in pursuit of resilience. To be resilient means to be strong, to be courageous and to persevere. The big question however is, is resilience a destination or is it a goal? Can it be achieved or is it a continuous process? I classify myself as one of the strong ones, one of the resilient ones. However, I must confess that in the last one month I have been shaken to my core. I've experienced several setbacks. I've seen unforeseen circumstances and challenges. I have doubted my strengths. I have questioned my judgment and at a point I prayed for a win. I was desperate for a win. Any win at all. When it seemed that all that was stacked in front of me were boxes and boxes of unchecked buttons. While I'm not out of the blues yet, I realized that my resilience came not from me but from people around me. Strangers who within a twinkle over nine became friends. As a matter of fact, they became family literally overnight. In some of the cases, I don't even know their last names. I realize that maybe, just maybe our resilience can come from people that surround us, people around us. So do our challenges make us more resilient? Or is it our strength that we find in people that surround us that makes us more resilient? It's a higher being that tests us by twin challenges at us and at the same time providing a cushion for us to rely on during those tough moments. Finally, is resilience a sprint or is it a marathon? Please share your view. I don't think it has a lot of things to say. For me, I mean to start with, I think that resilience, any serious positive value value element like resilience is always a marathon. It's always a destination. It's never, so it's always a direction, a journey, never a destination. I don't think you can come to a point and say, oh, I'm now 100% resilient. I don't need any more resilience. I mean, try that. I've seen those things where they say, oh, earth or universe, this is not a day, right? Can my day get any worse? Sometimes you think that you're really resilient until life actually comes at you. Then you realize that stuff you thought you were made of is just a fraction of what life could possibly throw at you. But the two things that have kept me going when I go through crazy moments in life, the first question I ask myself is, what's the worst that can happen in this particular situation? And I think about the absolute worst that can happen. I mean, by just thinking about the absolute worst, it helps me compartmentalize better. I say, okay, this is the worst that can happen, right? So we'll put the worst there, we'll put the scenario. This is the worst that can happen. Okay, if the worst happens, then what? Right? That's the first thing I do. The other thing that I then do is, will this matter in one year? This is a question I see as myself day before yesterday, just day before yesterday. But 10 page rule. You know, I ask myself, will this matter in one year? And I realize that in one year, this would make absolutely no difference in my life, who I am. And, you know, I just, it was just water off the dog's back. So I feel like, you know, in life would always go through. I feel as a matter of fact, I don't think there's anybody that has succeeded in life that didn't go through a moment in their life and they said, you know what, is it actually worth it? You know, so, and it's those moments that define us. It's the moments that actually decide, you know, exactly what we're made of, you know, and just to talk about your friends or people that I said became family. My opinion about that is, what goes around comes around. You know, one time or the other, you stood as someone's rock, you know, you helped someone out of a situation. You gave someone, you know, something that you thought was insignificant at the time. Those things have a way of coming back around. I can tell you hundreds of times in my life where from nowhere total absolute strangers came and build me out of an impossible situation that I, by myself, with all my connections, would have done nothing about at that particular point in time. But a total stranger, you know, would just come and then build me out. So I know that what goes around comes around. And, you know, life always has a way of paying, you know, a good deed forward. That's my opinion. Speaking from what to say, thanks a lot to you. And that's a good one. So I'm coming from the angle of, you know, from an internal perspective, right? So when you squeeze something, right, what that thing is made up of comes out. So if we try to squeeze a car, what could come out could be oil, water, you know, metal and all this stuff. So when life squeezes you as a human being, what comes out? And that's why someone said, you are not a thief because you stole. You stole because you're a thief. Right? So that means you don't know, there's no elastic limits to what you can do. So when life throws things at you, it reveals the real intent of you. Right? So resilience is something that comes out. Or, you know, if you're resilient, if you go through some certain hordes, I think I was getting a friend and I told her that we need some of, quote unquote, this wahala, you know, it's sort of like toughens you up. It's sort of like tells you how much, you know, what someone says, Oh, I didn't know that I could go through this and come out. I mean, I didn't think that I was going to come out. So if you keep getting, you know, the easy way, the simple way, you will not understand if you have, you know, some of that internal toughness. So I see resilience as something that's really important. And that's why, you know, it's very important to go through hordes, to go through challenges, obstacles, because it reveals the real intent, you know, what you have or what you're made up of internally. Yeah. And that's basically what I think around, you know, that. Well, that was a very interesting thought. For me, you know, resilience is a continuation process, like just like compounding in the words of finance or accounting or mathematics, you do it the first time, it gets easier the second time, just like it gets bigger in mathematics. And then when it falls due to some probabilistic factors and speaking mathematics, you reduce it a bit, you go again compounding. In terms of resilience, if you try your best to achieve something, you couldn't achieve it. No problem. You don't beat yourself. You can only win every time. Take it as part of life teaching you something. You come back, at least strategize and come back again. When you keep doing this and continuously, you always be a winner. It's a continuous process. Failure and wins. Individual failure and individual winning is a continuous process at stepping stones. Let's redefine the way we see failures and successes. I remember this story, I was reading, I think I was watching something and then the man was playing golf and then he came to him as a very wealthy man. They asked him, if you lost everything you had and all you have right now is your golf shirt, your golf shirt and the golf stick, what are you going to do? He said, I'll rebuild it because I built it. I have the formula. I'm going to rebuild it. You know, so I think things like that, you know, when you're able to go, like he said, you go through stuff, you know, you throw today, you come back and then you push and like Ejima said, it's a marathon. It's not a 100-meter dash. I think the points here have already reached enough. One of the things I'm drawing from Ejima's points is the fact that building resilience has a team approach to it. You know, those days they tell you, tell me you're friends and I'll tell you who you are. So, you know, the moment she said that one analogy that quickly came to my mind was, you know, the man that was lame that couldn't, you know, that his four friends carried him. The God that had to, you know, some of the people you see, I remember one of the owners of a broadcasting, one of the strongest broadcasting house in Nigeria, the story of how he lost everything at the time, military regime and all of that, but it took friends rallying around him to get back again. So, I think it's just that place of surrounding yourself with the right people. Thanks, Ejima. Absolutely. So, you guys, I really like your views on everything. I like the fact that your body, you've looked at the topic from different dimensions, particularly from the angle of self-introspection, looking at friends and family as a shoulder to lean on. And I hope that regardless of the challenges that anybody's facing, you always know that you can be resilient and just makes you better and makes you stronger. 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