 Imago Dialog is the most effective tool to be able to communicate with your spouse to share your deepest feelings, your frustrations, and to feel truly heard and understood and feel even more connected thereby. It's more than just a communication technique, it's a vehicle for transformation. It's an opportunity to really experience your spouse, to enter their world, really have compassion for where they're coming from, as well on the other end to feel heard in a deep way. And through that we see changes happen organically through that connection. The dialogue starts off with an appointment making sure the other person is available. It's now a good time, I'd like to invite you into my world, are you available, it's now a good time. And then one person shares as a rescender, the other person is the receiver, it's the one who shares, will share their feelings in a safe, non-judgmental, non-blaming way by using I statements when you did this I felt. The job of the listener or the receiver is merely to repeat back or mirror back what the other said. So no interjecting, no giving your own opinion, defending yourself, just repeating back what I heard you say is, fill in the blank. And then you'll ask did I get you, meaning did I get that right? And if the answer was yes, can I ask is there more, meaning is there more you want to share? Now this seems like a little strange way to talk, but think about it, how are things going now? How's your communication going? Are you able to feel heard and understood? So while this is a little bit artificial, it's sometimes needed in order to guess back to a happy medium. So I invite you to try the dialogue process, to try the mirroring. Once you're finished sharing, your spouse will summarize and summary what I've heard you say, summary mirror of everything. And then afterwards they will validate by letting you know that what I heard, what you're saying makes sense and you make sense, which means not that I agree with you, but it means that you have a right to your opinion, your feelings are entirely valid. And you want to really give that over in a very sincere way that your feelings are entirely valid, and it really makes sense where you're coming from. And then you empathize by imagining how they may be feeling. I imagine you might be feeling sad or mad. Is that how you're feeling? And then you always ask is there more to make sure. This is a very abridged version of the dialogue script. We have a little bit of a lengthy version for you to be able to read and some of our other materials. But just to give you a feel for it, it's a great opportunity to be able to really feel heard, to be able to open up, to feel safe enough to share, and to really transform your relationship. If you'd like to have the experience of being guided through the dialogue process, we'd be happy to help you. Please be in touch with us and we can share more about the dialogue process, how it works and how we can help you work through some of the challenges you're experiencing your relationship and really see a whole new result through being able to process in the dialogue.