 It's early in the morning here, as you can see the sun is just beginning to rise over there It's a really nice vibe here when you wake up early. I woke up about 5.30 it's now coming up to 7 a.m. Had a shower. I got ready To start my day. I'm going to upload a premiere soon And then I'm going to start work on some new videos read all of your comments and Then I'm going to go out and do some traveling It become back later and go to the gym so I like to start the day early so I have More time in the day, but yeah, the Sun is just rising over there starting to get a bit brighter now okay, so The narcissist ends up watching you first. Let's talk about why they end up watching you they end up watching you because They be the discarded you or you chose to leave and Maybe they tried to hoof it you But you rejected it You didn't entertain it or maybe They were too full of pride and Ego to who for you so instead they lurk in the shadows They watch in the distance rather than trying to participate in anything with you and the reason for that It's because they feel like they can't get supply from you. You're not a good source or You just didn't validate the illusion You weren't susceptible to them at ablation You weren't under their spell under their control so They realize that By being a direct participant in something with you that could end up affecting them And they don't want that to happen That's why they need people who are susceptible vulnerable Under their control Those are the types of people they need and that's why you'll notice the people they surround themselves with look like they're in a trance Like they're under a spell Like they're in some other world Because those are the types of people they need around them. They really don't want people like you around them Because you're difficult to control You're gonna stand up to them at this point You're not gonna take any shit You're gonna push back at them And that's the last thing they want to they want to deal with They're not gonna willingly put themselves in a difficult situation But they may still be obsessed with you. They may still watch you Stalk you and they may do that because They like the benefits and conveniences that you provided to them and they're very envious and jealous They always feel like they miss it out on something so They just want to see if you move on if you find someone better than them because that's one of their greatest fears and If not, then they just come back to see you suffer To see the aftermath of the damage That they caused your life so that's really Why they end up watching you those are the reasons and Now I'm going to get into how they end up watching you But first let's go back to the sunrise over there. It's getting brighter now I did see some lightning over there too in the distance. It looks like they're heading out on a boat I want to do that soon as well Maybe go to those islands Okay, how they end up watching you? they may stalk you on social media and They may do that themselves or They might get someone else to do it Or they will create fake accounts Or they may stalk you in person or they may get one of their flying monkeys to stalk you And that could be At your home your workplace Or wherever they think you're going to be another thing they might do is Install tracking devices on your car Or on your phone or computer So then they can always keep tabs on you They always know what you're doing They always know who you're talking to and the other extreme is Installing surveillance cameras in your home and they may do that because remember they are very envious and jealous They may have moved on and Being involved with someone else But they don't want to see you doing that they want to keep you alone Isolated but anyway, I mean Alone time is good after you've been involved with them And I say that from my own experience When I was involved with a narcissist before I must have spent Two years alone, and I mean completely alone and That was the best thing I ever did because That's what helped me to build my YouTube channel. So yeah alone time Isn't bad anyway, you know, it can be difficult Especially after you've been involved with them. I Do think it's important to take that time to grow and heal But yeah, that's really what they'll try to do is they'll try to isolate you because an ideal situation for them really is They don't want to watch you have a lot of fun And you're like living your best life, that's just gonna make them miserable They're hoping that when they watch you you're gonna be down miserable you've got nothing to do with your life You have no motivation That's really what they want to see and they want to see you alone without anyone just remember When you were with them It was always a competition They saw you as their enemy their opponent and They always had to compete with you They always try to be better than you and the competition never ends Even after the relationship is over They're still comparing themselves to you they're comparing their Illusion of happiness With your life and their new supply They're comparing with you and With anyone you may be involved with So it's still a competition And it will always be a competition Because they're very insecure They have low self-esteem They can't just Come up and meet you on your level You have to go down They have to bring you down For them to feel comfortable around you just Nala running there Can't see the Sun right now. It's behind the mountains after about 30 minutes one hour it will come and Rise there and then it gets very strong Especially around lunchtime Sometimes I have to close the curtains When I'm making my videos the birds flying past Yeah You know, it's really sad when you think about it though. I mean when you were together There was no real intimate connection They were always so distant emotionally They didn't show any desire to connect. They pushed you away and As you try to progress so It's like you would take one step forward and They would take two steps back That's how it feels and then when it's over. It's no different They still cannot Have any type of connection with you No intimacy and that is just the saddest most empty thing In the world for me. I do consider myself a Loving and affectionate person And to be with someone who's just so cold dark and empty It just sucks a life out of you and I'm not just talking about sex Of course everyone likes sex. We all have sex now and again. I mean, there's nothing wrong with that But I'm talking more About just being playful just being relaxed And having a good time Joking and laughing but without trying to hurt Without trying to really compete with someone Be better than them You know where you can just let your ego go and just be yourself Yeah, that's what I like, but you can't get that with the narcissist So it was a competition no intimacy and That's just why they end up watching you in the end Because if they're no longer a part of your life, what else can they do if you think about it even when You are with them That's all they really did was watch you They were constantly observing you studying you All the time they were never intermittent Intimately connected with you. They were never You never had a deep connection It was just them observing Monitoring and studying you instead of asking you questions about yourself or showing curiosity An eagerness to learn more about you They were studying They were observing you very closely Watching what you were doing Trying to figure out what you were thinking Instead of just coming out and asking you Just the creepiest thing ever I mean if you want to know something I mean You don't really need to have the balls to ask It's just it's like some such a simple thing to do, but yeah, they They have to go around that and do it indirectly And that is the weirdest creepiest shit I've ever seen in my life Why do you have to do that? Why can't you be a normal functioning person Who just comes out and just says it directly and At the end I came to the conclusion that You're just dealing with a coward Someone who lacks the confidence to just come out and say it maybe they fear there might be consequences Maybe they fear that what they're saying is Socially unacceptable or Maybe they see that as a way to control you I think it's a combination of all of them, but power and control is Definitely a big one when they do things under the radar They see it as though it's more effective for them if they just come out and say something directly Ask you a question then They're not taking any power from you their power comes from you and Their power comes from you lacking awareness knowledge experience So they're gonna do anything to keep you in that state But you're confused Because confusion gives them power you have to remember that these people do lack intelligence especially emotional intelligence So they have to go around it They can't just drive straight through they have to go around They have to go the long way about it and they do that through Manipulation Tricks and deception That's how they have to do it because they can't compete with you head on with logic and intelligence They know they're not gonna win that battle So instead of using logic they Try to get in your emotions Everything becomes a fight and argument Something that you have to win Because you put your ego first Instead of just using basic logic to work things out That's why they do it and I think that's why They just end up watching you From afar in the end Rather than talking directly to you. It's the star of the show Nala she spends most of her time out here I just leave the door open overnight because no one can get through here It's safe and she's okay on some balconies These types of balconies she's safe because of the glass quite high up. I had an apartment in the UK and She was going out on the balcony for about three years, but then there was one place in Sri Lanka and And Yeah, that was quite dangerous. So I couldn't let her out on that one, but she's safe. She's comfortable here I think she just enjoys the view. She feels like she's out in the jungle Do you know you're live on YouTube right now? 126 people watching you You're not shy Just see the sunrise again here and there's a lot of birds down there too. You can probably hear them Okay It's time for me to sit down and I'm going to upload a new premiere now So check back over the next one hour There will be a new video and I'm going to do some work as well Make some new videos and then I'm gonna head out so Thank you all for joining me and Have a great day