 So let's say you know women's ready to get online and start dating and you know what one of the things out There's there's so many dating websites, you know, there's I mean and now there's apps You know There's just all these different apps that you can pick and and you know There's all these different like little niche subcategory Dating websites. Where should somebody start? Is there a better or some sites better than others like? We're wish It's a great question. It's a very common question Matthew, and I think it's The answer I give is really satisfying What gym do you lose the most weight at? Is it crunch or equinox or 24-hour fitness or LA fitness where I live? Which gym do you lose the most weight at? Well, some gyms do have better equipment and slightly different clientele's But you know when I know that if you put in your effort any gyms don't work for you That's an online date like there There are slight variations and you could set up a free profile anywhere and take a look around for yourself and see Which population you like best but at the end of the day, it's never about the medium It's about the person who's using the medium and that that offends our sensibilities We know and yells at crunch for being fat Right this gym doesn't work But we all like to blame the dating sites for our our own frustrations Dating sites fault match.com sucks plenty of this sucks Their boxes filled with people they they don't do anything Right, so it's really how are you going to use it? I don't have any loyalty to any site I can tell you about all the sites, but you know, I put my clients up on match because it's a big brand name It's got a lot of people and but you could go to okay keep it You can go to plenty of fish you can do that you could you could go on Tinder, but that's online dating shallow enough I don't see why we need to make it more shallow by using an app where you have less information, right? He's cute swipe right text me that's to me That's the problem with online dating is everybody's disposable instant gratification Right and if anything my method is helping people slow down and scream people to avoid going on bad line dates with strangers So I know apps Are easy and they're passive and they take no effort and it's almost frictionless But that's actually the problem with them and it's hard to wean people off of something and say no Couldn't a little more time do a little bit more work. No one wants to hear that Right, but it's necessary work because I would and again to any woman listening Would you rather go on for bad blind dates for coffee with total strangers that you met for Tinder or one good pre-screen Saturday night date with a guy You kind of like it's an obvious answer, but nobody lives their life by it We all go for instant gratification. He's cute. No, I can do better Right and vice versa men Men as well. This is not a gender specific thing. So For me, it's how do we make online dating feel more like real-life dating? That's what I try to outline in my TED talk and in my finding the one online program How do we capture the magic of meeting in real life? But use this medium for it Well, you know just going back to that question that you asked a little bit earlier, you know, which Jim Are you gonna lose the most weight at and you know, I think the real answer is the gym that you end up going to You know, and if you don't go to a gym, then you're not gonna lose any weight Doesn't guarantee that it happens either just because you pay your 40 bucks a month doesn't make it happen Just signing up for a dating site, right and just waiting for mr. Right to descend That's you know, it's it's what people do. It's New Year's. This is my year that I'm gonna lose weight This is my year. I'm gonna find love. I'm gonna sign up on a dating site I'm gonna throw out a profile, but the profile is no good They don't log in regularly the photo is not that great the ability to understand the opposite sex They don't do an active search. They don't write good emails. They don't slow men down There's no warmth. There's no flirtation. So it becomes this almost transactional Grunt work, right where they supposed to be fun and Again, not men are equally to blame for it. I mean if you've ever If you're a coach you've taken a look at a woman's inbox. It's a horror show To see what women go through All right, so so again, no one's letting men off the hook, but you can't control men And all you can control is how you present yourself to the world and the paces you put a guy through before he meets you And it's important to make a guy do a little bit of work Right to screen him prior to meeting him if you don't screen him you can't complain he's a schmuck All right Bill Gates doesn't sit in the office of Microsoft and have an open-door policy where anybody could just come In for an interview Right as long as he's wearing a Brooks Brothers suit. It's like how it works There's a qualifying process and people need to learn to pre-qualify their dates and go on fewer better dates Hmm in my opinion. No, I totally agree with you on that