 Welcome back to the 21 convention of Orlando, Florida a 10-year anniversary special event Our next speaker is an alumni speaker returning for now his second time to the 21 convention stage He first spoke last year in Miami, Florida again at the 21 convention main event When people ask me about this next speaker, there's one thing I repeatedly say Which sounds kind of odd, but I mean it which is why I keep saying it again and again and again at 29 years old, I think I've met more dating coaches and Coaches in that area of life Than anyone else alive who's my age or younger. I've met literally hundreds and there's only one man in the world who I when I'm Physically around him. I Feel my game is like literally better noticeably better I don't mean like more confident or anything simplistic like that Like I actually can communicate with women better being within 50 feet of the guy Like like an R or something which again, it sounds like kind of odd or spiritual woo-woo, but I mean it This guy his love of women and of beauty is Intense and real and you feel it being around them whether it's here in this room We're out and about at Whole Foods Miami. We're hanging out and shit Anyway without further ado, please help me welcome for a second time to the stage Zamperion Welcome back. Thank you brother I Wow That's very kind I've been speaking a lot over the years 15 years and I thought for the last couple days. What am I talking about? And I'm kind of at a loss Strangely enough, it's you know because like in my 20s You maybe you guys know my story. Maybe you don't I won't go into it now But in my 20s, I was completely lost and alone and needy and insecure Can we turn me up or no? Oh, I see I have to speak Sorry Okay In my 20s I I Just a long time ago and I would go out by myself To the bars to the clubs to the lounges by myself to try and understand Myself and I was insecure But I never gave up. I kept going you hear my story another place. I won't go into it now. I Was but I was massively needy To the point where girls would go on a date with me and then they're like I want to see this guy anymore and And I was so lost and alone and I spent my 20s in that range in my 30s Where the where because I kept going is When the light bulbs kind of go like every now and then get a minute The girl said this to me. I've heard that 20 times before and really maybe it means this So I started to learn and started to get some little aha moments. I never had any startling epiphanies or big giant leaps So my 30s was like kind of like small incremental light bulb that was back in the day before Is it true before the internet discussions and So there was no I had no help. I had no way nobody to look up to I had nobody to turn to I had no But he's say this is how you do it and it's gonna be okay and so my 30s was like Starting to get like some kind of understanding because I did nothing else but trying to understand the hearts and minds and Arms of women. That's all I wanted to know and And so my my 40s is when I I hit the road I quit my corporate job I Wanted on to the earth carry on bag only and I traveled and I consolidated and refined and understood and conversed and and Spent time trying to distill what I'd learned about the hearts of women and My 40s is I traveled and I wrote a book about it. I wrote a book called the alabaster girl and It took me 10 years to write from 40 to 50 and birthday to birthday I published on my 50th birthday get it out the door kick and And then It feels like I've said something. No, I vomited something out of my system The whole time I was writing that book for 10 years. I love books and yet I never Read another book in that 10 years because I would go into an airport bookstore I'm like I love bookstores and I would go in there and I've like Books books books and they called to me, but I would feel guilty Because I hadn't finished my book And I felt like So I'd walk out of there and I also didn't want to I did also didn't want to Shift the what I was trying to say there was something in me that I had that had been Learned and fought for and you know, I went I was in the trenches with a mustard gas flying over my head and I wanted to describe that experience and So for 10 years, I didn't read another book and now honestly guys I feel devoid I feel like I've said This is my book. I'll show you By the way, incidentally, I know some of you have my book. It's here it's called alabaster girl and In Romania where I have an apartment. I printed 2,000 of these books and I have a thousand left to give them away So if you want to if you want to sign copy out when I go back to Romania, I'll sign it send it to you in the mail Just pay for shipping Go to alabastergirl.com and I've got a thousand left. So as soon as a thousand gone done but that's the book and you know That was three years ago, I published this thing on my birthday and I haven't cracked it since it's like that conversation is Done is everything everything I honestly it's everything I ever knew or learned in my entire life to that point about sexual polarity masculine edge the female spirit and Yeah, so I feel like I'm coming on stage or I thought for a couple days what can I say and the only thing I'm gonna do It's just kind of like The only thing that has interest me now If what I'm trying to understand for myself going forward my next 50 years my next book So anything has any any any wheels for me at all so it might be like scattered and messy and I don't really don't have a nice opening and crescendo I Don't have it I'm just gonna riff on a few things that I've been thinking about You know we get value from it My voice sounds a little scratchy bit. Oh well and besides all that You have enough information You've been consuming information for 10 years on an average here with books ebooks seminars forums Facebook groups programs and DVDs Stuff you've done YouTube videos You have consumed information massively And you have it packed in your head So you don't need more information from me And the only thing I want to get if I can tonight, and I'll try is to get Kind of a spirit if maybe you can feel What I've been trying to understand myself and what I'm still trying to understand going forward So I'm not gonna. I don't know. I'm just gonna wing it The information you have Like I said, you don't need more the information age Has run its course It really has because look at the misinformation that's out there everywhere now The miss the information age has run its course. It's it's it's it's overwhelmed with misinformation and You have enough in here so now The only task from this time forward for the rest of your life is how to take this massive amount of information that you have consumed And to lower it down here into your heart Lower it down into your into your gut and into your balls So you can feel something Right so instead of like talking women like hey Nice to meet you. What are you doing later? It's all It comes from here Hey, I'm just gonna say I like girls and you look like one. It's all I know Just saying Comes from here There's something that down shifts into your body if you're hanging out with me ever I'm like a joke joke fun talk talk Blah blah blah and I'm like I'm like anybody else as soon as there's the women something in me down shifts. I Can feel it And and there's something me that kind of like it's like what's this shape? What's that? What's that video game? Mortal Kombat and it's actually something that is shape-charged for her. That's right. You felt that I get it I'm over here with my buddies. Yeah You're not going away So there's something in in and and if you can catch a glimpse or catch and the the spirit of that get it out Of your head. We're all in her head. You know you get a negative thought let's say you go to a party and You don't know anybody there But you want to be interesting and kind and cool and interact and So you're like get out my nerve get in a state I'm gonna have to talk to this girl over here. Hey, hey What are you drinking there? Whatever you say and she's like He walks away and now you Get in your head You get this negative thought your head that says well that sucked She just reinforced that I suck you get this negative thought the circles around your head You know and it's like a bee If you have one bee circling around your head, it's kind of a nuisance if you have three or four That's your whole world You have three or four bees circling around your head doesn't matter what else is going on That's the only thing you can think about or concentrate on is that And these bees circle around your head and these thoughts build upon their the thoughts and then you think well that yeah I'm not interesting enough obviously and I don't know anybody here and this is stupid and I feel awkward and The thoughts the negative thoughts stop jump on top of each other And accelerate and accelerate and this swarm of bees was around your head and you can't escape it There's a whole doctrine out there says oh change your thoughts your life will change change your thoughts Your thoughts you can't Those thoughts are faster than you are You can't outrun the bees They're circling perfectly and if you're running as fast as you can they're still circling perfectly, right? Can't I run it? So How then do you take this knowledge you have in your head and Downshift it into your body So that now you're speaking from the way you feel as opposed to speaking from the way you think I Feel this that's all I know Just saying How do you downshift it? That's a good question. I Don't know the answer, but I know approximations of the answer and that is hmm How to put words on this if you want you know the information age is done And we want transformation We want embodiment that's what I'm talking about take it out of here and embody This knowledge that you consumed embody it here so you can feel it so the world could feel so you move with your belt Buckle forward as you walk into the room. Hello. I'm here feel that girls Comes from here and something's planted How do you do this? I tell you what's missing from from the heart of men and Trying to put words on it The sense of journey the sense of journey Everything with us is a loop. We have a job. We do the job. We get a promotion and it's just a slightly different loop We started relationship with a girl Ends after two and a half years in the loops back. We get another girl just like her And it's just looping energy And we don't have the sense that we're on Progressive move this way a sense of journey the story of stories Joseph Campbell's heroes journey that we have a sense of Transcendence in that direction We got this looping energy You know how we don't feel like we're progressing that we have anything to look forward to You know the feeling You get When a birthday comes around think about that Your birthday comes around again, and you're like a Year flew by I can't believe it's my birthday again and and everybody's like a happy birthday to you blow out the candles Celebration, but you don't feel celebration Inside you're nodding your head and smiling, but inside you feel that I'm not here the anxiety of like my birth it's the year flew by and And you get this anxiety this this sense of angst here, and it's like I can't believe the year just flew by and I'm already another year older and and when I you know, I'll tell you this because When I quit my corporate job And when I quit my corporate job you you can hear my story elsewhere I gave two months notice. I was an executive. I gave two months notice after thinking about for a long time and it's shocked me and scared me you can't imagine because I was going into nothing and I remember I gave two months notice because I was a senior guy and I remember in that two months. I would lay in my bed and I would And tears would stream down my my my eyes Because I thought what did I do? I give up that full ride pension All the benefits medical dental Gave it all up. I walked away from that. What am I doing? And I was scared and like what did I do? but I've never looked back and Incredibly because I didn't understand I didn't know that but the side effect was a birthday comes around again and It's just another day You don't feel that feeling okay, it's my birthday and I think Is you don't have that twinge? Anxiety here when you are on message When you're on journey on a journey You don't have it figured out you don't have full confidence you don't have this you don't know where your next step is But you know that you are taking steps to live a life of excellence to make excellent memories. That's all you know Yeah, so I Guess what I'm trying to say is If you truly want change and you do Or you wouldn't be here if you want transformation It's gonna take everything you've got and more And when I went to Nicaragua to work on my book and I disappeared from the internet for a few months And I sat there and I sweated in this cabin in a fishing village And I wore the same shorts and t-shirt every day no electricity and And I wanted to understand You know the the nature of what I was doing and the people there We're simple and I and the kindest and most happy as you can possibly imagine and Every three or four years a hurricane come through rip out all their cabins they build them again So they had this sense of living very much in the moment and I remember it came out of there To Amsterdam and I did a week in intensive there So from that to this to this world You know first world incredible culture and The only thing I can think you know those people are so happy and so and so kind and so And so caught up in the simple simplicity what they have and we have everything and I and I thought you know I came up with a phrase then and I believe with all my heart and I'll say it here every great life has had in it a Great renunciation Let me say that again Every great life has had in it a great renunciation There is no other way We think we can just like put some motivational things on Facebook Like some stuff Do some affirmations read another book? It's not enough It's not enough and we think Hugh Hefner just died and There's a video of Hugh Hefner an interview when he was 88 so three years ago and He's and which remarkable about the the thing he said about himself notes to notes to sell for something is called Go watch if you haven't seen it And he said There were moments in my life where I completely reinvented myself completely I consciously Chose to have a new way of thinking a new persona a new path He consciously chose it by sheer force of will and I believe That you really need to reinvent yourself every decade or so What I mean by that everything Everything Well, then that's irresponsible because I have didn't well, okay Yeah, we think we have to have it all figured out. We have to save some money. We have to get ready. We have to prepare Security, you know, it wasn't too long ago That men just like you and you and you and you and you and you and you and you and you not you and you Not too long ago That men just like you went to see in ships Didn't get medical insurance before they went They had no safety surety security But they went They followed the romance of their hearts that I had to go And there's nothing and they could you know, there was no safety net for them. I Mean nowadays we backpack around your for six months, but no you're going from ATM to ATM right that sense of moving through through life of the state of grace Hmm and then we say Okay, but I have like I have trauma and I have like issues and I have this childhood My childhood was not good and I'm trying to sort this out Hmm My childhood was not good. I was in foster homes from four years old For two years, and I don't remember the people's names. I just remember the people And I remember they beat me with an inch of my life And they locked me in closets because I was the babysitter the closet Learned how to count to a hundred by myself in a closet figured it out sitting there in a dark closet. I Saw violence might one of my first memories in the foster home is a gun pointed at my head. I don't know what happened Drunken party. I don't know So I was a scared kid and So What's my point here My point is this Has there ever been in all of history Good childhoods in every culture in every generation before us. There's been dad is dragged off the war mommy Can't feed us so she's not feeding herself so she can give us food sister died from some incurable disease that would not happen today all of childhoods and all of history were a Nasty brutish and short thing those Hobbes said that Right and all of history They've always been like The you know destructive and trouble and trump traumatic and yet we're the only generation That sits and dwells on it contemplates it tries to resolve it To resolve my childhoods before I can have any forward momentum All of the generation said yeah, okay. Well that I was abused. I was abandoned. I was betrayed. I was hurt right I'm gonna leave that behind and go and find out what I'm made of now. I am not trying to diminish You know thoughtful and helpful Therapy or counseling. I don't mean that at all But when we use it as our crutch as our excuse As our victim we're a victim It's time to put the way childish things, you know And say no not no more because I tell you that vile mean authority figure From your childhood Who hurt you in some way Cannot touch you now can't touch you you're mad and at some point, you know, why did you see the time there? At some point because no one's gonna do it for you No one's gonna do it for you You have to look in the mirror and see that little boy That little boy who is sincere he meant well. He didn't mean it then he got stomped on and It's up to you to look in the mirror and say there and see that little boy and he's sad I'll tell you something because You think you know like all the confident guys that goes to life like rah rah You know everything's all cool but that Energy and that concept of sadness as a theme That runs as a thread through your life Everybody has it that pretty girl over there has a theme of sadness from something in childhood You do too, but the great thing is you integrate that as part of your whole who you are That thread of sadness is what makes you Become emotional at a sunset or a work of art or some music that makes a goose bumpy here That comes from the sadness of your life That's why art has any kind of value and traction with you So you embrace it and say yeah, I'm not completely confident and what but at least I'm At least I'm here You can do this Sick that little boy in the mirror you can look at him and which is you no one else is going to I promise you that You can look at him and say you know what? At least you're one thing and no one can take it away from you You're a student of life You can give yourself that label right now because you're here Trying to understand your path trying to find the path of excellence trying to find your role You're dynamic with women you're trying to find that energy of you moving forward that Transcendent progression through life to get out of these loops You can call yourself now a student of life and that's absolutely 100% true and no one can take it away from you You've arrived Hey, I'm a student of life. You can talk to a girl and she's like well. I don't like you said that well, hey I'm trying to be dynamic and interesting I wanted to interact with you. I came talk to you and Because I'm a student of life. I want to understand my role in this on this earth. I'm a student of life She cannot say to you. Well, no, you're not She's how I reject that That can't be rejected. That is absolute truth You can go home look in the mirror every single day, you know and say you know what I said something stupid tonight that girl But I'm a student of life No one can take it away or diminish that from you forever That's the only thing you need to say to yourself from this point on and if you have that sincerity because that little boy in you was sincere he meant well and I have the belief that you're sincere now You try you really want to have it and get be engaging be kind have somebody to love you love somebody be sweet Be cool be interesting that's sincerity and if you have that and you're sincerely trying to engage in a girl's as well You can forgive yourself everything Everything from your past till now you could forgive yourself everything forgiveness is huge You can forgive that little boy. It's okay. It's gonna be okay. I got you And you forgive everything every seeming mistake you made if you're sincere your honest your intentions I said before maybe it's I'm gonna repeat myself, but I'll say it again the bears repeating when you make love To a beautiful woman a Woman that you adore and she receives you and she takes you in Because make no mistake. I don't care what you're hearing out there in the world the energy and the divine birthright of men When you're God-given energy is a thrusting Penetrative energy. It's you thrusting. It's you desiring to bend the world over That is divine and we think oh, okay. Well you society says well men are like one step away from being a rapist and You stopped at the playground there and look the kids playing so you pedophile Right That's him. That's a sin Don't buy into it. Don't listen to it walk away from that energy. It's a sin perpetuated on men the energy of man is to thrust and penetrate and give his greatest effort and the greatest energy of the female spirit is To receive and when you make love to a beautiful woman who receives When you first penetrate her and she's receiving you with it in the feminine grace Everything in that moment is forgiven That energy forgives you for all mistakes all the hurts all the things you did in the past It's all forgiven because she receives and she rebirths you women with that energy the female spirit The beauty of the female spirit the giving Rebirthing energy the birth you and they have the power to rebirth you and now is forgiven in that moment And then we say wait a minute. I don't meet girls like that I'm on tinder swiping Right and it's poking in holes and like let's right I get that I understand women have shed The beauty of the feminine spirit just like men have shed the beauty of the masculine spirit And this is really this is a reclamation. This is a trying to say We want to understand that again. We want to reclaim the polarity and the beauty We want to say I'm a man and I like women and I like the shape of women and I don't apologize for that No, I know Because God made me that way none of this toxic shame you you Quasi rapist you right don't buy into any of that Don't accept it. So I mean that the There's a discourse going on in the world today you guys are all aware of and It's a lot of voices on either side of the aisle and I'm saying, you know Hmm. There's no there's no there's nothing heroic in that conversation Take an end run around it Let's go over there. Okay, you guys knitter and natter over here. We're going over here. Let's go in this direction. I was on a radio show in Montreal and it was a nightly sex talk radio show while ago and She said to me, okay, Zana asked all my guests this So I'll ask you to see what your answer is. What do you think about pornography? And what it has done for the state of our intimacy and and our relationships and how we view our bodies and What is it done? Because it's so prevalent and it's everywhere and We think it's shifted in the consciousness of this modern age and I'm like Hmm I don't really have an answer to that. I have no response to that now I am as aware as anybody that the prevalence of pornography has some impact on The way we view our bodies the way we view view our sexual energy. I get that I get that However, there's a lot of voices Pro and con talking about that. You don't need my opinion stacked on top of it So it's something I just haven't investigated thought about or spent any time trying you'll never hear me talk social commentary What do you think about this and feminism? I don't know Not interesting to me at all at all I Want to understand something else I want to understand what's what is the measure of a man? What makes us feel alive what makes us feel like we're we're we're We're moving forward with with grace and beauty energy. What makes us feel like we're treasure hunters Right. Where's that spark? Where's the joy? Where's the joy in any of it? You see So, I don't know. I mean, that's it me Take an end run around it. There's a there's a here's a perspective for you Because it really Shocks my mind if I'm on an airplane. I've traveled a lot. I'm always on airplanes and Then you think well, you know, like don't you get nervous on a plane? Like the plane might crash and There's something in me. You know, like if I get any twinge, which you know that man, what if this plane goes down? Now I'm gonna go down with it You know what kind of kicks into my heart and look around at all the other people sitting on the plane the family over there and It's an old dude there There's a girl there. It's pretty And I think if I go down the plane was down there. I'll go on too How am I special? That perspective like I don't know. It just blows my mind. There's a book by Ernest Becker Think that's right Called the denial of death this 80s. I think he wrote it or something the denial of death and his thesis is this We spend our entire lives the time we're born all the way in denial of the fact that we're going to die So everything we do enterprise business substances binge watching Netflix is Just to avoid the thought because I can't I don't want to think about it. That's some day. We are going to return to the earth Can't escape it and the other thing's thesis he had was because you know that you look at the dual nature of man The animals are the animals with instincts a dog, you know eats sleeps humps The dog doesn't think about the Picasso over there Right, we don't think and we don't know But we do we abstract Locke said beasts abstract not and we think an abstract we think about beauty We think about our childhood we think about where we're gonna go what we want to accomplish in life We our hopes and dreams we think about art Architecture we think these things and so we have this illusion that we are Approaching the divine This dual nature of man we're we're divine because we think divine thoughts But we're also gonna go back into the earth Just like any other animal and and the other thing he says and it's true no matter how pretty that girl is and How accomplished she is and how great and whatever we think she is She can't escape the fact every now and then She has to take a long runny shit Can't escape it. That's a reminder that we're heading to the grave And when you step back from this perspective all the girl didn't text me back That's a low low low perspective. You step back to the wait a minute One of these days I'm gonna be dead Do you think on that level the oblivion of the grave that we're going toward? That's a perspective to have You know when I see a portrait a photograph for instance of a young woman from 1890 wearing a feather hat She wanted a little bit of her breasts and she's like smiling at the camera. You've seen these right these vintage photographs. I Could stare at that for an hour all I can think is That pretty girl if she was here today Like wow, she's pretty 120 years ago whatever was she's young She's beautiful. She's desired She has desires. She had talents. We don't know about maybe she could whistle. Maybe she could knit a nice sweater Maybe she fell in love with somebody. Maybe she wanted to move to New York City and none of it matters at all today Forgotten all of her talents all of her dreams everything I mean nothing and That's us. That's us 100 years from now No one's gonna remember What you tried to do. So the whole point I guess I'm trying to make is Fight for that energy fight for like it doesn't matter It really doesn't matter. I mean you in the book Ecclesiastes in the Bible go read that book Well, geez and I don't believe in the fairy tale read it Go read the book It's written 800 years before Marcus Aurelius and the Stoics came along and said oh, you know, which is the same thing. I'm saying two thousand years ago The Stoics had this idea which is kind of like a Buddhist thing, which is like There's there's no Good or bad, but thinking makes it so that Shakespeare, right? It doesn't matter Stoicism 800 years before that or so The book of Ecclesiastes said there's nothing new under the Sun back that vanity vanity all this vanity The writer of the book King Solomon presumably said this I Acquired wealth above the end all the men of the earth. I Had wisdom above all the many of the earth. I had enterprises and companies. I had women Solomon had hundreds of wives and thousand concubines. He was a horn dog Right he acquired all these things. He had all this above all men and He said when I surveyed it all all his vanity, which means It means nothing. So that perspective The perspective of the grave the perspective of the oblivion of the grave. I don't mean to be so morbid but Makes you realize you guys say to me, okay. Well, this is and you say head toward the light Head toward it, but there is no light Everybody's mean everybody's suspicious. Everybody's attacking everybody's There is no light. Well, guess what? Then be the light consciously choose like Hugh Hefford did consciously choose because as you start to give Your grace and your energy and your inviting spirit to others They start to shine around you. That's the way it works the greatest men Who have women in their lives? What the one of the the greatest quality these men have is a generosity of spirit They want you and you and you and you Do you have a great time in their presence to shine in their presence? I don't know how many here have been in Romania in my place. I don't know but my place is always filled with girls my Love the girl Deanna and her girlfriends are always there and we have we always have like a people in the space Play a big guitar Hang out have a glass of wine and What you'll never see in my place? It's true. I think so. Yeah, as you'll never see like this 10 people sitting around. You'll never see two people paired off Like this blah blah blah blah Because I want to allow it because I want the energy to come to the center I want you and you and you so I'll interrupt say hey, hey tell that story you told me earlier today. I was funny tell the whole group It's an inviting into this into the center so that no one is dis-included If if you're ever near me You weren't a group and I see everybody's talking and you're sitting quietly. No one's getting me. I'm instantly come here Did you meet this girl yet? Come here. You gotta meet this girl because Because I know how it feels I know how it feels To be not included And I won't allow it or near me at all because I know how it feels. It's this doesn't feel good So if you're in it social energy with me, I'm like hey, this is my buddy. You didn't mean to me I come here. Come eat. Come eat this guy. I'm like in throwing everybody in the center constantly and Hmm the opposite of generosity of spirit is Judgmentalism is that a word judgmental to be judgmental That's the worst quality a man or a woman can have to be judgmental. I don't like that. I don't like that girl because That's the worst quality Rip that out of your heart if you have any twinge of that at all So I don't know guys like I Guess I'm pretty abstract on I Didn't give you any like concrete like then you do this and then you say hey While I hope like I said I just can do some musings up here What I'm trying to understand for myself Because my next 50 years The only thing I'm trying to understand is I'm kind of done with the conversation of men and women doesn't mean I know everything it just means I'm kind of like I Spent my whole life trying to understand women. It's all I've ever done since I was 18 I Have done nothing else I had no other hobbies But that I want to know I went out wherever women gonna be I'm gonna go there by myself to the mall by myself to the bars I play a little bit of guitar, but just because I thought girls are like it. I Did nothing else but pursue the hearts and minds of women. I want to know And I and I you know I wrote in my book that women have been my teachers No man ever taught me something but women have been my teachers and it doesn't mean that women are enlightened and say let me tell you Something about women. No women are just lost as we are They have no clue either I learned from women by osmosis by observing by Wait a minute. She said this and I heard that before and maybe this so there's no woman ever actually You know said it. I'm gonna teach you something Just by observing the dynamic and the rhythm and the flow Because it is a rhythm and flow That's why you hear people say it doesn't matter what you say and it does it Because if you're from your head like I talked about earlier Then it's all like hey We like me there's something interesting to say to you and I got a joke and we like me and it doesn't come from here which is Which is your grounded beautiful Lower energy I'll touch on that. Maybe I've said it before I'm gonna say it anyway Because I think it's incredible Because I didn't know this Everything I say I'm saying to my young cell believe me and I did not know this I Was the guy trying to be cool all the time? Walk around with imaginary lats Right and lean against the bar by myself till two in the morning when the bar closes Didn't do anything too afraid to approach the girls There's an energy that we put into the world Which is our energy that starts from here our solar plexus our heart Whatever shocker, I don't know why these things but it comes from here and it goes up and out into the world You can feel it is that there's a masculine energy that goes like this starts from here and flows out into the world This is you being gracious. How you doing brother? This is you say can I get you more wine? Can I get your coat? This is you being telling a joke. Hey guys, you're gonna love this story There's a great charming Beautiful masculine energy that goes out into the world this way up and out and that's a necessary Excellent, that's empathy curiosity humor all these things And then from the same center of gravity You have a lower moving energy Starts here and goes down And out and it floats on a floor like base And it's you can feel it and it's your desire to Bend the world over It's your dark forest It's your sexual desire It's your thrusting nature It's your mischief Did I just say that? Yeah, I think I just said that you better believe I said it you liked it it's that and All of our instruction out there not all but 98% Is how to be more this Toastmasters how to tell jokes how to be funny how to entertain the girls hey girls I got a question for you. It's all upper energy That energy is a high energy is a necessary energy, but if it isn't counterbalanced by that lower moving vibrational energy That plants into the floor like roots of a tree You're the nice guy You're top-heavy You talked to a girl. Hey, uh, who's nice talking to you would like to go over coffee at some time Oh, I'm sorry. I have a boyfriend. I didn't mean it and we flinch The Matrix like this, right? I'm sorry. I didn't mean anything by it What yes, you did I Just thought maybe we could have coffee since I didn't I'm sorry. I didn't know he had a boyfriend Because we're top-heavy we have nothing down here That grounds us that counterbalances all these great things your charm your your beauty Your fun spontaneity all these things and if you're only lower energy You're a pig. You're a creep. You're invasive. Um, why would you say that? Why would you do that? Right because it's not balanced and the integrated man is both Our modern man is this only We know what wine to order we know how to massage a girl can't get her in the mood Women are always in the mood You know Do you get anything from this conference at all take that back home with you your sexual energy? Which has been slapped out of you by society and the media and Everything is from God. You have to believe that Thrusting energy and the beauty of the feminine spirit Which is lacking as well, which we can't find anywhere is to receive and to rebirth The greatest women are the ones who see the potential in you that you do not see yourself they inspire you and When you have a girl You want to be proud of your girl because that's my girl over there not proud of the eye candy. She is But proud because that's my girl and I like her who she is what she represents what she's trying to do in her own life That's a good girl If you don't have that kind of proud pride for your girl break up serious If she doesn't have that for you their respect and pride and really admire you you have to admire each other I think that's Anyway, I Have four minutes left I Don't know if it had any kind of value for you guys But it's what I'm thinking constantly and I can't sleep because I'm thinking about it all the time I'm trying to read it right another book and I Can't form it That's correct. I Like this guy But I will do it like the world can end because I could do this book. So I'm not worried You don't come out of me, but you know what it's true because that this book the alabaster girl Let's go get it if you don't have it Okay, and let me know what you think Let me know what you think about it. It's my life's work. It's for under pated That book came from my hard one hard earned hard scrabbling Experiences and I vomited out of my system and I feel like my next book. I Don't have anything. I have to I Have to I have to go To the ancients. I don't know But I know what the theme of the book is. I know what it feels like. I know the pattern of it I know the name know the title, but I won't tell you But I just can't Shape it I'm missing something and But I'm excited because I have to fight for it so I guess my closing message because I got two minutes left is is Keep seeking that mystery go fight for the energy of the mystery Answers whatever Keep always looking for the trajectory of what is makes you alive. What makes you shine be the light like I said and others Will follow into it Be generous with your spirit be gracious be kind welcome others in give Forgive yourself Forgive that little boy who meant well Forgive yourself because you meant well last week when you talked to a girl and said I don't like that But your heart was sincere. I guess I'm done. I have bookmarks for everybody. I think I have enough I'll hide them up Go to alabastergirl.com It's It what I had I had two thousand copies print they're stacked up in my apartment and And I was signing them sending them out now The only thing you have to pay is shipping the cost and I'll sign and send it to you anywhere in the world They were it was seven ninety five eight dollars, but then my my lovely and illustrious Romanian business partner Serene said the postage went up and now it's ten dollars to send the books out So I was losing to all our books. So it's now ten bucks. So but it's but it's cost. Believe me. That's it I'll sign it. I'll send it to you put your full name and you know your address and everything I'll send it to you. But let me know what you think Because you know I don't know Question oh, I guess I should have taken questions that we had a time so I very much like your vibe and I also Every time I went out and had more of your vibe like focusing on energy focusing on the flow Focusing, you know on the small things letting us just develop I was always more successful than if I just was there with my brain just you know like analytical German style so You're always on time though. Yeah, I know so it said but but I think what we all Struggle with and you said, you know, don't judge. It's one of the things get rid of this But I think what we do and a lot of times we have our jobs, which you know, we judge there where Where we get sick some sometimes from that we have We look on Twitter. We look on with turn on the TV. We see the news going on. We judge there Yeah, we just do have any tips, you know how we can How we can you know in our environment which is full of you know BS again, I'm judging here No, you know, you absorb this five so we can you know and and focusing more. I don't know. I don't know the world is saturated with this Violent discourse, I don't know what the answer is. I really don't Like it's easy to say. Well, just check out of it. But you know, we live a life of connected connectedness I Have to be on Facebook because that's how I connect with my family and other people You know, so I don't know the answer to that I think it's just a conscious choice to say Nope, I don't want it That doesn't serve me to get into that dialogue does not serve me. I don't doesn't doesn't Serve me if you're if you're a seeker and you're a student of life And if you're a seeker, which is a beautiful beautiful energy to be then I don't know I Don't know the answer to your question. I really don't it's a difficult time one more question over here we came Okay Thanks guys