 Testing, testing, probably would help if I had a mirror so I couldn't actually see what I'm doing. Okay, eight years later. Hey guys, welcome back to my channel or welcome if you're new. Oh my God, this took a hot minute to set up. Using my good external microphone, so I don't know. It's usually good at canceling out noise but my dog is currently eating so if you can hear him chomping, I apologize. And also I'm hoping that there's not a really bad echo. I'm just trying my best here, okay? And of course I'm doing this with like a little bit of a time crunch. I got an hour before I need to head out the door so I think we'll be good. But I am about to get ready. I just got home from work a little while ago and I am going to dinner with some of my friends. I'm actually gonna be the fifth wheel. Love that for me. But I figured it's been a while since I've just done like a sit down chatty video and I thought why not just record as I'm getting ready and let's do a Q and A. I asked you guys on Instagram last night if you had any questions for me and I got a lot of responses. Thank you very much for that by the way. Before we jump into the questions though I did wanna give a shout out to the sponsor of this video dossier. If you've been watching me for a while you know this is my go to. Ambry Saffron from dossier. I wear it every single day. Sometimes I'll switch it up and do something different but it's always dossier. All of my perfumes at this point are from dossier. They make replicas of brand name, well-known designer fragrances but they are in simpler packaging without the retailer markups, celebrity marketing, all of the things that make the exact same perfume so much more expensive. So dossier is able to offer their perfumes in some cases 70 to 90% less. So you're getting the exact same thing, same high quality, but for way less money. I just don't understand why you wouldn't and personally I like the look of the simpler packaging. I think it looks really nice on my dresser and having multiple bottles that all look the same. It's just, it's very aesthetically pleasing rather than having like a bunch of different bottles that are all different shapes and colors. But yeah, the Ambry Saffron like I said is my favorite. It's been my go-to one for over two years now. It is a dupe or replica of the Baccarat Rouge 540 perfume which is very expensive but because I get this from dossier and it is so much more affordable I can wear it every single day and not feel as guilty about it. And I'm telling you this lasts on me all day long. I am constantly getting complimented on a regular basis. People are always asking me what perfume I'm wearing. If you guys want to check them out I will have a link and a discount code in the description. They are now also available at Walmart so you can shop in store or online if you would prefer to do that. I know that it's easier to be able to actually like test out a perfume in person first but if you do order it online dossier has a really good return policy but if you have like a go-to signature set and you're normally buying like the brand name version of it I highly recommend go check out dossier see if they have a replica for it and start getting it from there because you are gonna save yourself so much money. Thank you so much dossier for continuing to work with me. They are like one of my longest running sponsorships and they've been a huge supporter of my channel and I love working with them because I really genuinely love these perfumes and I've turned everyone in my personal life onto them and I know a lot of you guys now are dossier fans as well. So let me pull up the questions. I'm not going to talk much about the makeup that I'm using but I will link everything in order in the description. Okay, first question. Where would your dream vacation be? Ooh, I don't really know honestly. I don't know just off the top of my head right now I would say like an all-inclusive resort in a tropical location either with a group of my girlfriends or with a sexy man would be really nice. How to make friends after moving? I'm struggling. Now that I am back to working in a salon I've been able to make friends through work but if you are in a situation like I was when I first moved here where you work from home I would say go on social media. Facebook has a lot of local groups that you can join. Before I started working at the salon I actually made a lot of friends through Instagram oddly enough. If you just look under the location like the geo tag of your town you can just scroll through the pictures on there and if you see somebody that looks like you'd be friends with them go to their page see if they actually live in the same town as you and if they do follow them maybe comment on a picture send them a DM and just be like oh hey this might be kind of weird but I'm new to the area and I came across your page I saw that you also live in the same town I don't know and you can kind of become social media friends with them first and then maybe ask to meet them for coffee or something obviously be careful and smart about it or you can also try like Bumble BFF I tried that when I first moved here but nothing ended up coming of it but that's always an option too I don't know you gotta kind of just put yourself out there and I know it can be a little uncomfortable sometimes especially if you're not like naturally an extroverted person I wish you the best of luck and I'm sure you will make friends eventually it just takes a little bit of time oh how's your love life? I don't know it is so complicated I don't even know what to say if you listen to my podcast which by the way I have a podcast with my friend Julia it's called Girls Who Get It podcast I will link it down below I was talking in a recent episode about how my ex was in town visiting me so trying to figure out that whole situation I'm honestly not really sure what I want or what is right for me who's right for me it's like one of those things where I wanna talk about it online sometimes cause I feel like it could be really relatable and possibly helpful for me too to like get some insight and like third party opinions but at the same time it's such a personal thing too and it involves another person and I feel weird like sharing that publicly but if I do end up talking about it more it most likely will be my podcast so please go subscribe to that it'll be linked in the description like I said we have a YouTube channel and we're also on Apple Podcasts and Spotify but yeah other than that the love life is pretty dry I'm not like currently dating I was on the apps again for like a hot second but that very quickly got discouraging and don't have any apps on my phone right now and I'm not actively looking for anything or dating or anything like that I'm just living my life just try to enjoy being on my own I will say having my ex here did make me realize how much I appreciate my personal space and like my alone time and living by myself so yeah I'm just trying to enjoy that for as long as I can and let the universe do what it needs to do and you know whatever is meant to be will be kind of thing how do you stay motivated while working from home? Oof, I don't know I don't I really don't I have such a hard time with that actually before I ever went to cosmetology school I did online marketing and like social media management and we had the option to work from home and I just couldn't do it like as much as I wanted to stay home I chose to go into the office every day because when I stayed home I just had such a hard time holding myself accountable and staying motivated I think with doing YouTube it's a little bit different because I'm working for myself and I don't follow a super strict schedule unless I have like a brand deal and it's due by a certain time I do think though like having a designated office space in your home helps and like sticking to a strict routine and like getting ready and pretending like you're actually going into the office because I feel like for me if I'm just like sitting on the couch and I stay in my pajamas I'm not gonna be in work mode and I'm not gonna wanna actually get stuff done What made you start YouTube and was it a slow start? It definitely was a slow start I've been on YouTube now for 10 years and I mean even now my channel's not big I'm considered like a small influencer still What made me wanna start was I was in college at the time and I was just feeling very lost and I was having a hard time adjusting to the college life and I didn't really want to be there and YouTube was just my creative outlet so I would just do it like in between classes in my bedroom Would you ever move back to PA? I don't think so I was actually just talking to my friend earlier today about this My family, like my immediate family at the moment is still in Pennsylvania but my mom, even way before I moved down here she always said that she was gonna move down south She's just like waiting to retire basically so her plan was never to stay there anyway and then the rest of my family is like spread out all over the place So there's really no reason like once my parents move out of Pennsylvania there's nothing there for me There's no, like yeah I have friends I guess but there's no reason for me to move back there to move back there How's your fitness journey going? It's going well I have been consistently working out now since the beginning of January I will say I've been having a little bit of a tough time staying like super strict throughout summer because I've been traveling a lot I've had friends come and stay with me and we've just been going out a lot you know there's been a lot of like going out to eat, drinking, stuff like that and I've been very conflicted with like do I force myself to stay strict or do I just enjoy my summer and enjoy my life but like I've still been exercising and I feel really good I feel strong, I feel healthy I actually just went to the gym earlier today so it's going well I am looking forward though like once summer's over I really wanna like kick it into high year and get stricter again especially with my nutrition a bunch of questions about dating how's dating going, are you dating at the moment definitely I'm telling you subscribe to my podcast if you aren't already because any of those kinds of updates that I ever have you will hear them first on the podcast what do you find is the hardest thing to do in the hair industry love your videos by the way thank you so much honestly the hardest thing is dealing with people cause I feel like any of the technical stuff you can practice and you can get better at it but the dealing with people never gets easier because even if you get better at it and you have a lot of experience and you know how to handle certain situations I feel like you never fully become numb to it when you have like a difficult client or somebody that's just really mean or inconsiderate how has your mental health been lately aww, I like that question and I appreciate you asking my mental health has been really good I mean, don't get me wrong like I have my bad days obviously I was just kind of going through it the last few days and I was kind of having a rough time but I would say overall it's been really good and this is also why I have no intention of moving back north any time soon because I feel like ever since I moved down here the weather affects me so much and I always thought that but to actually see it in action is a crazy thing like I would get really bad seasonal depression but ever since I moved down here that has not happened to me and I definitely like in the first I would say six months of living here it's been almost two years now December will be two years if you can believe it it's crazy how fast time flies but the first six months were hard and my anxiety was the worst it's ever been in my whole life but I think it was just from like all the big life changes you know I went through a breakup I moved 600 miles away from all of my close friends and my family to a place where I didn't know anyone and I didn't know what was gonna happen how I was gonna adjust how I was gonna like it here I was taking a break from hair at the time and I was trying to decide what I wanted to do career wise it was just a lot a lot of change all at once but now that I've adjusted and I feel like everything is in order I have a good routine I have a full life here I feel great so I've been good would you ever get Benny a puppy sibling? well that was running low and now it just got all over my dress and like barely anything got on my face so that's cool love that for me whatever it'll dry yeah I really would love to like I could totally see myself with like five dogs honestly but not anytime soon because right now I'm just in a little one bedroom apartment it's like 600 square feet it's very tight in here so it would just be like way too cramped when the time comes that I eventually have a house with a backyard ideally a fenced in backyard I absolutely would love to get another dog how has your no birth control journey been? it's been great I've been off the pill actually this month made two years since I stopped taking it I was on the birth control pill for many many years I stopped taking it at one point in college because it was always making me nauseous and then I had all these terrible symptoms stopped getting a period was breaking out like crazy and so my gynecologist like basically scared me into getting back on it because she wasn't really offering much help she was just kind of like yeah I think you have PCOS so you have to get back on the pill and then I finally just bit the bullet two years ago and I stopped taking it and I haven't had any negative symptoms and I've felt amazing and I can just feel myself getting more in tune with my body and I can feel that my body is working the way it's supposed to like my periods are so regular it comes exactly like every 28 days and I don't get period cramps anymore and my periods are like pretty light and they're not super long and now I recently like within the last few months I can feel when I'm ovulating like for a while I would get symptoms like I could tell it was happening but now I can straight up feel it and I can feel like which side I'm ovulating from it's crazy and I always would hear women say that I knew that that was a possibility but I had never experienced it and obviously when you're on the pill you're not ovulating so yeah it's really crazy how everything is just like working the way it's supposed to now I love it I feel amazing it's a little tricky as far as like preventing pregnancy but because my period is so regular I can track and I know like when I'm fertile and when I'm not not that it matters because I am single and not seeing anybody so last time you had sex wow okay that's really hilarious after we were just talking about this well my ex was here like I said but prior to that it had been like eight months what do you think about one night stands have you done it I get attached it's too personal I have done it also sorry to my mom who I know is watching right now I have nothing against it like I do you know as long as whatever you're doing is consensual you're not hurting anybody you're being safe you're being smart do whatever you want to do do what makes you happy but for me at this point in my life I'm kind of over that and I say like let's be real if you're hooking up with somebody that you don't really know they don't care to make it good like as women you know it takes more for most of us anyway to like enjoy the experience and if you're just with I mean I guess there are some guys that like they will put in that effort but I feel like a lot of the times if it's just like a one time thing and they don't know you they don't really care about you like they're just being selfish and they're just worried about getting themselves off so it's like it's probably not even gonna be that good for you so what's even the point you could have just like stayed home with a toy and not risk an STD or pregnancy and that's my thing too like I'm so paranoid all of a sudden lately about STDs so I'm just like let's do one last question I also am kind of like losing daylight here so have you ever had a friend breakup because of a disagreement or something shady? I've had two friend breakups the first one happened in high school and I don't even really remember if there was like a big event that occurred that caused us to stop being friends I think it was just kind of like a gradual thing we just kind of like drifted and we're butting heads a lot but then we reconnected in college and we never like we were best friends for years and we never got back to that same place cause I think as we got older we just really became very different people so we're not nearly as close as we used to be but we are still friends and then the other one again we have been friends forever and we actually last year kind of got into it and it was just kind of like a combination of things I just kind of got to a point where I feel like especially when you have your friends that you've known since like childhood you just kind of keep them around and you tolerate things like even if they're not the greatest friend to you and they don't really treat you that well or maybe you don't really love the way they treat other people or just the way they are as a person but you just kind of keep them around anyway cause they've been in your life forever and you don't really think much of it but like if you were to just meet them now at this point in your life you probably wouldn't be friends with them or not as close anyway that's kind of what the situation was like and I kind of got to a point where I was like you're kind of being an asshole it wasn't like one specific thing it was just kind of like a combination of things that had built up for a while and I also just kind of felt like she wasn't putting in the same kind of effort that I was putting into our friendship I felt like if it wasn't for me we wouldn't even really be friends anymore friend breakups are almost as bad as relationship breakups but I think that's important especially as you get older it's like why are you gonna make time in your life for people that don't deserve it and don't deserve to be in your life you know like I am really trying to honor my peace and I feel like in order for you to be a part of my inner circle you have to really earn that but anyway there were still a bunch of questions left so if you guys would like me to do another Q&A soon let me know give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed this and don't forget to check the description for my link and discount code to dossier and I will see you really soon in my next video bye