 E'n dewis o'r holl. From bellach, swyddiwch y boll ffaith. That looks good and you lower it and the shelf is like... I put me off, I would have given up, because I had the expectation that everything was going to go well. Lose the expectations. When you played as a kid, you didn't have expectations, you just enjoyed. Revelling in the challenge. You enjoyed the skill, you enjoyed taking the risk. So when I talk to people, I don't look for the end result. Ac yn gweithio y gweithio, yn gweithio dda nhw'n gweithio. A nhw'n gweithio go i gweithio a'r angen i'ch bwysig a wneud, a chyddwyddaeth i'ch gweithio aer o'n gweithio. Na'r angen i gweithio i'ch gweithio i'ch gweithio i'ch gweithio a chyddwyddaeth i gweithio. Ac nhw'n gweithio gweithio ag oed. Adonai! Mae'n cael ei wneud. Fy oed yn eich cynnau? Rwyf ni'n gweithio i gweithio yr yng Nghymru. Gweithio wybosol, Those are clear. Are taking action. Action is everything. Frydman said an ounce of action is worth aneo of theory. Here's why. I think to myself that one of the greatest converse sites is The Live. Let won't listen to me saying that. It will come down on its little cloud and say to me, You said you're the greatest conversachi us alive. Let's see how good you are now. And it put me in positions where I've got to have conversations with people. I might be on the tube, I might be on the subway, I might be in the line at the coffee shop. Life's putting all these opportunities for me to talk to people. If I step up and I take the conversation and I do it, and I open my mouth and I go, Oh, hi! I've taken action. Even though it could have been done better, yes it could. But I took the action. And the action gives me a link of chain. Every time I take action, I get another link of chain. Every time I don't take action, chain breaks. Don't break the chain. So what you need to do is find something you want, whether it's to be the best soccer player, whether it's to be able to squat 100kg, whether it's to just have a conversation with that girl in the coffee shop. Whatever it is, life will hear you when you want it and it will put you in a position when you can take action. The result is meaningless. Sometimes you'll get a result that you enjoy. You know, that girl might smile or she might give you her number. You might lift 100kg. That's great. The world patted you on the back then. And that's nice when that happens. But that's not consistent. You can always pat your own back. Always. That's what keeps you feeling good. That's what keeps you feeling happy. And when you're feeling that kind of happiness, that's what comes out when you talk to people because it's the emotions you make them feel. My thought is this. The homework I want to give you, oh, homework, or the plan of action I would give you, is find something that you can play with. That sounds a bit rude. No. Cos we can all do that. No, what I was going to say is the next time you're out in a situation and it could be out of this room, it could be on the train home tonight, it could be in the bar tonight, it could be anywhere. Look at the room and think, what could I do that's fun here? What would make me laugh? What would make you laugh? It's not about making other people laugh. It's about making you smile and do it. So, for me, it's being on a train and realizing I've got a bottle of vodka in my pocket but I've put water in it. And I'm thinking, okay, this would be fun to see if I can empty this entire train carriage and unscrew the bottle, say, okay, look around, I drink the vodka and put my hands over my eyes and go, oh. Two people get up and leave. Good, good, this is good so far. Thinking, okay, behind my face I'm like, how can I get them all to leave? Start crying. Fall over the person next to you. It's just harmless. My record is five minutes so I urge you to give it a go and beat it. You see, it's not about confidence. Confidence is bullshit. It's about not giving a damn. Now, if I could express that, and we're lucky we've got video here, you can't express this in a book but not giving a damn really comes down to this. It's like, hey, we should go and talk to those people and your action is meh. It's just the feeling of meh. If you get a good result, great. If you get a bad result, meh. It's not about going, yeah, this is going to go amazing. It's bullshit. It's about walking up and just dealing with what happens and whatever does happen, know that you can deal with it and make it happy because life's going to throw you that stuff. The world around you is going to throw stuff towards you, emotions towards you. You've got to grab them, take them, and be able to laugh at them. I'm afraid of them back. A good friend of mine is the next speaker that I called Sasha. He taught me a very good one. In the coffee shop, look for somebody who's about to take a sandwich. What you do is you walk up, not giving a damn, and as they lean for their sandwich and they reach towards it, do your best Bruce Lee impression and grab the sandwich, they will feel shock. They will be the most terrifying sandwich they have ever grabbed in their entire life. They'll be in shock and you talk to them straight away and you say, do you know what? That's the most terrifying sandwich you'll ever, ever buy, but it's good news because every sandwich you now buy will be a luxury. The food will taste better. It will be brilliant. And they're like, that's extreme, but you're making them feel an emotion. You're different from every other person in the room. So to me, charisma, it's just communicating with emotion. Now, there's ways to do that. It's all about your belief. It's knowing who you are. That's the ultimate question. Who the heck are you? And even then, the answer isn't something you'd maybe have with words. I could say my belief in myself, who I am, is just that I'm cool or I'm awesome. It could be. But really, do I even have to say that? It's just about knowing. I'm not going to look for evidence around me, though, because the world is chaotic place. Just as I looked at my hand, and you see this perspective and I see this perspective, everything that happens when I talk to people, however I look at it, determines what evidence I take from it. So whatever our belief is in ourself, it needs evidence to exist. If we don't have that evidence, you know, if you've ever looked in the mirror and said, I'm cool and awesome, and then three weeks later, you're not feeling cool and awesome because you've got no evidence for it. But the world is too chaotic to get the evidence, I think. It's great when it happens and you get that great run and you talk to everyone and they love you and it's brilliant. But it's not always going to happen. You're going to have those bad spells as well. So it's up to you to create the evidence for yourself by how you interpret the world when it occurs. So guess what I'm trying to say is this? You're your own best teacher. The reason you're your own best teacher is the stuff that you find out, the problems that you encounter, when you find out the solution to them, you own that knowledge. Everything I found out, I've had to find out pretty much firsthand, but it comes part of me because of that. In doing so, in finding what it is, the solutions to your problems in being your own best teacher, you become congruent with it. You own that knowledge and that's what causes the change in you. That's what causes us to all develop. Life is about learning and growing. It's all the play that I ever do. I learn from it and I grow from it and I always enjoy it. Conversations for me aren't stressy. They aren't horrible. Anxiety occurs. I still get it. I love it. But rather than trying to blast through it, why would I do that? I'd rather just get addicted to it. So that's exactly what I do. If I feel that uncomfortable feeling in my tummy, I'm like, awesome. I'm going to revel in it. I'm going to turn the volume up in it. I'm going to make it even worse. So when I'm drinking that bottle of vodka on the train, that's making my tummy go even worse. That's making my toes curl. It's the people that are self-amused.