 on here by the beach so the topic of tonight is the narcissist is whatever you want them to be they have no real fixed identity it's just whatever you like whatever you're interested in as soon as they see you they start mirroring you trying to appeal to your ideals pretend to be about whatever they think you're about and they just go with that they just ride off your energy knowing fully well that they're not about any of that it's all designed to secure you it's designed to keep you around or they may just mimic the personality or the dress sense of a celebrity that you admire they've got nothing of their own but they will mimic people who they think that most people see as desirable or attractive people who they believe to be superior in some way you may notice when you first met the narcissist compared to how they are later on in the relationship or when they leave you they're very different I think there's an issue with the signal is it better now can you hear me clearly you can hear me okay great so yeah the person you see in the beginning and compared to who they are when they leave you I think someone said it healing hurts that's right it's like two totally different people completely different identity completely different dress sense different likes and interests they're like different music and this has all changed from them being around you because they have no real fixed identity when they come around you suddenly they get influenced very easily they just change completely so it's like they're taking a part of you and using it to attract someone else or they're taking something that you have created and using that to attract someone else it's very peculiar and deep down I think they know that I think they are aware of that what are the choice do they have what else are they going to do like if they don't take a part of you to lure someone else in how else are they going to bring other people into their world because they know fully well that no one wants to know them really once the mask is slept they know no one wants to be around that so they wear a mask they try to disguise that it's only a matter of time and still people figure them out they realize wait a minute you're not who you said you are and then it's game over once you've figured out who you're really dealing with of course they know you're not going to want to deal with them after that because it's a completely different person from who you thought you were engaged with and they know this so all they can really do is take whatever they've stolen from you whatever they've learned from that experience and take it on to someone else and just try and fool them for as long as they can because I'm sure they know it's only a matter of time like with whoever they deal with that they're going to be figured out and usually what they'll do is they'll just say no that's what you were doing you were copying them or they were already like that before they met you that's what they want people to think but we know that is not true we know that they changed completely from meeting us don't ever expect any consistency from these narcissists one minute they're up then they're down one minute they're left and they're right it's just constant changes you never know where you are with them don't expect any reliability they're not someone that you can rely on because you never know what they're going to be like one minute from now don't expect any support look for that somewhere else because you're not going to get that from them I don't know people may think you know it's easy for me to say that like people may look at my channel where I've created I might think oh he's got all the support in the world but it wasn't always like that I spent many years alone with no help no support nothing but fortunately I do prefer being alone to myself anyway I enjoy my own company but of course it is important to have that support it's important to have someone there to help you and that's why lately I have been offering my new service which is there to support people and to help them to reach the level where I am at now because of course when we get involved with these narcissists it does tend to knock us down it does tend to make life very difficult but yeah you know since over the last couple of years things have completely turned around for me I've healed very well I've become very successful now and that's why I now offer this service to help other people to do the same thing there was a time where I could barely even afford food and the food that I did get used to walk for the rain late at night just carrying it home now now I'm blessed you know I've come through it and I'm sitting in this beautiful car just down by the beach I don't know people say it's not all about money but we do need money for our homes for our bills food to look after our families especially after we leave these narcissists many of them try to take everything from us so I'm all about helping people to rebuild and that's why I offer this YouTube coaching service for people who have been inspired by my work and are interested in doing the same so if that's something that interests you just send me an email ask it about the YouTube coaching my email is coaching at knocksurvivor.co.uk and who knows maybe one day we can collaborate as well there's always going to be new positions opening up with knocksurvivor I recently invested in a editing team and operations management I'm currently looking for someone who can translate the video into different languages especially Spanish and also maybe somewhere to help out in sales so there's always going to be new positions that are available here with knocksurvivor and even if you don't end up joining us the coaching service that I offer will help you to become successful on your own and to create your own YouTube channel where YouTube can help thousands of people around the world so yeah if that's something that interests you just send me an email coaching at knocksurvivor.co.uk where you can also message me on Instagram my username is knocksurvivor youtube but yeah that's all for tonight thank you all for joining I've got a huge premiere tomorrow the narcissist has a dirty little secret so I hope to see you all there